S T M ( Single Teen Mummy & Mummy-to-be's )

[memysonand3]

lol i know i am just soooooo cautious ever since jared has done the shit he has to me

 

[Mummy.To.Be]

I'm cautious aswell -
James really mucked with my head too.

Well i'm officially in a dialemma now and I feel like I know
you girlies well enough to tell my FOB story.

We went to the same secondary school, he was a few years
above me. We never spoke but he was a friend of a friend.
Fancied him something rotten! After I left
school he contacted me on a website saying I was gorgeous
and didn't know who I was! We met at a pub and just clicked.

Me and James were together for just over 2 years, living
together at his parents house. I was working full time,
he was at college and working part-time. So our income
was great and he was getting a qualification!
That was about as good as it got.

At first, everything was amazing! I'd just finished secondary
school and started college! (Had to quit the course though
because I'm allergic to latex and it would be something I'd
be in close contact with most days ) We'd go out for
meals, walks in the park and everything. Felt truely like a
princess! Then about a month into the relationship it all went
down hill. He started getting violent with me, gambling, drinking
and taking drugs - all these expenses he paid for. So i was left
paying his rent aswell as mine etc etc. He then got himself into
debt from the gambling by £3,000 which I paid off (obviously
I had a full time job at this point) only for him to get it back up
again! Throughout all this I was still being beaten
black and blue with cuts and gashes, I was actually getting use
to it all! Learnt how to use make-up to cover everything
the best I could. He'd stopped me having contact with all my
family and friends also accusing me of cheating on him whilst at
work. I never did but sometimes I wish I had have done
now!!

I found out that must have been his own guilt as he'd actually
cheated on me twice with a girl he knew from work in her car.
Not long after that I found out I was pregnant for the first time.
I was 17 then and really didn't know what to do! I was scared
but excited.. . but he made me feel so bad that I went and had
my gorgeous little bubba aborted. He dragged me there
after giving me a punch in the face for "being stupid" as I was
"ruining his life" & he'd be there for me if I chose him over bubba.
Oh how I couldn't have been more fooled.

Even until this day, I can never forgive myself for doing that.

Mummy's little angel
8 weeks 3 days.

That was the 2nd September '08.

To help myself get over that, I booked and paid for a holiday for
the both of us to go to Sardinia in Aug '09 for a week! £2100,
I really splashed out as it would have been my first time abroad!
I thought things were looking up.

His 20th birthday on 18th November '08, I was the only person
who'd made an effort to arrange anything. But he told me I was
to stay home whilst he went out with his work mates (which I
knew aswell!) So I asked him why I couldn't go and he just said
that he didn't love me anymore. I broke down in tears. ( I was still
heartbroken about giving up on my bubba as it was!). ..
Once again he got violent and ended up breaking my hand. I told
the A&E people that I was play fighting with my cousin.
James's mum and dad never believed their son was being violent until
then as he always did it behind closed doors & I was scared of being
kicked out and made homeless. Plus I loved him! Don't ask me why! Lol.
Anyway, they told my parents who called the police. Stupidly I
refused to make a statement to protect him.
From there I lived with my aunty for 2 weeks, then on agreement that
James went to anger management classes - I moved back in with him.
Another stupid mistake.

The violence continued.

Christmas '08 came and I had done everything. Paid for everything
he wanted - booze, drugs, debt, gambling; just to keep him happy.
He knew I never agreed to drugs and everything as my childhood
upbringing wasn't good due to that!
I really wanted him to love me. I went and made a big effort
on his gifts (also paid for everyone elses gifts!) for him to give me
a gift of a bar of soap! Oh how I felt a fool. . .

Everything continued. The violence, debt, everything.
There was pretty much no longer any sexual side to the relationship
either unless it was to "sort him out". The last time me and him slept
together was when he was drunk and that was the first time in 2
months! Lol. The pullout method - Really doesn't work.
Around mid June - he broke up with me as he "didn't wanna hurt me
anymore". I moved out 2 weeks after that to live with my mums
first husband. A week after that I found out I was pregnant and moved
back in with my mum and step-dad after explaining everything.
Mum broke down in tears.

So throughout the pregnancy he's not really been there for me, been
to 1 scan after his mum forced him to. Then decided he wants a part of
my little princesses life but has a new girlfriend who I'm told I "have
to accept as she's gonna be in my life" I don't want
Summer-Brooke to have another mummy!! I also text him to
keep him updated on how I am and how bubba is. I even told him about
when I had to go on the delivery ward when I was 25 weeks. Each
time - I hear nothing from him.
I'm petrifed that he might hurt her like he hurt me. I don't want him to
let her down. Ive been told that the best thing to do would be to cut
him out completely but I was bought up never knowing my real dad as
my mum doesnt know who he is either.

I really don't know what to do, sorry about the wayyyy too long story!
Any advice would REALLY be appriciated.

xXx

 

[Amygirl]

thanx Mummy.To.Be! helped alot. took tests tht all came back neg but still having symptoms so i went to doctor nd they said that the blood tests came back positive! parents surprized me...not too mad. moms actually kinda excited i think!

 

[Amygirl]

and your story interested me alot. it isnt similar to what im going through but my guy has most of the same issues. hes into drugs alchohol...etc. im not. this makes things really frustrating for me too

 

[QuintinsMommy]

Ahhh I wish I could find someone like that to come sweep me off my feet!

The guys I've thought that were my knight in shining armor (E.g FOB)
just turned out to be a twat in tinfoil!!



xXx

 

[QuintinsMommy]

I'm cautious aswell -
James really mucked with my head too.

Well i'm officially in a dialemma now and I feel like I know
you girlies well enough to tell my FOB story.

We went to the same secondary school, he was a few years
above me. We never spoke but he was a friend of a friend.
Fancied him something rotten! After I left
school he contacted me on a website saying I was gorgeous
and didn't know who I was! We met at a pub and just clicked.

Me and James were together for just over 2 years, living
together at his parents house. I was working full time,
he was at college and working part-time. So our income
was great and he was getting a qualification!
That was about as good as it got.

At first, everything was amazing! I'd just finished secondary
school and started college! (Had to quit the course though
because I'm allergic to latex and it would be something I'd
be in close contact with most days ) We'd go out for
meals, walks in the park and everything. Felt truely like a
princess! Then about a month into the relationship it all went
down hill. He started getting violent with me, gambling, drinking
and taking drugs - all these expenses he paid for. So i was left
paying his rent aswell as mine etc etc. He then got himself into
debt from the gambling by £3,000 which I paid off (obviously
I had a full time job at this point) only for him to get it back up
again! Throughout all this I was still being beaten
black and blue with cuts and gashes, I was actually getting use
to it all! Learnt how to use make-up to cover everything
the best I could. He'd stopped me having contact with all my
family and friends also accusing me of cheating on him whilst at
work. I never did but sometimes I wish I had have done
now!!

I found out that must have been his own guilt as he'd actually
cheated on me twice with a girl he knew from work in her car.
Not long after that I found out I was pregnant for the first time.
I was 17 then and really didn't know what to do! I was scared
but excited.. . but he made me feel so bad that I went and had
my gorgeous little bubba aborted. He dragged me there
after giving me a punch in the face for "being stupid" as I was
"ruining his life" & he'd be there for me if I chose him over bubba.
Oh how I couldn't have been more fooled.

Even until this day, I can never forgive myself for doing that.

Mummy's little angel
8 weeks 3 days.

That was the 2nd September '08.

To help myself get over that, I booked and paid for a holiday for
the both of us to go to Sardinia in Aug '09 for a week! £2100,
I really splashed out as it would have been my first time abroad!
I thought things were looking up.

His 20th birthday on 18th November '08, I was the only person
who'd made an effort to arrange anything. But he told me I was
to stay home whilst he went out with his work mates (which I
knew aswell!) So I asked him why I couldn't go and he just said
that he didn't love me anymore. I broke down in tears. ( I was still
heartbroken about giving up on my bubba as it was!). ..
Once again he got violent and ended up breaking my hand. I told
the A&E people that I was play fighting with my cousin.
James's mum and dad never believed their son was being violent until
then as he always did it behind closed doors & I was scared of being
kicked out and made homeless. Plus I loved him! Don't ask me why! Lol.
Anyway, they told my parents who called the police. Stupidly I
refused to make a statement to protect him.
From there I lived with my aunty for 2 weeks, then on agreement that
James went to anger management classes - I moved back in with him.
Another stupid mistake.

The violence continued.

Christmas '08 came and I had done everything. Paid for everything
he wanted - booze, drugs, debt, gambling; just to keep him happy.
He knew I never agreed to drugs and everything as my childhood
upbringing wasn't good due to that!
I really wanted him to love me. I went and made a big effort
on his gifts (also paid for everyone elses gifts!) for him to give me
a gift of a bar of soap! Oh how I felt a fool. . .

Everything continued. The violence, debt, everything.
There was pretty much no longer any sexual side to the relationship
either unless it was to "sort him out". The last time me and him slept
together was when he was drunk and that was the first time in 2
months! Lol. The pullout method - Really doesn't work.
Around mid June - he broke up with me as he "didn't wanna hurt me
anymore". I moved out 2 weeks after that to live with my mums
first husband. A week after that I found out I was pregnant and moved
back in with my mum and step-dad after explaining everything.
Mum broke down in tears.

So throughout the pregnancy he's not really been there for me, been
to 1 scan after his mum forced him to. Then decided he wants a part of
my little princesses life but has a new girlfriend who I'm told I "have
to accept as she's gonna be in my life" I don't want
Summer-Brooke to have another mummy!! I also text him to
keep him updated on how I am and how bubba is. I even told him about
when I had to go on the delivery ward when I was 25 weeks. Each
time - I hear nothing from him.
I'm petrifed that he might hurt her like he hurt me. I don't want him to
let her down. Ive been told that the best thing to do would be to cut
him out completely but I was bought up never knowing my real dad as
my mum doesnt know who he is either.

I really don't know what to do, sorry about the wayyyy too long story!
Any advice would REALLY be appriciated.

xXx

your story made my eyes water,I'm so sorry for everything he ever put you through


for the girls who have FOBs who have problems with drugs are you worried about if there is a genetic connection?

 

[Emma.Gi]

I'm cautious aswell -
James really mucked with my head too.

Well i'm officially in a dialemma now and I feel like I know
you girlies well enough to tell my FOB story.

We went to the same secondary school, he was a few years
above me. We never spoke but he was a friend of a friend.
Fancied him something rotten! After I left
school he contacted me on a website saying I was gorgeous
and didn't know who I was! We met at a pub and just clicked.

Me and James were together for just over 2 years, living
together at his parents house. I was working full time,
he was at college and working part-time. So our income
was great and he was getting a qualification!
That was about as good as it got.

At first, everything was amazing! I'd just finished secondary
school and started college! (Had to quit the course though
because I'm allergic to latex and it would be something I'd
be in close contact with most days ) We'd go out for
meals, walks in the park and everything. Felt truely like a
princess! Then about a month into the relationship it all went
down hill. He started getting violent with me, gambling, drinking
and taking drugs - all these expenses he paid for. So i was left
paying his rent aswell as mine etc etc. He then got himself into
debt from the gambling by £3,000 which I paid off (obviously
I had a full time job at this point) only for him to get it back up
again! Throughout all this I was still being beaten
black and blue with cuts and gashes, I was actually getting use
to it all! Learnt how to use make-up to cover everything
the best I could. He'd stopped me having contact with all my
family and friends also accusing me of cheating on him whilst at
work. I never did but sometimes I wish I had have done
now!!

I found out that must have been his own guilt as he'd actually
cheated on me twice with a girl he knew from work in her car.
Not long after that I found out I was pregnant for the first time.
I was 17 then and really didn't know what to do! I was scared
but excited.. . but he made me feel so bad that I went and had
my gorgeous little bubba aborted. He dragged me there
after giving me a punch in the face for "being stupid" as I was
"ruining his life" & he'd be there for me if I chose him over bubba.
Oh how I couldn't have been more fooled.

Even until this day, I can never forgive myself for doing that.

Mummy's little angel
8 weeks 3 days.

That was the 2nd September '08.

To help myself get over that, I booked and paid for a holiday for
the both of us to go to Sardinia in Aug '09 for a week! £2100,
I really splashed out as it would have been my first time abroad!
I thought things were looking up.

His 20th birthday on 18th November '08, I was the only person
who'd made an effort to arrange anything. But he told me I was
to stay home whilst he went out with his work mates (which I
knew aswell!) So I asked him why I couldn't go and he just said
that he didn't love me anymore. I broke down in tears. ( I was still
heartbroken about giving up on my bubba as it was!). ..
Once again he got violent and ended up breaking my hand. I told
the A&E people that I was play fighting with my cousin.
James's mum and dad never believed their son was being violent until
then as he always did it behind closed doors & I was scared of being
kicked out and made homeless. Plus I loved him! Don't ask me why! Lol.
Anyway, they told my parents who called the police. Stupidly I
refused to make a statement to protect him.
From there I lived with my aunty for 2 weeks, then on agreement that
James went to anger management classes - I moved back in with him.
Another stupid mistake.

The violence continued.

Christmas '08 came and I had done everything. Paid for everything
he wanted - booze, drugs, debt, gambling; just to keep him happy.
He knew I never agreed to drugs and everything as my childhood
upbringing wasn't good due to that!
I really wanted him to love me. I went and made a big effort
on his gifts (also paid for everyone elses gifts!) for him to give me
a gift of a bar of soap! Oh how I felt a fool. . .

Everything continued. The violence, debt, everything.
There was pretty much no longer any sexual side to the relationship
either unless it was to "sort him out". The last time me and him slept
together was when he was drunk and that was the first time in 2
months! Lol. The pullout method - Really doesn't work.
Around mid June - he broke up with me as he "didn't wanna hurt me
anymore". I moved out 2 weeks after that to live with my mums
first husband. A week after that I found out I was pregnant and moved
back in with my mum and step-dad after explaining everything.
Mum broke down in tears.

So throughout the pregnancy he's not really been there for me, been
to 1 scan after his mum forced him to. Then decided he wants a part of
my little princesses life but has a new girlfriend who I'm told I "have
to accept as she's gonna be in my life" I don't want
Summer-Brooke to have another mummy!! I also text him to
keep him updated on how I am and how bubba is. I even told him about
when I had to go on the delivery ward when I was 25 weeks. Each
time - I hear nothing from him.
I'm petrifed that he might hurt her like he hurt me. I don't want him to
let her down. Ive been told that the best thing to do would be to cut
him out completely but I was bought up never knowing my real dad as
my mum doesnt know who he is either.

I really don't know what to do, sorry about the wayyyy too long story!
Any advice would REALLY be appriciated.

xXx

God Sophie, I am so sorry That must of been so horrible I am glad you are out of there now, with a gorgeous daughter on the way

 

[annawrigley]

sophie i dont know what to say im so glad you're out of it now! i was in a very similar relationship and i have no idea what kept me with him or why i still loved him.. but its hard to explain when you dont even know yourself right?
your little girl is all that matters now
im so sorry you had to go through that

and preggo, yes i do worry, my ex didnt have a problem with drugs (although he dabbled) but had serious anger problems, as did his father who he never saw so i do wonder if its genetic. i hope not. dont know how id handle my LO turning out like his dad
x

 

[QuintinsMommy]

my FOB has drug and anger problems, and I worry so much about my son being like that.

 

[annawrigley]

what everyone is saying to me is just that i will be the "main" parent in his life, he will live with me, yea he will see his dad but i will be raising him... hes more likely to be brought up how i bring him up and not due to what hes genetically predisposed to be like.
fingers crossed. all we can do is try x

 

[Jas029]

I'm cautious aswell -
James really mucked with my head too.

Well i'm officially in a dialemma now and I feel like I know
you girlies well enough to tell my FOB story.

We went to the same secondary school, he was a few years
above me. We never spoke but he was a friend of a friend.
Fancied him something rotten! After I left
school he contacted me on a website saying I was gorgeous
and didn't know who I was! We met at a pub and just clicked.

Me and James were together for just over 2 years, living
together at his parents house. I was working full time,
he was at college and working part-time. So our income
was great and he was getting a qualification!
That was about as good as it got.

At first, everything was amazing! I'd just finished secondary
school and started college! (Had to quit the course though
because I'm allergic to latex and it would be something I'd
be in close contact with most days ) We'd go out for
meals, walks in the park and everything. Felt truely like a
princess! Then about a month into the relationship it all went
down hill. He started getting violent with me, gambling, drinking
and taking drugs - all these expenses he paid for. So i was left
paying his rent aswell as mine etc etc. He then got himself into
debt from the gambling by £3,000 which I paid off (obviously
I had a full time job at this point) only for him to get it back up
again! Throughout all this I was still being beaten
black and blue with cuts and gashes, I was actually getting use
to it all! Learnt how to use make-up to cover everything
the best I could. He'd stopped me having contact with all my
family and friends also accusing me of cheating on him whilst at
work. I never did but sometimes I wish I had have done
now!!

I found out that must have been his own guilt as he'd actually
cheated on me twice with a girl he knew from work in her car.
Not long after that I found out I was pregnant for the first time.
I was 17 then and really didn't know what to do! I was scared
but excited.. . but he made me feel so bad that I went and had
my gorgeous little bubba aborted. He dragged me there
after giving me a punch in the face for "being stupid" as I was
"ruining his life" & he'd be there for me if I chose him over bubba.
Oh how I couldn't have been more fooled.

Even until this day, I can never forgive myself for doing that.

Mummy's little angel
8 weeks 3 days.

That was the 2nd September '08.

To help myself get over that, I booked and paid for a holiday for
the both of us to go to Sardinia in Aug '09 for a week! £2100,
I really splashed out as it would have been my first time abroad!
I thought things were looking up.

His 20th birthday on 18th November '08, I was the only person
who'd made an effort to arrange anything. But he told me I was
to stay home whilst he went out with his work mates (which I
knew aswell!) So I asked him why I couldn't go and he just said
that he didn't love me anymore. I broke down in tears. ( I was still
heartbroken about giving up on my bubba as it was!). ..
Once again he got violent and ended up breaking my hand. I told
the A&E people that I was play fighting with my cousin.
James's mum and dad never believed their son was being violent until
then as he always did it behind closed doors & I was scared of being
kicked out and made homeless. Plus I loved him! Don't ask me why! Lol.
Anyway, they told my parents who called the police. Stupidly I
refused to make a statement to protect him.
From there I lived with my aunty for 2 weeks, then on agreement that
James went to anger management classes - I moved back in with him.
Another stupid mistake.

The violence continued.

Christmas '08 came and I had done everything. Paid for everything
he wanted - booze, drugs, debt, gambling; just to keep him happy.
He knew I never agreed to drugs and everything as my childhood
upbringing wasn't good due to that!
I really wanted him to love me. I went and made a big effort
on his gifts (also paid for everyone elses gifts!) for him to give me
a gift of a bar of soap! Oh how I felt a fool. . .

Everything continued. The violence, debt, everything.
There was pretty much no longer any sexual side to the relationship
either unless it was to "sort him out". The last time me and him slept
together was when he was drunk and that was the first time in 2
months! Lol. The pullout method - Really doesn't work.
Around mid June - he broke up with me as he "didn't wanna hurt me
anymore". I moved out 2 weeks after that to live with my mums
first husband. A week after that I found out I was pregnant and moved
back in with my mum and step-dad after explaining everything.
Mum broke down in tears.

So throughout the pregnancy he's not really been there for me, been
to 1 scan after his mum forced him to. Then decided he wants a part of
my little princesses life but has a new girlfriend who I'm told I "have
to accept as she's gonna be in my life" I don't want
Summer-Brooke to have another mummy!! I also text him to
keep him updated on how I am and how bubba is. I even told him about
when I had to go on the delivery ward when I was 25 weeks. Each
time - I hear nothing from him.
I'm petrifed that he might hurt her like he hurt me. I don't want him to
let her down. Ive been told that the best thing to do would be to cut
him out completely but I was bought up never knowing my real dad as
my mum doesnt know who he is either.

I really don't know what to do, sorry about the wayyyy too long story!
Any advice would REALLY be appriciated.

xXx

And I thought my story was a tear jerker!
I've never shared the story about my O/H... I don't plan on it.. Lets just say I was being a rebellious teenager and was sneaking out at night to see him..
Huge shocker to my parents when I got pregnant..

I'm so sorry you had to go through all of that hun but you made it out alive and you have your gorgeous little girl on the way!
I wouldn't let him near you or your L/O! Get the court involved if you have to.. My father was abusive to me and I have some horrible memories growing up and if I ever see him treat my son the same and try to raise him like he raised me I'm moving the hell out and not letting him see his grandson until he realizes what he's done!

 

[Jas029]

My FOB isn't even a bad guy..
He's sweet and caring and wants to be there for me and Riley..
He still wants to be with me and it kills him that he never gets to see me.. Ofcorse there's other reasons he can't see me but I honestly don't feel like telling that story because not everyone will see my side of it and I don't want any judgement! (Ofcorse not from you girls, But any snooper that comes in and reads it)
It's probably just the pregnancy but everything about him annoys me, even looking at a picture of him makes my skin crawl..
Ugh I hate feeling this way because he wants to be with me so bad and he's very touchy which is one of the reasons I can't even stand being around him because he ALWAYS has his hands on me and it just irritates the crap outta me..
We might end up together someday when I'm not jacked up on pregnancy hormones but he's never really been the kinda guy I go for anyway..

Also about worrying about your L/O turning out like the father, that's one thing I love about being due in February! Pisces! So sweet and loving, I hope my son turns out like a Pisces..
His fathers a cancer and I'm scorpio.. (Which both fits us perfectly)
So hopefully I'll get a sweet little fish boy!

 

[Jas029]

what everyone is saying to me is just that i will be the "main" parent in his life, he will live with me, yea he will see his dad but i will be raising him... hes more likely to be brought up how i bring him up and not due to what hes genetically predisposed to be like.
fingers crossed. all we can do is try x

I agree, My dad raised me tough so I came out tough(Ofcorse I'm a scorpio anyway )
My moms a cancer though and is the sweetest person you will meet, I'm so glad to have her supporting me with everything and thanks to her I'm not ALL bad

 

[Mummy.To.Be]

To be honest, I don't know my dad as I said so I can't really comment on
whether my little princess will turn out like him because I simply
don't know him! I'll bring her up the best I can and hope for the best.
I know I'll be proud of her no matter what.

I'm a Taurus & FOB is a Scorpio - 2 stubborn star signs!
&& my gosh don't I know it's been passed to LO already!

Thank you all so much for your opinions on my FOB situation,
it's not exactly the easiest thing to talk about as it makes me cry. Lol.
Damn pregnancy hormones!


Jas - You'll know whats best to do about your LO's FOB when the time
is right.
Until bubba Riley is here, I don't think you're truely gonna know how to
feel about FOB. Your main priority is to keep you and your gorgeous
little man safe and happy. We're all here for you if you need help with
anything!

xXx

 

[memysonand3]

i was in a some what similar situation instead of it being physical abuse it was mental wich was even harder for me i could take a punch any day compaired to being mentally abused i suffer from cronic depression and i have verry bad thougths that run through my head and he knew that so he would play on all that =( he did try to hit me once and when i got a bruse his dad kicked his ass he never tuched me again in a violent way but i stood by his side even while he cheated and i lived with him took care of him he always was coming home drunk and high =( he wanted me to take care of him and then when he started to sober up from the night out he would get a little agressive sexually and want it even if i was in no way in the mood or if i was asleep he would wake me up and all that fun stuff =/ he really was quite a loser and yet i still love him and i get so damn excited when he calls it makes me mad that i still have those feelings for him it has taken me a good year of counciling to get over the who emotional abuse and yet it seems like i just want to go back into that situation i have told him before that if he asked me to marry him i still would say yes.... i love him and yet he doesnt care it sucks and that is why i am cautious i dont want to be hurt again and i really dont think anybody could hurt me as bad as he did because he still holds my heart =( as for the kids coming out messed uo i dont think so my son was concived while jared was high and drunk and i was just becoming sober and he is the most amazing little boy iv met yet

 

[Jas029]

To be honest, I don't know my dad as I said so I can't really comment on
whether my little princess will turn out like him because I simply
don't know him! I'll bring her up the best I can and hope for the best.
I know I'll be proud of her no matter what.

I'm a Taurus & FOB is a Scorpio - 2 stubborn star signs!
&& my gosh don't I know it's been passed to LO already!

Thank you all so much for your opinions on my FOB situation,
it's not exactly the easiest thing to talk about as it makes me cry. Lol.
Damn pregnancy hormones!


Jas - You'll know whats best to do about your LO's FOB when the time
is right.
Until bubba Riley is here, I don't think you're truely gonna know how to
feel about FOB. Your main priority is to keep you and your gorgeous
little man safe and happy. We're all here for you if you need help with
anything!

xXx

Aww
I really don't think I want to be with him but I guess I can't really find out til after I give birth and these hormones go away!
I really want him to be there though as the father.. There's just other things getting in the way of that

 

[QuintinsMommy]

i was in a some what similar situation instead of it being physical abuse it was mental wich was even harder for me i could take a punch any day compaired to being mentally abused i suffer from cronic depression and i have verry bad thougths that run through my head and he knew that so he would play on all that =( he did try to hit me once and when i got a bruse his dad kicked his ass he never tuched me again in a violent way but i stood by his side even while he cheated and i lived with him took care of him he always was coming home drunk and high =( he wanted me to take care of him and then when he started to sober up from the night out he would get a little agressive sexually and want it even if i was in no way in the mood or if i was asleep he would wake me up and all that fun stuff =/ he really was quite a loser and yet i still love him and i get so damn excited when he calls it makes me mad that i still have those feelings for him it has taken me a good year of counciling to get over the who emotional abuse and yet it seems like i just want to go back into that situation i have told him before that if he asked me to marry him i still would say yes.... i love him and yet he doesnt care it sucks and that is why i am cautious i dont want to be hurt again and i really dont think anybody could hurt me as bad as he did because he still holds my heart =( as for the kids coming out messed uo i dont think so my son was concived while jared was high and drunk and i was just becoming sober and he is the most amazing little boy iv met yet

I never understand why us women love men who treat us mean but lots of seem to ,

 

[stuffymuffy]

Hey I'm Stephanie
I'm 17 and I'm about 15 weeks pregnant ( the estimation I got from the dr. at the clinic I went to, to confirm the pregnancy, I'm still waiting to tell my mom and go to a regular ob)
The father and I broke up before I found out I was pregnant and he is refusing to believe that I am.
But I'm doing just fine without him and I can't wait until my little blessing is here
I'm so excited to finally be able to talk to others who know what I'm going through and have already gone through it lol

 

[Jas029]

Hey I'm Stephanie
I'm 17 and I'm about 15 weeks pregnant ( the estimation I got from the dr. at the clinic I went to, to confirm the pregnancy, I'm still waiting to tell my mom and go to a regular ob)
The father and I broke up before I found out I was pregnant and he is refusing to believe that I am.
But I'm doing just fine without him and I can't wait until my little blessing is here
I'm so excited to finally be able to talk to others who know what I'm going through and have already gone through it lol

Welcome to STM!
If you ever need to rant about the father here's the place to do it!

 

[annawrigley]

Hey I'm Stephanie
I'm 17 and I'm about 15 weeks pregnant ( the estimation I got from the dr. at the clinic I went to, to confirm the pregnancy, I'm still waiting to tell my mom and go to a regular ob)
The father and I broke up before I found out I was pregnant and he is refusing to believe that I am.
But I'm doing just fine without him and I can't wait until my little blessing is here
I'm so excited to finally be able to talk to others who know what I'm going through and have already gone through it lol

you have such a good attitude considering what a prick the FOB is being! glad you're excited have you booked an appointment with the doc yet?xx