The One Year Strong Ladies!

[DaretoDream]

Well on here hun you mention a LOT of fights. And before you were pg he was giving you a hard time about getting a life and so forth. So we're not pulling it out of thin air. Just sit down and have a nice chat with him about how he makes you feel.

 

[Spunky]

Erica - I hate to say it, but I've thought you guys have a lot of big fights pretty often also. There are some big issues that don't seem to go away. There seem to be a lot of big issues...

My husband has gotten more excited now that he can see and feel proof of James and while he was supportive before, proof has made him more excited. Your husband might be the same way...maybe not though...

 

[CottlestonPie]

Yeah my OH took ages to show his excitement. All the shopping and stuff he left down to me... Not because he didn't care but he found it hard to get enthusiastic about someone who wasn't there yet. It wasn't until about 36 weeks (when the end was in sight, he could see movements and feel hiccups and stuff) that he went nuts buying cute clothes off eBay.

I can't comment on the sex thing because we were in a similar position but kinda agreed on it. I had spotting and we ended up on a self-imposed sex ban. He was still getting trouser kisses and every once in a while he'd use his hands on me but nothing more until 16 weeks when something just felt right so we BD.

As for religion, neither of are at all religious so I dunno. Only thing I will say is that it seems to be an ongoing issue with you and hubby (and his family)... And judging from the number of times you've argued over it, it sounds like the situation is unlikely to change. I hope I'm wrong and they back off before LO gets here


Afm... Keiths back at work today. Can't believe it's been a week already.... I cried when saying goodbye to him this morning. I need to win a large sum of money so he doesn't have to work anymore and he can stay with his family.
Anyway, Toby just fell asleep after his morning feed so I'm going back to bed x

 

[Spunky]

Afm... Keiths back at work today. Can't believe it's been a week already.... I cried when saying goodbye to him this morning. I need to win a large sum of money so he doesn't have to work anymore and he can stay with his family.
Anyway, Toby just fell asleep after his morning feed so I'm going back to bed x

I'm sure I'll cry too. My DH and I always discuss that we should win the lottery Good Luck at home by yourself! (I'm not worried, but I know it will be a different experience )

 

[HappiestMom]

You ladies have to remember that we have only just been married a year...not 7 years..not 3 years..a lot of couples have a hard first year or so....especially since he has been a bachelor forever and is an only child..whereas I had been living with 3 other people in an apartment and am the oldest of 7 in a family that does everything together...everything changes once you get married...and tons of people have rocky times especially at the start...we do have big fights sometimes..but who doesnt...we are two very stubborn people and we both know that..and mostly our fights are over the same things... but we never go to bed angry...it never lasts more than a few hours..its never ever physical...and we dont hold a grudge...I know we have certain issues we will have to work out but its not going to just be an overnight thing...and I know that..…I would much rather have fights and get it out there than be one of the couples that never fights or has any problems but holds it all in and resents each other for it...I dont expect to have a perfect happy never fight or have a problem with each other 50s style TV marriage...its expected..the honeymoon is over and we just have to move into the next phase of the relationship..and its gonna take time but I know we'll work it out eventually or at least settle in the middle somewhere..

 

[DaretoDream]

mrs j- hun, i think you misunderstand what i'm saying, but that's fine. No one is picking on you- they are CONCERNED for you. In my first year it was a bit tough but i never would've brought a baby in until we were stable together- We are now married 3 &1/2 years, and its so completely different. we hardly fight at all, and have become a great team. I just want you to be able to have that team. A baby will be hard work, and you deserve support. It's not going to make things easier, and puts lots of strain on things at times. That's all i'm saying. Just hope he can give you the support you need.

 

[CottlestonPie]

I guess everyone has their differences... And it's kinda hard to judge a relationship based on what is said on here. I used to rant like hell about OH on another forum for petty little things but never mentioned the times when he was absolutely wonderful, so everyone thought we were on the rocks when really I couldn't have been happier.

Yeah we are concerned but we can't see the whole story so maybe we shouldn't be so quick to jump on it.

I dunno.

Either way I hope everyones doing ok just now. Afm, I'm off to the hospital for Tobys hearing test in a while. Dont think there will be any problems since he jumps out of his skin if a loud noise disturbs his sleep usually!

 

[NJAngelAPN]

Katherine, I'm so glad you and Toby are settling in! How's it feel to be a mommy?
Chelsea - I just noticed we have about a month and a half left for you. Getting close! And Dare is halfway there!

Where's wannabe been?

DH and I have our appointment with the specialist tomorrow. As my boss says, it's the "important" appointment. Tee hee. We find out all the test results, and make our plan. So thankfully, this time tomorrow, we will have a goal. I'm only CD7 today, so we may get something in this cycle - not sure, depends on what the MD has planned. If it's just IUI, most likely we can start this cycle. If we need meds, it won't be until next cycle.
FX'd to making some progress. Once I have an idea of what we need to do, I'm going to be looking at some of the fertility boards.

 

[CottlestonPie]

Good luck tomorrow! Hopefully all the waiting around and testing will pay off and you cN start working on your plan

Being a mummy is still taking some getting used to! It's like I'm living in oppositeland... We sleep all day because we're awake most of the night.
I feel awful at the mo because I just gave him a dummy/pacifier for the 2nd time. I swore I wouldn't let him use one. But it works!!

 

[NJAngelAPN]

BTW, Kat, you have to change your avatar! Put a picture of that beautiful boy up there!

 

[CottlestonPie]

Oh I will... Eventually!! I mostly use the forum on my phone so I can't get a pic the right size. When I'm back on my laptop I'll definitely change it!

 

[wannabeprego]

Hey girls,

I hope that everyone had a wonderful weekend. I just OV'ed yesterday so me and DH have been getting in a decent amount of the last few days.

I just heard some good news today from my brother and his wife, they just found out after being on a 2 year waiting list that they will be getting a newborn baby sometime in the beginning of May when the mother is due. I am super excited for them!!!! They have a daughter that is about 4 years old now so she will be super excited about getting a little sister I'm sure!!! They had to use a fertility dr to have their daughter and they used the procedure where they implant the fertilized egg into the women, (sorry i cant think of the name of the procedure right now) They tried multiple attempts over the years to try for #2, but didnt have much luck, and my sister in law miscarried at one point as well, so this baby they will be adopting is truly a blessing, and my brother and sister in law are super excited!!! So hopefully everything will go as planned and come may they will have a new edition to their family!!! This will mean that I have a total of 9 nieces and nephews now (i come from a large family and I am the youngest out of 6 kids)!!!! I am going to send them a really nice baby gift once they get the baby...

As for me, work has been busy, and I finish my internet and phone troubleshooting training tomorrow, than wednesday we go onto the phones... So I am trying not to get nervous about it......I know eventually I will be a pro at this job and will be kicking butts and taking names because i will be so good at it....

 

[wannabeprego]

Katherine, I'm so glad you and Toby are settling in! How's it feel to be a mommy?
Chelsea - I just noticed we have about a month and a half left for you. Getting close! And Dare is halfway there!

Where's wannabe been?

DH and I have our appointment with the specialist tomorrow. As my boss says, it's the "important" appointment. Tee hee. We find out all the test results, and make our plan. So thankfully, this time tomorrow, we will have a goal. I'm only CD7 today, so we may get something in this cycle - not sure, depends on what the MD has planned. If it's just IUI, most likely we can start this cycle. If we need meds, it won't be until next cycle.
FX'd to making some progress. Once I have an idea of what we need to do, I'm going to be looking at some of the fertility boards.

@NJ, I havent been on much lately, but i have been lurking around the threads from time to time though, work has been keeping me super busy latly and I have been trying to make the most out of my last couple of weekends before I go to working nights and weekends in the next 2 weeks, so I havent had much time to be on the boards lately....

I hope you and DH get some good results from all of the tests, good luck with everything. Please update us when you find out the results.

 

[Spunky]

Lindsay - awesome news, good luck with the specialist!

Katherine - Oppositeland? As long as you're both getting on the same schedule, oh well. Don't feel bad about the pacifier! I'm against them, but hubby's for, and I'm sure I'll use them too if they work!!

Wannabe - that's awesome about the adoption! I hope everything works out as it should! Sorry work is so stressful, good luck handling the phones!

I saw the specialist again today. James will have to have an ultrasound when he's born (they said within a week). They're thinking about ruling out infections now (blood test that could have been done months ago! ). Still don't think it's genetic, but said they couldn't rule it out. His head is HUGE 95%, Leg 71% abdomen 65%. He's already 5 lbs 7 ounces! At half a pound a week he could be a 9 pound baby! EEEK!!

 

[CottlestonPie]

Oh I hope they do the bloods for you, just to help rule things out. Dis they say what they'll be testing for?
They told me I'd be having an 8.5 - 9pm baby after my 36 week scan. He popped out at a lovely 7lb 1oz... Yay!!

Here in oppositeland, I'm going to bed. Just as the working world are getting up to start their day!
It's kinda nice though. I fed Toby at 6am, DFs alarm went at 6:30 so we all had cuddles... Now it's 7am, Toby is almost settled and I can go to bed soon!

 

[Spunky]

They're going to be testing my blood for different infections - nothing more specific for that. Not offered an amnio at any point (though I don't know that we would have taken it). Just frustrating that they could have taken blood in January when they saw a problem to rule it out, but instead jsut kept doing ultrasounds. That's reassuring about Toby! I'm starting to worry about a HUGE baby now! Maybe he wont pack on half a pound a week. BUT that does mean half my weight gain (11-12lbs) has been baby! And I'd rather have a big baby than a tiny one. Just makes me nervous.

 

[DaretoDream]

lol spunky and i would rather have a little one! at least until it's out! i don't fancy pushing a 10 lb + baby out of my poor little hoo ha.

 

[HappiestMom]

Everyone please keep me and my hubby in your thoughts. Baggins passed away today on the way to the vet for an emergency visit. He was 7 months old. We are burying him under his favorite tree wrapped in his favorite blanket with his favorite fish squeaky toy. We are going to miss him so much and I cant believe he is gone already.

 

[CottlestonPie]

Omg erica I'm so sorry xx

 

[DaretoDream]

omg what happened?!