So I guess this is my first Two Week Wait...

[hayley2]

Hi ladies

I'll be quick as i don't feel upto chatting tonight - Hope your all ok!

We got OHs results back and it was bad news. He only has 26% that are motile. Anything under 50% is bad. Our GP was really harsh and said we might as well give up now as its never going to happen naturally. He said to stop taking Clomid. We have a hosp appt next week to speak to our FS and see what they say.

I don't think we would be up for IVF as it always appears to ruin relationships and put so much pressure onto the family. I couldn't ruin the boys lifes whilst we chase an impossible dream.

Apprently the IUI waiting list is currently 2-3 years as well at the moment so thats a no go for the time being as well.

I'm so upset and angry that this has happened to us. Why aren't we both ok????? Why do we have to have PCOS and terrible sperm. Something that should be so easy is so bloody hard!

Maybe this is why Stuart met me as he can't father this own children.....

 

[leelee]

Hi ladies

I'll be quick as i don't feel upto chatting tonight - Hope your all ok!

We got OHs results back and it was bad news. He only has 26% that are motile. Anything under 50% is bad. Our GP was really harsh and said we might as well give up now as its never going to happen naturally. He said to stop taking Clomid. We have a hosp appt next week to speak to our FS and see what they say.

I don't think we would be up for IVF as it always appears to ruin relationships and put so much pressure onto the family. I couldn't ruin the boys lifes whilst we chase an impossible dream.

Apprently the IUI waiting list is currently 2-3 years as well at the moment so thats a no go for the time being as well.

I'm so upset and angry that this has happened to us. Why aren't we both ok????? Why do we have to have PCOS and terrible sperm. Something that should be so easy is so bloody hard!

Maybe this is why Stuart met me as he can't father this own children.....

Oh Hayley, I am so sorry to hear that. Sounds like your GP was a bit of a d*** as well, which wouldn't help.

I know you are probable off-line now and don't want to chat, but I wonder if a change of diet or acupuncture would help with the sperm count? It might be worth considering?

I think the important thing is to try not to lose heart until you speak to the FS. Maybe they will have something more supportive and positive to say.

My heart goes out to you, it really does

 

[hayley2]

Thanks sweetie. I just wanted to tell you girls what was happening.

I will most definately be giving him every vitamin going and banning all alchol and caffine just incase it makes a difference.

I would love a miracle

 

[leelee]

Thanks sweetie. I just wanted to tell you girls what was happening.

I will most definately be giving him every vitamin going and banning all alchol and caffine just incase it makes a difference.

I would love a miracle

And I would love to see a miracle happening for you. Do you think you will stop the clomid or continue this cycle?

I think the FS is likely to be way more positive. F*** the doctor, a specialist is better anyway.

 

[hayley2]

I've took the course now so i can't stop it working and we will keep having regular BDing sessions. Not every day though as he has a problem but every 2-3 days to keep the levels topped up.

I'm so angry at the doctor he was so rude and said there was NO possibilty at all. Surely there is always a chance!? You only need 1!

 

[leelee]

I've took the course now so i can't stop it working and we will keep having regular BDing sessions. Not every day though as he has a problem but every 2-3 days to keep the levels topped up.

I'm so angry at the doctor he was so rude and said there was NO possibilty at all. Surely there is always a chance!? You only need 1!

Of course there is a chance. The Zita West book is good, it tells all about the importance of diet and nutrition and also chinese medicine. Continue with your Bd'ing. Yes, they reckon every other day if the sperm count isn't as high as recommended. How is your OH? I hope he is okay.

 

[kristen77]

oooh, good luck to everyone. hope that there are lots of BFPs coming your way!! i'm on my 2 ww as well. think i have maybe had implantation bleeding today though. it is just like in my first pregnancy (i miscarried at 7+4 in mid april). god i hate all this waiting...
kristen xxxxxxx

 

[TTCFaith]

I will be joining you girls in a couple weeks, Just now got AF out of my life for a limited time. So now it is time to BD every other day. Using Preseed no charting this time it make sme loos emy mind!

 

[loulou58]

Leelee im due AF on the 15th! so only 2 days behind you.

Hayley im so so sorry about your news. The Doctor was a bit harsh to be like that with you. As you say, it only takes 1! I hope your FS comes up with some positive steps you can take to increase any chances to make this happen for you two, your both more than deserving XXX

 

[polaris]

Hayley I am so so sorry to hear about OH's results. I'm sure you are both gutted. It really sounds like your doctor was not very tactful or thoughtful in the way he broke the news. There is always a chance as the other girls have said. Good luck with the FS next week.

 

[- Butterfly -]

Hayley Please don't lose all hope. The FS are the specialists - not the GP - you know how I feel about GP's they are RUBBISH.

to everyone too.

 

[Mrs_N]

hayley sorry to hear the result - it sounds like your GP was a twit!
girls, I promise to be a better GP than all of yours!

I'm off for my weekend away today yay! will check in after the weekend. bloody :wicth: is giving me horrendous cramps this month so I think a few laughs and is just what I need!

 

[willbamom1day]

Sorry to jump in here but I came across your post Hayley and it kind of hit a note with me. DH and I were told it will never happen for us without some sort of miracle as he as a low count on all parts. Well I want take those words as I do believe in miracles and that is what I am holding on to. I found this verse in the bible and this how I survive through it all “Jesus looked at them and said,”With man this is impossible, but not with God; all things are possible with God” (Mark 10:27) I hope you find comfort in it as well.

I will be praying for you and your DH and may you soon get that miracle.

 

[Csunshine013]

Hi ladies

I'll be quick as i don't feel upto chatting tonight - Hope your all ok!

We got OHs results back and it was bad news. He only has 26% that are motile. Anything under 50% is bad. Our GP was really harsh and said we might as well give up now as its never going to happen naturally. He said to stop taking Clomid. We have a hosp appt next week to speak to our FS and see what they say.

I don't think we would be up for IVF as it always appears to ruin relationships and put so much pressure onto the family. I couldn't ruin the boys lifes whilst we chase an impossible dream.

Apprently the IUI waiting list is currently 2-3 years as well at the moment so thats a no go for the time being as well.

I'm so upset and angry that this has happened to us. Why aren't we both ok????? Why do we have to have PCOS and terrible sperm. Something that should be so easy is so bloody hard!

Maybe this is why Stuart met me as he can't father this own children.....

Haley this is just horrible I so wish I could really give you a hug! I know it seems so far off, and don't know if your even thinking about the journey but I'm here if you want to talk.

 

[The Missus]

Hayley2-

Please don't give up, I've only just got a BFP with DH sperms only 25% motile and my cycles are awful too- very long and irregular. It is not impossible, just trickier and will take longer. It took 2 years to get my first and 15 cycles to get this one. My GP referred us to a FS after my DH's SA results, and she said the IVF route would probably be recommended, which wasn't an option for us. GP's are not specialist experts though, and their knowledge can be limited in this area. I understand your frustration, believe me. Hope I don't sound patronising, just meant to be encouraging. It is not impossible by a long way so hang in there! Big hugs xxx

 

[Csunshine013]

Oh Congrats The Misus! What wonderful news! See Haley stay focused and have fun trying.

 

[polaris]

The Missus - just wanted to say congratulations on your BFP!! I hope you have a wonderful pregnancy. Thanks for sharing your story.

 

[leelee]

Hayley2-

Please don't give up, I've only just got a BFP with DH sperms only 25% motile and my cycles are awful too- very long and irregular. It is not impossible, just trickier and will take longer. It took 2 years to get my first and 15 cycles to get this one. My GP referred us to a FS after my DH's SA results, and she said the IVF route would probably be recommended, which wasn't an option for us. GP's are not specialist experts though, and their knowledge can be limited in this area. I understand your frustration, believe me. Hope I don't sound patronising, just meant to be encouraging. It is not impossible by a long way so hang in there! Big hugs xxx

Fantastic- what brill news to hear. Congrats on your

 

[The Missus]

Thanks girlies,

I don't want to sound like I'm saying "stop worrying, it will happen" because I definitely did not feel that way during the TTC phase. I hated it when people said these stupid lines. I got myself in a right state to be honest, and I'm still sressed out now! I'm just saying don't give up or write it off that's all.

Hope there are some more BFP announcements from here soon.
xx

 

[Jeannette]

Haley! I'm so sorry to hear you have another struggle, and that your doctor was such a wanker!!! (isn't that a term you brits use? or do I sound like an idiot?? ) I wish you all the best at the fs next week. I know it doesn't take away from how you feel right now, or how hard it may be, but please realize that it is an obstacle but not an impossibility -- look at Missus!!!

Thank you for sharing your experiences Missus, and congrats on the !!