loveinbinary
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I came home from work, caught up on all the missed posts... and then fell asleep lol. Now I had to go back and catch up all over again.
ready, just because you may be out of town around your peak days doesn't rule you out for the month. If you get plenty of bd in before and after your trip there is still a good chance of catching the egg. I'm sorry to hear you and dh were having a 'discussion' via email. You know, sometimes I think men just shouldn't think, or at least not think about certain things, it would just be better if they didn't lol. Your sex life is routine, welcome to being married. Mine isn't exactly hot and spicy either. If this is upsetting him I think the two of you ought to have a sit down and discuss it seriously. He must realize that in order to conceive there has to be regular bd'ing, though you should try not to lose sight of the fun in making a baby. Routine goes both ways, it's not solely your responsibility to make sure your sex life is exciting, he can take a step forward and try to spice it up when he feels it's becoming too routine. It's just my opinion, but a month of ntnp might do you some good, help you get in touch with each other and allow you to enjoy sex with each other just for the sake of doing it not focusing so much on whether or not it was successful. Again, it's just my opinion but I think that's what helped me get my bfp. Dh and I just did it for the sheer want of it, and that made us want even more which seemed to have been the trick.
ny, we've already concluded that you're nuts. Welcome to ttc/bfp. We're all nuts here, that why we are such good friends. I know exactly how frightening it is to pass a clot. I passed a large one at 10 weeks and swore it was the baby. I'm so sorry you had to experience that. I do think you'll be much better off once your doppler arrives, but I agree that perhaps you ought to look into some sort of counseling. It seems like you are having a very rough time handling this pregnancy after such a traumatic loss. Of course we are here to listen and offer support, but I think talking to a professional may help you work through your previous loss and allow you to handle this pregnancy better. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you or that you don't love this baby, some of us just need a little more help. I know I will be seeking out some sort of therapy in the coming days as I have a feeling post natal depression is going to wreck me.
ready, just because you may be out of town around your peak days doesn't rule you out for the month. If you get plenty of bd in before and after your trip there is still a good chance of catching the egg. I'm sorry to hear you and dh were having a 'discussion' via email. You know, sometimes I think men just shouldn't think, or at least not think about certain things, it would just be better if they didn't lol. Your sex life is routine, welcome to being married. Mine isn't exactly hot and spicy either. If this is upsetting him I think the two of you ought to have a sit down and discuss it seriously. He must realize that in order to conceive there has to be regular bd'ing, though you should try not to lose sight of the fun in making a baby. Routine goes both ways, it's not solely your responsibility to make sure your sex life is exciting, he can take a step forward and try to spice it up when he feels it's becoming too routine. It's just my opinion, but a month of ntnp might do you some good, help you get in touch with each other and allow you to enjoy sex with each other just for the sake of doing it not focusing so much on whether or not it was successful. Again, it's just my opinion but I think that's what helped me get my bfp. Dh and I just did it for the sheer want of it, and that made us want even more which seemed to have been the trick.
ny, we've already concluded that you're nuts. Welcome to ttc/bfp. We're all nuts here, that why we are such good friends. I know exactly how frightening it is to pass a clot. I passed a large one at 10 weeks and swore it was the baby. I'm so sorry you had to experience that. I do think you'll be much better off once your doppler arrives, but I agree that perhaps you ought to look into some sort of counseling. It seems like you are having a very rough time handling this pregnancy after such a traumatic loss. Of course we are here to listen and offer support, but I think talking to a professional may help you work through your previous loss and allow you to handle this pregnancy better. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong with you or that you don't love this baby, some of us just need a little more help. I know I will be seeking out some sort of therapy in the coming days as I have a feeling post natal depression is going to wreck me.
lemme see how crazy I feel after 12 weeks and then yes ill think about it. I do think I need it a little because I realized I'm kind of going nuts in a few ways. I am more worried about everything to do with my daughter and bringing a baby into a world that I am afraid of. My fear of losing my children or bad huge happening is becoming frequent thoughts. Who knows where this anxiety is stemming from but probably where the professional can help! 
It'll get better. 
lets pray to GOD they stop this fire 
They are just so needy aren't they? 
hahaha. When we need to vent about them, clearly we don't have the best things to say about them. It really is a hard topic to discuss ready, I've been there several several times. With my dh the problem is he doesn't initiate things... Ever. Only once in a great while. At some point I just sort of give up because I'm tired of always trying. By the time he's ready to go, I'm not because I haven't had the time to become physically aroused you know? It's a battle but talking about it is the only way anything improves. 
