Things I cannot say out loud....

[BabyBoo36]

To MIL -

I hope you thoroughly enjoyed your hissy fit about Christmas. I hope you're happy you reduced me to tears. I hope you like the fact that me & oh don't get any if our first Christmas with lo to ourselves. This is not YOUR Christmas and if you say that once mire I'm going to snap.

Do not think that hissy fits get you what you want. Oh has lost a lot of respect for you over this & I will not easily forget the hurtful things you have said. I will pick my battles with you carefully but do not think I am a pushover because if this. I am not. & I've just about had it with you.

Sounds very much like my SIL xx

 

[Lettuce]

To Little Pud - thank you for being so good at Water Babies today - mummy was very proud of you. You looked like a little cheshire cat grinning away when the instructor swam you round the pool to show everyone else what to do. Although it didn't escape mummy's attention that you kept trying to eye up Ethan next to us. You're WAY to young for boys yet so don't even go there! xx

Aw, that's lovely! How is she doing? Jenny smiles at the boys too! xx

She's doing really well thanks. I was a bit nervous that she might hate Water Babies - we couldn't bath her regularly until she'd had her op, so we've been bathing her every other day since to get her used to water. She LOVED it - although I think the fact the instructors male, and she's one of only 2 girlies in a group of 8 helped!! He used her for a demonstration and she went round with him like a seasoned pro -all kicking legs and smiles - I nearly melted! Have now found the times for my local pool with baby pool, so hubby can take her, as he's gutted he missed it x

That's great! I'm still waiting to take Jen! My DH is desperate to take her. But its half term so we'll wait til next week. It's so good for them. It's good she's feeling well. Xx

 

[MizzDeeDee]

To MIL -

I hope you thoroughly enjoyed your hissy fit about Christmas. I hope you're happy you reduced me to tears. I hope you like the fact that me & oh don't get any if our first Christmas with lo to ourselves. This is not YOUR Christmas and if you say that once mire I'm going to snap.

Do not think that hissy fits get you what you want. Oh has lost a lot of respect for you over this & I will not easily forget the hurtful things you have said. I will pick my battles with you carefully but do not think I am a pushover because if this. I am not. & I've just about had it with you.

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

FOB or his mum or his dad...Who the hell puts toilet roll back? What goes through your mind to decide you don't want 'that bit' & put it back? It's disgusting!

 

[Lettuce]

FOB or his mum or his dad...Who the hell puts toilet roll back? What goes through your mind to decide you don't want 'that bit' & put it back? It's disgusting!

weird...
And K4th xx

 

[MizzDeeDee]

Okay Mom-

I really don't appreciate you lying to me so that I won't let Corrine sleep with me. It was a little below the belt. Telling me that you know two people who killed their children by co-sleeping is such an obvious lie because you've been on my shit for two months about co-sleeping- if you really did know two people that did that you would have told me that first.. not last.

Even though I know you were lying you still put the thought in my head.. and damn you for doing that to me. I know you think you're helping, but I like all of us to be able to sleep and Corrine WILL NOT sleep anywhere that doesn't involve me because she's needy, which is another thing you seem not to understand.

I put her in the crib and she wakes up within an hour- I'm tempted to call you everytime she wakes up in the night so you "get it".

Don't try to manipulate my emotions again... it's a shitty, rotten thing to do.

 

[cowboys angel]

Okay Mom-

I really don't appreciate you lying to me so that I won't let Corrine sleep with me. It was a little below the belt. Telling me that you know two people who killed their children by co-sleeping is such an obvious lie because you've been on my shit for two months about co-sleeping- if you really did know two people that did that you would have told me that first.. not last.

Even though I know you were lying you still put the thought in my head.. and damn you for doing that to me. I know you think you're helping, but I like all of us to be able to sleep and Corrine WILL NOT sleep anywhere that doesn't involve me because she's needy, which is another thing you seem not to understand.

I put her in the crib and she wakes up within an hour- I'm tempted to call you everytime she wakes up in the night so you "get it".

Don't try to manipulate my emotions again... it's a shitty, rotten thing to do.

Just start showing her all the statistics and tests that show who good safe cosleeping is for babies!

 

[Spunky]

To MIL -

I hope you thoroughly enjoyed your hissy fit about Christmas. I hope you're happy you reduced me to tears. I hope you like the fact that me & oh don't get any if our first Christmas with lo to ourselves. This is not YOUR Christmas and if you say that once mire I'm going to snap.

Do not think that hissy fits get you what you want. Oh has lost a lot of respect for you over this & I will not easily forget the hurtful things you have said. I will pick my battles with you carefully but do not think I am a pushover because if this. I am not. & I've just about had it with you.

I worry about this with my mother!! Hope it works out

FOB or his mum or his dad...Who the hell puts toilet roll back? What goes through your mind to decide you don't want 'that bit' & put it back? It's disgusting!

Who does that?! So weird!!!

Okay Mom-

I really don't appreciate you lying to me so that I won't let Corrine sleep with me. It was a little below the belt. Telling me that you know two people who killed their children by co-sleeping is such an obvious lie because you've been on my shit for two months about co-sleeping- if you really did know two people that did that you would have told me that first.. not last.

Even though I know you were lying you still put the thought in my head.. and damn you for doing that to me. I know you think you're helping, but I like all of us to be able to sleep and Corrine WILL NOT sleep anywhere that doesn't involve me because she's needy, which is another thing you seem not to understand.

I put her in the crib and she wakes up within an hour- I'm tempted to call you everytime she wakes up in the night so you "get it".

Don't try to manipulate my emotions again... it's a shitty, rotten thing to do.

I worry about rolling over James because I MOVE in my sleep TONS! I kick, talk, and snore. For us ot doesn’t work. I’m sorry she’s horrible and put this in your mind. I think you should call her everytime she wakes you up or have her come over and put her in her room so she disturbs her. So mean of her! You;ve already made it work for 4+ months, you know what’s right for your family.

 

[StarlitHome]

To MIL -

I hope you thoroughly enjoyed your hissy fit about Christmas. I hope you're happy you reduced me to tears. I hope you like the fact that me & oh don't get any if our first Christmas with lo to ourselves. This is not YOUR Christmas and if you say that once mire I'm going to snap.

Do not think that hissy fits get you what you want. Oh has lost a lot of respect for you over this & I will not easily forget the hurtful things you have said. I will pick my battles with you carefully but do not think I am a pushover because if this. I am not. & I've just about had it with you.

A hissy fit? Really?
My MIL keeps talking about Christmas... This past week she told me "I think Dad and I will buy you guys a little Christmas tree."
UHm... Why do you need to buy us a tree? For one thing, we have a little artificial tree that we bought last year....
I'm extra-touchy about Christmas because I wish we could go to see my family this year. We had Christmas here with DH's family last year...

 

[Ozzieshunni]

We had Christmas with my family last year and this year, we are here in the UK. In June though we are going to Cali for LO's first birthday

 

[Lettuce]

Ahhh Christmas... Fortunately <sarcasm> our parent live only 10mins walk apart... So we get to see both. so we've agreed, wake up in flat, just me, DH and Jen, then mass at 10am at church 2miles away, meet both set of parents there, back to mil's for brunch, then down to my parents for dinner!
Don't tell anyone, but last year I was raging cos I had to have Christmas dinner at mil's... Until I found out I was pregnant! then I was delighted to go there, knowing my parents would get us this year! I'm so evil!!!!

 

[Eliza_V]

I feel like a terrible mother. I love my LO so much that it hurts, but the constant inconsolable screaming is just getting too much. I can't get hold of anyone at the hospital, as she was meant to have seen a paediatrician by now as she was put on the "rapid access" clinic when we took her to A&E a week and a half ago, but haven't heard as much as a peep. When LO finally stopped screaming, the secretaries had gone home at 2pm!! I'm furious. I'm tired. I'm being stretched in all directions.

DH acts like he doesn't care. I can't remember the last time we had sex. He's also being a wet fish which infuriates me; his brother refused to take a single picture at our wedding (despite calling himself a "photographer") even though DH gave him his digital camera and just asked for some candid shots, and he refused, he left the church before we were married, and stormed out of teh reception without saying bye.. And he;s just agreed to film his brothers wedding for him Yet again I'll be left with a potentially screaming baby, and DH will only take her when he wants to parade her around I imagine.

I need a break. Yet I don't want to give her to anyone else, as no-one else knows her enough to look after her (that, and she's breastfed). She's a hard baby to look after, as she screams in pain a lot of the time due to her reflux (and lots of trapped wind ontop of that). It would be too much for someone who doesn't know her to handle. DH can barely handle it; if I ask him to take her, he keeps looking back at me when she cries and gets really frustrated, so I have to take her back. That and he can't be bothered to walk around with her sometimes and thinks just sitting on the sofa going "What's wrong?" will cut it.

DH is also off to Bristol next week from 4am Monday morning to 10pm Tuesday night. Yeah, thanks for leaving me. Each time you've gone away for a meeting with work has been a "one-off" (like when you left me when I was heavily pregnant to go to another meeting). Now you tell me that you've always said that there will be one every few months? News to me. So I suggest I go stay with my family for a few days (200 miles away). You then suggest us all going down there the weekend before then you travelling to Bristol from there. But since that wasn't possible (need to arrive together with his colleagues) then me going down South hasbeen written off completely. Obviously I'm not allowed to go on my own??

Gah. I just want an hour to myself. On the odd occasion you do take her, I don't want to spend this "me" time cleaning up after you, or doing the washing. I want to just RELAX.

I'm tired. I'm miserable. I hate everything except our beautiful daughter, but I am beginning to even dislike looking after her somedays, when I really don't want to think like that. I got so upset when she was refusing to feed yesterday. My breasts are covered in scratches, and I'm an emotional mess. Oooh, and now she's woken up again.. LO please go to sleep. You need to sleep!

Wow, talk about the ramblings of a mad woman..

 

[cissyhope]

Ahhh Christmas... Fortunately <sarcasm> our parent live only 10mins walk apart... So we get to see both. so we've agreed, wake up in flat, just me, DH and Jen, then mass at 10am at church 2miles away, meet both set of parents there, back to mil's for brunch, then down to my parents for dinner!
Don't tell anyone, but last year I was raging cos I had to have Christmas dinner at mil's... Until I found out I was pregnant! then I was delighted to go there, knowing my parents would get us this year! I'm so evil!!!!

x

 

[Lettuce]

Oh vixiepoo! what a mess. I think you def need a break! High maintenance babies are hard work, you don't love them any less, but it's hard! is there any way you could go visit family? Or have family/friend come to stay? Honestly they won't mind baby screaming as much, cos it's not full time for them! I think as well, that you have to leave the house for an hour or two and leave oh with her. That way you won't be forced to take her back too soon. You need a breather. My best bud took meto get my nails done when j was 2months old and it was terrifying yet amazing! I was only out the house for an hour or so, but I felt revitalised, and felt good cos my nails looked nice!
DHs bro needs a slap, and chase the hospital up, honestly, it's worth it, get the consultants sec no and phone away! xx

 

[divadexie]

Dear anyone and everyone - STOP with the hinting about christmas!! It's doing my head in. We are having christmas at HOME as a family. I do not drive and I am not going to make OH do what he despises most and drive round everyone, cause everyone lives so far away from eachother. Meaning he cannot have a drink and I have to worry about LO getting grouchy and needing to leave and DS getting in a hissy fit because he doesn't want to leave and being upset that I have left my doggies at home on xmas day.
If anyone want to see LO and DS on xmas - you know where we live, you do the non drinking and the driving.

Nana - stop hinting that you aren't going to do anything for xmas this year. Last year we had to time it so that you got picked up at a certain time to go to MIL and FIL and give you a specific time to arrive here because we knew that otherwise you would arrive early and stay all day, being irritating.
No matter how much you hint we aren't going to invite you for xmas dinner. I don't care if that makes us selfish but you irritate me and spoil the children and wind the dogs up.

MIL - no we don't need the xmas tree that is in your loft becaus you might be getting a new one. I told you last year and I told you again that we are having a real tree and its a family thing of mine that we all go and get our trees on the same day and make a nice day out of it. (oh god, is it bad that I'm getting exited about decorating the tree!!)

 

[Spunky]

Wow, talk about the ramblings of a mad woman..

I'm sorry things are so tough for you right now. I hope things get easier soon.

 

[lisaf]

Wish I had some words of wisdom vixiepoo!


To my PPD - I hate you so much. I don't have time to call my doctor to see what she thinks I should do about it getting worse and the medication not being enough. I hate the obsessive thoughts I get over every bad thing I imagine. (seeing a clip on the news about a policeman who ran into a burning building and saved a little boy made me start vividly imagining my little guy trapped in the back of our house with it on fire and hearing him scream hysterically) I'm really not in a good place lately..

 

[MizzDeeDee]

Wish I had some words of wisdom vixiepoo!


To my PPD - I hate you so much. I don't have time to call my doctor to see what she thinks I should do about it getting worse and the medication not being enough. I hate the obsessive thoughts I get over every bad thing I imagine. (seeing a clip on the news about a policeman who ran into a burning building and saved a little boy made me start vividly imagining my little guy trapped in the back of our house with it on fire and hearing him scream hysterically) I'm really not in a good place lately..

 

[whit.]

I'm not sure what to do for Christmas.

OH & I have always done my family the Sunday before, travel to my sister's Christmas Eve & Spend Christmas morning with my niece and nephew. Then that afternoon we go to OH's dads and then to his moms. (Sister lives 1.5 hours away and MIL & FIL live 3 hours away).

I want to be home for Sophia's first Christmas, but I want to be with my niece and nephew too. But I'm not sure about the weather and driving with a 5 month old in the snow.

If we go to my sisters then we'll have to go to OH's dads. I don't mind that at all (other than the driving in the snow thing) But, we've had a falling out with MIL because she's a nutcase (long, long, long story - but it started with me not letting her be in the room when I had Soph) and I definitely don't want to go to her house.

Gahh!

 

[MonsterMama]

Dear Mother,
My son said MAMA first. Not Daddy & most certainly not NANA. I love you, but unlike your first daughter, I am capable of raising my own child and you need to please accept that this grandbaby will not be your baby. I will not be living in your living room with my child and I will not be leaving him with you 6 days a week while I am out drunk. I will also not lower my standards as a mother so that you can come to my child's rescue like you did for my nephew. Please accept this & stop hinting that I need to leave my husband so you can take over raising my baby.