Recurrent Miscarriage Thread

[Amos2009]

Cinders- so sorry for your loss. How exciting about starting the adoption process though- I am adopted and I can definitely say I am here today because 2 people decided to call me their child. I love my parents and will forever be grateful for everything they have done for me. Plus- I think I turned out pretty good

Heart- trigger! trigger! trigger! Whoo hooooo......oh and your lining??? FANTABULOUS!!!!!

Nothing to report here. Just trodging along until next week. I POAS last night to see if the trigger was gone, and NOPE. Still there. So I will wait til Saturday to do it again. Surely it will be gone by then.

Hi Davies!! I don't think we have met yet since I have been away so long. Sooooo.....nice to meet ya!

 

[35_Smiling]

claireH:

heart tree: wooo that is a lot your not got far to goo. Looks like you may have multy kids coming your way! So glad all went well.

Amos2009: I soo agree mine is crazy my husband said “honey I guess it have to change from being a butt men to a breatiest men because by the looks of things your butt starting to look smaller and your breast are taking its place” I called him a sicko and bust out laughing! I post another test on my journal and they are darker now….thats a good sign can’t wait for my Beta tomorrow.

Daviess3: Lucky you in Olando! You on vacation?? Gosh I sure hope sooo! Fingers cross. Did another test its on my journal. Go in for another Beta tomorrow so fingers and toes cross okay!

Cindersmcphee: I am so sorry I am glad your looking into adoption! will it be from birth or a small child? I am sure no matter what option you make you will be the best parent they will ever have! This is very exciting! Good luck and all the best!

Petitpas: are you today? All is well I hope.

Hopefulmama2b: good luck to you on this cycle

Hopeful23456: :wave: good luck to you too hun!

LeeC: :wave:

 

[heart tree]

Cinders, I’m so sorry to hear your news, but at the same time I’m so happy you have a plan that you are excited for. You sound like you are at peace with this decision. I think that’s all we can ask for in times like these. Two of my siblings are adopted and I have never registered a distinction between them and my blood brother. We are all family and that’s all that matters. My adopted brother isn’t even the same race as me, but I don’t even notice. We love telling people we are brother and sister because they give us funny looks. We never tell people he’s adopted though. In out minds, we were born to the same parents.

I need Mr Shehata in California too! He sounds amazing! I’m so glad we have some deserving women under his care. I have a good feeling about him giving our girls Pip and Lee their forever babies!

Hopeful, I want details of the IUI! I know this isn’t your first time but I want to hear how it went anyway. I’m only a couple of days behind you.

Hopefulmama, is your IUI next week? Can’t wait to hear the details! I think it is awesome you are also open to adoption.

Davies, why are you in Orlando? Are you at Disney World? I hope you are having fun and the weather is nice.

Amos, I hope that trigger shot is out of your system soon so we can get excited for the new double pink lines! When is the real testing day? Mine is going to be right around Thanksgiving. I kind of wish it wasn’t going to be on a holiday. I don’t want it ruined by AF.

35, I took a peek at your journal and your lines are looking good! I can’t wait to hear the results of your Beta.

So I’m getting ready to do my trigger tonight. I’m kind of nervous as this will be the first time I’ve done this. I also have my husband ready for some BD action tonight!

Last night was election night in the US and I have to say how disgusted I am by one of the bills in Mississippi that they tried to pass. They tried to get people to vote for a bill that said that a human being started at the time an egg was fertilized and any type of intervention to end it’s life was murder. The bill didn’t have an exception for women who had been raped or whose life was in danger. This included ectopic pregnancies! And doctors were concerned that this would also include women who had miscarriages! I started crying when I saw the news last night. I can’t believe anyone would think that I murdered my babies because I had miscarriages and my ectopic removed. Can you imagine being in jail for that? Luckily the bill didn’t pass, but I think 44% of people voted for the bill. I’m simply disgusted. I normally keep my politics to myself on this website, but I just had to mention this.

Ok, I’ll get off my soapbox now.

 

[Embo78]

Heart. I'm actually sat here with my mouth open. What a ridiculous bill. And 44% voted! I'm amazed (and not in a good way!)

 

[Amos2009]

Heart- I am right next to that so-called state....it sickened me too. I think people didn't even pay attention to all the details of that bill- they think it's a black and white issue- either you are for abortion or not. I was so glad to hear it didn't pass, but then to hear that 44% voted for it- it was pretty close. Just sickening.....

My real testing date will be my birthday. How nice is that.....so either it will be a wonderful birthday or yet another one that I want to bury my head in a plastic bag and breathe deeply. I actually do not want to test. The negative nancy in me is poking her head out.

 

[petitpas]

Heart, I hadn't heard of this bill - it is just so sad that 44% voted for it. I would like to think that they clearly did not know what they were voting for!

Sending more to all the IUI/ttc ladies!

Amos, I don't think I would want to test on my birthday, either. Way too much pressure. Maybe test the day before and then wipe the slate clean (whichever result you get) with a huge birthday celebration the next day where you are guaranteed to enjoy yourself?

 

[heart tree]

Amos, I know you live next to Mississippi and I wondered how much press it got near you. At least there were enough educated people to realize how disgusting this was.

I don't blame you for not wanting to test on your birthday. I think Pip's idea is a good one. Test the day before and see what happens. That way you can either celebrate with sparkling apple juice or you can fill the plastic bag with wine before putting it over your head. Hmmm, that does sound a bit messy though. Maybe just drink a bottle of wine out of a glass instead.

 

[petitpas]

The bag idea sounds like great fun, heart

Just thought I'd mention that until midnight on the 15th accessdiagnostics has a 10% discount code: ADT10
That's for anyone in the UK who needs tests, preseed etc... the cheapest tests are the so-called professional ones.

 

[Amos2009]

Yeah...you guys are right. I think I will test before....so- I should test based on when I KNOW I ovulated right? Not necessarily from the IUI date since it was early?

 

[LeeC]

Thanks Pip, problem with Pregnancare with Omega 3 is the fish oil and me being a veggie, I have emailed Dr S as tbh I can't remember what he said about this. So, I figure I will take the pregnacare original (without fish oil) and buy additional Vitamin D, then I need to find a replacemnet for the fish oil, gp has suggested walnut oil and I know flax oil is high in Omega 3 (suitable for veggies) as I give it my 2 little pooches.

And lol... I must be having a serious spurt of positivity as just stressing out with dh about childcare arrangements, so much for not letting my mind race away - oh dear :/

How are things with you, did I read something about another scan? How is LO, hoping all is going well, I am looking to you to give me confidence and hope with Shehata's protocol. No pressure

(I def have a good feeling about him).

 

[heart tree]

I have no idea when to test actually! How do you know when you ovulated? Did you just feel it? I figure I can't do OPKs since the trigger shot will make them look positive. Similarly, temping will also be skewed by the trigger shot. I've never felt ovulation before. I thought I read somewhere to test 14 days after the IUI. For me, that will be the day after Thanksgiving. I feel like I'll test before that so I'll know if I can drink on Thanksgiving or not. But even if I get a BFN the day before Thanksgiving, I'll be 13dpiui, but I might only be 11 or 12 DPO! So confusing!!!

 

[heart tree]

And lol... I must be having a serious spurt of positivity as just stressing out with dh about childcare arrangements, so much for not letting my mind race away - oh dear :/

I love that kind of attitude!!!

 

[LeeC]

Heart.

Thank you, I am with you also, as someone who has been through numerous miscarriages and the heartache of an ectopic and under going emergency surgery (caught just in time due to rupture of tube) I find that disgraceful too.
So easy to judge others though, they should walk a mile in our shoes, although I hope they never have to.

I guess ignorance truly is bliss.

 

[Amos2009]

I have no idea when to test actually! How do you know when you ovulated? Did you just feel it? I figure I can't do OPKs since the trigger shot will make them look positive. Similarly, temping will also be skewed by the trigger shot. I've never felt ovulation before. I thought I read somewhere to test 14 days after the IUI. For me, that will be the day after Thanksgiving. I feel like I'll test before that so I'll know if I can drink on Thanksgiving or not. But even if I get a BFN the day before Thanksgiving, I'll be 13dpiui, but I might only be 11 or 12 DPO! So confusing!!!

I can always feel when I ovulate from my left side. Ever since my ectopic on that side. This time was MAJOR pain. Since I know my big follies were on that side, I am pretty sure I was ovulating when I was having that pain. Sooo....today would make me 7dpiui and trigger and 5 dpo. I'm thinking next Wednesday I will test. Come on right tube- hope you picked up that eggy!!!

Lee- loving the positivity- it is contagious!

 

[hopefulmama2b]

Heart- so medical management of an already doomed pregnancy would've been illegal?! Ridiculous. Glad that it didn't pass. You're probably right- most of the 44% were probably uneducated on the question on the ballot. I'm guessing scare tactics and strong propaganda with dead babies was used during the campaign. Thanks for the well wishes- yes, IUI should be next week. CD 6 for me today and O is usually around 11 to 13! Right around the corner! Loved your story about your siblings and how you feel as if you came from the same parents. I got teary eyed!

Amos- Definitely agree- test the day before! I hope you have reason to celebrate!

LeeC- Isn't it funny that all of us talk as if it's right around the corner. THAT'S positive thinking! Haha! The other day I received a text from DH that said- what age are we going to let our kids have a cell phone? Haha. He thinks it's ridiculous when elementary school kids have cell phones.

 

[Amos2009]

One more question....anyone have a guess as to why they would leave me on Metformin until either my period or a BFP shows up??

 

[heart tree]

My husband always says things like "our kid is going to eat meat" (I'm a vegetarian and he's not) or "our kid isn't going to listen to crappy music" (he's a musician). I just laugh at him and tell him to give me a baby and we'll worry about the details later!

Amos, I know nothing of Metformin. Have you googled this question?

 

[Amos2009]

I did google......but it was after I asked you guys LOL. I trust you more than google HAHAHAHAH

 

[heart tree]

I know, I do the same thing! Did you find an answer. Now I need to know!

I seriously feel like we are all almost qualified to being fertility specialists. Except Dr. Pip. She already has her honorary degree!

 

[35_Smiling]

Heart tree: Thanks hun I can’t wait either! lol wow have fun with your trigger shot and all those mature eggie you got in there! Wow Get those SUPER shooting in there! Lol lol lol Wow the bill is crazy and 44% is a high number! how dear they! Like you I am happy the bill didn’t pass that is so unrealistic! Stupid Assholes for even thinking of it!

Embo78 shocking isn’t it! Thank God I’m a Bermudian! I’m sure our percentage rate wouldn’t even reach 1 % here lol

Amos2009: Perhaps you should test two days after so you can have a blast on your big day and the aftermaths lol Good luck hun

Peptitpas: how are you today love?

LeeC: indeed love……enjoy your day hun

All the IUI’s Enjoy and don’t forget to help your hubby out with it to ease the poor men…its hard to just you know what to yourself so make him feel he can get up or something to get him stimulated! (hope that wasn’t too blunt) I had to help my hubby because he was sooo nervous he was flat like a crushed bread no no he was sooo soft it looked like he had a COLD SHOWER until I had to think fast and did some touching here and there and kissing here and there but not down there on his pip-line tho… lol and trust me he was up like a errect pole with the curves I thought he was going to shoot out and miss the bottle Well what i am trying to say here they need as much support because its harder on them then what we think...SORRY FOR THE TMI
Have fun all good luck again!