Spotting week before AF every month - anyone else?

[dreaminghopin]

Welcome one dips x

 

[dreaminghopin]

Evening *ladies looking for some advice. Since doc won't refer me to Gynacology I have arranged a private ultrasound at a fertility clinic tomorrow. I think I am about 7 dpo. Have no reason to think I'm *preggers but if I was (wishful thinking) could a vaginal ultrasound cause any harm?*

 

[Jellycat]

Dreaminghopin - I have had an internal ultrasound when I was 6 weeks pregnant so technically 28 dpo. I think you would be fine if pregnant. If you can have sex you can have an internal u/s - you won't do any harm . Good luck

Mrspttc - I want to sweep you up in my arms and give you a big strong . I don't think any man I know understands about TTC. Even this week I told dh I'd ovulated and he thought it was his cue for lots of dtd ..... Had to explain it all to him again for about the 5th time now. So sorry your doctor is not supportive, really hope the clomid works for you.

Almosthere maybe sustaining from dtd in 2ww would be good to see if it's Dec or just your cycle.

 

[daydream]

MrsP - I'm all fired up over here FOR you. I am so surprised at his reasoning, and am shocked he has such good success rates. My understanding was that you should not do clomid for more than 6 cycles. Will you be monitored for these next cycles? What was his reasoning not to go to IUI? I am so confused about why this doctor has no urgency. 2-3 years is far longer than any other guidance I've seen. I'm so sorry hun.. I would switch doctors if I were you. This should be a positive experience, and good success rates or not, this doctor is not making that happen for you.

 

[almosthere]

thanks for all the thoughts ladies....took a ept digi to confirm what i think was a pos on an early response test below..in the casset and out of it.....

the digi said no and the dollar said no, but i am so sure this is itttt ahhh now have to wait for fmu tomorrow!

 

[daydream]

Omg that is soooo positive. Test again in the AM. It may just be too early for a digi. Omg I'm so excited for you!!

Also regarding dtd, my RE actually advised us to abstain until our first ultrasound. It sucks but I figure it's just a few weeks.

 

[daydream]

Also my FRER was the first thing to give me a clear line. The IC was so so faint but the FRER was clear as day. My digi was positive on 11dpo. You can see my tests in my journal.

I'm SO excited for you!!

 

[dreaminghopin]

Almosthere I see the line.. Wow your preggers honey

 

[almosthere]

hi ladies, i am not counting myself preg yet-as i just tested fmu and did not really see a line until after the time limit-which looks more like an grey evap than the pink line from last night-and also getting bfns on dollar cheapies =( just a waiting game for now i suppose-will know one way or the other by tuesday the latest as that is when af should pop up

 

[daydream]

Hmm well maybe try testing again this evening. My fmu tests didn't seem to always be my darkest, maybe it's the same for you. Also HCG doubles every 48 hours so it may just be too soon from the first test

 

[Chloe597]

almosthere - that looks like a BFP to me! Maybe your HCG just needs time to double. Is that what it looked like within the time frame that you were supposed to read it? FX for you!!

MrsP your doctor sounds insensitive. Are there any other fertility specialists you can go to instead? 2-3 years seems ridiculous! 1 year is standard in the US. Another 6 months of clomid doesnt seem so hot either, although at least they will be monitored this time. Why would he tell you to stop tracking O signs? If i wasn't tracking mine I wouldn't be preggo now. I BD because i saw EWCM, not because i randomly got horny around O time. Good luck with the monitoring, that will at least be able to help determine if the clomid is doing what its supposed to be doing.

 

[Jellycat]

Almost there - definitely looks like a positive. My cheapies didnt show positive for another 7 days after my FRER so I wouldnt worry too much and you are only 9dpo ! Make sure you update us !

 

[MrsPTTC]

Hi ladies, apologies in advance of the long post!

Firstly – Almosthere, BFP!!!!!!!! Well done chick!

Yep Soili totally agree with everything you’ve said! Yes I’ll still notice the EWCM though I might not take it off the tissue and stretch it back and forth like usual! . But I’m not going to check my cervix and “try” not to work out what day I am on… Easier said than done though! I’m glad you agree with me sticking to the Dr, as the general consensus on the other threads I’m on is to get a second opinion. But like you say it’ll put me back and I will have egg on my face if they say the same as him. Also the hospital has such good IUI success rates . I do sort of see his point about relaxing, not timing BD etc.. I think if I was a bit older, like nearer 35 than 30 then I would’ve said to go with the IUI but I suppose I do have time, as long as my eggs don’t dry up! Still don’t like the bugger though!

Yum, I had a progesterone test last year, they didn’t tell me the figure (obviously didn’t want me to google!) but said, and I confirmed this yesterday, I DEFINITELY didn’t ovulate. I put it to him could I have ovulated but my progesterone just be low but he said not. I have only been monitored clomid cycle 1, with me ovulating on 50mg I didn’t get any more. I’ll be interested to see what my cyst is like this time as it will be 7 months since my last scan. I didn’t BBT that month dohh but did OPK and get a positive, also AF wasn’t late The Dr/FS doesn’t believe BBT shows ovulation and you can have a temp shift for a number of reasons though that’s one thing I defo disagree with him on!

Dreaminghopin – thanks hun, yeah it was keeping me going, now I’m just gonna be playing the waiting game . What he basically said was, if I had follicle tracking or progesterone tests on a normal cycle and I ovulate, then I’m classed as unexplained & therefore have to wait 2-3 years of TTC before they’ll help again! I took that as a threat “believe me you’re not ovulating or else” but DH didn’t. I do kind of understand what he’s saying though and appreciate they have their policies on how long before help. Also the doc has said to me before that low progesterone is a non-sense and the docs these days don’t believe in it – I beg to differ listening to some ladies stories on BnB! Their docs seem to believe it… I’ve asked if there are any other tests they can do (I was thinking CM test but haven’t heard of anyone in the UK having this) and he says not and no I’ve not had an internal, though I honestly don’t think my spotting is physical so I’m not too fussed. I’ve had my tubes checked & they’ve checked my ovaries (cyst found) and lining on the first month on clomid so I assume that’s enough.

Thanks Jellycat chick MEN! Lol

Daydream, I’ve another friend on BnB same age as me (30) and from the UK and she has been told the same timescale by the NHS for unexplained infertility but mine is classed as explained because of my ovulation. I’ve read lots of conflicting things about taking clomid over 6 months, I think it depends on the doc. I am having follicle tracking on clomid cycle 1 (round 2!) so at least they’ll be able to see if the first round has done any damage to my lining. The reasoning for IUI is that it’s more successful when the SA results aren’t great. He says with my DH’s results I’ve just as good a chance on clomid as IUI would be.

Chloe, he says timed intercourse adds to stress and if you “think” you’ve ovulated & stop BD you might not have actually ovulated and miss it completely! I do see his point on that one. He says just to BD every 2-3 days… As for changing FS I think I’m gonna stick with him for now, DH is happy with him and if I really wanted IUI or IVF he would’ve let me have it, he just thought it was too soon and not to waste it. I’d rather have a natural BFP so when it comes to no 2 (getting ahead of myself I know) I won’t have to pay for private IUI or IVF.

 

[MrsPTTC]

MrsHY - was it transfer today or is it saturday ??? Hope everything went ok!! x

 

[almosthere]

took an answer tonight and AFTER TIME LIMIT got this...really not sure whats going on its driving me crazy-def not counting myself preg with the first and this one....have had others where it was stark white soooo hmmmm waiting game!

 

[expatttc]

oops - some catching up to do.

almostthere - eeeeeeks that looks pink!! Breathing deeply, sending loads of positive thoughts, and waiting to see how the tests progress. fmu was what I relied on for sure.

Mrs. PTTC, boys are stupid. Seriously. We love them, and we need them, but there are some times when a raised eyebrow is the minimum we can do to cope with some of their reactions. I’m sorry about your doctor, who seems to be not only not on the same page as you, but a bit of a disappointment when it comes to his communication skills. The good news is that there IS some hope in there, like you don’t have to explain your whole dilemma to a new doctor and DH likes him (a positive, because it means he might be more willing to try new things or at least keep coming to appointments). However, if you are not getting the answers you want, can you go talk to another doctor at least about your spotting, then decide if you want to switch? I don’t know how it works where you are - it might be expensive, but if you really do want to talk to someone else, just to get a feel for other ways of managing this, go with your gut. And if you want to keep tracking, etc., I’m absolutely with Soili - do what YOU are comfortable with. Plus, if you do change doctors you’ll want that information.

yum, thanks for your reply and advice on flying

Jellycat, heehee about your dh and dtd after ovulating. Any excuse, eh?

daydream, sorry you have to wait for some fun. Is the abstaining only because of your spotting?

Mrs.HY, thinking of you too for the transfer!

AFM - I booked a scan in Brisbane for next friday. Will be about 7.5 weeks, so I will fly down for that, also get my blood work done, AND ask the doctor about flying further in the first trimester (I’m supposed to have a work trip at around 11 weeks to RURAL papua, which I’m not really thrilled about..only a 1 hour flight, but then6 hours in a boat one way and a village stay overnight, so sounds like it’s a bit risky for a pregnancy)...

 

[daydream]

expat - No I haven't had any spotting, the dr said their office just likes to be very conservative and err on the safe side. Just one more week! My scan is next Thursday, so looks like we'll both have good days in a row

 

[expatttc]

Daydream, thanks for letting me know - we've still been dtd, but maybe I'll tell dh to take it slow!

 

[KatieTTC]

Wow almostthere, crossing my fingers! Your tests look very positive Did you spot more, or was it only after BDing? It seems like everyone's case is different. Chloe spotted heavily despite BFP and yet daydream hasn't had any spotting. One thing is certain, spotting and pregnancy can coexist. Thank you, pregnant ladies, for not leaving this forum and keeping us posted on your progress.
MrsHY hope the transfer goes well!
Sorry your doctor was stubborn and condescending, MrsPTTC. That would make me cry too. Did you say your will be monitored on round one of clomid?
Nothing new with me, two weeks of spotting and AF are almost over, can't wait to see that smiley face and start the sitting, waiting, wishing game again. It feels like eternity.

 

[Jellycat]

Ill catch up with posts this evening as just on way to work

Got spotting this morning bright pink at 9dpo also temp dropped this morning too. First cycle in past 3 that I've spotted and now temp drop too seems like double bummer.

Mrspttc- just quickly I agree too about staying with who you are .