Thread for TTC#1 12months+

[Courttasitic]

Hi Everyone,

I'm new and have actually never posted in any forum before but... today is a hard day and I needed somewhere to talk. Today in cd1 of our 20th cycle and as you can imagine my heart is broken... again. As far as testing and the like go, DH's SA looked good, not great, but nothing to draw alarm and I ovulate just fine with a 32 day cycle and 14 day LP. We're still not prepared to see a specialist for many reasons (mostly financial). Other than that, we've tried timing, just going with the flow, every other day, everyday around O, etc... all the things "normal couples" do and get pregnant in 10 seconds flat. Pardon my sarcasm but when you hear my position, maybe you'll understand my attitude.

In the time that DH and I have been trying, both of my brothers accidentally got their girlfriends pregnant and both of DH's brothers' wives have gotten pregnant... both making sure to note that it happened the very first weekend they ever thought about trying. They seemed to think it was just as frustrated as our having trouble, "We were hoping it would take a few months, we're so not prepared... blah blah blah." Even worse, DH's grandma persists on asking when we'll have kids then apologizes for forgetting, while her husband insists on coming up to us at church and praying loudly for "God to open my womb" EVERY.SINGLE. SERVICE. I feel like screaming!

This month is particularly hard because I'm starting a new job after not having worked for a long time. We're lucky that we don't need a second income and DH and I had decided that I wouldn't work and I would be a SAHM but now I need a job just as a distraction from all the turmoil that is ttc. The job search was actually enjoyably distracting but starting the job almost seems like admitting defeat. We made the decision with the thought that we should at least start exploring the idea of never having kids and now.... now it's actually happening and it's not just an idea to explore but a very real possibility.

Anyway, I just needed to rant a little to people who understand and won't just tell me to relax and let it happen...

 

[Pino6161]

Courtastic It's a rough journey. Our day will come though

 

[Cupcake2012]

Welcome court! Sorry your feeling down. It's rough but I'm sure we will all get there in the end and we can support each other in the meantime!

 

[Cupcake2012]

I have my blood test to check o tomorrow. Fairly sure I did o so hoping its all good!

 

[ttcbabyisom]

Hi Everyone,

I'm new and have actually never posted in any forum before but... today is a hard day and I needed somewhere to talk. Today in cd1 of our 20th cycle and as you can imagine my heart is broken... again. As far as testing and the like go, DH's SA looked good, not great, but nothing to draw alarm and I ovulate just fine with a 32 day cycle and 14 day LP. We're still not prepared to see a specialist for many reasons (mostly financial). Other than that, we've tried timing, just going with the flow, every other day, everyday around O, etc... all the things "normal couples" do and get pregnant in 10 seconds flat. Pardon my sarcasm but when you hear my position, maybe you'll understand my attitude.

In the time that DH and I have been trying, both of my brothers accidentally got their girlfriends pregnant and both of DH's brothers' wives have gotten pregnant... both making sure to note that it happened the very first weekend they ever thought about trying. They seemed to think it was just as frustrated as our having trouble, "We were hoping it would take a few months, we're so not prepared... blah blah blah." Even worse, DH's grandma persists on asking when we'll have kids then apologizes for forgetting, while her husband insists on coming up to us at church and praying loudly for "God to open my womb" EVERY.SINGLE. SERVICE. I feel like screaming!

This month is particularly hard because I'm starting a new job after not having worked for a long time. We're lucky that we don't need a second income and DH and I had decided that I wouldn't work and I would be a SAHM but now I need a job just as a distraction from all the turmoil that is ttc. The job search was actually enjoyably distracting but starting the job almost seems like admitting defeat. We made the decision with the thought that we should at least start exploring the idea of never having kids and now.... now it's actually happening and it's not just an idea to explore but a very real possibility.

Anyway, I just needed to rant a little to people who understand and won't just tell me to relax and let it happen...

Sorry you've having a rough day courttastic. This journey is the most frustrating one I've ever been on and you're totally allowed days like this. Just hang in there and keep on trucking and I just know it will happen for you!

 

[Footiec]

Hi Everyone,

I'm new and have actually never posted in any forum before but... today is a hard day and I needed somewhere to talk. Today in cd1 of our 20th cycle and as you can imagine my heart is broken... again. As far as testing and the like go, DH's SA looked good, not great, but nothing to draw alarm and I ovulate just fine with a 32 day cycle and 14 day LP. We're still not prepared to see a specialist for many reasons (mostly financial). Other than that, we've tried timing, just going with the flow, every other day, everyday around O, etc... all the things "normal couples" do and get pregnant in 10 seconds flat. Pardon my sarcasm but when you hear my position, maybe you'll understand my attitude.

In the time that DH and I have been trying, both of my brothers accidentally got their girlfriends pregnant and both of DH's brothers' wives have gotten pregnant... both making sure to note that it happened the very first weekend they ever thought about trying. They seemed to think it was just as frustrated as our having trouble, "We were hoping it would take a few months, we're so not prepared... blah blah blah." Even worse, DH's grandma persists on asking when we'll have kids then apologizes for forgetting, while her husband insists on coming up to us at church and praying loudly for "God to open my womb" EVERY.SINGLE. SERVICE. I feel like screaming!

This month is particularly hard because I'm starting a new job after not having worked for a long time. We're lucky that we don't need a second income and DH and I had decided that I wouldn't work and I would be a SAHM but now I need a job just as a distraction from all the turmoil that is ttc. The job search was actually enjoyably distracting but starting the job almost seems like admitting defeat. We made the decision with the thought that we should at least start exploring the idea of never having kids and now.... now it's actually happening and it's not just an idea to explore but a very real possibility.

Anyway, I just needed to rant a little to people who understand and won't just tell me to relax and let it happen...

Hi there,
Welcome to the forum, I'm so sorry you're feeling like this. It is a really difficult and frustrating journey! My journey so far is really similar to yours and I just want you to know that I'm here for you if you need to vent or anything else you might want to chat about x
Fingers crossed our BFP's are round the corner x

 

[Eralie]

Just noticed this thread, I'm on 9dpo of cycle 13. Fingers crossed for this month, not getting my hopes up though, feels lke it's never going to happen

 

[PrayingLady]

I know that feeling all too well. Stay hopeful hun!

 

[Eralie]

I really am trying, we had an early mc a few months back, it's hard to stay hope full when everyone around you is pregnant in weeks of trying and here we all are after quite a while and no joy at all

 

[Amelia8083]

I need to learn that not every little twinge I feel has to do with my uterus or ovaries. If I wasn't ttc, I would never notice all the little normal things that I have probably always had. I always think that I feel cramps and twinges but you know what?! Its called GAS and everybody gets it whether they are ttc or not.... its just gas, wth is wrong with me? I'm so fixated on what my body is doing anymore that I am making myself crazy. But I don't know how to stop. What was that little twinge in my side yesterday that I always get after ovulation? probably just a little fart.

 

[cntrygrl]

Welcome Court & Eralie I'm so happy that so many ladies are finding this thread. Pretty much all the original people I knew on BnB have either had their babies or are expecting. We are definitely all here to support each other.

Star-- Haven't heard from you lately how is everything going?

 

[LKCLDC]

Hey guys, Hope all is well and nobody was hit with the weather that we were hit with here in missouri. Ice, and sleet are not fun! LOL.
Anyway, 9 days late on period, haven't taken another test though...oh lordy!
Still praying that the test was wrong.

 

[LKCLDC]

Hi Everyone,

I'm new and have actually never posted in any forum before but... today is a hard day and I needed somewhere to talk. Today in cd1 of our 20th cycle and as you can imagine my heart is broken... again. As far as testing and the like go, DH's SA looked good, not great, but nothing to draw alarm and I ovulate just fine with a 32 day cycle and 14 day LP. We're still not prepared to see a specialist for many reasons (mostly financial). Other than that, we've tried timing, just going with the flow, every other day, everyday around O, etc... all the things "normal couples" do and get pregnant in 10 seconds flat. Pardon my sarcasm but when you hear my position, maybe you'll understand my attitude.

In the time that DH and I have been trying, both of my brothers accidentally got their girlfriends pregnant and both of DH's brothers' wives have gotten pregnant... both making sure to note that it happened the very first weekend they ever thought about trying. They seemed to think it was just as frustrated as our having trouble, "We were hoping it would take a few months, we're so not prepared... blah blah blah." Even worse, DH's grandma persists on asking when we'll have kids then apologizes for forgetting, while her husband insists on coming up to us at church and praying loudly for "God to open my womb" EVERY.SINGLE. SERVICE. I feel like screaming!

This month is particularly hard because I'm starting a new job after not having worked for a long time. We're lucky that we don't need a second income and DH and I had decided that I wouldn't work and I would be a SAHM but now I need a job just as a distraction from all the turmoil that is ttc. The job search was actually enjoyably distracting but starting the job almost seems like admitting defeat. We made the decision with the thought that we should at least start exploring the idea of never having kids and now.... now it's actually happening and it's not just an idea to explore but a very real possibility.

Anyway, I just needed to rant a little to people who understand and won't just tell me to relax and let it happen...

I know how you feel!! My mother in law, and everyone else in the family, continues to ask almost daily wether or not their ever going to get grandchildren...sigh...
We've been trying for over two years and it is frustrating! You are not alone in this though, just remember that!!

 

[Cupcake2012]

I need to learn that not every little twinge I feel has to do with my uterus or ovaries. If I wasn't ttc, I would never notice all the little normal things that I have probably always had. I always think that I feel cramps and twinges but you know what?! Its called GAS and everybody gets it whether they are ttc or not.... its just gas, wth is wrong with me? I'm so fixated on what my body is doing anymore that I am making myself crazy. But I don't know how to stop. What was that little twinge in my side yesterday that I always get after ovulation? probably just a little fart.

Lol! Totally know what you mean. Had cramps this morning, instantly link it to ttc etc and fairly sure it was constipation! Am I right in saying from your chart your 5dpo? Me too!

 

[ttcbabyisom]

I need to learn that not every little twinge I feel has to do with my uterus or ovaries. If I wasn't ttc, I would never notice all the little normal things that I have probably always had. I always think that I feel cramps and twinges but you know what?! Its called GAS and everybody gets it whether they are ttc or not.... its just gas, wth is wrong with me? I'm so fixated on what my body is doing anymore that I am making myself crazy. But I don't know how to stop. What was that little twinge in my side yesterday that I always get after ovulation? probably just a little fart.

Ha! I TOTALLY hear you on this! I think this all the time and just wonder what I did before paying TOO MUCH attention to my body!

 

[ttcbabyisom]

Hey guys, Hope all is well and nobody was hit with the weather that we were hit with here in missouri. Ice, and sleet are not fun! LOL.
Anyway, 9 days late on period, haven't taken another test though...oh lordy!
Still praying that the test was wrong.

We had that crazy weather too! Lots of ice! I made it to work though. It's quiet here today!
I pray your first test was wrong too and still hoping for you!!!

 

[Mrs B.]

Hi to all the newbies

Cntrygrl - I said the same thing the other day, all the people I started out with on the forum have left, and some already have their babies! How are you doing?

LKCLDC - FX, when you testing??

How's everyone doing?

 

[LKCLDC]

Hi to all the newbies

Cntrygrl - I said the same thing the other day, all the people I started out with on the forum have left, and some already have their babies! How are you doing?

LKCLDC - FX, when you testing??

How's everyone doing?

I don't know for sure. I might just wait until my doc. appt on the 28th and see if any has shown up by then...

 

[cntrygrl]

Hi to all the newbies

Cntrygrl - I said the same thing the other day, all the people I started out with on the forum have left, and some already have their babies! How are you doing?

LKCLDC - FX, when you testing??

How's everyone doing?

I'm doing pretty well. My doctor had a skiing accident and I'm not sure when she will be back so I'm seeing a new doctor next month. Currently at 15DPO but my LP is usually around 17 days. Just waiting it out as I don't see much difference between this chart and last months.

 

[Amelia8083]

I need to learn that not every little twinge I feel has to do with my uterus or ovaries. If I wasn't ttc, I would never notice all the little normal things that I have probably always had. I always think that I feel cramps and twinges but you know what?! Its called GAS and everybody gets it whether they are ttc or not.... its just gas, wth is wrong with me? I'm so fixated on what my body is doing anymore that I am making myself crazy. But I don't know how to stop. What was that little twinge in my side yesterday that I always get after ovulation? probably just a little fart.

Lol! Totally know what you mean. Had cramps this morning, instantly link it to ttc etc and fairly sure it was constipation! Am I right in saying from your chart your 5dpo? Me too!

Yes, I am 5 dpo lol We could be 2ww buddies!