ok probably tmi coming up here so if your squeemish, dont read....
we used the preseed in the injectible tubes. so we filled one up and inserted it before dtd. after dtd i would stay laying down and insert the softcup. i would make sure it was in the right place, covering my cervix before standing up. i also went in every now and then and poked around on the outside of the softcups to push the spermys up in. dont know if that helped, but someone suggested it. you should also try to have an orgasm after getting the softcup in place. im sorry if your DH isnt down for this, mine was thankfully
we also did a different method too. this is probably even worse tmi....
sometimes i would get the softcup ready with preseed in it. then would use some on my hands and use my hands to get him there. you cant get any saliva around it will kill spermys, so make sure you use the preseed so he doesnt get chaffed. sorry ladies, there is not a decent way to explain all this. i would catch the spermys in the softcup, lay down and insert it in me. then of course poked at the outside like with the other method. this method probably worked better for me cuz sometimes after dtd and inserting it some would come out, like i missed some. and of course try to have an orgasm after this one as well.
it aint pretty, but hey..... this is baby making