Recurrent Miscarriage Thread

[hopeful23456]

petipas - totally understand the nervous feelings but you don't know what's going on until the u/s. really hoping for the best for you.

amos - that's why i don't understand how so many people do the 2 iui's - how can dh get more good stuff? i am so happy they can get the 1 time out.

pad - even if it's bfn it could still turn out bfp. that's what helps me get through it as my bfp was 17 dpiui (later on m/c) and i just read about another girl where it was 25 dpo? crazy but it can happen.

35- that sounds good, i can't wait to hear your numbers tomorrow and i'm sure they will be fine. if you didn't have a trigger shot then you know it's not a false pos.

heart - i won't be doing iui until hopefully early next week the way these are growing, they are growing faster from the repronex shots though. 3 mm in 2 days with a few of them (used to be 1 mm/day). so we'll see if they keep growing and what happens.

afm: i saw so many preg girls in the waiting room this morning i couldn't stop crying (but then i got better), then the nurse who drew my blood said she's had 4 m/c and no children yet, all of the m/c at 4-5 months, her cervix wasn't tight enough even after they stitched it. felt so bad for her.

 

[Justkeeptryin]

Hi ladies, I got the second lot of blood results back yesterday for clotting disorder..sure enough the level was still higher than the normal range. Ive been told that I will def. be treated with aspirin, heparin injections and progesterone for my next pregnancy. I really hoped to be trying again thsi month but the other probelm hanging over my head is my uterus anomaly. I was told orginally that it was bicornuate..then at the D&C told it was didelphys (two seperate wombs each with own cervix), now Ive been reading that it may be a septum down the middle and if so it has to be removed or be at risk of constant miscarriage.
I seen a consultant on Monday who investigated it further via vaginal ultrasound and some telescope thing but Im still no further forward. he could see two definite cervixes but only one "normal" sized womb. Im now referred for an MRI and hysteroscopy under anaesthetic. Its important that I find out if its a septum as surgery is required and Ive been told it wont even be in this country, it will be London apparently. Its bringing me down a bit all of this. I've got a long road ahead of me, I will always be a high risk pregnancy.

 

[petitpas]

Oh pad! I am so sorry for infecting your mind! can I take it all back?

I know how important this one is for you and if there is anything I could do to make this more likely to happen for you then I would. Big hugs and strength to you and DH for the test

 

[petitpas]

Thank you everyone for the hugs and understanding.
The trigger for my feeling hasn't gone away but I am just going to close my eyes and for a few more days.
I'll be back on the knicker watch, though.

On a more positive note I have everything crossed for all the ladies about to IUI or in the tww

 

[petitpas]

Justkeeptrying, I am pretty sure that Prof Regan's team at St Mary's are specialists in operating intrauterine septa. So if you do need the surgery, their clinic (England's leading NHS recurrent miscarriage clinic) is a very good place to be sent to. Maybe someone else here has had the operation already and can give you insight?

 

[hopeful23456]

Hi ladies, I got the second lot of blood results back yesterday for clotting disorder..sure enough the level was still higher than the normal range. Ive been told that I will def. be treated with aspirin, heparin injections and progesterone for my next pregnancy. I really hoped to be trying again thsi month but the other probelm hanging over my head is my uterus anomaly. I was told orginally that it was bicornuate..then at the D&C told it was didelphys (two seperate wombs each with own cervix), now Ive been reading that it may be a septum down the middle and if so it has to be removed or be at risk of constant miscarriage.
I seen a consultant on Monday who investigated it further via vaginal ultrasound and some telescope thing but Im still no further forward. he could see two definite cervixes but only one "normal" sized womb. Im now referred for an MRI and hysteroscopy under anaesthetic. Its important that I find out if its a septum as surgery is required and Ive been told it wont even be in this country, it will be London apparently. Its bringing me down a bit all of this. I've got a long road ahead of me, I will always be a high risk pregnancy.

I had my septum removed (I think i've told you that before) and they couldn't tell if it was a septum or bicornuate until during the sugery (laperoscopy/hysteroscopy) - i don't have 2 cervix though. I had an MRI, saline infustions, ultrasounds, HSG and the ONLY thing that could determine it was a septum was looking at it during the surgery itself. i'm in the states though, wish you were here, i have a good Dr for you in Minnesota.

 

[LeeC]

Just when i was feeling so positive. facebook screws it all up. I've deactivated my account grrrrr!!!!

 

[hopeful23456]

Just when i was feeling so positive. facebook screws it all up. I've deactivated my account grrrrr!!!!

facebook sucks, i refuse to log into it. please - feel positive again! you have us all cheering for you

 

[Mrs Miggins]

Petitpas, I know exactly what you are going through and send positive vibes and keeping fx'd for you. When can you get a scan?

 

[petitpas]

MrsMiggins
In my panic I tried to get in before the weekend but it was too late. Now DH and I have decided it is probably best to wait until we see the specialist. I'll let you all know as soon as I've had it.

 

[bellamamma]

Pip, am so sorry you're having those feelings, I've been there too. Just wanted to say I'm holding onto hope for you and ducky, hugs.

Afm, after having a difficult time of it with the "nhs" of italy, had to find a private clinic for my uterine vein doppler, it's unfortunately not til the end od november, in next luteal phase, thanks to a stupid secretary didn't catch this one. So with waiting to see the specialist after and the holidays away, looks like no ttc til january. I just keep thinking, what if all my good eggs are gone by then.....?

 

[petitpas]

Bella that's just one extra month of feeding your eggies Christmas delights.

 

[Amos2009]

Hi everyone....been a rough 2 days. I feel like my IUI was done too early and as you all know, my hubby has not been cooperating to get it done au natural. We finally had sex last night and this morning, but he just could not cum. WTF....he has NEVER had these issues before. I just want to cry.

Pip- I'm so sorry you are having those feelings. And like Heart said- we can't make them go away, or tell you everything will be ok, but we will definitely be here to keep the positive vibe going when you can't. I pray your worries will be erased very soon!

Keeptrying- I hope they can get you sorted out soon. Like someone else said-sometimes they can't really tell what's going on until they get in there. My doc, at first glance from a hysteroscopy, thought I had a septum in my uterus. But with other tests and things, he doesn't think it anymore, but that it's more like a "dip". Weird...anyway- he said he really wouldn't know what it was or what to do unless he went in there and checked it out. If I were to have another miscarriage, he would get in there and dig around lol.

Lee- FACEBOOK SUCKS.....I tried so hard to be happy looking at everyone's halloween pictures of their kids, but it just hurt too much. I rarely get on there anymore.

Bella- I agree with Pip. That's just a couple of more months for your eggies to get all ready!

Pad- honey- I am thinking about you today....

 

[petitpas]

Amos, my hubby has had 'that' problem on what I thought was a crucial night before. I could have cried but didn't want to stress him out more. It's a horrible situation!

Ultimately, you did have the IUI and the little uns were sent to the finishing post with minimal effort so they'll have the energy to hang around for a bit. As you saw from other ladies posting, that second insemination is not standard, it would just have been a bonus.
I still have hope for you

 

[hopeful23456]

amos - i go through the same thing every month with bd'ing! you are fine - my clinic just does 1 iui and so far i've gone through two iui's and gotten bfp both times (m/c 5-6 wks 1st one in Aug and very early chemical preg last month).

hoping to make it 3 for 3 this month but actually keep a bfp this time for once.

we are instructed to BD the night of trigger, then IUI is 36 hours later and supposed to BD the day after IUI. But, we have never BD'd the day after IUI, only BD the night of trigger, that's it. due to too much pressure to BD and DH was sick last month. and all that pressure causes fights too. it sucks but is so common.

bella - too bad they couldn't schedule it sooner. my clinic in edina doesn't do uterine vein doppler as far as i know but i would love to know what it would tell me

petipas - hope you are feeling better today!

 

[heart tree]

It’s early morning for me and I’m just catching up with everyone. I am so glad it is Friday.

Pad, I’m thinking about you today. I’ve been saying prayers to the universe for you. I hope you are ok.

Amos, I agree with what all the other ladies said. Most clinics only do 1 IUI and the fact that they shot the sperm past your cervix and right into your uterus gives them more time to play and hang around in a safe environment while waiting for the egg. I know that part of the worry for you is that you only have one tube and all the follies were on the opposite side. Try not to get too down about this. You still have a really good chance this cycle in my opinion. My DH has had performance issues on many occasions, especially when we first started trying and even more so after my first loss. I wanted to murder him! He could get it up, but couldn’t finish on the days that I had a positive OPK or the days following. I stopped telling him when I was fertile and just pretended I was really into having sex on those nights! I’m a little concerned about these issues coming back when we start IUI. There’s no disguising the fertile window with IUI. I imagine your DH is so in his head about all of this. This is the first time doing IUI. There are a lot of eyes on his performance; you, doctors, nurses. You have had so much trauma around getting pregnant. It takes the sexiness and desire out of the act. It’s sad that after how much we’ve lost, we’ve also lost sex as a fun thing to do.

Hopeful, maybe you and I will be doing IUI around the same time. I’m going in for my CD 10 scan tomorrow to check the size of my follies. There is a possibility I’ll be doing IUI next week too! I HATE going to the doctor’s office. There are always pregnant women. Once I was in the waiting room with a super pregnant woman. She was on the phone complaining to someone that she would be so annoyed if she had to be on bed rest for the last month of her pregnancy. I wanted to punch her. Then I try to remind myself that some of these women might be carrying their miracle babies after many losses. Sometimes that helps me.

Justkeeptryin, I’m glad that you are starting to get some answers and that you have a plan moving forward. I know that getting answers can often feel like one step forward and two steps back. I’ve been there. They thought I had a septum too, but an MRI showed it was something else. I know a woman who has 2 cervixes and 2 uteri. She also has 2 beautiful girls. It is possible. Just try to take one day at a time. With each day, you get closer to your goal.

Pip, how are you holding up today? I’m thinking about you.

Lee, I HATE FB too!!! I’m so sick of seeing pregnant pictures, newborn pictures and general updates of people’s children. Not to mention how annoying the posts can sometimes be. Do I really care that your kid wouldn’t eat their dinner? No! The only reason I keep my account is so I can post pictures for my family to see. I’m rarely on there. Sorry it got you down hon.

Bella, I think we’ve all been there. The wait is hell, especially when it is someone else’s error. Try to think of it as a mini-vacation from anxiety and stress. You’ll be back on the TTC wagon before you know it.

Where’s 35_Smiling? I’m very curious for an update.

Not much to report here. Just waiting for tomorrow’s scan and hoping my follies are growing on the good side.

xoxo

 

[hopeful23456]

pad - heart reminded me that it's POAS day! are you still waiting? i REALLY hope you got 2 lines

heart - we will be iui cycle buddies!

 

[heart tree]

I'm getting worried about Pad. She hasn't shown up on any threads today.

Hopeful, I'll be your IUI buddy for sure! I'm just hoping my follies are growing and that my clinic is willing to do it even if they're growing on the side without my tube! I'll hopefully know more tomorrow.

 

[cindersmcphee]

Well did test yesterday after ivf and negative. Went today for bloods and positive but levels are at very low end scale. Have to go back on Monday for more bloods but I am presuming going to be a chemical and my 4th little angel.

 

[heart tree]

Cinders, what were your levels and how far along are you? Don't give up hope. I know women who started with very low levels and ended up having beautiful babes. I hope they have doubled or more by Monday. I also understand setting yourself up for disappointment, rather than clinging to hope. It's a defense mechanism that I use as well. Be good to yourself this weekend. xoxo