The One Year Strong Ladies!

[HappiestMom]

still under pre preggie weight..yay!! and shes head down!!..I knew it was her tushie I was poking/rubbing..thats shoved under my ribs..and the Dr. confirmed it today..so just hoping she stays that way...I start my Valtrex at 34 weeks and growth scan at 36 weeks and OMG thats only two appts away and then its 1 appt a week and then she'll be here..OMG!!...still cant believe it!

we have had great weather from this hurricane thing..no storms..just nice breezy and a lot cooler than the last few weeks but its starting to get warmer again..hope it doesnt get too much warmer though..cant believe its September on Thursday! this year has gone by soo fast...

 

[wannabeprego]

Does anyone have any fun plans for Labor Day weekend? I know hubby is off on Monday for the holiday...

Yeah, after the hurricane the weather here has been amazing too!!! Low 80's with a cool breeeze, nice cool nights. I love this weather. Fall is definatly my favorite season!!!

 

[HappiestMom]

Dare..Cottleston and Spunky..lets talk boobs....did you buy special nursing bras? when did you buy them...like did you get them before and just hope they fit or did you wait till your milk came in and settled down and then buy the bras? what nursing pad brands do you use/like the most? did you buy special nursing shirts/tanks/gowns? and especially Spunky and Dare since you are in the US..where did you buy all this stuff from and what was the average price? anything you bought nursing wise that you now wish you hadnt coz it wasnt worth it or you could live without it? spending $45 on a special tank top just makes me cringe...lol.. we have walmart..target...motherhood..babiesrus..all pretty close by and I can always order anything online...

 

[HappiestMom]

Labor Day weekend is also hubbys 41st birthday weekend lol..so idk what we will do...no party this year like I did last year ...I just dont have it in me... and 41 isnt that big of a b-day deal anyway...and I have no money lol..lol..

 

[DaretoDream]

I bought my nursing tops from target. And the bras I have a sleep one- and a regular one. However the store didn't have the size I need- so I am one smaller than I should be. The brand is gilligan & o maey. And I bought them when I was 40 weeks. Then I got nursing pads - medela from target but my supply is insane so I needed something else. I ordered lilypadz from amazon that are reusable and last 2 months. So far- they are great!!!

 

[HappiestMom]

are those the silicone stick on ones?

 

[DaretoDream]

yes they are weird but work

 

[HappiestMom]

one of the ladies on my other thread for my due date had her little one today by emergency c-section..she was just at 32 weeks..soo crazy to see her little girl...3lbs and a few oz...soo cute!! so glad she is ok...soo weird to see that and know that is what Brieanan looks like now...

 

[NJAngelAPN]

The flooding up here is insane. I put up an album on Facebook https://www.facebook.com/media/set/?set=a.724953106338.2170645.33702331&type=1 if any of you are on there. It's all from the town I live in, and a couple from the surrounding area. I still can't get to one of my hospitals, but luckily, my boss can. We're finding out that portions of the road that are covered with water have actually COLLAPSED, so this is going to go on for months. Two houses exploded in our town. Close enough that we could hear it. Sounded like a huge BOOM - woke me up the other morning with one. There are so many sirens, I feel like we live in a city.
And after all that with my parents? They never came by. My mom actually had the audacity to email me late last night and tell me that since I "never saw" my father this last weekend, that I should take off work and take him to the airport. As if my not seeing them was MY fault. She conveniently forgets all the weekends that I'm off, and I call and ask if we can do something, and "NOOOO, we're busy, we have PLANS." Grr. At least I have a clean bathroom, and relatively clean house.
VERY tired today. Still not much appetite. What I'm eating stays down, it's just a matter of finding something to eat. DH wanted to go to dinner tonight, and I just wasn't feeling it. Fell asleep on the couch for a few hours. I'm tired of being tired.
It's either a bump or bloat at this point, but it's not showing any signs of going down. Going to need to get some work clothes in the next couple weeks. Plus, I have to get a dress to wear to a wedding in two weeks. Don't want to order online, because I want to try on, but our local mall is flooded out. Looks like I'm going to have to muster up some energy after work and go to one a couple towns over.
Ultrasound in a week! The hardest part is going to be getting up for the appointment! It's at 8am, which is about what time I get out of bed lately. That doppler has really eased my mind, I swear. Even though I feel like a crazy person.

Erica, funny you mentioned the bras. I was just thinking today I need to get some more sports bras - they are what is most comfortable. I've been wearing my old bras, boobs don't seem to have gotten THAT much bigger. I mean, it's like wearing a bra a size too tight. Depends on the time of day too.

Wannabe - good luck with your 2ww. Just remember that if it doesn't work this cycle, you have the option of IUI. It's not the end of the road.

Chelsea - how's the moving preparations? Everything ok with the new house?

Dare - congrats on your weight loss! That's got to feel so good.

 

[DaretoDream]

wow that is some serious flooding!!!! my gosh!! yeah i waited until the very end to get a bra because by the end, they had grown 2 cup sizes. Seriously. they are HUGE. i'd put off buying anything as long as you can for the after part. Just too much change can happen.

 

[wannabeprego]

@NJ, WOW...That is some crazy flooding!!!! It looks like it is going to be a nightmare to clean up.... Hopefully you will be able to get into work soon and they can get things cleaned up at a reasonable pace so you can at least make it to some of the hospitals you work at!!!

Thanks for the encouraging words.... I think the only thing keeping me sane if AF comes again this month is knowing that I have the IUI as a backup option. If we cant manage to save up before the end of the year I told hubby that I want to use our tax return to pay for it!!! So either way if we aren't doing it in a few more months than we will be able to during tax time for sure!!!

 

[wannabeprego]

Oh girls, I am so upset right now... I got into a huge fight with DH....It started off with something small and than all of these other issues come up and we have been fighting since this afternoon. It's hard for me to summarize up the 10 year realtionship that we have had in paragraphs and explain all of our issues. In general things have been very difficult lately, financially, struggling with TTC and it not working month after month...

 

[HappiestMom]

awww hun..this sounds EXACTLY like me and OH..as you know all the crap and fights we went through..it does hurt so much when they dont understand the TTC thing especially..Im also here with no family...no friends..no where to go when we would fight..I just felt so frustrated and trapped..and so annoyed at him..I had a (and still do I guess) a lot of resentment towards him and the porn thing...I still dont trust him...that is our one huge issue...definitely talk to someone about it..I mean just to get it off your chest..someone that is close to you that you can tell everything too, even the sex stuff or the more personal things because keeping even just these little details all held in definitely help...I was soo ashamed to tell anyone about his porn thing because I felt like it was my fault but once I finally told my mom..of all people..I felt so much better..that I could talk about it and not feel judged...

I know all the financial issues you guys are having and I know all the stuff you and I have talked about regarding you and him and possibly starting over and all that..not at all saying leave him for good but maybe give him an ultimatum..especially when it comes to finances and his other kids (like his decisions about his son visiting and all)..tell him you dont feel respected and you feel taken for granted..just..tell him EVERYTHING..I finally did with OH and it helped so much..a lot of the things I assumed he could tell or he would know..and he really had no idea I was feeling that way...and he definitely has changed..I think we both just held it all in for so long it was just killing us..and he told me a lot of things too that I never would have known he was feeling...but it was stuff we could both work on...

I guess just tell him everything..and get him to tell you everything too..even if it might hurt your feelings..because its better to know and have it out in the open than be secretly holding it against each other and letting the resentment build...and then once its all out..both of you sit back and think it over,..talk it over with each other and decide if they are things you can work on...or things the other can change..and if you can forgive/forget if the other person does change..I mean if he changes and you still are set on resenting him... then you really arent getting anywhere and things might change for a month or two but they will go right back to how it was...you arent old..and starting over isnt impossible...but it also isnt impossible to work things out...I was close to handing over my ring and going home for good quite a few times..but after the biggest fight and resulting hours of discussion we finally figured out what needed to change and decided it was worth it to change...

 

[wannabeprego]

@Mrsjerome, Thank you so much for being so sweet. I really appreciate it alot hun... It really means alot to me. I am going to take your advice and try to talk it out with DH when things calm down a little. Hopefully we can work things out somehow.

 

[HappiestMom]

I hope you guys can..I always hate bringing things up..and I hate it when I just know a fight is inevitable...especially with how emotional I get..and the fights themselves are horrible but its always a really good feeling to get it all out and I always felt better...we have never gone to bed mad...we have gone to bed fighting...but never mad..and have always talked it out before going to sleep..even if it took hours and hours...hubby is actually good at seeing where he was at fault and apologizing and usually is the first to come and want to talk it out..I on the other hand am very stubborn and while I hate to go to bed mad I also hate to give in..but somehow we work it out...I hope you two can do the same..or really just come to a point/conclusion of what is best for you...even if its harder at first..it was hard as hell to walk about from my ex fiance a few years ago..I thought it was the end of the world..but...now I know it was better and I am soo soo much happier and I never look back...make sure you wait to talk when you are both calm..not right after a huge fight..otherwise you guys will say things you may not really mean just to get back at the other...which will just cause more problems..make sure you agree to be honest and tell everything...and let each other express their feelings BEFORE you come back at them and defend yourself..just make sure you both take time to tell the other..and then let the other respond...because if only one of you gets your point across or if you arent given the chance to defend yourself or say your part back it will just cause more resentment and more problems...

 

[wannabeprego]

Thanks for the advice MrsJerome, Me and DH did have another talk before he went to bed. I think it helped a little bit.

 

[DaretoDream]

wanna - hun i'm so so so sorry you are going through that right now. That's awful. Maybe he is so angry and grumpy because he is dealing with it in his own way? Maybe he is just as hurt- maybe he feels like it's his fault. I know my DH gets vicious sometimes (as i can too) when he thinks something is his fault- or not working the way it should be. And its hard to fail over and over and over again. I think the fact that you never gave up means something amazing. You are a strong person- and you will get your baby. It may be tough but you're going to get it. you have to after everything you've been through. I do think counseling is a good idea though. really. and if he's a good guy- he'll respect that and go with you. It always seems like everything gets tougher and tougher every year doesn't it?

 

[wannabeprego]

@Dare, thank you for the kind words annd support...

And yes it does seem like things just keep getting harder. 2011 has been a ruff year for DH and me!! I would say that ever since we have moved to this new state it has been the worst for us financially, We have never faced the issues we are dealing with now as a couple and it has been kicking our ass. I am holding out and hoping that in time things are going to be better. Hopefully 2012 is going to be a year for many blessing for myself and for all of you lovely ladies as well!!!

 

[DaretoDream]

if you are in jersey like nj said- i understand. When we lived up there it was so expensive! Where we are now... it's so much easier to live. Have you guys considered moving? Financial strain is awful on a marriage. we had trouble in the beginning because we was still going to school and working part time and i was full time- but as a vet tech! i was paying most of the mortgage and we were barely scraping by! We fought- a LOT! then when he got his degree and now he's working and i can stay home with ava, it's so much better. I used to still worry about money since it's just him bringing it in now and we have to rely on him (i've never relied on anyone before where money is concerned) but i'm trying so hard not to. But it's hard! money can really really screw things up.

 

[HappiestMom]

Our biggest fight was money too..and there are still "some" issues..but I think hes realized I am happy at home and with Brieanan on the way nothing will change that for now..I want to go to work once shes about 1 or so...we are ok on his income..specially since his truck is officially paid off..but the fact that I have to ask him for money...still annoys me...wish we could just win the lottery lol...

Today I am taking a well deserved pregnancy bedrest day...I have done soo much the last two weeks..my pubic bone feels like its going to crack in half..and then last night the sciatica pain started too down my leg...so I am taking a break..i'll sit in bed and fold clothes..I'll get up later and make dinner..a quick one..but something atleast..and I will of course walk to the bathroom a billion billion times lol..but that is it!!..gonna be me and my bed and the tv...