Support thread for ladies who have had 3+ failed IVF cycles

[faithful96]

Hello ladies,

I have been off the boards, well, I guess forever, because honestly I just don't feel I fit in anywhere. I've done 8 fresh IVFS. We have a ton of issues. It's always on-going.

How wonderful of you to start this group. I am going to play catchup and read back a few dozen pages.

All the best,
T

 

[MrsE75]

Plex so sorry to hear you are not feeling great we have all been there so we do understand. I think it always looks so bleak just after a cycle and you swear you won't do it again and wonder why it's not working. As someone said to me at the moment Ivf is not an exact science because humans are all different. I remember 18 mths ago I said we couldn't afford another go and here I am at Bootcamp! It will start to hurt less over time just be kind to yourself xxx

Welcome Faithful to this lovely bunch of ladies hopefully we can help you too xx

Afm - well yesterday I got out on clomid for 5 days to up my estrogen and Viagra (yes that's correct!) to increase the blood flow to my uterus. Never thought I would be taking that let me tell you! Also the embryologist called my hubby they want him to do a sample on Monday and they will freeze any good ones so on EC day he does another sample and they use the best of both batches basically. Which is novel and something I'd not heard of before but they really are leaving nothing to chance I guess which is what I'm paying for! So had bloods done today and waiting for my call this afternoon to find out today's lucky drug mix! It changes pretty much everyday depends on my blood results from each morning so this is super tailored I'm hoping and praying! Xx

 

[bubumaci]

Plex - fingers are crossed, that your tests are just not sensitive enough and that the bloods will tell us something different!!!

Faithful - - I am sorry, that you have had to make your way here!! But as MrsE says - you couldn't have found a better, more supportive place to be!!!

MrsE - it all sounds really wonderful! And it is fantastic that they are being so thorough! Really really valuable and they are also making you feel more confident, I hope?

 

[bugs]

Plex good luck today hope your beta gives you good news.

MrsE, sounds like you've got everything in order. That's what I liked about Serum there was no stone unturned even though my OH's SA had never been a cause for concern he was put on a strong course of antibiotics which gave him super sperm and I was on a multitude of meds so it really helps to throw everything at it xxx

Hi to everyone else xx

AFM - back from holiday now although with the nice weather here I'm not really missing out except for going to work. I had our 20 week scan yesterday and we are waiting for little ones b'day to know the sex. Apart from that everything looks great so I am slowly coming to terms with the fact that there will be a baby at the end of this nightmare journey xxxx

 

[Plex]

Hi all - Thank you sooooo much for the lovely thoughts, support and kind words. They have not been missed on me i assure you

Well I had my email through this morning and the result is negative. As id thought really. Bit bummed out but nothing i can do about it eh? Im just thinking forward at the moment which is helping as im not upset or crying. I have my closure on this cycle, its time for me to move on.

We will do another cycle as soon as we are able. Had to laugh earlier as i thought, well at least i now get to say - can i book my WTF appointment lol I feel like i will say it as that too

Hope you lovely ladies are all ok? xx

 

[Sandy83]

Morning Ladies

Hope everyone is well.

Plex,I'm so so sorry the hear about your results but sounds like you have the right attitude for going forward thoughts are with you and DH

Bugs, great news on 20 week scan half way there!

MrsE, How you doing do you know when ET will be? Sorry if you have already mentioned this

Faithful Welcome, definitely a lot of supportive ladies on this thread. Look forward to hearing about your future plans

Bubumaci & Dovkav, How are you getting on?

Captain & AQ, How are yo doing?

Sorry if I've missed anyone xx

 

[bubumaci]

Plex ... so, so sorry! But I do love your attitude - you go and book your WTF appointment

Hi Sandy :wave: How are you and DH doing?
I am OK, thank you. Started my last week in the 2nd trimester yesterday - which is just so unbelievably surreal!
Last week I had my OGTT (oral glucose tolerance test) and on Friday my doctor rang with the results - which were unfortunately slightly elevated. So I have made an appointment at another clinic (that also deals with gestational diabetes) - they said that my numbers really are only slightly up - but that weeks 28-32 there is another hormone change that can affect how sugar is processed. I will be getting a monitor to test my sugar levels with and to begin with, we are going to see whether or not it can be controlled with my diet (although to be honest, I don't eat much with sugars - only thing that I would be able to reduce, are the carbs through pasta) and I am very interested to hear what they have to say / suggest. At the moment, I really am borderline and Baby P.'s growth is spot in (middle percentile), so they are happy with that. Worst case scenario is that we can't control it with my diet and I have to inject insulin for the rest of the pregnancy - but we shall see what they have to say.

Attached, yesterday's weekly bump picture

 

[Sandy83]

great pic, sorry to hear you have that extra bit of worry but sounds like everything is under control and will be fine. Keep us updated.

AFM, we are doing good had an amazing week away lots of rest and relaxation just what we needed xx

 

[dovkav123]

Plex, don't give up! I know you'll get what your heart desire.
MrsE75, for Viagra! That's is new in fertility world. I hope that's all you need for BFP.

Thanks Sandy, I am doing great.
I am very happy! I finally made a decision.
I am a team yellow and I decided 100% just few days ago.
I saw newborn outfits, they are so cute for boys and girls. I could take home 5 of them. I am not buying any baby stuff yet.
I will look even more forward for a grand finale in December. It will be a suprise for us and the whole world!
20 weeks scan wil be in a couple of weeks. Hope and pray everything is oK. My heart tells me so...We havn't seen our peanut since week 8. It won't be a peanut anymore!
I have gained 4 kg in 4 month. I feel fat, I feel pregnant, I wake up at night when I turn to the other side.
Also I feel flutters and waves I have a hard time to tell which one is the baby which one is my bowel.

 

[bubumaci]

That is exciting, that you are staying team !!
I would have, but DH wanted to know. And it is somehow nice knowing, I must say

Looking forward to your 20wk scan! And nope, definitely won't be a peanut any more It is an exciting time, when you will begin feeling the movements more and more

AFM:
Went to the diabetes consultant this afternoon and she said that my numbers were really really borderline. I have been given a little machine to test my blood sugar levels with (mornings on an empty stomach and then 1-2 hours after each meal) and I have to keep a journal and monitor for one week. Next appointment Monday next week to look at the results. If I see anything too high, then I need to call beforehand. We tested my blood sugar when I was there (which was 1,5 hours after lunch) and the numbers were perfect. She also said that as far as my diet was concerned, I was OK, so there was nothing she could recommend there. From the 28th week, there is another surge in hormones, so it will be important to keep monitoring, as to whether or not I will have to balance it out with insulin shots ... but for the time being I feel confident that we will be OK and just monitoring for now.

 

[MrsE75]

Hi ladies

Looks like all those that are pregnant are doing ok although diabetes is a pain I'm sure.

Afm - well another TV celeb came into the clinic yesterday I'm guessing for baby number 2 cos they had a little boy with them.
Well Monday I ended up having to have Intralipids for my immune/killer cells which was a bit scary but not as bad as I thought it would be.

I'm nearly cooked I have 3 large follies nearly 21,19 and nearly 16 plus a few smaller ones. So I'm going for a 2nd blood test and 2 nd scan today and think trigger will be tonight. Pray to god I've got some good eggs in there - say your prayers cos I'm going to need them. I was hoping to have more follies but guess as I dont produce many eggs it's not a surprise! So think collection will be Friday. They have already said we are doing ICSI plus I will have day 2 or 3 transfer because they feel embryos are better back with me than in a more clinical environment. They have better success with day2/3 than blasts in most cases.

Keep you posted I'm now getting very nervous and scared!

 

[dovkav123]

Hoping and praying for the best outcome this time. You so deserve it!

 

[bubumaci]

Oh MrsE - I am so excited for you. They really sound like they are on top of it. And it is not important to have many follies - it is important to have a couple of good, mature eggs. Perhaps that is what they have been going for with their dosage and it all sounds very promising!
All fingers and toes crossed that your trigger goes well and of course everything else. Sending you lots and lots and lots of

 

[MrsE75]

Hi ladies. Just to update you I had my collection this morning and we got 4 eggs so in happy with that. Now got to wait for my dreaded call tomorrow! Fingers crossed xx

 

[bubumaci]

that is great!! Can't wait to hear the fertilisation results tomorrow! Everything is crossed for you, Sweetie!
How are you feeling?

 

[MrsE75]

Hi Bub I'm feeling ok usual bloated and sore after collection but should be fine tomorrow.

Just got to keep everything crossed now for a good fertilisation report tomorrow.

Let you know how I'm getting on.
X

 

[Peachy1584]

MrsE so excited for you and praying everything continues to go well!!

Bubu love your bump pics. What a great way to remember things as time goes so fast and memories fade.

Plex I hope you are feeling better. I know how hard it is but time seemed to bring back my hope every time

 

[Sandy83]

MrsE, got my fx'd for you. Keep us updated xx

 

[dovkav123]

Peachy, cute u/s photo. Congrats! Praying and hoping for a sticky one!
Thinking about you too, MrsE75

 

[africaqueen]

Hi ladies

Bugs- Fab news on 20wk scan and i think you have some wilpower to stay team lemon! i would love to do that but know for sure il just have to know when the time comes! ha x

Plex- I am sorry this cycle didn't work. Maybe if you cycle Sep/Oct we will be cycle buddies x

Sandy- I am doing much better thank you. How are you and hubby?? x

Bubu- Love the bump pic! what a lovey idea to chart it like that very glad all is ok with your blood sugar levels too. One less worry so you can enjoy your pregnancy x

Dov- Loving all your pregnancy symptoms! well done for staying team yellow. Some strong wilpower there! i would find out the sex an turn into a shopaholic after the 20wk scan! haha x

MrsE- How was your fert report?? thinking of you loads an hope an pray it was what you hoped. Please update asap x

Faithful- Welcome to our lil community. I am sorry you have endured 8 cycles. Cannot imagine. You are obviously very strong. I hope your journey comes to a happy ending soon x

Hi to unlucky, and all the gang. Sorry if i have forgot some of you on personals. Bit tired this week as worked all weekend on early shift and im lying in bed as i type! lol x

AFM- Well ladies, its 9 days until our consultation to get the ball rolling again! cannot believe i can now say that we start our 4th cycle next mth! feels like such a long time since i started this thread and have been patiently waiting to join you all in IVF chat just hope an pray this cycle works. Getting very excited and hoping that my huge weight loss since the last cycle makes the diff (iv lost 4 stone since last cycle) i have also become a lot more active with using my exercise bike daily, walking lots and doing weights an press ups etc. My diet has always involved lots of fresh fruit, veg, lean meat etc so im fine on that score. Started taking my supplements again last mth. I take folic acid, vitamin b6, b12, zinc, selenium, high dose vitamin E and L arginine. I took DHEA last cycle and had the poorest quality eggs yet, so dropped that, although i do think being on max dose of stimms 'fried' my already struggling eggies, hence the reason i will be going for a much lower dose this time around. Defo quality over quantity! xxx