Third Time Lucky - Fingers Crossed!!!

[thethomsons]

Thanks Pop - Think its just brought it all back to the start in my head as it's a massive reminder that a few weeks ago I was pregnant and now i'm not. The only thing thats been keeping me going is the thought that we can try again and I feel like the + test has just made me realise we need to wait longer before anything is going to happen. I know that I prob wouldn't even get PG first time but it was hope and that is something to hold onto. The + test stole my hope . I know it will go with time, it's just it seems it prolongs the agony. Not sure if I'm making sense. DH is fab and has said like you that we carry on regardless and wait and see what happens. DH and I are so keen to DTD as we really miss it but are waiting till its ok. Do you think 10 days after D and C will be ok considering bleeding has gone for three days now?

Suppose i'm going to have up days and down. I know that time will pass and we will get back to the start properly but time seems soo slow.

Thanks again, so glad I have you girls, you have helped me more than you know xxx

 

[CherylC3]

Hey ladie show are u doin??

So sorry Elaine it shud be out ur symtom soon hunn....x

Pop tart glad ur hubbys being great...xx

Well spoke to my brother who lives in Brazil and he told me they are coming here to live for a yr in April so I'm really hoping this is my forever baby how good would it be if they were here for the birth as I missed little Valentinas birth in nov as she was born over there...x

 

[Lou15]

Bananas I like the digis too! Love the smiley faces! And as you say, when you work out roughly when you ovulate, you won't need to use so many. Having said that, this last cycle, I used the cheap stick ones and found them to be fine, the change in colour of the line was really obvious, and with them being so cheap, I could use 2 a day! I have definitely heard that you should test late afternoon-ish.

Elaine- so sorry you had a +ve preg test today- as you say, just a kick in the teeth. But bear in mind, AF can easily be about 6 weeks or even a little longer after m/c, so you may well ovulate in a couple of weeks or so. Bear in mind also that HCG in your system can give you a false +ve on an ovulation test, so they may not be too reliable for you this month- maybe just BD every 2-3 days and leave it at that. I think BD-ing on sunday should be fine from a safety point of view.

Dodge- I'm so sorry you have to wait to BD;any sort of delay is so frustrating....but you won't miss your ovulation time will you?

PopTart, sorry and happy at the same time to hear about your good, strong symptoms! Sorry you feel crappy, glad it suggests all is well with your pregnancy! Maybe I will try swimming this weekend too- i also love being in the water.

Mannymoo, how are you getting on this cycle?

Cheryl- have you been sick again at all? Are you managing to eat ok?

AFM, the days are dragging and I feel a bit anxious...being a vet there are just so many potential risks to my baby that it is terrifying me...xrays, heavy lifting, getting kicked by horses and cows, anything to do with sheep, reproductive hormones, steroids, chemotherapy drugs, diseases that spread from animals to people... I don't think I can cope with months of this before I can go on maternity leave! (although listing them all has made me feel a bit better). My symptoms are much the same, still no actual vomiting and managing to eat some things but not others, and very tired. Oh, but my boobs definitely hurt more...Dh says you can always tell I'm pregnant by the fact that I have to hold on to them when I run downstairs!! (although obv not in public!).

I'm thinking of you all, and still dreaming of the day when we all have our babies in our arms xxx

 

[PopTart28]

Evening ladies how are you all, and what have you been up too?

Bananas - I used the cheapie O tests and was told to use mid-late afternoon urine and try to do it at the same time each day so pick a time you can stick too as it helps when you look at the colour comparison when you start getting lines - good luck honey, x

Elaine - You should be fine as you and Lou said by sunday as long as you have definately stopped bleeding if you feel like it then i say why not - enjoy it and I have to say your DH has got it spot on - do what feels right and you never know in a few weeks you may O and a few weeks later who knows, so just relax, look after yourself and have some fun with DH and keep us posted, x

Dodge - I know waiting is sooooooo hard, but try to take your mind off it and keep busy, x

mannymoo - how goes jumping on DH this cycle so far ;-) hope your ok, x

Lou - hahahahaha i have to hold my boobs when i go down the stairs too - that made me lol... Hoping your symptoms stay strong but are also managable with work. Im glad your managing to get and keep some food in you, my doc says if you get into the little and often habit with food and fluids you shouldnt actually be sick as soon or as often but it may only work for some women....
Swimming has worked wonders for my sickness, even if it is only for a few hours afterwards, but at least I can get coursework completed, relax or catch up on sleep in that time.....

AFM - my boobs are still getting bigger and im going to get measured at the weekend as my bras are getting alittle uncomfortable even on the last hoop and with the straps at there longest....DH still loves them ;-)
Ok time to get some more fruitin me as my tummy is making hungry noises....

Love and hugs to you all, xxxxx

 

[Lou15]

Haha PopTart! Glad it's not just me clutching my chest on the stairs! xx

 

[horseypants]

hi ladies. i'd like to join ya if i could. ttc and hoping the third time's the charm.

i'm about to o but for some reason not in the mood and my dear fiance' seems to have caught my bug finally, of not wanting to get it on until after the eggie has gone out of reach! wish me luck, i really thought this cycle or next could be it.

 

[Lou15]

Hi Horsey, good to see you again and you are very welcome to join us...it's proving a very lucky thread! I find if I'm not in the mood but it's time to be getting on with things, if I just pretend really hard that I am, soon I find that I am in the mood very much after all! Hope that makes sense! Good luck, really hope this is your month xxx

 

[thethomsons]

Hi horsey, this forum is a god send, everyone is soo lovely and so supportive. Feel free to vent anytime!
AFM - Well After my depressing + test yesterday Dh and I ended up "consoling" each other which ended up in a brief DTD though Dh didn't go the whole Hogg iykwim!! Anyway today have ended up spotting a bit but thinking a positive thing as obviously still needs to come away before I move on. Feeling a bit more positive today and decided just need to gt on with things and try and see what happens. Wish I had a crystal ball lol.
Sorry if far too much info girls, just wanted to vent xxx

Hope everyone doing ok xxx

 

[Lou15]

Hi Elaine, glad you're feeling a bit better now. I would just see how things go this cycle, not really have any expectations, just see it as an absolute bonus if you do get pregnant, but plan to really properly try next cycle.

How is everyone else doing? Ladies who are trying - can we have updates on cycle days please and when you expect to ovulate as I've lost track a little....and we need to know as soon as you're in the TWW!

Can I ask all the pregnant ladies if you are going to TTD at all while pregnant? I had read it was fine during pregnancy, unless you've miscarried before. Now, with being so unwell 1st pregnancy and so scared 2nd pregnancy, we never did TTD, so that obviously didn't contribute, but I'm just not sure what to do. DH would be fine with not doing it if that's what we need to do, but I don't want to deprive him if it's not necessary. I think we probably won't just to be safe, but just wondering what other people's thoughts are. I can't get an appt with my GP for weeks, and just had a letter through from the obstetrics dept at the hospital to say they had received a referral request from my GP and would be in touch with an appt time 2-8 weeks before the appt takes place- so obviously won't be being seen for at least 2 weeks, so going to have to ask all my questions on here for now!

And what about exercise? Most people say it doesn't contribute to miscarriage at all, but other people seem to say that vigorous exercise could. I'm thinking of sticking to just walking our dog and swimming, but not sure how far to take it....do I try as hard as I normally would? Do I go slowly? Sorry this probably sounds a stupid question, but I'd like to stay as fit as I can without taking any risks.

Well, I've been feeling particularly sick yesterday evening and this morning, and just did another pregnancy test and got and instant, dark line, so I'm hoping things are all good just now. Don't think I'm going to be able to stop taking tests until my first scan and goodness knows when that will be based on that letter from the hospital!

Thinking of everyone and sending lots of love xx

 

[CherylC3]

Hey ladies :wave: don't hav time to catch up the now really busy will catch up properly tomoro... Hope you are all we'll... Hey horsey welcome here?..xxx

Got my 4wk hcg level result its 465 going back on thurs for more bloods hope its rising ...xx

 

[mannymoo]

Hi ladies. Sorry for my silence but we're on holiday in the mountains with heavy snow and No power and very little signal but back in the real world tomorrow night. X

 

[PopTart28]

Hey lovery ladies I hope you are all well and enjoying your weekends.

Just a quick one as its lovely outside, but i have a good update for you all which i will post later...

Hi Horsey, you are more than welcome to join us and anything you are thinking about or worrying or just fancy sharing or getting off your chest - just go for it and we will do our best to help you out ok

Lou - I asked the same questions you have so I hope the following helps you feel alittle better....
I know how you feel - its a pain to get in with my GP too due to the high numbers of oldies living round me but once i got in to confirm i was pg again its become much easier which is nice so i hopw it works that way for you too...

In regards to DTD whilst pg - on all three occasions ive been in with a + test all docs and now my midwife (see interesting update for later) have all told me the following in regards to sex and exercise so here goes...

There is NO evidence or proof that sexx during any stage of pregnancie has anything to do with your chances of having a mc........obviously it gets harder the bigger your bump gets but there is NO link to sex during pg and mc's....so as long as you feel like it (with the sickness and dizzyness) then its fine to DTD - i have with this one and after my last + test but we didnt after the first + so there is no pattern and its presonal preference really - if you want to then its not going to make your chances of another mc any higher - it will however be alot more intense and make you and DH closer as you have made your baby and can just enjoy it - thats what we found anyway....

With exercise - right i was told the following:
If you are not used to regular exercise like joggingg then this it NOT the time to start........stick with walking, swimming, yoga, pilates, aqua classes for pg ladies etc - those low impact steady exercises, you should go at whatever pace is comfortable to you because as long as you are up and morving and getting the blodd flowing you have no need to 'push' yourself any harder than whats comfortable.....
Enjoy steady,low impact things and look after yourself as your body is already doing soooo much more than it normally is just by growing your little jelly bean inside you so you shouldt be putting it under any aditional stress with hard exercise....

You will also be able to check with your midwife as the appoinments go further through your pg and she will be able to tell you if and how you can up your exercise if you want too.

Dont worry about things too much, and if you need anything else just let me know and ill give mine a call and check for you untill you get to meet with your own midwife if you want me too ok...
I d rather have you feeling ok and not worrying about things ok. I know how it plays on your mind when you cant get in to see anybody to ask...

Also it took me a while to feel happy about not proving im still pg with the dipstick testing, so i wouldnt worry Lou, just try to not do them everyday and wean yourself off them to maybe every 3 days if you can it will start to make you more confident about actually being pg. Otherwise it could become alittle bit of a bad obsession and you dont need too now - YOU ARE PG and should be starting to enjoy this, try to htink positively about this time and you will find you wont need to see that line anymore.

Right as i said an interseting update from me later but want to get out in the sunshine and spend tome more time with hubby

Sending love and hugs to you all and hope to hear good updates from you all soon, x

Pg buddies how go the symptoms etc and TTC ladies how are the cycles looking so far this month.....???

Looking forward to hearing how your all getting on, xxxxx

 

[dodgercpkl]

I'm sorry I've been so quiet. I've been trying to get myself out and about more. lol I did a bunch of bloodwork yesterday and have been getting the results trickling in slowly. I'm still waiting for 8 more results which include several of the miscarriage testing stuff. We sent out the day before for 23andme genetics testing and I can't wait to get our kits in the mail! We know that I have homozygous C677T MTHFR mutation, but I was never tested for the other 2 variants and my husband hasn't been tested at all. This test will test for those as well as a ton of other things! The package is now just a 20-30 min drive away from me, so I'm hoping it will get processed and to my house today!

lol It probably seems silly to be so excited, but somehow I do find it kind of fascinating. I feel like when I found out about the MTHFR, I found out about a weak part of the foundation of me, but I also found out that it's something that I can fix by myself without drugs and that it will probably help with a LOT of other little things in my life. There are a bunch of genes that are also tested on this that are involved in similar ways to MTHFR, so I'm looking forward to getting a much better picture of how my body works.

Horsey - *hugs* Glad to have you on this thread too! We are becoming quite the thread buddies!

Lou, Cheryl and Pop - how are things going with you ladies? PMA as much as possible!

How is everyone else doing?

 

[thethomsons]

Pop Tart - Looking forward to hearing your update later! Hope you enjoyed the sun, was such s nice day today!
Dodger - Glad you are getting to the bottom of things, hope you are doing ok.
Everyone else - How are you today, think everyone is out enjoying the sun hence it being bit quieter!

AFM - Well DH and I decided to start TTC again today, well not exactly TTC but not prevent IYKWIM! I did an ovulation test today and there was only one line visible really, the other was so faint could hardly see it. I dont have any PG internet cheapies so cant monitor where im at with positive yet but going by the OV test being much weaker I can only assume this means PG test would be less too. Do you think that is right? Next week I will get delivery of some pg cheapies so that I can monitor PG so that it goes to negative. Do you think you would need to have a negative PG test before you got a positive OPK?

QUite enjoying just having bit of fun with DH and who knows what might happen. Passes the time till AF comes if nothing else!

Oh ordered a thermometer as thought might try taking temp, anyone able to explain what I do as have no idea! Thought was worth a shot!

Thanks again girls xxx

 

[PopTart28]

Evening lovely ladies,

I hope this finds you all well. Ive had such a lovely day with DH today we got loads done and now ive totally run out of steam..

Sorry ladies but I will write and post my update in the morning for you all...

Right bed tim or I will be useless tomorrow ;-)

Nighty night, xxx

 

[dodgercpkl]

Elaine - That's great that you are having fun with DH! I think that's so important. As for the OPK's, I don't have a clear answer, but I've heard from other ladies that it will show if you are pregnant so it's probably a good sign.

I'm doing pretty good at the moment. It definitely helps to have projects to work on though. lol Time seems to be going sooooooo slow the last couple of cycles.

For the best BBT results you should take your temp at the same time in the morning immediately after waking up and before getting out of bed or moving (any more then necessary). You want to make sure that you've had at least 3 hours of solid sleep. I will also say that if you can't temp at the same time of day every day it can still work, but you definitely need to make sure that you are temping after 3 solid hours of sleep. I sleep like crap often and when I started temping I was working swing shifts, so I never temp at the same time. By following the 3 hour rule, I've still been able to get clear results from temping.

 

[Lou15]

Morning ladies! Not looking to be such a sunny one here where I am sadly!

PopTart! You can't tell us you have an exciting update and then not tell us what it is!!! You've got us all wondering! But I fear it's probably because you were so busy kindly answering my questions to have time for your update, which I very much appreciate, and so I do apologise to the other ladies out there! Thanks so very much for your answers to my questions PopTart, sets my mind at ease re TTD and exercise, great to know you are there to help in these matters. I know it's a little obsessive, but at 5 weeks 2d today I did another clearblue digi and was sooo relieved to get the 'pregnant 3+'. I googled it and apparently this indicates hCG of over 2000, so I feel much more relaxed about things now. I promise I'll stop testing so much now! Certainly I am not going to do any more clearblue digis because the other important thing I read today is that when your hCG gets really high it can completely overwhelm the test so you could end up reading lower on it and panicking!

Dodge- I know what you mean about time dragging by....never known it go so slowly as when I've been TTC, and then again in early pregnancy, as the days drag by and all you want is for your scan day to come round! Glad you are feeling positive about your testing, and I hope you get some useful information from it for helping your next bean to stick xx

MannyMoo- glad you are away having a nice time and am amazed you managed to update us at all- very impressive!

Elaine- yes I think a weaker ovulation test result would indicate lower hCG, so all good for you there! I think hCG does have to be really, really low before you will ovulate. Enjoy having some fun in the meantime!

I am thinking of you all, wherever you may be in pregnancy/ your cycle, and wishing you all well. Lots of love xx

 

[PopTart28]

Right are you ladies ready for this - its time for a proper update on whats been going on with me....

So on friday DH and I went for our first midwife appointment!!! YAY!

As DH is on holidays he wasnt going to miss it, so after lots of people saying the first app is for them to justask you loads of questions and it would'nt be a long appointment, both DH and I were pleasently surprised when we left after being in there for over an hour! (plus it was like a thousand degrees in that office and i was very close to being sick )

We are both sooooo happy to have met my senior midwife and also a second year student midwife as well, the student did all the talking during the app and the senior midwife was there to help if needed...
They were both absolutely fantastic, not only did they get all our info for my detail forms but answered all the questions we both had as well as giving great advice to us and were very good about my concerns and being nervous etc due to my history with being pg twice before...

We got loads of information and it was all relevant and interesting which was brilliant. Due to it being a friday they only checked my blood pressure, height and weight - nice to see they were all fine
So we have to go back on wednesday to have blood taken and give in a urine sample - DH is coming with me as ive been very sicky lately and dizzy on and off through the day and I dont want to faint while im there....

Anyway thats not the best bit - they asked how i was feeling about things a few times and I struggled to get across with words what was going on in my head in regards to how im feeling about this pg after 2 mc's which was starting to really frustrate me, on my final attempt at explaining things I managed to portray just how nervous and anxious I have been but am really trying to relax more...whilst i was explaining this to my student midwife the senior midwife had taken my blood pressure and then said so how do you feel about having to wait till 11-12 weeks for a scan.....
to this she didnt need any words as she had seen the look on my face change and my body language change....I did say even if it didnt show me much it would make me feel a whole lot better to know and prove to myself that things are at least progressing the way they should be(instead of just checking i still get a line on a test or still have sypmtoms) I would like to enjoy being pg and not be constantly monitoring things to prove i still am....to which she said she completely understood and picked up the phone while Clare(student MW) continued to put my mind alittle more at rest...

I then overheard the nicest words being said into the phone after hearing her give over all my basic details and my mc history and how many weeks I was then after alittle pause i heard this.....'ok so thats booked for tuesday at 10:30'....OMG OMG OMG OMG OMG !!!!!!!!

So she put the phone down turned and smiled at the relieved look on my face and confirmed I have a scan booked for this tuesday at 10:30 at the hospital of my choice(that id choosen earlier) so all that about 'oh you have to book in advance or go private' i had been told before - what a load of rubbish you just need an understanding and exeptional midwife on your side....I was amazed that she had even tryed to book it, let alone got us an appointment and for only 4days later...BLOODY BRILLIANT STUFF!!!!!

Also Clare started to inform us about what she needed to get done in her second year at uni and how her helping could benefit us....at this point I said i knew what she was going to ask us (you wont know this but im currently doing my access course to go to uni next year to become a midwife myself, so know all about what each year of the uni course involves) and just said i would love to help her complete her 2nd year and become one of her case studies - which means she will be there for me every step of the way and as DH is away alot she has given me her personal mobile number to call if i need her and she even said she would help me with my coursework if i needed it - HOW SWEET IS SHE - and the senior MW is also awesome and i feel very lucky to have two amazingly understanding MW's looking after us....Clare will even be at the hospital for the scan to answer any questions properly as the person doing the scan may not have enough time to make sure we are ok and answer any questions we may have..

So DH and i are very excited for tuesday and he is also starting to relax about things too now which is nice...he is still loving my huge boobs and how ive started to get the smallest hint of a bump but to everyone else it looks like ive eaten too much and have abloat on but we have our little secret noone else knows about (well apart from you lovely ladies and our doc and my midwifes) its been a brilliant week and we have also booked a relaxing, romantic week away in wales (we do it every year and take the woofs) which we are really looking forward too.

Plus we have finally made the discision to put our house up for sale as soon as the front garden is complete and move closer to family, friends and DH's work well his UK base when he's not abroard that is. Which will be just amazing so im not stuck a 3hour drive away from family and friends alone with a big bump then a baby while DH is away

So lots and lots happening al for the best and it takes my mind off all the worrying about this pg and i can start to enjoy things - well as long as the scan confirms things are going well that is - so we shall wait and see, thankfully I dont have to wait long to check up on my little jelly bean as i think that would be a real killer and i would drive both you all and my DH mad counting down the days so as you can tell Im really happy i now only have to wait less than 2 days...YAY, x

Oh and i got bonus points as i changed my exercise from jogging and 2x walking the woofs a day to now swimming and walking the woofs twice a day - they were very pleased I had already made that change as its the best change i could have made and is much better for me and mini me, so you bump buddies - go steady and look after yourselves and your MW will love you for it when you get to meet her...

Right enough waffle from an over excited me, and I hope you are all doing well and making the most of your weekends weather you are spending time with DH's or jumping on them ;-) im sending you all lots of positive thoughts, love and hugs and will catch up soon, xxxxxxx

 

[dodgercpkl]

Wow!! That's awesome! I can't wait to hear how your scan goes on Tuesday! *hugs* I'm so glad you had such an awesome experience!

 

[Lou15]

All sounds brilliant PopTart, I'm looking forward to hearing how your scan goes too. So glad you're getting looked after xx