Things I cannot say out loud....

[Lettuce]

Mil, cheers for watching lo while I went to do the shopping, that was excellent! Evern tho she's very overtired, I still appreciate it as I went back to the flat to drop the shopping off and your son, em, delayed me!

 

[Natsku]

@Lettuce

To OH: I really hope you're right and a bigger place will change things between us as otherwise things won't work out and I'll have to leave

To possible new house: Please be nice and liveable, I hate living in one room.

 

[StarlitHome]

@Lettuce

To OH: I really hope you're right and a bigger place will change things between us as otherwise things won't work out and I'll have to leave

To possible new house: Please be nice and liveable, I hate living in one room.

Oh honey I feel your pain, we only just moved from a studio (with no kitchen) to a proper-sized place!

 

[lisaf]

@Lettuce

To OH: I really hope you're right and a bigger place will change things between us as otherwise things won't work out and I'll have to leave

To possible new house: Please be nice and liveable, I hate living in one room.

Part of the key to my relationship working so well with DH is that we have our own rooms to be in... he is in the 'office' I'm in the living room... we do watch some tv shows together and eat together etc, but we don't have to argue over what to watch, we get some space, I don't feel ignored if he's a few feet from me on his computer etc.

 

[Natsku]

Yeah I'm hoping having separate rooms to go to will help as we get under each other's feet so much that he has switched to a nocturnal daily rhythm to avoid fighting with me but today we had a terrible fight as he tried to switch back and he hit me

 

[lisaf]

whoah, hitting is not ok

 

[Natsku]

I know Sometimes I think I should just cut my losses and leave but I know its not entirely his fault. He has PTSD and domestic violence is very common with PTSD sufferers and should improve with treatment but I don't know if I can wait til he gets treated. I almost kicked him out today.

 

[Crannog]

Ummm..sorry Natsku, I don't know your full situation, as have just read your last 2 posts. You need to leave and bring your baby with you. Sorry, but I really can't think of a nicer way to say it.

 

[lisaf]

Is he being treated right now?

 

[Lettuce]

I know Sometimes I think I should just cut my losses and leave but I know its not entirely his fault. He has PTSD and domestic violence is very common with PTSD sufferers and should improve with treatment but I don't know if I can wait til he gets treated. I almost kicked him out today.

I worry about you! I hope it all gets sorted, but I don't know I'd ever trust him again. Xx

 

[sapphire1]

Nats, that's not good. I hope you're ok. You know where to find me if you want to talk, and the holiday offer is always there. x x

 

[StarlitHome]

I know Sometimes I think I should just cut my losses and leave but I know its not entirely his fault. He has PTSD and domestic violence is very common with PTSD sufferers and should improve with treatment but I don't know if I can wait til he gets treated. I almost kicked him out today.

Is he in treatment now? I don't know the whole story, but I do know it's never good to be in a place where you or your child could be hurt...

 

[tanya]

Stupid Internet deleted my comment... Basically, Natsuku, leave him! If he hits you he will eventually hit Maria or at the very least do you really want her to grow up seeing that? It will ruin her whole life to be exposed to abuse, I was sexually abused and it's ruined my life, I live in fear a lot of the time even now when I am a grown woman and can protect myself, please don't let Maria suffer like that. If you can't leave him for you do it for her.

To dh, do you have some weird fetish you aren't telling me about? You hav little interest in sex usually but as soon as I get ill you suddenly get really horny? I'm sweaty with fever, snotty, eyes running, bright red nose etc etc (bad cold) and you suddenly want to have sex? It's not even like it's a one off or a coincidence it's everytime I'm illno matter what's wrong, I had food poisoning once, vomiting and diarrhoea an he tried his luck!
When my spd got so bad that we had been out for the day and he had had to push me round in a wheelchair all day, I could barely walk I was about the size of a house with pretty much no control over my farts he suddenly wanted sex! A: it would have been either physically impossible or excruciating to try and b: he hadn't wanted sex from finding out I was pregnant! Very very odd husband mine lol

 

[lisaf]

PMSLing at tayna's DH, lol...
I had some SPD pains and DH wanted sex too... I told him he was insane.

 

[lisaf]

Dear babysitter... I know my son come back happy from staying the day with you and thats most important, but I don't know how you give him so much milk! I don't want him to go hungry but you're giving him more than he takes from me during the day. I want to increase his bottle size but I'm afraid of leaving you with too little or struggling to make enough milk to give you.
Oh, and if you could make sure he eats at 4 so he will last until his 7pm bedtime that would be great

 

[Kalah]

to my mom: i love that you've been such a big help since I moved back, it's nice having someone else around who wants to change Kili and chase her around, but when she decides she wants her mommy and starts walking towards me with her sad face on and arms reaching towards me don't you DARE ever jump up to get her for yourself like you did earlier. That crossed a line and I was not happy about it, as you could probably tell by the way I snatched her away from you. I've raised my baby for 15 months without you around so don't think you can just come in now and pretend you've been doing all the hard work all along and I've been playing the stereotypical young mom role.

 

[MizzDeeDee]

Oh.. yay for this thread!

MIL- You're a jackass. You have been completely selfish since we told you I was pregnant and have tried to make everything about my pregnancy and now this baby about you. My baby isn't fat you stupid hillbilly and if she was.. who cares? She also doesn't have a double chin, she has a fat face like normal babies. I am sorry you don't like chubby babies or babies with hair.. tough titty toenail lady.. then don't look at her.

Now you wanted us to come over on Sunday (that day!!!)with no notice and when I told you we had plans Sunday, and also Monday you got angry with us because we wouldn't stop cleaning our house, scrap our plans, and run over to see you. Now you don't even mention Corrine and you just talk about your other granchild to OH and pretend like our daughter doesn't exist. I don't like people that punish children for things that don't have anything to do with them.

Well, have fun over the holidays because LO and I will not be there since you want to be a child...I don't need my daughter around your breed of crazy. Keep it up and you'll never see her- you already don't babysit her since you tell me she is fat and that I spoil her because I don't let her CIO, which you've been saying since birth. We're afraid you'll either make her cry until she passes out or starve her.

And make another comment like you did last year that you should take back the presents you got me for Christmas and I'll send OH right back over with those unopened presents like I did last year when I had to avoid you because you were stressing me out so bad during my high risk pregnancy. I don't need anything from you and neither does my daughter.... OH will be having a little chat with you shortly about you needing to be an asset or a hinderance...

Our life revolves around this child.. not you lady. Get over yourself.

 

[Spunky]

Natsku. I hope everything goes better...

@ tanya lol, my husband always wants sex when I'm sobbing/runny nose.

MizzDeeDee. Good to see you! Babies that are chubby are ADORABLE!!!

 

[MizzDeeDee]

Natsku. I hope everything goes better...

@ tanya lol, my husband always wants sex when I'm sobbing/runny nose.

MizzDeeDee. Good to see you! Babies that are chubby are ADORABLE!!!

Well howdy back. :wave:


And yeah... chubby babies ARE cute..but she was only in the 55% last time we went in... she is obsessed with weight.

 

[Natsku]

He's not on proper treatment yet but he has his meds with help control his emotions but he went off them yesterday to sort out his daily rhythm (they make him sleepy) and thats why he lost control. When he's on his meds he's ok. (although the best med for him he can't have as its illegal off-prescription and very hard to get a prescription for )

But after yesterday's fight he has been on best behaviour. We are going to see the inlaws again today (he called his dad and told him what happened) as they are trying to help us get help.

I feel like I would be abandoning him when he is just sick if I was to leave him. I wouldn't abandon him if he had cancer so I don't think I should when he has another illness but its so hard to be sure if its right.