Trying before AF?

[mummy2o]

Wow lots of new people. Welcome to you all.

Emmy: Sorry you didn't ovulate this month Feb isn't that long to wait, well maybe a little. But hopefully you'll soon get a BFP shortly afterwards.

Sophia: Sorry you have the flu. Everyone in my household has had some kind of form of it. Its not fun.

AFM I have had a month off tracking anything. I have no idea where I am in my cycle as my cycles are still a bit off since the mc. We have been DTD when we felt like it and overall its been a good month. Nice to just have a break a focus on Christmas shopping.

 

[xxemmyxx]

Have you been told to not TTC while waiting to see the specialist? My doctor said he'd refer me to a specialist due to my 3 miscarriages once this current loss has been sorted. I'm really afraid I'll be told to wait and I just don't want to. As much as I want to find out why I have lost 3 babies I would be willing to put off seeing a specialist because I'm super anxious to try again.

I think cus my problem is ovulation based they might just try clomid or something first, I know another lady on here had recurrent mc and they asked her to wait 3 months while they tested her, it was tough but now she is 11weeks pregnant. Ttc is so hard sometimes and seems to take forever but we have to stay positive I havnt been told to stop trying yet but will keep you updated, the first appointment is the sperm analysis with my partner, they won't see me unless he has that first...

I think I wouldn't mind waiting the 3 months during testing but over here it takes so incredibly long to see the specialist in the first place that it could be 6 to 9 months before I ttc. So yeah, I think I'd plan on TTC until the specialist told me not to and just hope that if I get my BFP before that time that the baby will be my forever rainbow.

All of my babies were lost at different stages (12 weeks, 9 weeks and 6 weeks) so I'm hopeful that it was just a string of bad luck.

Good luck with your appointments.

Sometimes life can be so cruel! Sorry for your losses, hopefully it was just really bad luck, I wud do the same and ttc until your told not to, good luck xx

 

[xxemmyxx]

Wow lots of new people. Welcome to you all.

Emmy: Sorry you didn't ovulate this month Feb isn't that long to wait, well maybe a little. But hopefully you'll soon get a BFP shortly afterwards.

Sophia: Sorry you have the flu. Everyone in my household has had some kind of form of it. Its not fun.

AFM I have had a month off tracking anything. I have no idea where I am in my cycle as my cycles are still a bit off since the mc. We have been DTD when we felt like it and overall its been a good month. Nice to just have a break a focus on Christmas shopping.

Glad to hear you have had a little ore fun this month, it is better when you have Xmas to keep your mind off things! I'm planning my engagement party in the new year (the engagement is a big thing in my partners culture) so hopefully that will keep me distracted xx

 

[mummy2o]

Sounds great emmy. Bet your looking forward to it. My OH doesn't want to get engaged until his devorce from his ex is finalised. It makes sense but his ex is being a complete idiot about it. For a start his ex fired his solicitor and won't get a new one, refuses to talk to ours and the ironic thing I don't get he still finds time to see my OH dad every week. OH needs to start the court proceedings next week if he doesn't answer by Wednesday so all fun. On top of that I caught my sons sickness bug so been in bed for the last 24 hours and haven't had anything kept down.

 

[xxemmyxx]

Sounds great emmy. Bet your looking forward to it. My OH doesn't want to get engaged until his devorce from his ex is finalised. It makes sense but his ex is being a complete idiot about it. For a start his ex fired his solicitor and won't get a new one, refuses to talk to ours and the ironic thing I don't get he still finds time to see my OH dad every week. OH needs to start the court proceedings next week if he doesn't answer by Wednesday so all fun. On top of that I caught my sons sickness bug so been in bed for the last 24 hours and haven't had anything kept down.

Oh god divorce sounds messy! That must be tough on u! hope u feel better soon

 

[whigfield]

Thank you everyone.. And oh! I remember you Sophia. Sorry you have to be here too.

I don't have any clomid left so I will have to see what the fertility specialist says. I am being re-referred in January so probably won't be seen until at least February.

I go for a D&C Monday.. Has anyone here had one? What is it like? I'm mostly worried about the anaesthesia part. I have also asked for the baby's remains so I can get them privately cremated.

 

[mummy2o]

I hope your D&C went on yesterday whigfield. But hopefully your on the mend now. I think I'd be terrified having a D&C as I panic way to much and would be a complete mess, so luckily for myself I miscarried naturally even if it was in two parts.

AFM still feel terrible. Yesterday I thought I was better, no stomach ache, no sickness, no runs, but today its all come back with a vengeance Hopefully be over by Christmas or when AF shows up in 3 days. Sooner rather than later would be nice.

How is everyone?

 

[xxemmyxx]

I hope your D&C went on yesterday whigfield. But hopefully your on the mend now. I think I'd be terrified having a D&C as I panic way to much and would be a complete mess, so luckily for myself I miscarried naturally even if it was in two parts.

AFM still feel terrible. Yesterday I thought I was better, no stomach ache, no sickness, no runs, but today its all come back with a vengeance Hopefully be over by Christmas or when AF shows up in 3 days. Sooner rather than later would be nice.

How is everyone?

U sure its not symptoms? Or r u just ill? Hope u feel better soon xx

Last night in bed I cried so hard all over my OH, snot and all sorts! Probably the worst I have felt since miscarriage. At least when I miscarried I had some hope I would be pregnant again soon, now with every month that goes by I get more and more depressed. Annoying thing is its probably so simple to fix it. I'm going back to the doctors, I thought I would give it one more natural cycle to see what happens and I still didn't ovulate so I'm going to go back on the pill, take my mind off it for 2 months, plan my engagement party and then in march I will start ttc again...maybe I will be feeling happier after a break, feel sorry for OH I'm being so miserable boooooo hooooooo pity party

 

[vietmamsie]

emmy - ttc is tough. I had no idea it would be like this for us. I thought for sure I would be pg by now... Now it's coming up on one year of trying... Emotionally I'm a wreck. However, this month has been a ray of hope. We're on a "Break" which has just made me not stress as much about the whole thing. I feel like I have my life back this month. I've been going out, drinking, having fun, working out and running again, all things I put on hold when we started trying. I hope a break will do good for you as well.

 

[xxemmyxx]

emmy - ttc is tough. I had no idea it would be like this for us. I thought for sure I would be pg by now... Now it's coming up on one year of trying... Emotionally I'm a wreck. However, this month has been a ray of hope. We're on a "Break" which has just made me not stress as much about the whole thing. I feel like I have my life back this month. I've been going out, drinking, having fun, working out and running again, all things I put on hold when we started trying. I hope a break will do good for you as well.

That sounds so lovely! Every month I say I'm going to relax but I never do, hopefully it will work this time xx

 

[flapjack10]

I hope your D&C went on yesterday whigfield. But hopefully your on the mend now. I think I'd be terrified having a D&C as I panic way to much and would be a complete mess, so luckily for myself I miscarried naturally even if it was in two parts.

AFM still feel terrible. Yesterday I thought I was better, no stomach ache, no sickness, no runs, but today its all come back with a vengeance Hopefully be over by Christmas or when AF shows up in 3 days. Sooner rather than later would be nice.

How is everyone?

U sure its not symptoms? Or r u just ill? Hope u feel better soon xx

Last night in bed I cried so hard all over my OH, snot and all sorts! Probably the worst I have felt since miscarriage. At least when I miscarried I had some hope I would be pregnant again soon, now with every month that goes by I get more and more depressed. Annoying thing is its probably so simple to fix it. I'm going back to the doctors, I thought I would give it one more natural cycle to see what happens and I still didn't ovulate so I'm going to go back on the pill, take my mind off it for 2 months, plan my engagement party and then in march I will start ttc again...maybe I will be feeling happier after a break, feel sorry for OH I'm being so miserable boooooo hooooooo pity party

Oh my love. I am so sorry you're finding it tough I had really tough times too sometimes a while after the miscarriage had happened rather than when it happened. Grief is a strange thing and it effects us all differently. Deffo go see the doctor again and get some advice. I really wish you all the luck in the world, and your OH is there for you to be miserable at - that's his job. Hope you feel better soon and enjoy party planning.

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[xxemmyxx]

I hope your D&C went on yesterday whigfield. But hopefully your on the mend now. I think I'd be terrified having a D&C as I panic way to much and would be a complete mess, so luckily for myself I miscarried naturally even if it was in two parts.

AFM still feel terrible. Yesterday I thought I was better, no stomach ache, no sickness, no runs, but today its all come back with a vengeance Hopefully be over by Christmas or when AF shows up in 3 days. Sooner rather than later would be nice.

How is everyone?

U sure its not symptoms? Or r u just ill? Hope u feel better soon xx

Last night in bed I cried so hard all over my OH, snot and all sorts! Probably the worst I have felt since miscarriage. At least when I miscarried I had some hope I would be pregnant again soon, now with every month that goes by I get more and more depressed. Annoying thing is its probably so simple to fix it. I'm going back to the doctors, I thought I would give it one more natural cycle to see what happens and I still didn't ovulate so I'm going to go back on the pill, take my mind off it for 2 months, plan my engagement party and then in march I will start ttc again...maybe I will be feeling happier after a break, feel sorry for OH I'm being so miserable boooooo hooooooo pity party

Oh my love. I am so sorry you're finding it tough I had really tough times too sometimes a while after the miscarriage had happened rather than when it happened. Grief is a strange thing and it effects us all differently. Deffo go see the doctor again and get some advice. I really wish you all the luck in the world, and your OH is there for you to be miserable at - that's his job. Hope you feel better soon and enjoy party planning.

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Thank you Hun, I didn't wanna make you feel bad, I'm truly so happy for you, 12 weeks wow!! And you have been through so much too! Xx

 

[flapjack10]

I hope your D&C went on yesterday whigfield. But hopefully your on the mend now. I think I'd be terrified having a D&C as I panic way to much and would be a complete mess, so luckily for myself I miscarried naturally even if it was in two parts.

AFM still feel terrible. Yesterday I thought I was better, no stomach ache, no sickness, no runs, but today its all come back with a vengeance Hopefully be over by Christmas or when AF shows up in 3 days. Sooner rather than later would be nice.

How is everyone?

U sure its not symptoms? Or r u just ill? Hope u feel better soon xx

Last night in bed I cried so hard all over my OH, snot and all sorts! Probably the worst I have felt since miscarriage. At least when I miscarried I had some hope I would be pregnant again soon, now with every month that goes by I get more and more depressed. Annoying thing is its probably so simple to fix it. I'm going back to the doctors, I thought I would give it one more natural cycle to see what happens and I still didn't ovulate so I'm going to go back on the pill, take my mind off it for 2 months, plan my engagement party and then in march I will start ttc again...maybe I will be feeling happier after a break, feel sorry for OH I'm being so miserable boooooo hooooooo pity party

Oh my love. I am so sorry you're finding it tough I had really tough times too sometimes a while after the miscarriage had happened rather than when it happened. Grief is a strange thing and it effects us all differently. Deffo go see the doctor again and get some advice. I really wish you all the luck in the world, and your OH is there for you to be miserable at - that's his job. Hope you feel better soon and enjoy party planning.

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Thank you Hun, I didn't wanna make you feel bad, I'm truly so happy for you, 12 weeks wow!! And you have been through so much too! Xx

You could never make me feel bad! I'm still here for you guys- if you want me to be (although I am a bad stalker these days)!

 

[Libbysmum]

Flapjack are you having the nucal translucency scan? I have mine booked for 28th. Got to get the yucky blood work done this week.

 

[flapjack10]

Is that the 12 week scan? They took some measurements of baby and took some blood (have to have blood done again cos NHS messed it up)?

xxx

 

[mummy2o]

Emmy sounds like you do need a break. Besides the engagement party as you said will keep you busy after Christmas. You'll get your appointment soon enough and we'll all be sorted soon.

Viet, I've been doing the same. Just keeping myself busy with other things. I haven't even thought about it and been far more productive than expected.

Flapjack and libby glad you two are doing well. 12 weeks. Bet your getting excited.

AFM I'm finally better. I had that bad winter virus thats going around. My son had it, my mum, my dad even my gran so been through the family. Only person who has been fine is OH. I think AF is coming soon, grumpy as hell.

 

[Starry Night]

Good luck with the scans, libby and flapjack!

AFM - ready to TTC in 2 days but not sure how it will go as been so depressed lately that sex is the last, last thing I could ever want. That alone makes me sad. Normally, DH and I are very lovey-dovey.

 

[xxemmyxx]

Emmy sounds like you do need a break. Besides the engagement party as you said will keep you busy after Christmas. You'll get your appointment soon enough and we'll all be sorted soon.

Viet, I've been doing the same. Just keeping myself busy with other things. I haven't even thought about it and been far more productive than expected.

Flapjack and libby glad you two are doing well. 12 weeks. Bet your getting excited.

AFM I'm finally better. I had that bad winter virus thats going around. My son had it, my mum, my dad even my gran so been through the family. Only person who has been fine is OH. I think AF is coming soon, grumpy as hell.

Glad you are feeling better! That winter vomiting virus has been going around at school yucky! I have terrible pms so I'm in bed so not to cause harm to others around me I didn't ovulate though so who knows how long I shall be waiting for AF! Having loads of watery cm today though, really weird, feels like I wet myself(TMI) so I did a frer just to check and it was bfn, booooooo waaaaaaaa pity

Mummy2o and viets are you going to be doing a test or r u really relaxing and waiting for AF? Wish I cud relax I'm awful!! You two are my idols lol

 

[xxemmyxx]

Good luck with the scans, libby and flapjack!

AFM - ready to TTC in 2 days but not sure how it will go as been so depressed lately that sex is the last, last thing I could ever want. That alone makes me sad. Normally, DH and I are very lovey-dovey.

Starry night I hear you with the sex thing, I still go through phases, sometimes I'm back to myself but other times I just feel miserable so don't want to do anything and then there are those times when I do it just cus I know I should for OH and ttc purposes. I'm going to really try and be more affectionate to OH poor man lol

Good luck with ttc again, once you get into it I'm sure you will feel lovey dovey again x

 

[vietmamsie]

Starry Night: DH and I had sex twice in the cycle after my last MC. TWICE in 37 days. I was just not in the mood. and that's ok. You need to give your mind and body time to heal. You don't have to start ttc right away if you don't feel like your ready.

emmy: PMS?? That's a good sign that SOMETHING is happening in there! Our bodies are so strange. I can't wait til you get in to see that FS and they tell you what's going on. I have a feeling it's going to be an easy fix and you'll be pg by spring.

AFM, I got my cross hairs. I'm 3dpo. I'm a little excited because we've been BDing a lot this cycle and have a good chance. However, I'm not giving myself permission to SS or anything until 10dpo. Then I'm sure I'll start my same old testing crazies.

In the mean time, I have so much going on... Work, Christmas parties, covering shifts this weekend, Christmas, some lovely dinners planned with friends, etc. This is such a busy time, helps to keep my mind off it all.