Things I cannot say out loud....

[tommyg]

grrr...to mother in law and sister in law... I know you mean well, but at the family party yesterday, you really annoyed me. Both of you calling her "my baby" and taking her from me the minute we got there to show her off to all the family. I finally got her back when she started crying because she was tired and overstimulated. And stop saying that she is doing things when she isn't. "oh she is going to laugh!" when she is just sitting there looking around is really annoying after the 10th time. And just because she smiled at you when you made popping noises with your mouth doesn't mean you have to do it over my shoulder in my ear when i'm trying to feed her. Thanks to the mosquitoes we were only there for a couple of hours. And stop hinting that you want her overnight...i am not ready for that and neither is she. Especially since the last time you watched her for the day, you fed her water.

Can't say I'd blame you. Nothing more annoying than somebody who's meant to be looking after your LO either not feeding them, feeding them junk or waiting an extra hour.

When mine was about the age of yours I was fighting my mother wanting to give him water (which she never did) or chocolate and the MIL trying to strech his feeds out to every 4 hours. He was happy on 3 and so was I. I left him with MIL with a bottle of EBM came back to find her just warming it. Why did I bother letting her waste a bottle of EBM when I could just have fed him myself???

Oh and I'm still not 100% ready for somebody to have LO over night.

Natsku great news that your DH is going for help. Really really hope he is able to control his temper and alcohol. I hope you leaving for a few days has woke him up to realise he will loose you both if he doesn't do something about his behaviour.

Baby Boy I beg you to sleep through tonight. Your doing great not comfort sucking on me but its tiring trying to find another off button for you. The noise of you crying is driving Mummy and Daddy daft. I really really don't want to let you CIO or CC just learn that it's sleepy time and you close your lovely wee eyes and open them in the morning when we'll all be happy to talk and play and you'll be a happy wee baby again.

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

Mum: I know you raised me & I turned out fine....but with the greatest of respect I want to try baby lead weaning. Yes giving me baby rice at 4 months old worked for you cos I was FF, but I want to BF.

Another point, BF. I WILL feel like a failure if I can't, you can't stop me feeling that.

FOB: When you have sole custody of LO you can choose weather you want to want to use blankets or a sleeping bag. While he's in my care 24/7 I'll choose yeah?

Also...they are other brands out there than effing disney. I'm sick of the sight of tigger! My son is not a second chance at fatherhood for you, just cause you dressed your first LO in disney does not mean I want my LO constantly dressed in disney.

Grandad: Please please PLEASE lt me tell you he's a boy! I feel so guilty everytime I slip up & say 'he'

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Broken, I'm sure you will BF just fine Persistance is the key

 

[elephant29]

I am seriously considering going straight to FF this LO even though I have told everyone I am going to BF again....and the reason? I am sooo unhappy with my body I know I am pregnant, I know that, but it doesnt stop me feeling so self conscious and fat and I hate it. I BF exclusively for 6 mths with LO and initially the weight fell off but after I had lost about 1 1/2 stone it just stopped so as of now I am about 4/5 stone over weight as I didnt get the chance to lose wight again. I know I am so selfish but I cant help thinking this way.

It doesnt help that my SIL just posted pictures on FB of my OH's birthday last week. I went for the meal and to the club and left around 11.30pm but OH didnt get home till 6am ish which was totally fine but the pics show him standing with a girl (his friends sister who I met for the 1st time that night) her head on his shoulder and arms around him. He looks happy.... there is a picture of us 2 on the same night and he is pulling some ridiculous face in it so it just looks stupid. The girl is really pretty as well. God I feel like shit tonight

xxx

 

[Ozzieshunni]

elephant You do what will make you the happiest Happy mommy=happy baby

 

[chichestermum]

Mum: I know you raised me & I turned out fine....but with the greatest of respect I want to try baby lead weaning. Yes giving me baby rice at 4 months old worked for you cos I was FF, but I want to BF.

Another point, BF. I WILL feel like a failure if I can't, you can't stop me feeling that.

FOB: When you have sole custody of LO you can choose weather you want to want to use blankets or a sleeping bag. While he's in my care 24/7 I'll choose yeah?

Also...they are other brands out there than effing disney. I'm sick of the sight of tigger! My son is not a second chance at fatherhood for you, just cause you dressed your first LO in disney does not mean I want my LO constantly dressed in disney.

Grandad: Please please PLEASE lt me tell you he's a boy! I feel so guilty everytime I slip up & say 'he'

grr this at all OHs family! they dont want to know and im constantly slipping up! not just saying her or she but also saying things like oh dont go in the kitchen, i moved the clothes airer into there so that you didnt see all the little pink clothes lol! i have had to confuse them by purposely slipping him and he and blue into conversation lol!

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

^^ Its daft! They're our kids & we should be able to talk open about them. Whats worse is that he already knows I'm having a boy...he's just pretending not too. Grr!

 

[chichestermum]

it really annoys me too, it was our decision to find out so why should we act like we dont know around them! we found out because we wanted to tell DD that she was going to have a bro or sis, i didnt want to just say baby and her wonder if it was a boy or girl, when we told them that DD knew they had a moan at us because she wouldnt be able to keep it a secret! i was like WTF! they knew why we were so adamant on finding out so why would they assume that because they didnt want to know why would it make us change our plans lol!
tho DD is doing a wonderful job of telling them its a baby brother lol! (baby jake on cbeebies is her new fave programme and so obviously thats waht she wants, a baby bro called jake, iv resorted to telling her that she will get what she is given lol!)

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

My whole family wanted me to keep it a surprise. But I wanted to know & at the end of the day is my choice. Now they all want to know cause they don't want to feel left out. Expect him...he's being stubborn.

Bless your LO, thats so cute. I'm sure she'll be happy to get a little sister

 

[Lettuce]

Stupid stupid freaking car!! How fecking dare you bugger up your gear box?! I so don't have a grand to fix this! plus you decided to break down with my DH in Leeds! So I'm on my own hundreds of miles away! And you have to get fixed down there before I can have my hubby home!
You stupid car! In the last few months you've had a new tyre, new brakes, new brake pads, a new horn, a mot, a new window (stupid thieves) and lots of petrol! I hate you.

Also, so can't say this out loud but I'm jealous of DH... Ok, so the cars brokn down, he's stuck in Leeds... But he's checked into a hotel and is going to have a bath, watch tv, and have a totally uninterrupted nights sleep... I know, I know, I'm a bad mum. xx

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Lettuce you are so not a bad mum! I would kill for a full night's sleep. I hope Alex does a repeat of his 6 hours tonight

 

[Lettuce]

Thanks ozzie! Ohhh 6hours? bet you feel almost human! it's ridiculous isn't it? The way we get over excited about getting anything more than 2hours contineous sleep! xx

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Yeah, slightly human. My boobs on the other hand felt massive!

 

[southerngal2]

To my SIL - stop acting like you know everything about my baby. You rarely see her. She is not pulling her ear because she has an earache, she plays with her ear when she's tired and trying to go to sleep!
And don't look at me crazy when I say it's ok for her to suck her thumb. And quit taking it out of her mouth! She's 3 months old! If she needs to suck her thumb to comfort herself then I'm going to let her!

 

[chichestermum]

My whole family wanted me to keep it a surprise. But I wanted to know & at the end of the day is my choice. Now they all want to know cause they don't want to feel left out. Expect him...he's being stubborn.

Bless your LO, thats so cute. I'm sure she'll be happy to get a little sister

lol yea hopefully she will be excited about her lil sis and not disappointed! she has a boy dolly that wees in the same way a baby boy does... everywhere! we have been playing with it lots lately to try get her to think that boys are not much fun to have as baby sblings because they wee wee all over the place lol! where she knows her girl dollies dont wee everywhere, it just goes straight onto the potty lol! terrible what i have reverted to, to try get her around to liking the idea of a baby sister lol!

lol did you end up telling the rest of your family? i would of kept it from them just to be evil lol! xx

 

[shambaby]

to me: why why WHY must you eat so much chocolate (a double decker and 3 caramels so far today, and there's another caramel in the fridge i am having to try really hard to resist eating before bed). and on the subject of bed, WHY must you stay up so late? you are tired, you need to sleep, yet here you are, keeping yourself up for no good reason. you can come on here tomorrow at a reasonable hour, when hayden naps. neither of these habits is good for you, and they are making you miserable. just stop it and look after yourself better. you have a baby to think about now, too.

eta: i guess i could say this out loud, but i would feel a bit silly, and i wouldn't take any notice of myself any way, so i'd be wasting my breath.

 

[Kalah]

To my mom's overly opinionated friends: If any of you decide to try and lecture me about my daughter being "too old" to still be rear facing and breast feeding (yeah I starting bfing again ) you will be getting a lecture back on how to mind your business! Also if you decide to try and push the whole thing of "she should be in a FF seat by now!" I will be explaining the safety difference to shut you up. I'm not a child, two can play the lecture game.


ETA: The great thing about this forum is how much I've learned that I never would have known about otherwise, but the downside to that is having to explain those things to every nosy person who thinks I don't know what I'm talking about or thinks I'm just making things up!

 

[shambaby]

i fear i have this joy to come, kalah - hayden still fits in his infant carrier, and although everyone seems to think i'm mean not getting him his next seat so he can forward face and 'see where he's going', they seem to accept that, as he still fits his current seat we are not buying a new one yet. however, i have decided i really want to erf because of the safety issues, and i know they will think i am bonkers! is kili in an erf seat? if so, which one and where did you get it? don't think anywhere near me sells them, so may have to order on-line which is worry, as i have a honda jazz and they are not big.

 

[shimmy]

To DH:
Why the Fucking hell won't you call Littlewoods , our bed is broken it breaks every single Fucking night
all it takes is one single call! I'd call them myself but its your account and they won't talk to me, I've tried. It wakes our baby up and I'm the one that has to deal with it. all it is is one phone call yes you might have to spend ages chatting to them but its something I use more than once a day. its for the SAFETY of your child so bloody call them and stop making me think your a useless , useless man.

p.s everyone knows how to bake/boil a bloody potatoe

 

[Spunky]

to myself: If you focus on yourself enough then maybe you don't have to worry about what your husband does at his job. Maybe if he is flirting with a girl and hiding it by deleting all her text messages and she calls your work phone at home at 8:30 at night it really means nothing like he said and she's just a friend. Maybe he doesn't care that she's prettier and skinnier and doesn't want you to change diapers. Maybe he doesn't care that you have a mummy tummy now. I shouldn't care that he TOLD her that you're jealous of her. I shouldn't care that I'm now too embarrassed to go to his work again for fear of seeing her or other people she might have told about that...