Things I cannot say out loud....

[lisaf]

I know that a big part of my problem is that my MIL and SIL have NOTHING going on in their lives except for my son. I don't know if thats the case with others, but honestly they really do nothing at all and live for the days they see him. I pity them for the emptiness in their lives, but I'm so frustrated because its just not healthy!

Then some people give me crap because I'm not thrilled that they love my son. I'm happy that they love him, but they need to love him in healthier ways.
Some of their behaviors could be excused if they didn't get to see him often, but they see him all the time so its inexusable to not respect his schedule and needs for a routine. He also needs a mommy that isn't stressed out because she's trying to run around like crazy to get things done and has even less time than usual to do the frantic chore routine after work because she had to stop and see the inlaws.

 

[StarlitHome]

My MIL works full-time so she does have other things going on... Every time we've seen her lately she's said (while talking to Molly) "I never get to see you! I only see you once a week!"
But the thing is, she's never even called to say "Hey can I stop by after work" or something. I've said she could stop by any weekday to see Molly... Molly would probably be content to be with her longer if we were at our place. But no...


In other news.
MollyBoo, my dear sweet darling - please for the love of GOD nurse from the left side. PLEASE. I'm sore. WHY won't you take the left boob???

 

[Lettuce]

Oh fool her!! put her in cradle hold as if you're going for the right then put her round into a sorta rugby hold to feed off the left!

 

[mrssuggy2b]

Thnis is my first post on this thread but I have to get this out of my system and I don't want to upset my DH anymore about it...

Dear MIL,

I can't stand you anymore! You are a controlling, selfish and childish indicidual who has made the last couple of years of our lives hell at times.

I hate you for having a major childish paddy when I was pregnant with little moo and throwing all of the things you had bought for him into our front garden one night. It was a lovely thing to come down to when 24ish weeks pregnant one morning! I hate you even more for then demanding all of the stuff back when you finally deigned to talk to us again (what the hell do you need 2 boxes of newborn sized nappies for?! He won't ever be with you long enough when he's that small!) We didn't even do anything wrong, you made up some stupid thing in your head and used it as an excuse to get attention! Well you are the one who ended up missing out on the last 3 months of my pregnancy!!

I hate you even more for not supporting us (especially your own son) in the last 2 weeks whilst little moo has been seriously ill in hospital. You knew they suspected bacterial meningitis and that the poor baby had been put through the pain of a lumber puncture, IV drips and IV antibiotics (not to mention the fits due to such a high temp and the lb weightloss from a baby already below the 0.4th centile in weight for his age) but still you refused to come and see him and support your own son because 'we were putting my sister in front of you' as we'd arranged for her to come in the morning and you in the afternoon. You are a selfish selfish woman. You failed as a monther in supporting your son when he was beside himself with worry over little moo, and oyu failed as a grandmother when you put your own stupid ideas before his needs for comfort from his grandmother. You haven't even rung us to ask if he is out of hospital or the reuslts of all the tests!

Oh, and one last thing, I hate you for your selfish refusal to stop smoking around a baby with a heart condition who already has 4 operations scheduled in the next year - he doesn't need any other complications so your smoking around him is purely selfish! I don't give a crap that you did it around your own two kids (and DH now has cronic asthma and gets regular chest infections etc which he believes is due to 20 years of passive smoking). If we didn't have to rely on you to look after little moo 2 days a week so I can work, then I would quite happily tell you where to stick your little cancer sticks!!

Yours,
Your loving DIL

Sorry for the mega rant everyone, just really needed to get it all out

 

[keeks1987]

Hugs x

 

[Kittifer]

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[Fergie]

Apologies for the language
Brother. I am an adult, Boo is my daughter and i and OH will decide if she meets her biological grandad. He has no rights to see her as you so nicely told me, he walked out of OUR lives 25 years ago without a bye or leave and left mum to bring the 4 of us up on her own. She made herself ill working 3 bloody jobs to keep us together and you you self centred arsehole put that shits feelings above hers. How dare you belittle her. She was the one who clothed and fed you while he swanned about getting pissed everynight and not caring if we had shoes on our feet and food in our bellies. YOU MARRIED INTO MONEY .. do you not get thats the only reason he speaks to you ??????. I swear if you bring him to my house i will knock you into next week and he will follow you. He has not changed, he is still a nasty piece of work and Boo will not have anything to do with him. DO I MAKE MYSELF CLEAR ???.
OH thank you for cleaning the cooker. I love you and our lil boo bear

 

[marina294]

I know that a big part of my problem is that my MIL and SIL have NOTHING going on in their lives except for my son. I don't know if thats the case with others, but honestly they really do nothing at all and live for the days they see him. I pity them for the emptiness in their lives, but I'm so frustrated because its just not healthy!

Then some people give me crap because I'm not thrilled that they love my son. I'm happy that they love him, but they need to love him in healthier ways.
Some of their behaviors could be excused if they didn't get to see him often, but they see him all the time so its inexusable to not respect his schedule and needs for a routine. He also needs a mommy that isn't stressed out because she's trying to run around like crazy to get things done and has even less time than usual to do the frantic chore routine after work because she had to stop and see the inlaws.

same over here hun they dont understand we have limited time to do things as it is with a baby and i live for the weekend as i get a little break because OH helps out at the weekend but traipse up ther every weekend and stay for hours on end is exhausting where she is pulled around mil and fil AND sil argueing that each other has held the baby longer then the other(slight exageration but sly comments at each other) who i then have to prise out of there arms because they think they can soothe her by bouncing her around!

by the time monday comes round it doesnt feel like i have had a break!!

i know they love lo very much i would never question that but it is just exhausting lol

 

[marina294]

ooh i forgot the best one is when we have been there for nearly 7 hours and i have calmed lo down and is sleepy enough to put in the car seat to go the FIL pipes up oh let us have a cuddle before you go .wtf!!!!! i have been here for 7 hours and you want a cuddle now!!! cue jigging baby around on his knee and me dealing with a screaming baby on the way home

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Dear vile cold that has taken over my wee man:

I BANISH THEE BACK TO WHATEVER HOLE YOU CAME OUT OF! Making my wee man sob his heart out at 2am because he can't breathe through his nose and panicks is NOT OK!

 

[marina294]

Dear vile cold that has taken over my wee man:

I BANISH THEE BACK TO WHATEVER HOLE YOU CAME OUT OF! Making my wee man sob his heart out at 2am because he can't breathe through his nose and panicks is NOT OK!

i with you on this my poor mini moo is so tired but keeps coughing as well and waking up eyes streaming bless her-hope he feels better soon

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Yeah, Alex's eyes are watering too Poor wee man. I hate hearing him sob like that.

 

[Emmy1987]

Daisy. Please sleep tonight without screaming

Weekend. Hurry up!

Aunt - you drive me fucking crazy and I don't know if I want to stay with you over Christmas, you're a complete Scrooge and I want Daisy's first Christmas to be magical you don't even put a tree up ffs!

 

[Cupkake.Luver]

Black Friday,

Please let there be a lot of people so I can make a lot of money.
Kthx.

 

[StarlitHome]

Headcold - BE GONE! Kthanxbye. And do not, do not attack my MollyBoo!!

DH's family - ahead of time, I ask: please don't make me feel like a child who doesn't know how to be a parent tomorrow at Thanksgiving dinner. I refer particularly to Aunty L. You have never had children so please don't make comments on our parenting choices with that condescending tone...

Self - you are a great mother and you and DH are making the right parenting choices for your family. You're breast-feeding on demand because that is what is recommended for the best development according to your research. You have an amber necklace on Boo to help with teething pain and it is perfectly safe. You cloth diaper because it will cost less in the long run and you don't have to worry about weird chemicals in the diapers. You babywear/carry Boo because it is what works for you.
Try not to get defensive straight off tomorrow. Also

 

[MissFox]

Ozzi- I your spoiler!

Can't really say this out loud...
I want to make that my spoiler because I want to do it!!! As much as things aren't right for it I WANT TO HAVE ANOTHER BABY!

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Starlit. My family and DH's realized a long time ago that I'm parenting my way and the proof is in the results. Alex is happy, healthy, and well adjusted. I must be doing something right

 

[Dizzymum]

Mum, I know how much you love to push LO in her pram(you say you can't walk without holding onto something), but please don't push her along beside the pavement IN THE ROAD because you couldn't get the pram up the curb, whilst pulling her away from me, and ignoring me when I told you I would get her up where it was safe............That is NOT ok.

It is also very embarassing when you bump her pram off of every single surface in the shops, including the legs of lots of unsuspecting people. Just let me help you sometimes to get through small gaps, then I will give her back to you.........DON'T say 'NO, you can't push her, she's MY baby!' It p*sses me off.

Oh yes,and why did you tell countless random people the other day that the reason Jess looked fed up was because she had spent the WHOLE day in her pram? When she had not. I don't even know where that came from. Yes, we had been to Sainsburys in the morning, but were only in there for 20mins, and she was in the trolley, the rest of the time she was at home crawling around and playing with me. I just never know what you are going to say these days, so could you please think before you speak

 

[Lauki]

Ozzi- I your spoiler!

Can't really say this out loud...
I want to make that my spoiler because I want to do it!!! As much as things aren't right for it I WANT TO HAVE ANOTHER BABY!

I love the spoiler too!
I'm so broody all of the sudden. And Hubby agreed that we should have another baby. In 4 years. But hey, I'm happy .

 

[Lettuce]

Exactly what lauki said... Same here! Ha, he'll never last that long! I want another one......

Good luck ozzie! Xx