Sperm Meets Egg Plan (SMEP) TTC#1 group Aug/Sept/Oct 2013

[moni77]

Marquelle I think you should start temping. It might help to see where your temps are at even though it wont be conclusive since you haven't been doing it, you might be able to tell if you at least ovulated...

 

[asmcsm]

Good luck to you, I hope you catch it

I heard fertili-tea is good for regulating cycles. It can screw up a regular cycle which is why I haven't tried it yet.

I used it when I had a regular cycle and it didn't change a thing, i actually got my bfp, but it did help regulate my cycle after my m/c.

 

[Marqelle93]

Marquelle I think you should start temping. It might help to see where your temps are at even though it wont be conclusive since you haven't been doing it, you might be able to tell if you at least ovulated...

How might I tell if I have ovulated by temping right now? I have never done it before so Im kind of cluless.

 

[MIZZYD]

[/QUOTE]Did u follow SMEP accurately ? I mean all the rules of it ?[/QUOTE]

Well I did start to BD on CD8 then CD10. Then on CD12 I got what I thought was a +OPK so we BD'ed that day & CD13. But then on CD14 I got what I thought was a better +OPK, so we BD'ed that day & CD15. On CD16 I got a super true +OPK, so we BD'ed that day, skipped CD17 and BD'ed again on CD18. Then FF and OF gave me crosshairs for CD17. My plan was to follow it 100%, but the OPK's were confusing me.

[/QUOTE]Woww MizzyD, congratulations!!! have a very H&H 9 months!!
I just went thru ur journey and i just wanted to know one thing may be as much as i could, I pretty much read all the post of Aug month of yours,
so the ques is so before your opk was 100% positive you guys pretty much dtd every day right?? and did you do after that also??
I am sory for a such TMI ques but really wanted to knw that..and I would say writing a ttc journey is worth..so others can realy get a good help, once it turns out to be BFP!!
[/QUOTE]

Yes, that is correct. Because I kept thinking each day the OPK's were looking better. It was confusing actually.

Yesterday afternoon, it was negative. I believe that I didn't ever ovulate and that the OPK that I thought was positive must have been just REALLY close, because the positive OPK's that I got the day before yesterday seemed to have actually been positive, and then I got bad O pains last night. But we will see.

Anyone have any advice on the Vitex at this point if I did ovulate today? I took one this morning and am supposed to take another one later today.

I actually began using Vitex along with Vitamin B6 starting on CD3. I cannot say if it worked or not because luckily I got a +BFP same month I began taking them, so I am guessing yea

 

[Marqelle93]

Awesome thanks

 

[MrsWKJ]

oh wow so happy to hear that dear,, for me also except a little heavy and may ur right that could be the reason its heavy from late 1 and 2 and less on 3 which is my usual pattern and hoping its 4 less and 5 bare for me as per my norm too..hoping praying..no more unusual stuff please god!!

and ya going tomm for testing..blood test already heavy and this bloodtest too heheh ..too much of a blood is going away!1
no more prenatals..I have promised to my hubby n myslf..all natural now!!

GL dear! hope the tests come out fine. hehe try to eat iron rich foods , will help regain all the blood loss.

Same here - all natural.

 

[beaglemom]

My husband is just not holding up his end of the deal. We have been unsuccessful the past 2 nights. I try to not put pressure on him. As far as he knew, O wasn't for days. I had high in my CB monitor and today is peak. Peak is basically the same as a +opk, I think. I know it's not logically, but I feel this cycle is a bust. Technically my 3 days should start today so I'm not out. I am just really bummed. I had such high hopes with the hsg.

 

[endlessblue]

My husband is just not holding up his end of the deal. We have been unsuccessful the past 2 nights. I try to not put pressure on him. As far as he knew, O wasn't for days. I had high in my CB monitor and today is peak. Peak is basically the same as a +opk, I think. I know it's not logically, but I feel this cycle is a bust. Technically my 3 days should start today so I'm not out. I am just really bummed. I had such high hopes with the hsg.

I had the exact same problem this month too, despite him not even knowing where I was in my cycle. Try to stay positive. I found that my obvious disappointment just made it worse for him

 

[MrsWKJ]

My husband is just not holding up his end of the deal. We have been unsuccessful the past 2 nights. I try to not put pressure on him. As far as he knew, O wasn't for days. I had high in my CB monitor and today is peak. Peak is basically the same as a +opk, I think. I know it's not logically, but I feel this cycle is a bust. Technically my 3 days should start today so I'm not out. I am just really bummed. I had such high hopes with the hsg.

I had the exact same problem this month too, despite him not even knowing where I was in my cycle. Try to stay positive. I found that my obvious disappointment just made it worse for him

I totally agree with endless, just try to stay positive and focus on alot of foreplay before BDing, it helps alot. Its just so hard not to think that we are putting so much effort in ttc and guys just have to do one thing and they can't do it right esp during important dates of the month, but you gotta stay calm and make him feel as comfortable as possible. I know its harder on our part but we don't have much choice.

I think its performance anxiety that kicks in sometimes, the more you relax him the better he'll feel about it. GL dear! Hope you guys seal the deal today!

 

[Wishing1010]

Sounds like a lot of us had issues around the most important time of the month! I know I had a stomach bug within an hour of my positive OPK. Lol. Then, when we tried to BD the next night and the following, neither of us were quite up to it. I guess it was just too much pressure!

My darn FF Chart looks like a heart rate monitor! Lol. Up and down temps, no sense to it whatsoever. I did miss one morning this past weekend due to the kitten having stolen my thermometer off the nightstand! Definitely believe this cycle is anovulatory, but did experience an awesome amount of EWCM yesterday, so we BD'ed just in case.

https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/4472d2

 

[moni77]

Marquelle I think you should start temping. It might help to see where your temps are at even though it wont be conclusive since you haven't been doing it, you might be able to tell if you at least ovulated...

How might I tell if I have ovulated by temping right now? I have never done it before so Im kind of cluless.

It might just help to start to see if there is a pattern. Since you are unclear if you have ovulated, if you ovulate after you start, you will see a difference. If you look at a lot of charts most people seem to be in the 97s pre ovulation and closer to normal after ovulation. again, you won't know for sure, but it doesn't hurt. It could also be more info for your doctor if you ever get an appointment...

 

[Gods children]

Hi all,
Please count me in. Im on CD 9 and have done ovarian drilling on CD 1...
Baby dust to all

 

[beaglemom]

My husband is just not holding up his end of the deal. We have been unsuccessful the past 2 nights. I try to not put pressure on him. As far as he knew, O wasn't for days. I had high in my CB monitor and today is peak. Peak is basically the same as a +opk, I think. I know it's not logically, but I feel this cycle is a bust. Technically my 3 days should start today so I'm not out. I am just really bummed. I had such high hopes with the hsg.

I had the exact same problem this month too, despite him not even knowing where I was in my cycle. Try to stay positive. I found that my obvious disappointment just made it worse for him

I totally agree with endless, just try to stay positive and focus on alot of foreplay before BDing, it helps alot. Its just so hard not to think that we are putting so much effort in ttc and guys just have to do one thing and they can't do it right esp during important dates of the month, but you gotta stay calm and make him feel as comfortable as possible. I know its harder on our part but we don't have much choice.

I think its performance anxiety that kicks in sometimes, the more you relax him the better he'll feel about it. GL dear! Hope you guys seal the deal today!

Yeh I know. But really I just wanted to be with him. Didn't have as much to do with the time of the month. Hopefully the next few days will be better. We did get one in on Sat.

 

[Pearly86]

if that is the case I am telling you got to give him a day atleast ,,..and just do not talk abt it a complete day and next day try dressing up and taking it easy!!without any plans...but giving him a day off is really what is required at this time...

 

[MrsWKJ]

Hi all,
Please count me in. Im on CD 9 and have done ovarian drilling on CD 1...
Baby dust to all

Welcome Adding you to the list x

 

[floridasian]

Hi MrsWKJ - please add me for September. I'm CD 11 today - ovulating either today or tomorrow

 

[floridasian]

Well I did start to BD on CD8 then CD10. Then on CD12 I got what I thought was a +OPK so we BD'ed that day & CD13. But then on CD14 I got what I thought was a better +OPK, so we BD'ed that day & CD15. On CD16 I got a super true +OPK, so we BD'ed that day, skipped CD17 and BD'ed again on CD18. Then FF and OF gave me crosshairs for CD17. My plan was to follow it 100%, but the OPK's were confusing me.

Thanks for sharing MizzyD. I'm in similar situation - I'm trying to follow SMEP this cycle as well and we BD'ed on CD8 and was going to wait till CD10 but I got a positive OPK on CD9 so we BD'ed on CD9, then CD10 (three days in a row). However CD11 (today) is still positive so it looks like we'll be BD'ing for the 4th day in a row tonight. OPK's can be confusing but I'm glad it worked out for you. I was worried about DH's sperm supply for such frequent bd (plus he wasn't able to finish last cycle the third day in a row). Your BFP is very reassuring!

 

[fairyy]

We are doing it every other day from CD10. Today is CD16 and no temp rise yet. CD14 seems to be positive. Then CD16 seems to be positive. What to do ?

 

[jerryjo]

Hi all

Good luck on SMEP .... just thought I would update to say I did this for my second month TTC and fell pregnant - now 5 weeks so very early days but obviously it worked xx

 

[fairyy]

I need help ?
Which one is positive or I need to test today also ? No temp rise yet.