I need to keep up with this thread better! There are so many posts I want to respond to but my brain can't remember them all at once.
As for blowjobs... sure there are risks to those, too! Might need to make a new thread for those, though!
I'm not as much surprised that this thread has gotten back on topic, as I am that it never started a huge, heated argument like most hard decision topics on here have. I'm very proud of all of us!
Wanted to point out that the risks of complications from circumcision are much higher than the risks of not circumcising. Remember that not all botched circumcisions are documented or even realized. Lots of guys never know that the problems they have with their penises have anything to do with their circumcisions. Most are especially too embarrassed to talk to anyone about them, too. .2% higher chance for penile cancer is a very insignificant amount, and HIV, well, I think that teaching proper hygiene and condom usage should be fine to prevent that. If I was an uncircumcised guy and I got HIV, I wouldn't blame my mom for not circumcising me, I'd blame myself for being an idiot and having unprotected sex. And I'm still not convinced that there isn't some kind of bias in the studies that show the risk of HIV is higher. At one point, it was said that the risk of HIV was lower in uncircumcised men. Medical studies are in no way 100% accurate at any given point in time.
I definitely think the risks of having to have a circumcision later in life, when it is safer and less likely that too much foreskin will be removed and men can take better painkillers and aren't constantly getting their penises covered in poo like babies are during the healing process, increasing the risk of infection, are definitely preferable over the possibility that something will go wrong with the baby's circumcision and can have lifelong repercussions like a disfigured, dismembered, curved, ugly, hairy, or insensitive penis. These things can affect a man's self-confidence, sexual satisfaction, ability to conceive, as well as their partner's. It can also make it painful for the man or his partner to even have sex. I know thinking about your baby boy growing up and having sex isn't really something you want to do, but it's a reality of life, and I'd hate myself for dooming my son to have any of those problems.
The conversation with the mom that the 13 yr old brother walked in on:
The Chlamydia stastics: I think 305 people in 5 countries is not a very significant amount and the results were most likely biased in some way. I used to work for a company that did health surveys and it is true that the greater the sample, the more accurate the results. 305 is a very small number considering we have what like 7.5 billion people in the world now? I also find it questionable since no other study has shown results anywhere near similar.
My hubby read the first 8 pages or so of the thread (I skipped to a few posts after my first one talking about penises I've known in my lifetime, lol) and after being angry with me for saying sex with him was not fulfilling (which I didn't mean the way he took it, of course! And I should point out that he is the only man that has ever given me an orgasm, so he is definitely the best, even though he will probably never read this post, I feel I should at least mention that so no one else will think I meant what he thought I did), he said he didn't really know why he was reading it anyway as he was already totally fine with our decision not to circumcise. I find it a bit disheartening though that the only words he used to describe the circumcision video were "I guess it was kinda gross." I found it heartbreaking and had to leave the room while he watched it.
I've also asked some (four) adult male friends of mine in the past few days what they thought about it, and they've all told me that they think it is a totally unnecessary operation and shouldn't be done to infants. They are all circumcised. I was totally blown away by their responses. No hesitation, either. Complete and utter shock to hear them say that! Has anyone else brought up the subject with any male friends?