So what does everyone think about working Mums?

[lozzy21]

BnB needs to hire some virtual bouncers

They do lol they just call them mods

 

[Lellow]

BnB needs to hire some virtual bouncers

They do lol they just call them mods

 

[Feltzy]

And I'm not sure where the single parent thing cane into it... I'm not a single parent. We share the housework too... We both come home from a full day, and di everything that you alone do in one day. Then we look after Harrison. We do the same tasks as you in much less time. I honestly am baffled how people think it's not harder to do that!

Being a sahm means you cook, feed, clothe, change nappies, play, clean up after your children etc all day so to say you do the same work as a sahm in less time is wrong. I was a working mum before having Alfie, I used to go to work and do the tidying when I came back but I can honestly say that for me it is harder now being a sahm to 2 children than it was being a working mum to 1.

Thats just me though, I'm not making any generalisations, like I said before every circumstance is different and I think its wrong to say its the same for everyone because you don't know.

 

[Hayley90]

And I'm not sure where the single parent thing cane into it... I'm not a single parent. We share the housework too... We both come home from a full day, and di everything that you alone do in one day. Then we look after Harrison. We do the same tasks as you in much less time. I honestly am baffled how people think it's not harder to do that!

Being a sahm means you cook, feed, clothe, change nappies, play, clean up after your children etc all day so to say you do the same work as a sahm in less time is wrong. I was a working mum before having Alfie, I used to go to work and do the tidying when I came back but I can honestly say that for me it is harder now being a sahm to 2 children than it was being a working mum to 1.

Thats just me though, I'm not making any generalisations, like I said before every circumstance is different and I think its wrong to say its the same for everyone because you don't know.

But I DO do all of the housework in less time? I only have a couple of hours in the evenings or weekends to do it?! I dont see how me saying that about MY time is "wrong"

And CocoaOne - i run around with the hoover everyday, i try and do it while Harrison is in his jumperoo or something so he is distracted, and not feeling threatened by the vacuum cleaner

 

[mummyclo]

And I'm not sure where the single parent thing cane into it... I'm not a single parent. We share the housework too... We both come home from a full day, and di everything that you alone do in one day. Then we look after Harrison. We do the same tasks as you in much less time. I honestly am baffled how people think it's not harder to do that!

Being a sahm means you cook, feed, clothe, change nappies, play, clean up after your children etc all day so to say you do the same work as a sahm in less time is wrong. I was a working mum before having Alfie, I used to go to work and do the tidying when I came back but I can honestly say that for me it is harder now being a sahm to 2 children than it was being a working mum to 1.

Thats just me though, I'm not making any generalisations, like I said before every circumstance is different and I think its wrong to say its the same for everyone because you don't know.

But I DO do all of the housework in less time? I only have a couple of hours in the evenings or weekends to do it?! I dont see how me saying that about MY time is "wrong"

And CocoaOne - i run around with the hoover everyday, i try and do it while Harrison is in his jumperoo or something so he is distracted, and not feeling threatened by the vacuum cleaner

How do you know how long it takes her to do the housework? She may do it in less time than you? iykwim

 

[lozzy21]

And I'm not sure where the single parent thing cane into it... I'm not a single parent. We share the housework too... We both come home from a full day, and di everything that you alone do in one day. Then we look after Harrison. We do the same tasks as you in much less time. I honestly am baffled how people think it's not harder to do that!

Being a sahm means you cook, feed, clothe, change nappies, play, clean up after your children etc all day so to say you do the same work as a sahm in less time is wrong. I was a working mum before having Alfie, I used to go to work and do the tidying when I came back but I can honestly say that for me it is harder now being a sahm to 2 children than it was being a working mum to 1.

Thats just me though, I'm not making any generalisations, like I said before every circumstance is different and I think its wrong to say its the same for everyone because you don't know.

Some people have to do that at work and then come home and do it all over again

I need a new job lmao

 

[lozzy21]

And I'm not sure where the single parent thing cane into it... I'm not a single parent. We share the housework too... We both come home from a full day, and di everything that you alone do in one day. Then we look after Harrison. We do the same tasks as you in much less time. I honestly am baffled how people think it's not harder to do that!

Being a sahm means you cook, feed, clothe, change nappies, play, clean up after your children etc all day so to say you do the same work as a sahm in less time is wrong. I was a working mum before having Alfie, I used to go to work and do the tidying when I came back but I can honestly say that for me it is harder now being a sahm to 2 children than it was being a working mum to 1.

Thats just me though, I'm not making any generalisations, like I said before every circumstance is different and I think its wrong to say its the same for everyone because you don't know.

But I DO do all of the housework in less time? I only have a couple of hours in the evenings or weekends to do it?! I dont see how me saying that about MY time is "wrong"

And CocoaOne - i run around with the hoover everyday, i try and do it while Harrison is in his jumperoo or something so he is distracted, and not feeling threatened by the vacuum cleaner

How do you know how long it takes her to do the housework? She may do it in less time than you? iykwim

I think she means she has less time to do it in.

 

[mummyclo]

 

[aliss]

I found it a lot harder to be a working mom than SAHM in the beginning, in my circumstance. I worked 7pm-4am, came home, slept 1 hour, got up at 6am with baby, he was colicky & cried all day.

Now, he's a bit older and content to watch me cook & clean without screaming, and I actually get to sleep at night (2-4 night wakings aside, LOL) But that was my circumstance. Everyone is different. This is no contest.

 

[Feltzy]

And I'm not sure where the single parent thing cane into it... I'm not a single parent. We share the housework too... We both come home from a full day, and di everything that you alone do in one day. Then we look after Harrison. We do the same tasks as you in much less time. I honestly am baffled how people think it's not harder to do that!

Being a sahm means you cook, feed, clothe, change nappies, play, clean up after your children etc all day so to say you do the same work as a sahm in less time is wrong. I was a working mum before having Alfie, I used to go to work and do the tidying when I came back but I can honestly say that for me it is harder now being a sahm to 2 children than it was being a working mum to 1.

Thats just me though, I'm not making any generalisations, like I said before every circumstance is different and I think its wrong to say its the same for everyone because you don't know.

But I DO do all of the housework in less time? I only have a couple of hours in the evenings or weekends to do it?! I dont see how me saying that about MY time is "wrong"

And CocoaOne - i run around with the hoover everyday, i try and do it while Harrison is in his jumperoo or something so he is distracted, and not feeling threatened by the vacuum cleaner

You said that you do all of the work a sahm mum does but in less time, but whilst you're at work somebody else is doing nappy changes, feeding etc, being a sahm is more than just housework. I felt I had to comment as being told its 'silly' to think being a sahm is as hard as being a working mum got my back up a bit as I've experienced both and I'd already said I found it harder, mentally and physically, does that make me silly iykwim? I don't want to argue I hope you don't read my tone wrong

 

[Janidog]

Even though I love my LO, but I really could not be a SAHM - its boring!!!!! I love playing with my LO but there is only so much scrunchy, rattling, jumping toys I can cope with, maybe when he is older it might be better. I find work can be quite stressful but im using my brain and its not turning to mush (before any SAHM attack me, im not saying your brains are mushy, just mine) I love when im in the office talking to customers and sorting out the finance and orders. I still relish my time with LO but im not panicking about how to make my LOs day more exciting

 

[Feltzy]

Even though I love my LO, but I really could not be a SAHM - its boring!!!!! I love playing with my LO but there is only so much scrunchy, rattling, jumping toys I can cope with, maybe when he is older it might be better. I find work can be quite stressful but im using my brain and its not turning to mush (before any SAHM attack me, im not saying your brains are mushy, just mine) I love when im in the office talking to customers and sorting out the finance and orders. I still relish my time with LO but im not panicking about how to make my LOs day more exciting

Lol I can get like that sometimes, I have to try and get out with the kids as often as possible because I hate just being in the house all the time. Thats what I loved about my job, it was varied, every day there would be something different to do, plus you get the added bonus of adult conversation.

When I'm at home it can be a lot of the same iykwim, I have to try and spice it up to keep me from going mad! I do love being at home with the kids but it can be challenging, just like any job I suppose we all have good days and bad days.

 

[emsiee]

Well Im gonna put my two pennith in.

Ive always worked full time. From my experience, being a full time working mum was/is much harder than being a SAHM, for me it was anyway. It was bloody hard work. Having been on mat leave for 9 months as a SAHM, thats hard too, but not as hard as going to work full time.

Thats my experience.

 

[Jchihuahua]

I work full time in a high pressured and emotionally draining job. I am the main earner and we couldn't pay the mortgage without my wages so I had no choice but to return to work at 6 months. If I could I'd be a SAHM mum. I feel that my husband works WAY harder than me though. He is at home with Daisy during the day and she's a ball of energy and you can't take your eyes off her for a minute. He does the housework when she's napping then when I get home from work he goes straight out to work and works 4 hours every evening 6 til 10 in a monotonous job. He gets home at 11pm then straight to bed so he literally does not have one minute to relax or do his own thing during the day. Plus he works weekends so I feel that he has the hardest job by far in my house.

 

[babyblog]

I have a very challenging job, but it is still a break when i go in! Mummyhood to me is the hardest most tiring job of all because it is constant x

 

[venusrockstar]

I will be going back to work full-time the end of July. I want to instill a good work ethic in my daughter and hope she finds a good job one day to help support her own family. I get sick of the typical gender stereotypes of women having to stay at home with the kids, cook and clean. I could afford to stay home if I wanted to, but I want to make MORE money so we can afford to take our kids on trips to Disney World etc in the future.

 

[Hayley90]

And I'm not sure where the single parent thing cane into it... I'm not a single parent. We share the housework too... We both come home from a full day, and di everything that you alone do in one day. Then we look after Harrison. We do the same tasks as you in much less time. I honestly am baffled how people think it's not harder to do that!

Being a sahm means you cook, feed, clothe, change nappies, play, clean up after your children etc all day so to say you do the same work as a sahm in less time is wrong. I was a working mum before having Alfie, I used to go to work and do the tidying when I came back but I can honestly say that for me it is harder now being a sahm to 2 children than it was being a working mum to 1.

Thats just me though, I'm not making any generalisations, like I said before every circumstance is different and I think its wrong to say its the same for everyone because you don't know.

But I DO do all of the housework in less time? I only have a couple of hours in the evenings or weekends to do it?! I dont see how me saying that about MY time is "wrong"

And CocoaOne - i run around with the hoover everyday, i try and do it while Harrison is in his jumperoo or something so he is distracted, and not feeling threatened by the vacuum cleaner

How do you know how long it takes her to do the housework? She may do it in less time than you? iykwim

You're not getting my point... she has all day to do all that stuff. i have from 7pm onwards. My time frame is shorter than hers.

 

[Hayley90]

And I'm not sure where the single parent thing cane into it... I'm not a single parent. We share the housework too... We both come home from a full day, and di everything that you alone do in one day. Then we look after Harrison. We do the same tasks as you in much less time. I honestly am baffled how people think it's not harder to do that!

Being a sahm means you cook, feed, clothe, change nappies, play, clean up after your children etc all day so to say you do the same work as a sahm in less time is wrong. I was a working mum before having Alfie, I used to go to work and do the tidying when I came back but I can honestly say that for me it is harder now being a sahm to 2 children than it was being a working mum to 1.

Thats just me though, I'm not making any generalisations, like I said before every circumstance is different and I think its wrong to say its the same for everyone because you don't know.

But I DO do all of the housework in less time? I only have a couple of hours in the evenings or weekends to do it?! I dont see how me saying that about MY time is "wrong"

And CocoaOne - i run around with the hoover everyday, i try and do it while Harrison is in his jumperoo or something so he is distracted, and not feeling threatened by the vacuum cleaner

You said that you do all of the work a sahm mum does but in less time, but whilst you're at work somebody else is doing nappy changes, feeding etc, being a sahm is more than just housework. I felt I had to comment as being told its 'silly' to think being a sahm is as hard as being a working mum got my back up a bit as I've experienced both and I'd already said I found it harder, mentally and physically, does that make me silly iykwim? I don't want to argue I hope you don't read my tone wrong

No i get what you mean!!
The idea that an SAHMs job is harder than someone who is both a mother AND a FT worker is silly, because in the majority of cases, a SAHM has less to do, in more time. Thus, being simpler/easier/better to manage... whatever. I dont think any PERSON is silly, just the notion that someone who is at home all day could possibly find doing one set of jobs harder, than me doing two sets of jobs in the same 24/7/365 timeframe.

Im not making sense

And, yes my mum feeds him and changes him during the day... but that still leaves dressing, bathing, putting to bed, feeding, changing, washing, eating, preparing his breakfast/lunches/dinners, cooking, cleaning the house, drying clothes, ironing clothes and everything else... on top of a full time job and everything that comes with it (prep for the next days work, late-night emails abroad, conference calls...) So yes the basics are done during the day, but my workload at home is th sort of thing a SAHM can do when her child is napping at lunchtime.

Sometimes, i like to have a shower! ... yesterday, my shower was at 12.45am.

And ust to add again... that is all done without a sit down, or a conversation with my OH.

 

[MrsGlitz]

I find it dead easy being a full time working mummy most of the time.









*disclaimer* DH is a SAHD who does everything

In all seriousness, when we were both working full time I found it very tiring indeed, as the industry DH is in (hospitality) commands long, unsociable hours. Now I actually enjoy being a working mummy for the most part, except after nights like last night when Harry was up lots and lots and was poorly before I left, only being settled when cuddled with me. But it was a lot easier leaving knowing he was with DH than when he had to go to nursery.

I thought I'd HATE working but DH has said that I'm a lot happier and a better mummy and better wife. I just wish I didn't have to work full time.

 

[Midnight_Fairy]

I hate the generalisation, SAHM do nothing hahaha.....