Thanks guys, it really helps to have someone to talk to and I really appreciate your support! DH is terrified I'll stress too much and cause myself to misscarry, so I'm doing my best to stay calm. I agree that I would regret not getting to tell her, but its going to be very difficult to tell just her. We may have to tell everyone. I would just hate to tell everyone then sosomething go wrong and add to the sadness. My mom is really leaning on me right now and I feel like it could give her happy news but it could add to her stress and I know she wouldn't feel like she could lean on me as much. Good news is that another Dr. came in and acted baffled that the 1st dr jumped to such dramatic conclusions. He said her kidneys are shutting down but they were getting a urologist to come in and although she's not good right now we're not quite at the end just yet. So for now I'm just playing it by ear and hoping for the best but preparing for the worst. Its just such crappy timing, this is supposed to be a happy time!