The Tucker's Adoption Journey

[missk1989]

We made September panel!!

We meet LO SW and FC next week

 

[dreamofabean]

Ah honey I'm so thrilled for you!!! That's amazing news we are meeting lo's Sw on 23rd. No idea which panel we end up at yet, but I guess we can't complain too much as we're lucky to be where we are! I think it'll be October, we shall see! X

 

[missk1989]

Thats fab. We should heave been meeting FC on the 24th but it has been brought forward.
I am currently compiling a list of questions for FC.

Fingers crossed you get to October panel!

 

[dreamofabean]

Oh how exciting! I had a list as long as my arm for the fc with our son
Hopefully when you meet them they'll have lots of photos for you too! Our son's fc gave us a big pack of photos that day
I guess we'll know more on 23rd when we meet the sw. We have just got back from holiday today and are off to Dublin on Wednesday for 2 nights so we have enough to keep us occupied

 

[missk1989]

Sat waiting foe lo's sw to arrive. They are late and it's making me nervous!

 

[Srbjbex]

Aw bless you hun! Did they make it in the end? How was it?

 

[missk1989]

Yes they were just stuck in traffic. It went really well, we are seeing foster carer tomorrow which is exciting!

 

[missk1989]

Apparently yesterday didn't go as well as I thought. We were asked to go into the offices an hour early this morning to chat because the family finder and lo SW commented that we didn't seem that excited about the match.
Really??? We showed them the room we had decorated for lo and talked about how we had prepared our DS. Why would we do that if we were not committed. Both DH and I feel like they are trying to tell us how to feel. Yes we are excited but we still have a way to go and they are constantly telling us that nothing is certain until it is all done. How are we supposed to behave? The whole process is so contradictory and frustrating!

 

[Srbjbex]

What?! Oh that's crazy, we know how excited you are and we've only spoken on here! Like you say, you are holding back from letting yourself be too excited until things are certain! I'm amazed you have even decorated etc. I think that's showing loads of commitment....we're obviously not at the same point as you, but it hadn't even occurred to me that we would need to get the room ready before the match is confirmed! We have a room earmarked, but just set up as a spare single bedroom at the moment!

I'm really feeling for you hun. Let us know how you get on this morning.

 

[dreamofabean]

Oh for goodness sake! How annoying and not how you want to start the journey! Grrr!
How did meeting with fc go Hun? Xx

 

[missk1989]

Foster carer was lovely, described lo as the perfect baby. Eats anything, always happy etc.
She showed us some pics and a video.

We are now sat wondering how we can convince them we are excited. We probably won't see them much until panel in a months time.

 

[dreamofabean]

They'll see when you get to that first meeting. The love flows, and the tears!! Xxxx

 

[helloeveryone]

You could always get a tattoo with your lo name on,
As it stands I think you have done everything you do to do to show you are excited..

I am a foster carer, and it is lovely to see you guys seeing the children for the first time, but so hard to give my past babies up....
Missing my last little one like mad as he has only been gone a week.
Good luck, xx

 

[missk1989]

We have done a little collage of "why x" with pics of our DS and things we know she likes with why we feel she fits in our family and how we can support her.
WE will email it over with a message regarding what was said at the meeting etc.

Hello, I admire what you do. I know I could never care for a baby and then pass them on, job or not. You are very brave!

 

[helloeveryone]

We have done a little collage of "why x" with pics of our DS and things we know she likes with why we feel she fits in our family and how we can support her.
WE will email it over with a message regarding what was said at the meeting etc.

Hello, I admire what you do. I know I could never care for a baby and then pass them on, job or not. You are very brave!

Thanks,, I do love my job, and I think because I have had 6 children of my own, loved them raised them, that I feel like I had had mine in life, so passing them over is hard but, I would feel selfish to try and keep them...
xxxx

 

[dreamofabean]

Hello everyone,
You do an amazing job, I am totally in awe of foster carers, You're all incredible! I hope to foster once our kiddos are grown X

 

[dreamofabean]

Oh my goodness we were put through the mill today but lo's sw! She had come determined to dislike us after what had happened. She made it clear that she had only come because the family finder had insisted! Lots of questions asked about why her, what happened with dh having a wobble, etc.
However, she said by 5 mins in she loved us and could see we were the right match! She commented on how our son looks like her,., and looking at pics I do see the resemblance now!
So our Match is agreed! Whoop! They'll hold a match meeting and then looking at panel mid October! I'm so relieved. Felt exhausted by it all! I guess at least if she's so bolshy we know where we stand with her!

 

[missk1989]

YEY!!! Glad it turned out okay. At least the social worker was straight with you.
We got panel paperwork today. It seems all concerns are sorted and we are going forward! I am very excited!

 

[dreamofabean]

Yeah I'm glad she wa honest, however brutal it was! Ha ha.
Aww Hun I'm so happy for you! Exciting times ahead!! X

 

[Srbjbex]

Wow you guys have both been through the mill, glad you've come out the other side and all matches seem to be back on track. I'm so glad you guys have found matches so quickly. It gives me a lot of hope because I've only heard negative things about how long we will be waiting (my friend was approved last October and is still waiting )

This week we have our medicals. Prep groups are in September....we're finally on our way it seems!