Recurrent Miscarriage Thread

[heart tree]

Amos, I think the sting of a bfn and then AF following can have the same feeling as a miscarriage. I've certainly felt that way. The only difference I've found is that the pain of it doesn't last nearly as long. We have the ability to bounce back more quickly and find hope in the next cycle. I remember all of my miscarriages but I certainly don't vividly remember all of the cycles I got a bfn and AF. You may just have to accept that today will be a shitty day. Tomorrow might be too. But I have faith that you will pick yourself back up and feel just as much excitement for the next cycle. The good news is that if it didn't work this time, you have a better chance for next cycle when you could very well ov from your good side. Also, they will know better how you respond to the meds and can time your IUI better. Lots to look forward to. But for now it is just a crap day.

 

[Amos2009]

Thanks Amanda and you're right. I shut my door here at work, had a good cry, and I already feel a little better. I knew the chances were slim this month since I ov from the bad side. I just need to start using my head and a little less of my heart. I am meeting some old friends Thursday night for dinner (and now margaritas) so I am going to just start looking forward to that. Of course I will test one more time that morning just so I make sure I can have a few drinks.

Thanks for listening and sorry to bring the mood down.

Oh and Pip- I meant to comment on your nice little Ducky tummy as well. Looks like a nice home for another 7 months or so

 

[heart tree]

You don't ever have to apologize for bringing the mood down. None of us would be on this thread if everything was rosy. You have a right to feel down and to talk about it. I'm glad you are going to meet up with friends and possibly have a few pre-birthday drinks. Of course I hope Thursday's test is positive so you can't drink.

By the way, I love crying. It is such a good release. I'm glad you got it out.

xoxo

 

[Amos2009]

OMG....I am trying to not go through the roof. An old friend of mine (we used to be best friends until she decided to not even call me or talk to me after my first miscarriage, much less all the others) sent me a text today out of the blue saying I was on her mind and just wanted to say ask how I was. Sooo....stupid me said Meh...just not a good day. I was going to leave it at that, but she asked if I was ok and all that. I told her just having another setback on trying to have a family. So that started the conversation. I know she means well, but she is already asking me about adoption- and "what about foster care" questions. WTF...............She did say she was praying for us and blah blah, but why can't people just stop there?????

 

[hopeful23456]

Amos- I feel the same way a about bfns- they are horrible but then it's such a short time until you are cd3 and starting up again. Then the excitement begins, but you still have a chance, you never know. My friends bring up adoption too but dh will not adopt.
My trigger is almost out as I did 2 sticks last night and both very light line (8 dpt) so we will see if I get that 1 lonely line tonight. I like she the trigger is there to see 2 lines.

Heart- how many dpt today for you?

Have you checked out countdowntopregnancy. Com? You can analyze people's sticks and vote if you think pos or neg. you can even see the probability of sticks by dpo that test pos or even false negs! That is helpful as it shows such a high % of gals that got bfp but tested neg on 7 dpo, 9 dpo, etc. I think the most accurate was 12-14 dpo. You all have to check it out if you are poas crazy
Pip- love your pic! My tummy was 1/3 as bad from stims. Nice to see ducky- bump too!

 

[hopeful23456]

Amos here's the link for 11 dpo and remember the negs are girls who got bfp days later ( don't know how many days later) but everyone on chart ended up bfp

https://www.countdowntopregnancy.com/pregnancy-test/dpo-chart.php?dpo=11

Below the chart you can choose other dpo days. It's fun

 

[Amos2009]

Thanks so much hopeful....I did the "when should you test" calculator and I guess I still have a chance. Guess I shouldn't give up til later this week.

Yay for the trigger almost being gone! Now we wait to see your lovely two lines!!!!

 

[Justkeeptryin]

Wow Pip, thats the first time I've seen the bruising that happens whilst on the injections. Thats what Im going to have to do aswell when I next fall pregnant..the daily heparin injections. Will be so worth it though! Thanks for posting that

 

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Amos, I isolate myself specifically because of things people say to me like your friend. They mean well, but often what they say isn't helpful at all. I'm so sorry!

Hopeful, my DH doesn't want to adopt either, which is why we will do surrogacy as a last option. I would do it in a heartbeat. He may come around if nothing else works though. He's come around much further than I ever thought he would. Glad your lines are almost gone! I'm 6dpt at midnight tonight. The line looked a little lighter. I expect it to be much lighter tomorrow morning.

I'm at work, but all I want to do is look at that link you just posted!

 

[Justkeeptryin]

Justkeeptrying, could you ask to have your hysteroscopy done in London? Then they could resect your septum right away if needed? You would only have one operation and one waiting list...
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That would actually make sense for me to have it resected at the same time, I might consider asking that. I would much prefer that I get an MRI date in before having the hysteroscopy then maybe it would confirm a double womb and not a septum and then I wouldnt need the hysteroscopy at all!

 

[hopeful23456]

Heart- that website is addicting- analyzing everyone's sticks at certain dpos

 

[Amos2009]

Well, I just ate something terrible for me....I'm sure I will regret it tomorrow, but it sure was good today! Trying anything to break this mood!

 

[petitpas]

Ooh yes, justkeeptrying! No operations would be best!

Amos, my specialist had me test until 12dpo with a sensitive test such as an FRER. If I still had a negative then I could stop the meds.
Apparently, the later you get a bfp beyond that time (with a sensitive test) the more likely it is that the pregnancy is not viable and will end in miscarriage.

In much happier news, a doppler arrived in the post for me this morning from a bnb friend. I found the heartbeat I have to admit that I am rather excited to see Mr S again soon as I hope he will say we made it out the other side of the critical phase and this one is a keeper!
Miracle treatment indeed!

 

[petitpas]

Amos, do tell! What did you eat???

 

[Amos2009]

Oh Pip!! Go little Ducky, Go!!!

The tests I am using are 20miu...what are the FRER's?

And I had......wait for it..........wait for it................McDonalds Big Mac and fries.............I can feel my arteries clogging as I type this LOL

 

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Pip, that is AMAZING news!!!! Yay for a doppler and double YAY for a heatbeat!!!

Amos, I need to live vicariously through you. What did you eat?

Justkeeptrying, I had an MRI which confirmed adenomyosis. They originally thought it was a septum or heart shaped uterus. A hysteroscopy never caught it and the HSG showed there was an abnormality, but they couldn't determine what was causing it. I think pushing for the MRI is a good idea.

 

[Amos2009]

I just read where the FRER is 15mui....so I guess I will stop and buy one today and test in the morning at 12dpo. If nothing, I will stop the meds.

And Heart- it was a big mac and fries- and since I usually eating low carb, this one will probably hurt me later!

 

[petitpas]

Ach, these things happen, Amos. You could have been worse... like hopefulmama2b! I'll let her confess her sins to you directly...

 

[heart tree]

I'm not a meat eater, but the fries sound delicious!

I can't believe after so many pregnancies you don't know about FRERs! Welcome to my world. They are definitely sensitive. I'm using the 10miu tests from earlypregnancy.com https://www.early-pregnancy-tests.com/extra-sensitive-pregnancy-test.html

Before, FRERs were the most sensitive you could get in the US. These are a new product. Too late for you to get for this cycle, but if you need some for next cycle, I recommend them. They are much cheaper than FRERs, so you can be a testing freak!

 

[Amos2009]

Well, I knew about the FRER's, but they are expensive, so I have always been a believer in those Dollar General tests....for a buck I can pee on them as much as I like!
I thought 20miu was ok, but you guys have talked me into getting a FRER. If there's no need for me to be wasting these expensive shots and meds, I would rather save them. Does that sound bad?