So what does everyone think about working Mums?
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Hayley90
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Yeah, I read it back after I posted
I wish I could say that... Liams a lazy git 
I guess I do fall into the single parent Dermagraphic sometimes, as Liam is away a lot. So I suppose I could easily fall in the single-full-time-working parent model. Crikey
I dont want to generalise, but i am honestly baffled how someone would say being a SAHM is as difficult, or more difficult than doing all of those jobs on top of a full time week. (thought id clarify as im on a PC now, rather than my stupid phone!)
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Not all working mums share the housework, some of our partners are crap when it comes to cleaning.
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I think plenty of people do, unfortunately, have a generalised opinion about what it is like be a SAHM or a working mum. Yes of course it's a bit silly IMO but it';s def out there.
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Why the hell are you lot arguing? Its just an opinion ffs! EVERYONE HAS A DIFFERENT OPINION OF EVERYTHING! END OF!
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No one is arguing
Its quite a sensible discussion i think... i enjoy reading the SAHM viewpoints, i think i do have a bias view of what they do/dont do in a day.
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i'm a single mum nd i gotta say for ME bein a mum is easy! i have a very very easy baby... so goin back to work is gonna be hard because i have a hard job, plus i'll have all the housework to cram in by myself.
so for me, goin back to work will be much harder than bein a sahm.
but if a mum had a baby who needed constant attention, from mornin to night, then their job as a sahm would be undoubtedly harder than me bein a workin mum. ie - finn is happy to sit in his chair while i eat, have a cuppa, chill out... whereas another mum may not get a minute to herself.
if finn was a difficult baby AND i had to go back to work nd find time to do the housework... then that would be harder again!
nd jus because ur single it doesn't technically come into the equation either... u might have an oh who is harder to look after than a baby!
why can't people see that EVERYTHING is relative.
EVERY mum who is doin the best for their child... be that sahm or workin is an excellent mum... bein harder or easier doesn't come into it when it comes to ratin urself as a parent.
so for me, goin back to work will be much harder than bein a sahm.
but if a mum had a baby who needed constant attention, from mornin to night, then their job as a sahm would be undoubtedly harder than me bein a workin mum. ie - finn is happy to sit in his chair while i eat, have a cuppa, chill out... whereas another mum may not get a minute to herself.
if finn was a difficult baby AND i had to go back to work nd find time to do the housework... then that would be harder again!
nd jus because ur single it doesn't technically come into the equation either... u might have an oh who is harder to look after than a baby!
why can't people see that EVERYTHING is relative.
EVERY mum who is doin the best for their child... be that sahm or workin is an excellent mum... bein harder or easier doesn't come into it when it comes to ratin urself as a parent.
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^^ haha, Gemma, LOVE the commant about OH being harder to look after than a baby... i can definately relate to that
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^^ haha, Gemma, LOVE the commant about OH being harder to look after than a baby... i can definately relate to that
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I'd love to be a stay at home mum, but no can do, we need to pay our mortgage and bills. When I do go back I wonder how I'm going to find the time to do everything, my husband will help a little but it will involve alot of nagging on my part.
Most of us dont have a choice about returning to work, and although I get frustrated and upset because I want to bring up my child, I dont want someone else looking after him, I know that I'm not the only one in this position. Its very common these days.
Most of us dont have a choice about returning to work, and although I get frustrated and upset because I want to bring up my child, I dont want someone else looking after him, I know that I'm not the only one in this position. Its very common these days.
I'm going back to work full time soon, and although there are pros to going back to work (money, stimulation etc) I think it's going to be sooo much harder than being a SAHM.
I've got no idea how I'm going to fit everything in - I'll have to get up at 6, get myself ready, wake LO up at 6:30 and get her ready, have breakfast, leave the house at 7:30, drive for an hour to work/nursery, cry as I leave LO at nursery, work for 8hrs in an office that's understaffed, pick LO up at 4:30/5pm, drive for an hour to get home, chuck some dinner together, eat, bath LO and then put her to bed at 7/7:30. Go downstairs - tidy the kitchen after the dinner mess, load dishwasher, put a load of washing on, put away dry washing, get our clothes and my lunch etc packed for the next day and do any general cleaning in the bathroom/bedroom/frontroom. I'm going to be lucky if my arse touches a seat before 9pm. I'll either have to go and do my shopping in the evenings or do it online.
Obviously it's not the same for everyone, but being a SAHM is much easier for me. I get up when LO wakes up (7ish), we have a leisurely breakfast, get ready, have a play, she has a nap (I clean/tidy for an hour) we go out (baby group, shopping etc) have lunch, LO naps and I get cleaning done for an hour, we play again, I cook dinner, we have a leisurely dinner, she plays while I tidy up a bit and then bath and bed. My evenings are pretty much free for some me-time.
I'm dreading going back to work
I've got no idea how I'm going to fit everything in - I'll have to get up at 6, get myself ready, wake LO up at 6:30 and get her ready, have breakfast, leave the house at 7:30, drive for an hour to work/nursery, cry as I leave LO at nursery, work for 8hrs in an office that's understaffed, pick LO up at 4:30/5pm, drive for an hour to get home, chuck some dinner together, eat, bath LO and then put her to bed at 7/7:30. Go downstairs - tidy the kitchen after the dinner mess, load dishwasher, put a load of washing on, put away dry washing, get our clothes and my lunch etc packed for the next day and do any general cleaning in the bathroom/bedroom/frontroom. I'm going to be lucky if my arse touches a seat before 9pm. I'll either have to go and do my shopping in the evenings or do it online.
Obviously it's not the same for everyone, but being a SAHM is much easier for me. I get up when LO wakes up (7ish), we have a leisurely breakfast, get ready, have a play, she has a nap (I clean/tidy for an hour) we go out (baby group, shopping etc) have lunch, LO naps and I get cleaning done for an hour, we play again, I cook dinner, we have a leisurely dinner, she plays while I tidy up a bit and then bath and bed. My evenings are pretty much free for some me-time.
I'm dreading going back to work
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If i get the job i interviewed for last week... this will be me! but change driving to waiting for buses, and getting a train into london... I feel your pain as i sort of do it now already
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Aaaargh - When you put it like that, thats me too, im friggin superwoman by the looks of things!
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I'm lucky because i'm a SAHM who's OH comes in and cooks 
Mainly because he doesn't trust me to do it and not give us food poisoning! 
SO yeah I guess this whole thing is definitely relative. My work load as a SAHM is easier than some. Also, although I do clean (or try to!) we have a cleaner aswell so I don't have to do that all the time. All I have to do is make sure Rory is happy and stuff.
I only have one baby, he's not easy, but he's not the most difficult. During the day is an easy ride for me, but nights are horrible and i'm VERY sleep deprived at the moment. I can't imagine having colicy twins?! Or imagine a hyperactive toddler and a newborn?
And all jobs are different too. So yep, we definitely can't generalise when we say ALL SAHM's have it easier than if they were just working. BUT I stick by what I said when I say being at work full time AND being a mum would be bloody difficult...
Also to Indy and Lara....I never said that being a SAHM isn't worthwhile Ofcourse it is, what kind of mother would I be if I thought being a mother wasn't worthwhile?
Mainly because he doesn't trust me to do it and not give us food poisoning! SO yeah I guess this whole thing is definitely relative. My work load as a SAHM is easier than some. Also, although I do clean (or try to!) we have a cleaner aswell so I don't have to do that all the time. All I have to do is make sure Rory is happy and stuff.
I only have one baby, he's not easy, but he's not the most difficult. During the day is an easy ride for me, but nights are horrible and i'm VERY sleep deprived at the moment. I can't imagine having colicy twins?! Or imagine a hyperactive toddler and a newborn?
And all jobs are different too. So yep, we definitely can't generalise when we say ALL SAHM's have it easier than if they were just working. BUT I stick by what I said when I say being at work full time AND being a mum would be bloody difficult...
Also to Indy and Lara....I never said that being a SAHM isn't worthwhile
Ofcourse it is, what kind of mother would I be if I thought being a mother wasn't worthwhile?Hayley & Lellow - we are bloody superwomen! Go knows when the hoovering will get done, can't do that when LO is in bed. And I'm determined to do absolute minimal housework at the weekend, it's going to be all about enjoying mucho quality time with LO.
