That OTHER 2 Week Wait!

[Morticia]

Hi girls

Thank you so much for being so wonderful and welcoming me into your thread so nicely - I really appreciate it.
New/Love - really hope you're feeling more positive. It is such a rollercoaster journey...that whole 'down' feeling when AF comes, followed by 'just getting on with things', followed by excitement at starting a new cycle, then concentrating on O day and BD-ing as often as poss...then the TWW...then the cycle begins again. Is it just me or have months become unbearably long since TTC?! I swear they last about 360 days!
Anyway, hugs to you both - - I'm sure April will be YOUR month.

Too many individual lovely posts to thank, but thank you all again.
I'm on CD 18 and had my first sign of EWCM yesterday, so hoping I will O on CD20. Have managed to BD DH every other day last week, then Sat/Sun...don't know if he will be energised enough to do it tonight, tomorrow and weds/thurs as well - but going to try! you girls made me laugh so much re. the 'saucy wet t-shirt contest' and the massage...brilliant ideas that I will be stealing, thank you!! xx

 

[Amberyll23]

Love--oh hun, so sorry you had such a horrible weekend with AF and feeling down. The first few days of AF are so hard! And don't listen to people who tell you those horrible things about settling for what you have and being happy with that--I hate it when people say those things!! You are entitled to your happiness and to pursue what makes you happy, and they should support you in those endeavors!! And that includes trying for another beautiful forever baby! Just think--you are doing all the right things now to get your body ready for your future little one, and now that you are post-surgery and recovering, your body is even more ready for a little baby!!

New--so sorry to see you feeling down also hun. I just know that your forever baby is coming also!

Grey--I hope I didn't offend you by mentioning porn! I know that it is not acceptable in many religions or with many women in general. I just wanted to give you an idea of everything my DH and I did in TTC to see if any of it helped!! I hope you caught that egg this month!!

I have to admit, I did not allow porn in our household for like the first 8 or so years of our marriage (jealousy thing with me)--I am not sure what or when I decided it was ok or that I was comfortable having it around, actually, but it doesn't bother me at all these days. Now, DH going to a strip club is another matter entirely---no way he is going there if he values his life! haha

I like the shower idea--we have done something similar in the past, I think guys have a thing for ladies in the water with wet clothes!!

 

[GreyGirl]

Feeling a smidge better, Grey..thanks for asking..the first several days are so darn hard. I want to give up sometimes but something in me keeps dragging me back to the drawing board. I do agree that everyone here is great for support. I am very weepy still.
Went walking already this morning, put in my 3miles..maybe I should go again later this afternoon??? Idk
I feel lonely, weepy, irrational..the usual feelings I get when the stupid arrives.

It's horrible isn't it? Every month I say I'll be more positive, but you can't help how you feel when the horrible arrives Walking helps clear your head, hopefully it's helping you feel better I love escaping with my dog and exploring, takes my mind off everything and it's healthy. My hubbie keeps saying it's not 'proper' exercise, but gotta be better than sitting on the couch!

Hi girls

Thank you so much for being so wonderful and welcoming me into your thread so nicely - I really appreciate it.
New/Love - really hope you're feeling more positive. It is such a rollercoaster journey...that whole 'down' feeling when AF comes, followed by 'just getting on with things', followed by excitement at starting a new cycle, then concentrating on O day and BD-ing as often as poss...then the TWW...then the cycle begins again. Is it just me or have months become unbearably long since TTC?! I swear they last about 360 days!
Anyway, hugs to you both - - I'm sure April will be YOUR month.

Too many individual lovely posts to thank, but thank you all again.
I'm on CD 18 and had my first sign of EWCM yesterday, so hoping I will O on CD20. Have managed to BD DH every other day last week, then Sat/Sun...don't know if he will be energised enough to do it tonight, tomorrow and weds/thurs as well - but going to try! you girls made me laugh so much re. the 'saucy wet t-shirt contest' and the massage...brilliant ideas that I will be stealing, thank you!! xx

Glad had some EWCM, it's such a welcome visitor! I hope this is your month and you can keep up the good work with the hubbie

Grey--I hope I didn't offend you by mentioning porn! I know that it is not acceptable in many religions or with many women in general. I just wanted to give you an idea of everything my DH and I did in TTC to see if any of it helped!! I hope you caught that egg this month!!

I have to admit, I did not allow porn in our household for like the first 8 or so years of our marriage (jealousy thing with me)--I am not sure what or when I decided it was ok or that I was comfortable having it around, actually, but it doesn't bother me at all these days. Now, DH going to a strip club is another matter entirely---no way he is going there if he values his life! haha

I like the shower idea--we have done something similar in the past, I think guys have a thing for ladies in the water with wet clothes!!

Nah, didn't offend me in the slightest! I appreciate the help, I can understand how it could help people I don't think the egg has visited yet I think bar the religious side of things, I would be jealous of hubbie being turned on by someone else. Glad it doesn't bother you now, obviously a more centered person than me! Good luck with the shower jumping!

Well, day 25...this cycle is actually the mirror cycle from this time last year when I got pregnant. It started Feb 25th the same, on that one I ovulated on CD26...so if I did again (which would be tomorrow) it would be freaky! Especially if I did get pregnant because it would give me the same DD as my angel baby...maybe it's meant to be?

How are you all this evening?

 

[LiSa2010]

morticia, hope the catch the egg!!! good luck!

grey, keeping everything crossed for you! so what do you think? are you Oing today?

afm: CD6 and waiting to O. according to my phone app and ticker, I should be Oing on CD15... 9 days away... I received my OPKs this morning and I am so excited to use them.... I am going to start using them on CD10 and will test 3Xs a day or 2Xs haven't really decided yet... what do you ladies think?

 

[Amberyll23]

Hey Lisa! Glad to see you using opks! I think they were so key in helping me get my bfp! I was testing 1x a day up to right around the day I thought I would O, then I was testing 2x a day, and was able to catch the surge on both a red dye and a smiley face opk! So I think 2x a day gives you a great shot! Keeping fx'd you catch that egg this month hun!!

Grey--hope you are getting in some good bding and that you O soon!

 

[LiSa2010]

thanks Amber, it's my first time using OPKs!!! Im sooooo excited. I hope I get lucky and catch that surge.... FXd! what times did you test when you were testing 2Xs a day? if I do 3Xs a day I will POAS at 10ish, 2ish, and 6ish. what times do you think I should do if I do it 2Xs a day?

 

[Amberyll23]

10ish and 6ish is about when I did it (It was more like 11 and 7 for me due to my work schedule)--I got my + surge notice on the evening one and hauled DH in for some action!

I'm so excited to see you using OPKs too! Keep me posted!!!

 

[loveanurse1]

Lisa, I did testing two times a day once in am, and once at 8ish, and for 3 of my pregnancie i used opk's and I think it's what helped me get my 's as every month my o date was a little different.
good luck to you and moriticia
to everyone else

 

[LiSa2010]

thanks ladies!!! I can't wait to start using them.....

love are you using them now?

 

[loveanurse1]

i didn't last month, but i normally do. mY cycles had become a little irratic due tothe cyst so it helped me pinpoint my o day. once month it was as late as cd23 when i normally o'd around cd17-19 and had i not used the opk's i would have missed the window completely..they can get expensive but i think they are worth it.

 

[NewToAllThis]

Hi Girls,

Shell, Sparkle, Amber, Grey and Morticia - thanks for all your words of encouragement over the weekend, I needed it and it did help a lot.
Love - sorry you have been feeling so down, AF hits us all really hard but then somehow we pick ourselves up and prepare for the next month - your most recent post sounded more positive so I hope you are feeling better and making the most of that Florida sunshine (jealous... much!)

AFM, 10 dpo (only worked it out today), have had a rather relaxed attitude towards TTC, didn't even manage to get much in this month.
Not even tempted to test, fed up of seeing one line!
To be honest, don't think I'll mind not being preg this month as I have seen a job that I want to apply for and don't want to be starting something new already preg. (I got notice of potential redundancy last month, this new job is still for the same company but in another division)

 

[LiSa2010]

Love, you are sounding positive everyday. i know needing the surgery for the cyst came out of nowhere but you are handling yourself very well... I am so happy for you!

this past cycle I O'd on CD17, and I usually O anywhere from CD13-CD15... I was temping but I think it's not for me, it stresses me out too much so that's the reason why I decided to go with the OPKs. tell me about it getting expensive, the HPTs are worse.... I am in the wrong career path... LOL!

I try not to try so many things to conceive but Im always reading things especially on BnB (lol) of how this and/or that worked for me and I get caught up in it... this cycle, Im taking mostly vitamins, drinking Tea and cutting out coffee the rest of this cycle. Im trying preseed, softcups, and OPKs, oh and Im planning on baby dancing every other night starting CD6 until CD20, hopefully I can last that long.... I know hubby can

 

[NewToAllThis]

Lisa,

I get the IC OPK's off Amazon, they are relatively cheap so I can fulfill my POAS addition..

I find twice a day to be best, about 11-12pm and then 5-6pm - helps me to gauge what is happening.

Our cycles are quite similar actually - mine have kind of settled to around 26 to 28 days with O on CD 13/14.

Good luck for this month - luckily your OH sounds like he can keep up with the - mine is not so good at it unfortunately and we're both a bit sick of doing it.
This month, DTD twice before O and on O day and had nothing before that or since!!!

Sex is like a chore now, I'd rather be sitting on here talking to all of you

 

[LiSa2010]

new! "relaxed attitude"... that is what Im going for this cycle! hopefully lol I do plan on baby dancing more than the last couple of months but we'll see how that goes lol I know what you mean about not testing, something about seeing just that one line, is heartbreaking... good luck getting that new position!!!

 

[LiSa2010]

Lisa,

I get the IC OPK's off Amazon, they are relatively cheap so I can fulfill my POAS addition..

I find twice a day to be best, about 11-12pm and then 5-6pm - helps me to gauge what is happening.

Our cycles are quite similar actually - mine have kind of settled to around 26 to 28 days with O on CD 13/14.

Good luck for this month - luckily your OH sounds like he can keep up with the - mine is not so good at it unfortunately and we're both a bit sick of doing it.
This month, DTD twice before O and on O day and had nothing before that or since!!!

Sex is like a chore now, I'd rather be sitting on here talking to all of you

don't mean to laugh New but your post really made me laugh!

if this cycle is a bfn, Im definitely getting the ICs from Amazon. okay so Im definitely going to POAS 2X a day... you ladies are great... our cycles are quite similar indeed, depending on when I O, my cycles are 26-28 days long... my hubby can definitely keep up with that schedule but I don't know about me... Im usually the one with the less energy for your BD action this cycle sounds similar to mine last cycle but we DTD on the wrong days not knowing that I O until CD17. we DTD based on my O day being CD13

good luck to you New!!

 

[loveanurse1]

Lisa..i too get caught up in some of the things I read, what has worked for this one or that one. I will tell you that I went to amazon.com and seen the wondfo (sp) brand of opks. They are individually wrapped I hear, and you get like 40-50 plus like 10 ic hpt all for less then 10$$$..The ones I buy from Kmart or cvs that have 20 sticks in them are like 20$$$ so this month i will be ordering from amazon.com
I don't know if i will try soy again this month or not..I am scared to. I don't want to lose the one ovary I have left. my dh doesn't think that it was the cause of my cyst as the cyst was so large and solid and i only used the soy two months. He actually wants me to try it again this month..I just don't know yet I have until tomorrow to decide, as I would take it cd5-9 if i take it. I actually was thinking of using preseed too but not sure. I want to be relaxed also. Heck, I 'm still undecided if i want to fully try this month or not.
New..wow 10dpo already. ..you have short cycles. great job on not testing yet. I hear ya about the emotional train wreck af leaves in her wake. I am feeling somewhat better, thank you for asking. IF i could go back to work to keep my head occuppied I would be doing even better. It's when i am bored that I get down. Thank goodness I walk everyday.
Grey,..hope you caught your eggy.
afm..still undecided..just don't know what to do..I did apply for a new job within my facility. I will be working dayshift. they told me i would find out if i got the position either tonight or tomorrow. I hope it's a positive change for me. I have worked nightshift for 11yrs.. the new hours would be 10am to 630pm....
to everyone else...

 

[LiSa2010]

sometimes reading is BAD for us!!! and don't get me started on Google...

I've seen those ICs form Amazon and those are the ones I will get if this is a bfn cycle. I should have picked those up instead of the ones I got from Walmart....

do you have a follow up appt with your doc re: your surgery? if I were in your situation I would get the OK first from the doc that you are completely healed from surgery before starting Soy again. that's just my opinion, you do what you feel is right for you...

let me tell you my story about Soy... so I decided that this cycle I want to try Soy, I picked the ones I want to buy and order them from Walmart. It was supposed to come in time for me to start taking it CD2 (Friday), but it never arrived so I called FedEx to find out where my shipment was and they said it was last scanned in Indanapolis. It's Tuesday and I still haven't received it and Walmart hasn't gotten back to me about my order and FedEx doesn't know where my package is.... what is upsetting me more is that I paid extra just to have it arrive in 1 to 2 days so I can have it to start taking it. I was being anal about starting it this cycle that last Friday I decided to go to the Vitamin Shoppe to buy their brand but it was going to cost me $20 or something like that... the one from Walmart costed me $6 so there was no way I was going to buy that.... there is an Organic store by my work and I am 100% sure that they would have the ones I bought from Walmart but the store has been closed for renovations the past 1-2 weeks.... it's like I wasn't meant to take Soy this cycle....but if it's a bfn this cycle I am definitely considering taking it next cycle.....

sorry for my long Soy story lol

oh that would be awesome if you could start working day shift, I think we could all use a change in our lives once in a while. it's like a fresh start at life... you know... i always think change is a positive thing... good luck and let us know if you got the job!

 

[Amberyll23]

New--so glad to hear you are feeling better hun, and I'm excited for you applying for your new job! Keeping my fx'd that you get it, keep us posted!!!
I hear you on the BD stress, it was getting pretty bad for us as well, and I pushed my poor DH to exhaustion! But now the shoe is on the other foot, I was placed on "pelvic rest" due to a bleed I had last week and now he isn't getting ANY! buah! I told him he should have been enjoying it while he was getting it!

10 dpo, I know you are looking towards your job, but I hope you get your bfp too!

Love--you are sounding so good today! I hope you get your shift change! Those sound like much better hours! I did night shift one summer back in college packing lightbulbs, and it sucked!! (but it paid for my books!). Have you talked to your MD about taking soy? Maybe take a month or so off until you do, so you can make a decision you are more comfortable with.

I'm so excited for you being able to TTC again!!

Lisa--I really hope the OPKs work for you this month!! In the end, I think that is what helped me the most!

 

[GreyGirl]

Thanks everyone, don't have time to reply to all in detail now, sorry, hopefully will soon.
I don't think I've ovulated yet Had some over the weekend both days and was hoping to tonight, but hubbie got back from work shattered and smacked his head off the car and feels unwell I really don't know what's going on with my cycle this month, had a decent run of EWCM so hoping it's soon!

 

[loveanurse1]

well, i probably won't take the soy because i'm too scared. I will be seeing my ob/gyn next weds and i'm going to ask her if she thinks that my ovulating so late in my cycle is the cause of us not getting pregnant so easily.
everyday, i feel a little better. I'm sorry if it made anyone uncomfortable, my depressd attitude that is. Not working and having a lot of free time gets to me. There is only so much school work and house work I can do.
Thank goodness for my walks. My three miles a day have been really helping me mentally. It gets me out of the house and I get to see someone other then the walls of my home and my dh
I'll probably just do opk's and nothing special, if I do ttc this month. I don't know.
Lisa....sounds like you were definitly not meant to have soy this cycle..lol..hopefully you won't need it next cycle because you'll already be preggers.
New..I am basking in all this glorious sunshine while i am off..i plan to go to the beach this weekend and i think i will lay out all day friday, as it's my birthday..I can't believe I will be turning 33..I tell everyone i'm turning 29 for the 5th time..
Amber,,i bet you were scared with the bleed..glad to hear things are better..your dh should got some while he could...lol. That's what i tell my dh who has been harassing me for some since my af started. I said "so sorry hun, af is here and it's a no go"..lol
Grey ..sorry to hear you haven' t o'd yet..maybe you have and just didn't catch it ..fx'd for you ...what cd are you on?

just got back from my walk and feel great...it so uplifting. soon i hope to be running again. I weighed myself on sun and i was 180lbs..i had gained weight back that i had originally lost prior to surgery. so i stepped on the scale today and i have lost 3lbs already.....but i made my dh hide the scale just like I had him hide the hpt's....weigh in days are sunday...
to everyone else..hope you all are doing well.