Guys I don't think anyone needs to comment on individual circumstances here, unless it's someone needing support about how to juggle things...
I agree with this! As a mum with a OH and a child, with the chance of getting a 18/20 hr job, to read some of the comments here about how easy it is to get 4 hours extra feels like I am being treated like crap to be honest and I feel like some or you are looking down your noses at me!
From a personal point of view, this isn't easy as some of you think, When he lost his job last year, a lot of his confidence went with it, he has been knocked back job after job for reasons we don't know about, maybe just too many people going for the job who knows?
anyway, he got so excited to be told he could get a job, finally it felt like a lot problems had been lifted, the hours not ideal, but its a start, or so we thought, so when first saw this and reading some of the replies, it felt we are back to square one, he takes this job and he is still job hunting! yes that may be easy but its not so easy when you have one job and are struggling to find something else to top up, you could be looking for weeks and what do you do in that time? We budget now, so it won't be a problem, but for some, they may not think about that! it can be a shock going from sitting on your bum all day getting money handed to you, to working and having to pay rent etc!!
In the perfect world he would be working 30+ hrs, whilst I stay at home with the children, doing a collage course from home, so eventually we could both work
but its not a perfect world, its not as easy as 1,2,3! I have been reading this thread and whilst I have been up some handy thoughts, I don't like the attitude of some, though it could be my pregnancy hormones reading some of it the wrong way, so I do apologise!
Please, before you judge, put yourself in those shoes, see if you can look for a 4 hr job that will fit in with the hours you have already been offered!!
Sorry No offence meant here by the way, just feel some of this thread is getting a bit personal which needs to stop