The Tucker's Adoption Journey

[helloeveryone]

Hello everyone,
You do an amazing job, I am totally in awe of foster carers, You're all incredible! I hope to foster once our kiddos are grown X

Thanks, xx I have only been a foster carer for nearly two years,but I love it...

 

[missk1989]

Wow you guys have both been through the mill, glad you've come out the other side and all matches seem to be back on track. I'm so glad you guys have found matches so quickly. It gives me a lot of hope because I've only heard negative things about how long we will be waiting (my friend was approved last October and is still waiting )

This week we have our medicals. Prep groups are in September....we're finally on our way it seems!

Glad things are moving ahead.

Waiting times do appear to vary dramatically, we were presented with our match just 2 weeks after approval panel. Lets hope you have a short wait too!

 

[Monkey78]

Hi everyone,
I havent been on here for a good few months, as being a mommy has just whisked me off to a new world. We adopted our gorgeous little girl in 2014, she is 2.5yrs now, she was 9 months when she came home to us. Our whole process took 2 yrs from the date we posted our application off, and although it does seem like forever when you are being assessed, once you bring your little one home it seems like it all went so quickly. We are thinking of adopting a sibling in the next year or so too, so just wanted to wish you all good luck with your journeys. It is such a precious and special thing to adopt a child, and we feel privileged to be our daughter's mummy and daddy.

Dreamofabean - good luck with your next journey. How exciting xxxx

 

[Axl2]

Congrats dreamofbean!!

 

[dreamofabean]

Thanks ladies
We've been buying a few pink bits. So exciting! We're awaiting the 'all about me' booklet from her fc so we will know what size clothing she is in etc! Our sw returns on Monday after 3 weeks off, so they will then organise their matching meeting and also our meeting with her fc.
I return to work on Monday after 6 lovely weeks off too... Dreading it! Helps I'm only returning for 7 weeks though hopefully

 

[missk1989]

I wish we got an "all about me book". Sounds so helpful.
We have less than 2 weeks until panel and assuming all goes well, 2 weeks tomorrow will be my last day at work!
Very exciting!

 

[dreamofabean]

Eek! Not long at all Hun! Yay!!!
They are good, just go over clothes size, nappy brand and size,milk, toiletry and washing powder brands and then basics about routine. I want it mostly for clothes size so we can get Organised! I don't think we had it with E until after match panel! Her ff is Organised which I'm loving

 

[missk1989]

She did tell us those when we met but I felt like I was interviewing her with all the questions!
I have had to really restrain myself as FC said lo has at least 20 dresses! They are all she wears as she is a bit chubby!

 

[dreamofabean]

Hee hee! Yeah get her home and figure out what you like etc then go shopping
With our little man we kept him in his clothing from fc for first month or so before starting to switch in new little bits as they were familiar to him. It took a lot of restraint!!
Aww chubby babies are fab! Our boy was and still is super slim! Nothing to him at all bless him!

 

[Axl2]

I wish it was that fast in Canada. We still have a long wait in front of us. But looking at buying some stuff so we can be prepared for that call. Congrats ladies!!

 

[DaTucker]

Ahhh I haven't been on in forever and log on to share my news to see so much progress!! I'm so glad you ladies kept this thread up, I've enjoyed catching up on all of your stories! I'm so excited for everyone!!

So here's what's happened with us. We had our homestudy and was told it went throught very well. Then we had to wait weeks for the fire marshall and health inspector to get in. As soon as that got done (2 weeks later) our caseworker told us there was a hold up in our home study bc the lady who did it left out some stuff. Why they couldn't have told us during the 2 weeks we were waiting on final inspections just confuses me. So another 2 weeks later... hone study finally complete...last visit from caseworker complete... we know they have kids sleeping in offices right now so we were expecting a call as soon as the paperwork goes through. Well, 2 days after the last walkthrough (paperwork not even finalized) our caseworker calls and says she may have a match for us, but not to get to too excited bc it's not set in stone and she would know more by the following week. A few hours later she calls again and says our match was officially pushed through bc it sounds perfect for us! I started crying immediately lol

Anyway, we have been matched with a 2 year old Native American girl for foster with intent to adopt (and they're almost certain she will go up for adoption soon). She's the same age as our birth son and super sassy apparently lol.

I can't express how excited we are! People keep telling us not to get our hopes up bc she is just our foster daughter (or will be!!) But I know this little girl might one day be our legal daughter and I just can't wait! I'm already decorating her room and have to hold back buying clothes, etc bc I know very little about her. It's really hard not to go out and buy cute girl clothes!!

We will meet her tomorrow and she will be moved into our house on Wednesday. I'm so nervous about how she and ds will interact and keep thinking, two 2 year olds?? Am I INSANE??

On top of that, she's Native American so there's a possibility she's been registered to a tribe. My caseworker says they believe she isn't, but if she is, when she goes up for adoption the tribe she's registered with has legal rights to take her and put her with a family within the tribe. It's such a huge risk on top of her not even being legal for adoption yet, but it's one I'm willing to take!

 

[missk1989]

That sounds amazing! Congrats! I know how you feel about trying to avoid buying things. Soooooooooo hard.

 

[dreamofabean]

Wow datucker! How exciting! Amazing news honey xxxx

 

[helloeveryone]

Lovely news,
Hope tomorrow goes well.
Update when you have time xx

 

[DaTucker]

Wow what a day!! I'm exhausted!!

So all day I anxiously cleaned house and tried to keep ds from destroying with each step he took (hello toddler tornado!) They finally pulled into out driveway and we walk out to meet them. Out hops this adorable little girl, with a glare on her face and ignoring all of us lol. We get inside and talk for a bit, dh and I doting on her and ds trying to play with her.

We didn't get much info on her, the cw doesn't even know her birthday!! She's only been in the system for 6 weeks so her life book was completely empty. She came with 4 sets of raggedy clothes and 3 sets of old shoes that were missing decorations, had marker drawings on them, etc. A baby doll and some medicine she had to take bc she has a dental surgery soon. That's it. No toothbrush. No extra pullups (she's potty training). It was so sad.

So we were under the impression this was just a one hour visit and she would be brought back tomorrow to officially move in. Nope. The cw started telling her she would see her in the morning, blah blah. Dh and I looked at each other, completely confused but accepting of the fact that she would suddenly be staying with us from that point on. I think she had been sleeping in the cw's office and there wasn't anywhere for her to go tonight... it's so freaking sad.

We also found out that she is NOT going up for adoption...they plan on reunification with her birth dad. Yes, we're sad bc we were told the complete opposite last week. But we are a foster family so it's something we will have to get used to. They think her case will go quickly so we might only have her a couple months.

She and Noah are getting along very well, and she is so sweet!! She acts like she has lived here her whole life. It's being tiring having them both running around under foot all day, but I've loved every second!

 

[missk1989]

Oh gosh! this sounds so unorganised!

At least you found out now and not a few weeks into the placement. Although still difficult, at least you will be able to think rationally and not get too attached (in a parent-child way).

 

[DaTucker]

I'm already attached lol. She's sooo girly, she likes big hairbows, nail polish, glittery shoes.... It makes my heart hurt thinking of her moving back home and them not caring enough to dress her cute the way she likes. Not saying they won't, maybe all the therapy they're going through will help them become better parents, but I still can't he being a little upset about it. Or thinking of them not playing with her, letting her be the center of their attention like she deserves...

So age wise she is exactly 2 months older than ds. They kind of have a love hate thing going on right now lol. People keep mistaking them for twins even though they look nothing alike, then get surprised when they find out Noah is our birth son instead of Nevaeh being our daughter lol. Dh and I both have brown hair, brown eyes. Ds turned out with bright blue eyes. She looks so much like dh's family, it's insane!

Our caseworker told us our next placement will be more permanent. Fx!

 

[missk1989]

We got a yes!

Panel have unanimously recommended we are matched with lo and we should start intros a week on monday.

So excited!

 

[dreamofabean]

Yay that's such fantastic news!
That time will fly and your girl will soon be home xxx

 

[Axl2]

Yay very exciting for you!!