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[amanda111308]

Holy wow sorry for the tmi but this AF is heavier than ever! The past 2 or 3 cycles have been 3 days and super light with no cramps hardly at all. This cycle is painful almost like early labor, and heavy flow. Oddly enough I feel good about this clean out. Me and hubs are in full agreement to bd until out bodies give out this cycle, charting soy isoflavones, soft cups, preseed, opks and temping. I am pulling out the big guns now enough is enough with AF and bfns!!

 

[Nataliek]

@Amanda - You go girl! Get that BFP!!! I would love it if we all got them next month.

@Mrs. W -Thanks, I hope it works too I was worried I wasn't ovulating either but I was, I know it's so worrying when your body goes out of whack. Have you had your hormones checked at the doctor?

 

[3Minions]

Natalie, when is AF supposed to start? You start doing whatever it is you need to do for the IUI as soon as it starts, right?

 

[Smiler79]

Hi girls well I was expecting to wak up to af this morning but nothing so far.

I am going to try and resist the urge to test til Saturday if I can as although last to cycles have been 27 days the previous two were 30 and 31 days so it could just be a longer cycle.

I have been feeling slightly nauseas but I have been putting that down to the virus I have had.

I have got a question though, has anyone suffered from headaches in the first trimester? I have been suffering from awful headaches for the last 5 days and although I have ahad a virus they are not the normal type that I get when I have a virus.

Will keep you all posted with the testing IT is too late to test today as missed fmu as was convinced af would be here and I haven't got any tests. Am going to go and buy some this morning but going to try and hold off til sat as don't think I want disappointment of BFN

Also waiting to hea about a job today that I had the interview for yesterday so cant deal with two lots of disappointment in one day!!! It was only for a job at asda (uk equivalent of walmart) but I really need a job. Howerver I was feeling really rough yesterday with this virus so sdont think interview went very well.


How is everyone else doing today?

Love Sarah xxx

 

[mel28nicole]

Smiler I had 3 headaches straight before I had my BFP. Strangely enough they went away after I tested lol! Good luck to you!

 

[Bumblebee24]

Ohh gosh good luck smiler wat cd are you on. I have everything crossed for you on both counts xx

 

[Nataliek]

@Minions, I am supposed to get AF either tomorrow or Sat. I have wicked PMS this month so I am hoping it gets here soon to put me out of this misery lol. I go in on cycle day 3 for my first follicle ultrasound and bloodwork. Start my injections that day too. EEK. Excited but trying not to let myself get carried away.

@Smiler, My cycle ranges from 28-30 any given month too. I never had headaches I just had BAD pms. I also had a super high cervix, if you check yours. Good luck with the job!! I hope you get a call!!

 

[3Minions]

Natalie, AAAAH! That's right away I'm thinking of you!

 

[Nataliek]

Thanks minions!!! I am going to be doing everything I can to distract myself during the tww!! lol

 

[Mrs W 11]

Good luck smiler! I hope af stays away until you test at the weekend! Fingers crossed.

I haven't had my hormones checked no. I think for now they would say its down to my recent mc and would probably only test after a few months. I'm still bleeding, has been 4 days now. Making me feeling really really stressed. I had a big temp dip yesterday and a big rise today so I'm hoping I've ovulated, but I do have a cold at the moment and it would be early for me to ov. Even if I did ov I doubt I'd get pregnant with all this bleeding going on. Ttc is hard sometimes hey!

to everyone x

 

[3Minions]

Natalie, use some FRERs and hopefully you can knock 4 or 5 days off that 2ww ;-)

 

[mariposa0283]

can i join you ladies? im 7 months post m/c and on my second unmonitored femara cycle, cd 19 and still waiting on O, if i didnt miss it that is. been temping and OPKing but my temps are weird since my sleep has been off the last few days.

im migrating here from another infertility support forum where i got an abundant lack of support when i had a bfn/pms induced meltdown last cycle. i offer nothing but support for others and when i need it im attention seeking. whatever.

anyways, at the end of the cycle, be prepared for another meltdown from me, i'll try to avoid it, but cant make any promises lol.

6 years ttc has to end some time right?

 

[supersherwolf]

can i join you ladies? im 7 months post m/c and on my second unmonitored femara cycle, cd 19 and still waiting on O, if i didnt miss it that is. been temping and OPKing but my temps are weird since my sleep has been off the last few days.

im migrating here from another infertility support forum where i got an abundant lack of support when i had a bfn/pms induced meltdown last cycle. i offer nothing but support for others and when i need it im attention seeking. whatever.

anyways, at the end of the cycle, be prepared for another meltdown from me, i'll try to avoid it, but cant make any promises lol.

6 years ttc has to end some time right?

Hey hun! Welcome to B&B, you'll get nothing but support here! The ladies are wonderful and were all experiencing the same thing. TTC 6 years? Wow, you're very strong. Hopefully a huge is in your near future.

 

[mariposa0283]

determined is more like it lol

the ladies on the "other" forum were nice and supportive for a while... but then all my original ttc buddies went and got knocked up and left me in the dust while i m/c, and all the new ladies in the buddy thread i was in with the originals were just... not so much. they suck. lol

im hoping a bfp is soon, but also incredibly doubtful. kind of hard to remain optimistic after this long, ya know? eh. oh well.

 

[Nataliek]

Hi @Mariposa, this is one of the most supportive threads, I have had quite a few meltdowns on here and everyone has helped me through them so much. We all understand how it can feel so defeating. I find I always get upset about 2 days before AF and then once cycle day 3 rolls around, I start coming around. Are you doing an IUI or just medicated natural cycles?

@minions, the FRER's have never ever worked for me! My eggs must be fashionably delayed making the the trip to my uterus lol. When I got pregnant with my 7 year old, I was a day late. I actually thought I had AF when it was implantation. In 2012 I was a day late. I tested the night my period was due and negative. The morning after it still hadn't come and it was positive. My most recent, I started spotting 6 days before AF and then never stopped, I never got a positive test just bloodwork was positive. Who knows why I can't get an early positive!

 

[Nataliek]

@Mrs. W, what cycle day are you on again? I periodically get breakthrough bleeding, I thought it was a progesterone or hormonal issue but apparently that's all fine. I hate it when they say its all fine, when clearly something causes it!

 

[mariposa0283]

Hi @Mariposa, this is one of the most supportive threads, I have had quite a few meltdowns on here and everyone has helped me through them so much. We all understand how it can feel so defeating. I find I always get upset about 2 days before AF and then once cycle day 3 rolls around, I start coming around. Are you doing an IUI or just medicated natural cycles?

right now im just doing unmonitored femara while we save up to start more inject/iui cycles.

glad to hear that the ladies here are actually supportive during meltdowns, because when they all kicked me when i was down on the other forum, it stung.. it was the absolute last thing i needed. one even told me "if your depression is this bad, a baby wont fix it" uh.... you have no idea lady! obviously a baby isnt going to stop me from getting depressed for the rest of my life, but a bfp sure wouldnt have made me have a freaking meltdown! cripes lol

then i apologized to them all for my actions and two more come in and tell me how im a terrible person AFTER my apology. couldnt do it in private messages. nope, had to publicly shame me. thanks girls... you rock! *sarcasm*

hoping i can truly get the support i need from you ladies here! so far so good, but im still technically just a wee baby here. fare warning, i am a relatively pessimistic person. its something ive struggled with all my life. so bear with me please when i get in one of my moods!

 

[Smiler79]

HI MAriposa

Welcome to this thread. IT is an amazing group of ladies who are sooooooo supportive. Even the ladies who already have their miracle bfps still pop in to check how we are all doing and to offer support.

Please don't worry about having meltdowns. I have one on a monthly basis!!! About to have another one so please wait for it!!

As for me ladies I had a double horrible whammy yesterday. Got a call from asda to say I had done really well in interview but then they went on to offer me shift that didn't fir around my availaibitiy at all so no job Then a arrived with avengance yesterday evening

This is on top of my three year old being hit in the face by a much older chld on Monday at our local soft play area and being left woth a nasty black eye. All in all it has been a crappy week. Wanted to get away and do something fun woth my little monkey today but the weather is awful and everything indoors costs money I just don't have xx


Sorry for the rant xxxx

 

[Mrs W 11]

Sorry af arrived smiler I find the older kids can be so rough at soft play sometimes and I know they are just having fun but they don't notice the little ones. My little girl often gets knocked and bashed when we go and she's so sensitive and sorry about the job, I hope march brings better news for you xx

Welcome mariposa. I've been on bnb for over 3 years now since ttc my dd and have some some really supportive threads. I must admit, some more so than others, this is a great one, the ladies are lovely. We are all here to listen and offer advice and support. Good luck on your journey, after 6 years I truly hope that bfp is around the corner for you.

Natalie, I'm cd 17 now. I never normally ov until cd19-20 but since I'm temping I'm pretty sure I oved early this cycle, whoop whoop! I had a dark opk 3 days ago and after that they went fainter. My temp then took a big dip and yesterday shot up and again today shot up. I have had a cold but with the way they temps are I still think I did ov, if it stays high tomorrow ff should give me cross hairs right? Anyway having said all that I still don't think I'll get preggo! We dtd plenty but with all the bleeding I don't think my lining would be thick enough. I'm guess its a hormonal issue following my mc. We will see. I've been bleeding on and off for 4 days now, normally only in the evenings though which is odd.

How many days until you think you can test Natalie? X

 

[Nataliek]

@Smiler, I am so sorry you have had such a crummy week!!! You definitely need some R&R. I feel for you and am thinking of you. Vent away if you need to. Have you thought about going to a fertility specialist? I found it really gave me piece of mind and gave me a sense of control about the whole situation.

@Mrs W, it is probably your hormones for sure. I typically spot around the time I O and it has gotten worse since my loss in 2012. I think there are so many factors that can cause it and it's hard to pinpoint exactly what it is. Stay positive over these next two weeks! I start my shots on Sunday and if all goes according to my O schedule this month, I should have the IUI done around the 14th or 15th.

@Mariposa, don't worry, we are all here for support and no one will judge you. Vent away as much as you need to.