Stopped BCP & TTC! Whos with me?!

[Ajangel25]

Pic! *deleted for Internet safety*

 

[Angel5000]

Gagrl I know that they say a lot of times spotting in the first few weeks is normal. Let us know what the doctor says.

Ajangel - Oh wow! What a lovely picture!

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Well ladies.. I hadn't had the heart to come on here yet, but it was a CP... And I started a full blown period this morning. I know our time will come and this just showed us both how ready we are to start a family. Thank you all for being such a great group of woman for support...

 

[Angel5000]

Oh no, I'm so sorry. Take some time to mourn if you need it. We're here if you need to talk. I've been there so I know how hard this is.

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Oh no, I'm so sorry. Take some time to mourn if you need it. We're here if you need to talk. I've been there so I know how hard this is.

It's so hard not to think it's my fault and I did something wrong..

 

[Ajangel25]

Gag- noooo I'm so so sorry!!

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Gag- noooo I'm so so sorry!!

Thank you hon. Your little man is beautiful btw.

 

[Angel5000]

It's definitely not your fault. There is rarely anything we can do for a CP. there are so many reasons why a CP happens. There is nothing to say to make you feel better but do know there's nothing you can do. I'm so sorry

 

[ABmommy]

Gagrl- so sorry Hun. Feel free if you need to take time away. We'll be here for you whenever you're ready.

Ajangel- wow he was ready! He looks so squishy and snuggly! Love it! Sorry to hear the pain was intense but I'm sure it was all worth it to see that cute face afterwards congrats again!

 

[Elle.T.]

Gagrl- I am sorry Ive been there as you know. It's hard but you will get through this. I am praying for strength for you.

 

[Mozzarella]

Angel - that's so exciting your anatomy scan is coming up! Are you guessing at all to what it is yet? Or wishing it would be one gender more than the other?

Elle - I'm so glad you know for sure you're ovulating! That's so helpful to know. I hope the rest of your tests come back well! And good to hear your doc doesn't think you have PCOS! Hopefully like others said, that this is your month! FX.

Ajangel - wow that's so crazy your water bag came out! I can't say if ever heard of that happening before! So glad you and baby are doing well though!! And baby is so cute! I'm like you. I think I want to do a natural birth whenever I get there. I'm not sure I could handle getting an epidural. Let alone being strong like you and getting it done twice!!

Gagrlin - I am so sorry to hear that and sending warmth and happy thoughts your way. Like others said, it's not your fault and there is most likely nothing you did that caused it. They just happen. It's exciting to know that you guys now for sure you're ready for bring parents and it'll make the next time all that better!

AFM - still waiting. Still nothing.
I think I'm going to give a call to my doctor on Monday and see if he can hook me in with a obgyn so I can get in sooner rather than later and get more testing done. Here's to hoping I can get in quickly and not have to wait for a super long time.
But in the mean time, I'm enjoying summer and we're going on another vacation in two weeks before I head back to work for the school season.

 

[Mozzarella]

I have a question.
Do any of you ladies think its possible that I could be pregnant and not shown up on a HPT or blood test?

For atleast the past week, or more, I have been feeling weird movements in my uterus area. Flutterings, squirms kind of. Not sure how to describe it.
I have never had this before in my life, and I know it's not gas because I've dealt with a lot of gas before.

It's just so weird.
(If I was to be pregnant, and if it had been since my last period.. then I'd be like.. 3 months along basically, or because i had light periods before... who knows might be further)
I do plan on phoning my doctor tomorrow and talk about booking more specialist appointments since I'm reaching 90 days in like two weeks with no period.

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Moz- have you called your ob? Maybe they can do a blood test..

AFM, I called my sister who had three MC before her ivf twins miracles. She was so supportive and I love that she understood me and exactly how I feel. She did tell me her third Mc she was 14 weeks and after the D & C she had the doctors test the baby. It turns out the baby had Turner syndrome and downs. Her RE did say most miscarriages happen because your body knows that baby is not perfect and because our bodies are so unique and special they realize this. Although it doesn't make the pain go away because I wanted this baby and this pregnancy, it does comfort me knowing my body figured that wasn't our perfect baby.

 

[Elle.T.]

Ajangel-Thank you for sharing your birth story! It sounds like an ordeal but you LO is beautiful. once again Congrats!!

Mozz- although it's probably unlikely Its possible, I've heard of some women never getting postive pregnancy tests. I would get to a gyn asap you do not need a referral for most places I would try Zocdoc to look for one in your area that takes your insurance.

afm back in NYC after a quick weekend the wedding was beautiful and I managed to do a stellar job as my first gig as day of coordinator, this is something I've been wanting to do for a while and so glad to get it off the ground. I recieved rave reviews from the bride, the families and the guest about how it all came together and even some referrals. My DH was incredible with helping me with some things, I couldn't have done it without him.

 

[Ajangel25]

Mozzarella- you could be feeling ovulation pains or something of that matter! I didn't feel any fluttering or baby movement until close to 20 weeks along, at 3 months baby is just too small to feel them but definitely get a blood test to be sure! I'm sorry your cycle is so long, my first was 116 days so I know how much it sucks!! There's also an option of doing provera if your doc prescribes it, it can induce a period just to get the cycle over with if you wanted. I know Flueky has done it!

Gag- I was actually thinking about this yesterday. I never had a mc so I don't know that pain but I remember how sad I was every month that I wasn't pregnant. Then yesterday I was looking at my baby and I realized if I had gotten pregnant any other time than when I did, I wouldn't have this baby and this one is so perfect! I know it prob isn't any comfort now, but do know that your perfect baby is coming!

 

[Angel5000]

I think we've decided on a fun idea for how to "reveal" gender to our family/friends that aren't around. When we did our initial announcement we used a picture of a onesie that says "Player 3 has entered the game" with 2 XBox controllers (one black and one pink ) and a little wii controller with the cord "attached" to the pink xbox controller. (with the writing coming to a hospital near you, January 2017).

So I saw a video online this weekend of a family that wrapped up a controller that was either pink or blue and gave it to their daughters to open on video and they opened the present and the color of the controller told them what their new little sibling was going to be. I think I want to do the same thing but since we don't have kids we'll use my niece. She's 5 and knows I'm pregnant and is very interested in the baby. She's constantly asking how long before it gets out of my tummy. Then we will video it and send it to my mom, or friends, or post to FB or whatever we decide to do.


Mozzarella - I originally wanted a girl but am really thinking it coudl be a boy, especially based on our timing that cycle, so I've tried to convince myself it's a boy so I won't be disappointed and I'm really kind of either way right now. DH has not said which one he prefers. Some people have suggested it was a girl because I'm showing pretty early and my uterus is a little high I think for this early, but others have guessed boy because of timing and HB.

As for your situation - It's possible to be pregnant without it showing on a urine test but it would definitely show on a blood test. A blood test will test as low as <1 hpt and you have to have the HPT to be pregnant. You might be feeling O signs, or something. But I doubt pregnancy. Until closer to 20 weeks you wouldn't feel fluttering/squirming/etc and since you did have a blood test awhile back that showed not pregnant I'd say that if you're pregnant, you couldn't be more than a few weeks. If you do get pregnant this very odd cycle you're going to have a very odd time properly dating the pregnancy.

 

[Flueky88]

Ajangel what a beautiful little biy. He sure was worth it

Gagrlinpitt I'm so sorry dear. I completely understand the pain of a CP. Just try to look at positives that you can get pregnant that's what I tell myself. I know God has a plan. I'm really looking forward to rollercoasters next month too

Mozzarella I'd say with a negative blood test not pregnant. However it's possible you are Oing or maybe some implantation cramping? Are you testing weekly or until AF shows? I would think are this point if negative your OB would be willing to prescribe progesterone to induce AF. I did it once and didn't have problems my next cycle. I was soooo stressed I didn't O which is why I asked for progesterone. You can I late, I'm just impatient.

Elle.Tim glad you got some referrals. Nice to make some $$$. And of course doing something you enjoy.

Angel I love your announcement ideal!! We are both gamers and that's just too cute

AFM I'm 6dpo, temps sky high. Not sick so hoping it's good sign. I'm so bipolar about hoping to be preggo or not this cycle. We BD O, and all 3 days before O. Just was in the mood I don't think I'll test until I'm really late though this time so like 18dpo if I make it that far no AF.

 

[Gagrlinpitt]

Fluek- I hope you do get your bfp even though I know you are excited about the rollercoasters.

I truly think that once we do get our rainbow baby we will appreciate it all that more from what we had to go through to get them. I honestly feel like even though it might not be the most fun thing, I'll feel like I get to wake up in the middle of the night to feed it or I get to carry the baby for nine months instead of "ugh I have to.. ".

 

[Mozzarella]

Gagrlin - I just have a GP. I think my doctor will refer me to a obgyn or RE for further testing.
And that's awesome that you have a supportive sister whose been in your shoes before.
I was going to say the same stuff that she did. (But I often worry how people will take things especially since I don't know how people will react on BnB and I don't want to hurt anyone.) My SIL had a miscarriage as well and we thought the same thing. There's a reason why it didn't work. Our bodies sometimes just know that it's not the right one.

Elle - I live in Canada so I think our health insurance just covers obgyn and stuff.. just like GP's. (Or free health care I mean)
That sounds like such a good time! So glad your wedding day of coordinating went well! It's always so awesome to find a job that you enjoy and love! Do you plan on doing a lot more of it?

Ajangel - well after researching stuff people can feel baby movements reported as early as 13 weeks. (Especially if it's a second child or someone is reallllly in tune with their body). Which is crazy and I didn't think was possible that early but apparently it is. Just depends on the person. I've also read a lot about provera. I think that's probably going to be the way to go. Hopefully. I'm so tired of not being able to TTC. 3 months is a long time to wait haha. And I'm a very impatient person.

Angel - awe! That would be such a cute way to carry on from your previous announcement! And such a neat idea! I'm sure your niece would love to be part of it since she's so curious as to when your baby will come out! Little kids are so funny that way. That's awesome that your looking forward to either gender!
Thanks! I know. I'm just trying to play devils advocate here and try to give situations as to why I get weird feelings and no period hahah. Sigh.
I know! If I was to be pregnant at any time during this cycle. They'd I guess just have to go off measurements of the baby wouldn't they?

Flueky - yes. I'm probably not pregnant. But soooo hopeful haha.
I tested maybe like Thursday last week. Test was negative (hpt) and then test again last night (again negative). So I have no idea.
I keep feeling like one of these days I'll get my period. I just never do.
That's exciting your temp is high! FX it stays high. If you wait 18dpo that's some good self control! I'd be testing like day before my period and every day after haha.


It's just so frustrating for myself because I told my husband that I needed to get off the pill sooner so that my cycles could regulate out. And we really wanted to start trying so that our kid would be close in age to my brothers and his sisters. But so far. No luck. And just like I figured my cycles would be out of whack. And I get mad at DH sometimes because I'm like ... If I had just got off sooner I feel like we wouldn't be in this situation. And I felt like he was always the one to only get a say and we had to follow what he wanted. (Which was to wait to get off BFP because he was afraid we'd conceive right away). Some days I'm just like see. If we had just listened to me .. Gah.
And I think now he's realizing that oh yeah. Maybe I should listen to my wife whose right about things 95% of the time hahah.

 

[SarahMae]

SarahMae
29 y/o
BCP for 6 years
TTC...just dropped the pill last week. First time; I'm just on here to distract myself while my cycle evens out.