The New Positively Positive Thread of Positivity *13* BFPs!!!

[GingerPanda]

I am going to have to find a new doctor when I get pregnant anyway. I hate the hospital here, and home birth is illegal in my state.

There's a super nice birthing center about 1.5 hours north of me in Ohio that I've really been looking at. I just worry about that drive. Knowing my luck, I'd get stuck in traffic.

I don't even really want a home birth, I want a water birth. But it's apparently an unusual request around here.

 

[Lionchild]

GP, I'm sure you can find somewhere where you can have a water birth. There's got to be people in your area that have them. I can't believe that home births are illegal in KY! That's crazy! I hope you get back on the TTC wagon soon!

Frustrated-sorry about BFN. I hope you O'd later than you thought you did.


Gals, I am having baby-fever today! I want one, gotta have one, need baby fat to squeeze. I can't handle it today—babies on the brain. I hope it passes soon, or this is going to be a LONG cycle.

 

[GingerPanda]

Closest place is the one in Ohio! The only one I could find in KY is 2 hours away.

Yeah, KY passed a law that said you had to have a certain kind of license in order to assist with a homebirth, but they stopped issuing those licenses in the 70's. So they effectively made it illegal for midwives to assist you. Some of them still do it, but I'd really rather be at a center in case something happens than at home. The one in Ohio is a natural birthing center that is actually attached to a hospital. I think I'd feel pretty dang safe about that!


I SOOOOO know how you feel about baby fever! DH and I went to a Chinese buffet for dinner last night, and it shares a parking lot with Babies R Us. It was all I could do not to ask him if we could go in and look around.


So, y'all know I went back to work part time. Well, the department specialist got offered a new job she's been interviewing for, and they want me to be their specialist and come on full-time. I worked for them from Jan 2010 through April 2012, then got promoted to specialist at another store and worked there until I quit in October. I don't know what I'm going to do. I quit so I could focus more on keeping my house clean and TTC. *sigh*

 

[opera_lady24]

Hi Gals!!!

So sorry I've been MIA again. I think this might turn into a trend and I apologize. GP, I know how you feel about finding the right way to have a natural birth. Boise has one good hospital for child birthing and no good midwives (a few babies have died recently in the hands of the local midwives). Personally, if I could find a great midwife who is licensed and has a great reputation, I would SO opt for that over a hospital. Hospitals want to stick tubes in your arms and do all this nonsense that I really believe is necessary. And when I told my mom that I'd rather have a natural birth in a birthing center with a midwife she got so angry I thought her head would explode lol! I did talk to my doctor about it though and her response was very negative towards the local midwives. That sort of response is one I'd trust because she's been in this area for quite some time and would probably know. Doctors talk.

So updates: I should test but I don't want to. I haven't had any symptoms really at all other than I've been in a "mood"...you know...of the frisky type. It's a little odd really. Lol!

I'm honestly not even sure if I O'd and the chances of conceiving off of the BD timing is somewhat slim. If I did O than it wasn't a very strong one if I compare it to the last cycle. I do think it would be hilarious if I randomly got pregnant on my own after finally going to see a FS!

Hope everyone is doing well!

 

[opera_lady24]

PUPPYMOM!!!! Seriously! I think you have something to tell us!!!!!!!!!!

 

[GingerPanda]

Have y'all ever watched "One Born Every Minute"? If you're not in the UK, it's on YouTube. I want to go to a place like their freebirthing room. No IVs, no meds... I would also like to try a water birth, as I always feel soooo relaxed in the tub. I spend at least an hour a day soaking and reading in the tub, lol.

In fact, my tub is the perfect size for a water birth, but it would be illegal for a midwife to help me!

I think it's because KY has one of the highest cesarean rates. Docs really like to push them and make lots of money from it.

I don't even want to ask my doctor about it because OF COURSE he'll tell me the best place is at the hospital. That's where he gets paid!

 

[Lionchild]

Opera and Ginger, I hope you are able to have your birth experience in the way you imagined it (once the time comes). Water births are very cool, GP. Opera, I had a midwife with the mc, and I had planned to use her at the hospital. MWs here in NM can deliver at hospitals just like OB-GYN's. Are MWs only allowed in birthing centers in ID?

My plan is to try to deliver naturally in a hospital with the DO whom I fell in love with last month. I also plan to hire a Doula who specializes in hypnobirthing. I think it will help me make it through without meds. It's funny, I used to be terrified of the idea of giving birth, but after so much time spent TTC, I just want to have the privilege of getting the experience. It's amazing that your body knows exactly what to do, even when you've never given birth before. Instincts are cool.

All it takes is one time, Opera! I hope you get a wonderful surprise this cycle!

Puppymom, what's the news?!

 

[Frustrated42]

I'm with you ladies, I've thought long and hard as to where I would like to give birth. There is really no big center around me and would have to drive about 3 hours but that's the case no matter what because they don't like to deliver in babies in my town at all. I have found a nice birthing center that I would like to deliver at and it is connected to a hospital. That way I could have a completely natural birth or at least that's my hope.
Cd 34 today and no signs of af. DH wants me to test again tomorrow which I think I'm going to do. Hoping for a BFP but expecting a bfn.

 

[GingerPanda]

Frustrated, I hope you get a big surprise!

 

[JenzyKY]

GingerPanda, I'd wondered why there was never any train wreck babies that came into the NICU from home births. I guess that is why! Personally, I'd never in a million years deliver at home on purpose. I've seen too much. "Normal" births can go horribly wrong.....

 

[GingerPanda]

I wouldn't give birth at home either, if I could help it. But the lack of birthing center here is really depressing.

 

[JenzyKY]

I could do birthing center but they wouldn't take me now with all my bleeding. The ones I have heard of have pretty strict rules that it has to be a complication free pregnancy.

 

[opera_lady24]

Well AF got me. It looks like my body is reverting back to the every other month cycle it was on before I went on bcp's. I'm super bummed b/c it would have been a golden opportunity to start clomid but alas, other bills had to come first this month.

Hope everyone else is well.

 

[GingerPanda]

Sorry about AF, Opera. And sorry about not getting to start Clomid too. I am also in that boat.

 

[Bumblebee2408]

Hey ladies sorry been a long gap!! Had to have a long gap off all things baby for a while after latest problems however. I am back hello girls I've missed you all xxx

 

[GingerPanda]

Welcome back!

 

[Lionchild]

Welcome back, Bumblebee!! How are you doing?

 

[Brie1117]

Hope everyone is surviving all the craziness! Miss you gals, and can't wait ti read some good news!!

Sorry about AF, Opera, but the good news is that it means things are working, right? Hopefully, lol BOL

Ginger, how RUDE of your state to ban homebirths! Ugh, crotchety old WASP males irritate me sometimes.....

Bumblebee - well hello! I'm currently in the same boat you're just leaving, lol - thanks for keeping the seat warm

BREAK AN EGG, LADIES!!!

 

[GingerPanda]

Good to hear from you, Brie!

I am dumping my doctor. I'm just tired of feeling like he's keeping me in the dark and at arm's length. He won't answer my questions directly, and is very condescending.

After doing a ton of research, I found a hospital about 30mins away that allows whirlpool labor pain management.

I also found a doctor's office 23mins away that delivers there! They have a bunch of female doctors, and also have midwives on staff! Yaaaay!

Haven't called them yet, but it's on my to-do list. Just mad that my doctor told me he would prescribe me Clomid when I was ready, but wrote something completely different in my file! And now the office won't return my calls!

 

[Lionchild]

Ladies, here is some positivity: I got a positive OPK today (cd16), our timing has been perfect, we plan to continue BDing for the next 3 days, and I'm trying progesterone to help with my luteal phase for the first time this month. I feel like this is going to be the cycle for us. I am getting my this month, d%mmit! I hope we all are!

You all are amazing, and I hope you're all hanging in there!