WILSMUM - Yeah, it was my first pregnancy and first miscarriage. We were TTC for about 14 months before I conceived with help of Clomid + Acupuncture. I was tracking my ovulation with OPKs and BBT; I did not ovulate throughout the time I was tracking it. So with the current BFP, I only went for 1 acupuncture session to get things going. It was like 11 weeks without AF and GP said to give my body another 3 months! I got impatient so I went with the needles. I ovulated on that afternoon because I felt really damped so I tested with OPK.
Tests came back positive for bacteria infection to the placenta which caused my body to go into labour. The doc said bacteria must've attacked my cervix and made its way up to placenta. So next pregnancy, I will have to start on antibiotics, progesterone and cercival cerclage after 12 weeks' scan.
dancareoi - After a week here in OZ, I am getting bored. The main purpose of me being here is to help her with her newborn when she appears. I was to help with clearing out the house and preparing the nursery too. She had a 2 year old toddler and a not so helpful husband. BUT with me pregnant now, I can't really lift up/down boxes, etc. I do try to be gentle with my movements knowing in my head that my cervix isn't as strong as others. It's all in my mind, I know... so I think my friend isn't really very happy with the this situation. Nothing we both can do because she paid for my flights before I found out that I was pregnant. I told her that I would still come over and help her out as much as I can. I guess at 38 weeks, she can't do much and me being "fragile"... I don't know. I feel bad but I can't do anything about it. Her husband is a terrific dad solely in charge of the 2 year old but hopeless when it comes to house chores.
A little rant from me - my friend just let out some steam to me earlier. She said I shouldn't really be THIS sensitive about this pregnancy because it is at such early stage. Perhaps she just wants me to not get my hopes too high if anything bad happens. Also, I had 1 sided sharp pain in the last 2 days and I voiced out my concerns to her about Ectopic pregnancy. She said she thinks it was normal and I shouldn't always think of the negative side of things. Thankfully, the pain is gone today PLUS no bleeding at all. My point is that ... maybe because she is having her #2 and both being normal, I shouldn't jump into panic mode at every twinge.
*sigh* honestly ladies, in real life, I feel so alone at times especially when a friend disappoints me by making me feel like she doesn't understand what am I going through. I already fell out with my bestfriend of 17 years because at the 2nd month of my son's death anniversary, she basically told me to shut up, seek professional help and move on. Somehow, I feel these mothers who have not suffered a loss do not understand the hole we have in us. On the other hand, I get more sympathy from girlfriends who don't have children! But with mothers, all of them have the same thinking. Because my son was only 16 weeks + 5 days gestational, he wasn't a baby thus I shouldn't mourn because there isn't anything to mourn for.
Maybe its my hormones playing up...
