sick of waiting for bfp - come on October

[brit3435]

Smash- looking at your chart, it looks like you haven't ovulated yet...maybe your body is just gearing up getting ready to O. I have dark almost positive opks for like 2 weeks before I actually O...another reason I think I may have PCOS Have you been to the dr at all while trying to conceive? I'm just wondering if I should call my dr if I don't O by CD 20. I read that when you O later than CD 20 the risk of miscarriage is way higher (and I've already had one) and that the chances of getting pregnant are way lower b/c the egg quality is poor and the uterine lining is old.

 

[brit3435]

Ash- I hope you get your BFP this cycle so you don't have to worry about it, but I know what your dh means by it being a chore. My dh felt the same way when we were bding everyday around ovulation (and so did I). My dr said there is no difference in chances if you bd every other day so we have started doing that instead and it has helped both of us feel more "into" it LOL.

 

[Smashley25]

Maybe so. My allergies have been bad on and off so I don't know what temps are accurate and what aren't. There have been two different dates that I thought I o'ed based on opks and cm but my temps are so weird that I just don't know. The cycles I did ovulate, I had really really clean charts, and even last month being annovulatory was pretty clean. Never had all these peaks and falls.

I've been to the doctor twice since I started ttc, but neither specifically for that purpose. Both times, they were just like, "Well, it can take a year for a normal couple." and were very dismissive. I was definitely making an appointment after af shows up this month, but right now, I just want to ignore it all. I'm sure in a day or two, I'll want to get back into it but I don't even know what I'd tell the doctor other then I'm confused and frustrated.

 

[Saintsational]

Smash...maybe it would be a good idea if you stepped back for a min even if it is a couple of days...it did me a world of good..take some time for you and your husband...regroup...try and make an appt with a specialist i'm telling you it makes a big difference...AND REMEMBER WE ARE HERE FOR YOU!!!

 

[brit3435]

Smash- so sorry you are feeling frustrated! I don't blame you, I agree with Saint that you should take a few days away from it and just spend time with your family for the holidays. Make sure you take lots of pics of you and hubby in case in 10 months you are plus one! Now that we have dd I wish we had more pics to show her of dh and I together before kids

 

[Smashley25]

Thanks for all your support. It's really appreciated. Today's just been a rough day. On top of the bfn this morning, I had someone tell me they could see a line which prompted an entire afternoon of photo editing and another test tonight, where I also could swear I could see a line... If I turned it a certain way in a certain light and didn't blink...

I think I'm going to call the doctor in the morning. I may have to fudge the truth a little, but if it gets me in, I'm willing to do so for my peace of mind, which is completely shot right now.

And to add insult to injury... I have a 3 year old stepson. DH and ex-wife are fighting over custody... to make a long story short, she agreed on joint custody but then discovered it would make the child support she receives go down so she's holding up the process of getting it filed for real though she's abiding by the agreement. However, she said during their mediation that until everything was finalized, the only people who were allowed to be alone with him were her and DH, plus their mothers. And DH doesn't want to not abide in case she goes back to what's official. Just found out today that she's been leaving him alone with her husband, DSS's stepdad, but I'm still not even given the privileges a babysitter would have. No being alone and no helping him with anything that requires him to be naked, like dressing, bathing, helping with going to the bathroom... and I've been a part of his life for two years, since he was 17 months old. So I get to watch DH get to be a parent while I just have to stand back and be jealous and hurt.

On top of all that, DH works in a very seasonal type line of work and has been working 80 hour weeks the past week or so so we haven't been bding or talking or spending time together like we normally do and I feel like I'm dealing with everything alone because I don't want to put anything else on his plate right now.

And there's still a chance I did ovulate, which means I can't even drink!!!

 

[ashntony]

oh Smash I am soooo sorry! to you!

 

[Smashley25]

Thanks everyone. I just called and have an appointment to see my ob/gyn on Dec. 6 so hopefully I get some answers then! I thought they were going to blow me off so I feel quite relieved.

Sorry for the rant yesterday, I was really upset, but I'm feeling better today. Doesn't hurt that its the start of a five day weekend!

 

[RCAFWife]

I'm sorry about your BFN, Smash. We have an OB/GYN appointment on the same day!! It'll be good to know someone else is getting answers that day

Best of luck to the rest of you still hoping and waiting. Hopefully we'll all get our BFPs really soon!

AFM, I think AF is on her way. I was really hopeful when I got a 98.9F temp spike yesterday (never had that ever!) and DH was excited too. But today it went down to 98.2, and I am feeling painful twinges inside my lady parts (which I usually get before AF) And it's too bad, because my chart was actually looking triphasic too Oh well.

 

[Try2findbaby]

Hey ladies - sorry ur having a crap time of it smash - if it makes u feel any better af got me today oh no Brit - I seem to o on cd20, makes sense that bfn's keep appearing if the eggs old I've got to laugh otherwise I'd

Anyone got any positive stuff going on?! Or are we all in a slump?

 

[RCAFWife]

I'll share some positive stuff! I'm excited for black friday shopping! First time ever, and I'm pumped! Gonna get my DH his Christmas gift at a discount Now just to think of what to get him for his birthday which is also in Dec.! Also thinking of upgrading our TV There's not much we really need, so I don't think we'll be battling crowds for very long this year. Any of you going black friday shopping (those in the US)?

 

[Smashley25]

RCAFWife, that's exciting that we are going the same day. What a weird coincidence! Now that you mentioned it, I do remember you saying so before. Here's hoping the doctors can figure out what's going on with both of us and they're easy fixes. So hoping to be able to buy a "Baby's 1st Christmas" ornament for next year. I see them everywhere!

Try2Find-Of course it doesn't make me feel better that af got you. . Maybe next month will be lucky and you'll get a holiday miracle.

As for positive stuff:
1. I'm glad I've got a doctor's appointment and they didn't tell me to come back after its been a year.

2. Very excited for Thanksgiving tomorrow and no work til Monday plus I get to spend all day tomorrow with DH. I've barely seen him these past two weeks.

I'm going to do a little Black Friday shopping but I'm not getting up crazy early. I hate battling the crowds, but it is a fun event if you have people to go with and you're not too disappointed that there was only $10 TV in stock and it went to the person who camped out since last Tuesday.

So all in all, not too bad. It's been a momentous year for me-got my first "real" job, bought a house, got married... So I guess it's okay to save the last thing on my list of big life goals for 2013!

Y'all are wonderful and I really appreciate the support!

 

[Try2findbaby]

Thanks guys - I think sometimes its good to see the positives! With ttc it's so easy to get down. Well if we haven't conceived by April we'll go to docs because that will be a year. I feel ok about it because I just want some answers!

Positives for me not getting bfp is its my best friends hen do this weekend so obviously I can drink! yeh!

I'd forgotten its thanksgiving for u - just a same old weekend for us in the uk. So what do u all do for thanksgiving?

 

[brit3435]

Happy Thanksgiving everyone! RCA and Smash- I'm glad you guys got drs appts, and I hope you find some answers! I may end up calling the dr. I'm worried that my late ovulation is causing a problem ttc. With dd we got pregnant right off bc so I am wondering if being on bc actually regulated me more than being off it and now that I've been off it for 7 months my body is going back to crazy cycles. CD 18 for me and still no positive opk. I feel like I would be as excited for a positive opk as I would be for a bfp at this point

Well I hope everyone has a great Thanksgiving, we are going over to my parents house for dinner, and I'm bringing the potatoes and pecan pie so I had better get busy! Oh and as for Black Friday, I got all of the deals I wanted online this year! So much easier than standing in line with a bunch of crazy people

 

[brit3435]

Hi ladies hope you all had a great Thanksgiving! So my sisters and I did venture out for Black Friday sales last night, and we got everything we wanted! Then when I got home, I got my first positive OPK! We bded twice yesterday and we will again tonight so hopefully this will be our month! We also are using preseed and I'm taking Mucinex (its supposed to make cm more sperm friendly and I have noticed a big difference). This morning my temp was down lower than it has ever been, so hopefully that means today (CD19) is O day! If I do O today or tomorrow, I won't call the dr just yet b/c anything from day CD 11-CD20 is normal so maybe my body is finally getting things figured out.

Smash- did you ever figure out if you were post O or not yet? Where is everyone else at in their cycles?

 

[Smashley25]

Brit-glad you're having such great luck recently. I hope you catch that egg and get your Christmas bfp!

I don't think I've ovulated. My temps have been low for the past two days. It's cd26 for me. Yesterday, I had pains like I had last month that might be a cyst... it's on my right side this time so wouldn't surprise me. At least I'm going to the doctor. I hope there's something they can do to help! Aside from temping, I think I'm going to pause all my other tracking methods until the 6th and just NTNP. It's only two weeks and I need a break.

 

[brit3435]

Well no ovulation and now my OPKs are negative. I'm so frustrated! The same thing happened last month and a couple of months ago where I got positive OPKs and didn't ovulate for another week or two. Why can't I just O on CD 14 like a normal person!? I guess I will be calling the dr after this cycle. Has anyone tried soy to ovulate sooner? Its hard enough to get BFNs every month but it makes it even harder when you get a BFN and have to wait another 30 to 40 days to O. Sorry for my rant ladies, I can't wait to hear what you guys find out at your dr appts coming up!

 

[ashntony]

Ladies I hope you find out something soon! I have to test tomorrow! On CD 31 today and 16dpo! So going to take a first response and a dollar store test!

 

[Smashley25]

Brit-Oh no, sorry to hear that. I definitely know its frustrating and worrisome. I hope you do ovulate or did and your temps just haven't had a chance to go up yet. I've used soy before but would only recommend it with caution. The first month I used it, I took 80 mg on days 2-6 and still ovulated on day 22, which was what I did the month before on my own-plus I noticed my temps went up slower and I spotted before af. Month 2, I took 120 for 3 days and 160 for the last two then ovulated on day 16, but the lower temps and spotting were more prevalent. I did some research and found out that since estrogen and progesterone are supposed to work in tandem, increasing estrogen levels without doing the same for progesterone knocks things out of balance. I used soy again this month because I was so frustrated at not ovulating at all last month but I don't think it worked at all. However, I have heard its worked for a lot of other people. I'm taking pregnitude and have just added vitamin d and royal jelly as I've heard good thing about both for people with pcos and even if the doctor gives me clomid and it works, there's still all the other issues it doesn't fix.

That's super exciting, Ash! Your lp isn't normally this long, is it? Keeping my fingers crossed!

 

[brit3435]

Ash- Good luck tomorrow!! I hope you get your Christmas BFP!

Smashley- Thanks for the info on the soy! I think if I haven't ovulated yet, I will keep temping until I do or get AF and then call the dr. since I now have 4 months of ovulation after day 20 on record thus signaling some kind of abnormalcy with my cycle. I'm glad you said something about the progesterone and estrogen working together, I hadn't thought of that and I my dr has already said that when I do get pregnant I will have to get progesterone shots once a week to hopefully prevent another premature birth. (My water broke at 36 weeks with my daughter but I started going into preterm labor at 34 weeks) Are you and dh still NTNP? I still have hope that I will ovulate this cycle b/c I always do its just always late and I've also had spotting this cycle and the last cycle that I had spotting I Oed on day 34 and did conceive but miscarried at 4 weeks. I'm worried about the correlation between late ovulation and miscarriage...Smash- I should know this but how long have you been ttc? And have you had any miscarriages?