Things I cannot say out loud....

[BrokenfoREVer]

He's not on proper treatment yet but he has his meds with help control his emotions but he went off them yesterday to sort out his daily rhythm (they make him sleepy) and thats why he lost control. When he's on his meds he's ok. (although the best med for him he can't have as its illegal off-prescription and very hard to get a prescription for )

But after yesterday's fight he has been on best behaviour. We are going to see the inlaws again today (he called his dad and told him what happened) as they are trying to help us get help.

I feel like I would be abandoning him when he is just sick if I was to leave him. I wouldn't abandon him if he had cancer so I don't think I should when he has another illness but its so hard to be sure if its right.

I totally totally get this. I've felt the same about FOB with his issues before & felt like I can't abondon him over something like that.

But you must see you can't save him if he doesn't want to be saved. If he wanted to get help he'd do it. If he wanted to sort himself out for you & your LO he would.

Hun, you can't keep on like that if he's hit you. Even if he's off his meds its no excuse. He should be on them all the time, he has a LO to think of.

I really hope you can sort this issue, what ever way you need to but I will say this. The first time you hit someone its hard...it gets easier everytime. Big big big to you.

 

[Natsku]

He's not on proper treatment yet but he has his meds with help control his emotions but he went off them yesterday to sort out his daily rhythm (they make him sleepy) and thats why he lost control. When he's on his meds he's ok. (although the best med for him he can't have as its illegal off-prescription and very hard to get a prescription for )

But after yesterday's fight he has been on best behaviour. We are going to see the inlaws again today (he called his dad and told him what happened) as they are trying to help us get help.

I feel like I would be abandoning him when he is just sick if I was to leave him. I wouldn't abandon him if he had cancer so I don't think I should when he has another illness but its so hard to be sure if its right.

I totally totally get this. I've felt the same about FOB with his issues before & felt like I can't abondon him over something like that.

But you must see you can't save him if he doesn't want to be saved. If he wanted to get help he'd do it. If he wanted to sort himself out for you & your LO he would.

Hun, you can't keep on like that if he's hit you. Even if he's off his meds its no excuse. He should be on them all the time, he has a LO to think of.

I really hope you can sort this issue, what ever way you need to but I will say this. The first time you hit someone its hard...it gets easier everytime. Big big big to you.

He does want to get help though, we just haven't been able to find a doctor who is taking new patients and we can't get referred out of area til we move (one doctor we know who can't treat him himself but is willing to write referrels for us).

I know the hitting is wrong but I think a large part of that is that I have my own anger issues and I've hit him (though I didn't yesterday. And I know thats something I need to sort out too, because its wrong and it sets a horrible example to Maria. I guess I need treatment too )

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

He's not on proper treatment yet but he has his meds with help control his emotions but he went off them yesterday to sort out his daily rhythm (they make him sleepy) and thats why he lost control. When he's on his meds he's ok. (although the best med for him he can't have as its illegal off-prescription and very hard to get a prescription for )

But after yesterday's fight he has been on best behaviour. We are going to see the inlaws again today (he called his dad and told him what happened) as they are trying to help us get help.

I feel like I would be abandoning him when he is just sick if I was to leave him. I wouldn't abandon him if he had cancer so I don't think I should when he has another illness but its so hard to be sure if its right.

I totally totally get this. I've felt the same about FOB with his issues before & felt like I can't abondon him over something like that.

But you must see you can't save him if he doesn't want to be saved. If he wanted to get help he'd do it. If he wanted to sort himself out for you & your LO he would.

Hun, you can't keep on like that if he's hit you. Even if he's off his meds its no excuse. He should be on them all the time, he has a LO to think of.

I really hope you can sort this issue, what ever way you need to but I will say this. The first time you hit someone its hard...it gets easier everytime. Big big big to you.

He does want to get help though, we just haven't been able to find a doctor who is taking new patients and we can't get referred out of area til we move (one doctor we know who can't treat him himself but is willing to write referrels for us).

I know the hitting is wrong but I think a large part of that is that I have my own anger issues and I've hit him (though I didn't yesterday. And I know thats something I need to sort out too, because its wrong and it sets a horrible example to Maria. I guess I need treatment too )

I get that, doctors can be a problem. But that being the case he must stay on his meds all the time until he can see someone.

But a violent relationship is no good for your daughter. Is there anyone you can talk to or get some councilling from about this? You don't want LO growing up around this.

 

[Natsku]

He's not on proper treatment yet but he has his meds with help control his emotions but he went off them yesterday to sort out his daily rhythm (they make him sleepy) and thats why he lost control. When he's on his meds he's ok. (although the best med for him he can't have as its illegal off-prescription and very hard to get a prescription for )

But after yesterday's fight he has been on best behaviour. We are going to see the inlaws again today (he called his dad and told him what happened) as they are trying to help us get help.

I feel like I would be abandoning him when he is just sick if I was to leave him. I wouldn't abandon him if he had cancer so I don't think I should when he has another illness but its so hard to be sure if its right.

I totally totally get this. I've felt the same about FOB with his issues before & felt like I can't abondon him over something like that.

But you must see you can't save him if he doesn't want to be saved. If he wanted to get help he'd do it. If he wanted to sort himself out for you & your LO he would.

Hun, you can't keep on like that if he's hit you. Even if he's off his meds its no excuse. He should be on them all the time, he has a LO to think of.

I really hope you can sort this issue, what ever way you need to but I will say this. The first time you hit someone its hard...it gets easier everytime. Big big big to you.

He does want to get help though, we just haven't been able to find a doctor who is taking new patients and we can't get referred out of area til we move (one doctor we know who can't treat him himself but is willing to write referrels for us).

I know the hitting is wrong but I think a large part of that is that I have my own anger issues and I've hit him (though I didn't yesterday. And I know thats something I need to sort out too, because its wrong and it sets a horrible example to Maria. I guess I need treatment too )

I get that, doctors can be a problem. But that being the case he must stay on his meds all the time until he can see someone.

But a violent relationship is no good for your daughter. Is there anyone you can talk to or get some councilling from about this? You don't want LO growing up around this.

I talk to my inlaws about it (and BnB ladies ) but I think proper councilling would be a wise idea.

 

[BrokenfoREVer]

He's not on proper treatment yet but he has his meds with help control his emotions but he went off them yesterday to sort out his daily rhythm (they make him sleepy) and thats why he lost control. When he's on his meds he's ok. (although the best med for him he can't have as its illegal off-prescription and very hard to get a prescription for )

But after yesterday's fight he has been on best behaviour. We are going to see the inlaws again today (he called his dad and told him what happened) as they are trying to help us get help.

I feel like I would be abandoning him when he is just sick if I was to leave him. I wouldn't abandon him if he had cancer so I don't think I should when he has another illness but its so hard to be sure if its right.

I totally totally get this. I've felt the same about FOB with his issues before & felt like I can't abondon him over something like that.

But you must see you can't save him if he doesn't want to be saved. If he wanted to get help he'd do it. If he wanted to sort himself out for you & your LO he would.

Hun, you can't keep on like that if he's hit you. Even if he's off his meds its no excuse. He should be on them all the time, he has a LO to think of.

I really hope you can sort this issue, what ever way you need to but I will say this. The first time you hit someone its hard...it gets easier everytime. Big big big to you.

He does want to get help though, we just haven't been able to find a doctor who is taking new patients and we can't get referred out of area til we move (one doctor we know who can't treat him himself but is willing to write referrels for us).

I know the hitting is wrong but I think a large part of that is that I have my own anger issues and I've hit him (though I didn't yesterday. And I know thats something I need to sort out too, because its wrong and it sets a horrible example to Maria. I guess I need treatment too )

I get that, doctors can be a problem. But that being the case he must stay on his meds all the time until he can see someone.

But a violent relationship is no good for your daughter. Is there anyone you can talk to or get some councilling from about this? You don't want LO growing up around this.

I talk to my inlaws about it (and BnB ladies ) but I think proper councilling would be a wise idea.

Maybe speak to your doctor about it. As you said, you don't want Maria growing up thinking hitting is right. & BnB will always be here to vent too

 

[Natsku]

He's not on proper treatment yet but he has his meds with help control his emotions but he went off them yesterday to sort out his daily rhythm (they make him sleepy) and thats why he lost control. When he's on his meds he's ok. (although the best med for him he can't have as its illegal off-prescription and very hard to get a prescription for )

But after yesterday's fight he has been on best behaviour. We are going to see the inlaws again today (he called his dad and told him what happened) as they are trying to help us get help.

I feel like I would be abandoning him when he is just sick if I was to leave him. I wouldn't abandon him if he had cancer so I don't think I should when he has another illness but its so hard to be sure if its right.

I totally totally get this. I've felt the same about FOB with his issues before & felt like I can't abondon him over something like that.

But you must see you can't save him if he doesn't want to be saved. If he wanted to get help he'd do it. If he wanted to sort himself out for you & your LO he would.

Hun, you can't keep on like that if he's hit you. Even if he's off his meds its no excuse. He should be on them all the time, he has a LO to think of.

I really hope you can sort this issue, what ever way you need to but I will say this. The first time you hit someone its hard...it gets easier everytime. Big big big to you.

He does want to get help though, we just haven't been able to find a doctor who is taking new patients and we can't get referred out of area til we move (one doctor we know who can't treat him himself but is willing to write referrels for us).

I know the hitting is wrong but I think a large part of that is that I have my own anger issues and I've hit him (though I didn't yesterday. And I know thats something I need to sort out too, because its wrong and it sets a horrible example to Maria. I guess I need treatment too )

I get that, doctors can be a problem. But that being the case he must stay on his meds all the time until he can see someone.

But a violent relationship is no good for your daughter. Is there anyone you can talk to or get some councilling from about this? You don't want LO growing up around this.

I talk to my inlaws about it (and BnB ladies ) but I think proper councilling would be a wise idea.

Maybe speak to your doctor about it. As you said, you don't want Maria growing up thinking hitting is right. & BnB will always be here to vent too

Sounds like a good idea. And yeah, thats right.

 

[Ozzieshunni]

Nats, normally, I'd say the same thing about leaving if a man hits you, but he is suffering from PTSD and he knows what he did was wrong. Not making excuses for him, but I can see why you're unwilling to leave without trying other options first

Weather please be nice today! I don't fancy walking around Aberdeen in the rain

 

[Natsku]

Its such a difficult illness, its hard for people to understand

Hope the weather is nice for you!

 

[sapphire1]

Nats, sorry you're still going through all that shit. I hope OH manages to get some help, and fast. We're always here for you.

Tanya, I hope I don't meet your husband again. I won't be able to look him in the eye! :rofl

 

[Natsku]

Hehe I'm gonna take that holiday offer! I wanna go to england and eat prawn cocktail crisps!

 

[sapphire1]

Hehe I'm gonna take that holiday offer! I wanna go to england and eat prawn cocktail crisps!

DO IT!! This is just one of the delights we have on offer. I have a stunning view from my bedroom...

https://www.dunn247.co.uk/old%20site%2020-02-2011/Page%20397/Page%20397%20005.jpg

 

[Natsku]

Weirdly enough, thats almost the exact same view as from my window except there's several blocks of flats in between our flat and the power station!

 

[sapphire1]

Spooky. Our babies are twins, and so is our view

 

[Natsku]

Freaky!

 

[LadyRoy]

MIL I don't like you too much right now. If you are gossiping about other people to me then surely you must be gossiping about me too.

FIL thanks for the door bounced but I am too scared to use it!

 

[tanya]

Nats, sorry you're still going through all that shit. I hope OH manages to get some help, and fast. We're always here for you.

Tanya, I hope I don't meet your husband again. I won't be able to look him in the eye! :rofl

The things I put on here and then think "oh crap! I've actually met some if these people and plan to again!"
The anonymity of the net kinda not working...

 

[BabyBoo36]

SIL - it's been 3 weeks since Pud's operation. So where is the phone call/e-mail/text/FB message asking how she is? Oh, sorry....I forgot. It's not about you so you're not interested. Silly me.

MIL - I don't care how upset you get, it will be a cold day in hell before SIL is godparent to my daughter. It's not happening, and that's that.

OH - I know the excema on your hands is bad - stop picking it, that may help. But if you wake me up once more at 3am, scratching or asking where your cream is, there will be hell to pay. Go to the doctors and ask for different cream.

C-section wound - for the love of god, it's been 12 weeks. I just want a long, hot soak in the bath, with bath oil and bubbles, not a quick shower while I try not to get my dressing wet. Heal god damn you!

Pud - sleep in the day is not over-rated sweetie, it's actually quite nice! I know you're still usually smiley and happy, but you still need a little sleep in the day.

Weather - please, please, please stay nice so I can take Pud out in the pram and see if it helps her sleep!

 

[Lettuce]

Nats, normally, I'd say the same thing about leaving if a man hits you, but he is suffering from PTSD and he knows what he did was wrong. Not making excuses for him, but I can see why you're unwilling to leave without trying other options first

Weather please be nice today! I don't fancy walking around Aberdeen in the rain

Totally understand too, my big bro suffers very badly from depression and my SIL stays with him. He's no violent to orthers, but has been suicidal. she is a total darling and no one looks after him better.

As for you Ozzie... How long have you been in this country?!! Of course it's going to rain! have a nice day out in the granite city! Xx

 

[sapphire1]

Nats, sorry you're still going through all that shit. I hope OH manages to get some help, and fast. We're always here for you.

Tanya, I hope I don't meet your husband again. I won't be able to look him in the eye! :rofl

The things I put on here and then think "oh crap! I've actually met some if these people and plan to again!"
The anonymity of the net kinda not working...

I do that too, especially in girly sanctuary. I'll never learn...

 

[sapphire1]

Weather please be nice today! I don't fancy walking around Aberdeen in the rain

Hope the weather's nice! I've just moved from Aberdeen, and it surprised me at how good the weather usually was. Not when it was snowing bucketloads though