Trying before AF?

[Nina83]

ArmyWife1984, thank you for sharing.
Can I ask if you also checked your beta levels or just relied on OPK?
When did you start counting your cycle? I started counting mine from the day I had the D&C, even though I know it's not supposed to be.
I think I'll try a HPT next Sunday, hope this will be that last time I'm hoping for a BFN!

 

[ArmyWife1984]

Once my beta levels started dropping, they stopped testing and told me to just wait until bleeding starts. I counted cd1 as the 1st day of my bleeding. I would probably just use cd1 as d&c day and track your ovulation from when things seem cleared out so you can catch the egg!

I bought a huggggeeee pack of opks from amazon for very little. Once my m/c started i never used an hpt, i just considered it as a period and waited until it stopped to start opk testing.

Dating is the only thing my doctor complains about lol. Just meant more utrasounds

 

[Nina83]

My Doctor already thinks we're nuts so it doesn't matter!
I also plan to have an US every other week next pregnancy until week 12 to make sure things are OK in there. I pay enough to the insurance.
I got a beta level of 273 2 days ago, and yesterday the bleeding/spotting stopped. I feel like crap today but don't think that has anything to do with it. It's still CD 12, last cycle I O at 13, and got pregnant. Maybe I'll test tomorrow?
I have a strong feeling this cycle won't be as bezerk as some.
It's so relieving to hear a succes and healthy pregnancy story right after MC!

 

[vietmamsie]

Hi! I'm all for not waiting, especially if your pregnancy didn't last long. I don't see the problem. You're cycles might be off, so don't worry if you don't O a little later this cycle. During the first cycle after my first mc I didn't O at all, but after the last two mc, my cycles were almost normal. Good Luck!

 

[vietmamsie]

I have been wondering where everyone is... pretty quiet around here!

I'll give a short update.... my new "diet" has caused some problems.... cd22 and no O. We aren't really even thinking about ttc right anyways, so it doesn't matter. Just got an AMAZING job for next year and am so excited for it! Not really the time to get knocked up! Maybe everything is falling into place and those other babies just weren't meant to be??

As my due dates come and pass, I feel so sad, yet relieved at the same time. Really mixed feelings. I feel almost like I've thought and fantasied about having a child so much that the whole thing has just lost it's appeal? One too many miscarriages will wreck it I guess!

 

[xxemmyxx]

We are all for tring before AF in this group lol! Nothing to indicate it will hurt really and so much conflicting advice from the docs I really think its your body and just do what feels right for you. Having sex with my partner again after mc was both emotional and healing at the same time. One thing I will say is that I went a bit crazy with the ttc after mc. Like you said, being pregnant is such an amazing feeling and I would of sold my soul to feel it again. My body did the craziest stuff after mc, literally nothing was normal so that made me think I was pregs everyday for about 6 months, vey expensive in hpt's I tell you!
I have chilled out now and come to terms with the fact it's not happening easily for me, nearly a year since I got my BFP and my body is still doing crazy things the saddest of which is no ovulation for example I'm cd20 right now and I have horrible cramps and my boobs are soooooo painful, things that never used to happen before so I spent a long time convincing myself I was pregnant, now I'm just annoyed my body is so weird.
So really what I'm saying is take time to look after yourself, try and relax and enjoy life, don't let this become everything. (Easier said than done i know!)
And good luck xxx

 

[vietmamsie]

Well said Emmy..... I really feel like last year was a total waste. I literally spent 24 hours a day thinking and obsessing over TTC and all for nothing. Time to chill out. Lesson learned.

Well, I finally Oed today on CD 27. Not too bad considering I lost almost 10% of my body weight in the past two months. We totally missed it... were on holiday this week and were either too drunk or too tired to dtd! Oh well.

Hope everyone is doing ok!

 

[xxemmyxx]

Oooo how have you lost so much weight Viets??

Got the second sperm analysis results and they are the same as before, everything good apart from low sperm count. So they have suggested we have ICSI which is where they take my eggs and his sperm and inject it into the egg to fertilise it and then put it back in me.

We are pretty sad, this feels like the beginning of a long journey for us

 

[markswife10]

Hi ladies! Welcome to the new girls! Good luck and I hope you get your BFP's soon!

Sooo, a few days ago I got my ! Praying this is our sticky rainbow baby Stick baby stick!

 

[vietmamsie]

Oh emmy, I'm so sorry. Does NHS pay for this type of treatment or do you have to pay out of pocket? TTC is just so unfair for some of us. I'm so sorry you have to go through all this.

As far as weight loss, I have been on a gluten free vegan 75% raw diet 5 days a week. Lots of fresh veg and fruit, some cooked veg, no white stuff (rice, bread, pasta), lots of home made juice, and smoothies. I have done several juice fasts since March as well. On weekends I try to avoid alcohol, but usually have a drink or two. I also let myself have some treats on weekends, I still want to enjoy life and food!

Markswife10: Whaooo! Hoping this is it for you!

 

[xxemmyxx]

Hi ladies! Welcome to the new girls! Good luck and I hope you get your BFP's soon!

Sooo, a few days ago I got my ! Praying this is our sticky rainbow baby Stick baby stick!

Congratulations sticky baby dust! Xx

 

[xxemmyxx]

Oh emmy, I'm so sorry. Does NHS pay for this type of treatment or do you have to pay out of pocket? TTC is just so unfair for some of us. I'm so sorry you have to go through all this.

As far as weight loss, I have been on a gluten free vegan 75% raw diet 5 days a week. Lots of fresh veg and fruit, some cooked veg, no white stuff (rice, bread, pasta), lots of home made juice, and smoothies. I have done several juice fasts since March as well. On weekends I try to avoid alcohol, but usually have a drink or two. I also let myself have some treats on weekends, I still want to enjoy life and food!

Markswife10: Whaooo! Hoping this is it for you!

NHS pay for it but I don't now exactly what happens yet, to appt on Tuesday with GP to discuss it. Thank you for being sympathetic, the couple of others I have told are making out like its nothing to be upset about but I really think I'm allowed to be upset that this isn't going to be simple for us, I know we will be parents one day but it sucks its not right now!!!
Wow you sound committed, are you trying to loose weight or are you just being healthy? I need to loose weight, that's the next thing that will happen I bet the docs say my bmi is too high for IVF!! Make me wanna eat just thinking about that!!

 

[vietmamsie]

I feel committed! Its really about both, lose some weight and get healthy at the same time. I have heard the PCOS can be weight/fat related and while I wasn't overweight, I have a lot of body fat that needs to be tamed. Feeling good about how I'm looking these days, clothes are all a little looser and just feel good!

 

[jennyb86uk]

Hello ladies! Thought I'd come and check in with you guys. How is everyone? Hows the TTC and wedding planning going? I think I've managed my sticky bean, I'm 20 weeks now, halfway through! Hopefully finding out the sex on thursday.

 

[Nina83]

I'm 3 weeks past the D&C and wanted to start POAS today, seeing as only last Wednesday I got a BFN.
I'm really trying hard not to sound very pathetic here, so here goes.
Friday and Saturday, I got faint second lines on OPK, Temps on Friday were high, Saturday- weren't checked.
Sunday, snow white OPK, major dip in temps. Today, snow white OPK, slight rise in temps.
Wiped some reddish blood through out the day. I was confused frustrated and just plain angry the whole day. What the heck body?
After work I checked into countdown to pregnancy to record the spotting and took a look at previous cycle (the one that ended in pregnancy). My cycle looks pretty much the same this month! I had a dip after ovulation and then a slow climb. If I ovulated on CD 14, like previous, my temps are identical.
I do have some symptoms, but not sure if I'm looking for them or not.
Maybe the dip is implantation dip? like previous cycle? And todays spotting was implantation?

Feb cycle:

https://www.countdowntopregnancy.com/res/img/bbtcharts/mychart-190289-46954.png

April cycle: (I counted D&C as CD1, take a look from CD13)

https://www.countdowntopregnancy.com/res/img/bbtcharts/mychart-209598-15350.png

Again, trying not to get my hopes up that high, but it is a possibility!
How pathetic do I sound?

 

[vietmamsie]

Nina: It sure looks like you ovulated! That's pretty awesome that it was right on time. Looks like you timed BD pretty spot on as well. Just give it a few days and test, hope you get a sticky BFP, but as you know after a miscarriage, it's best not to get your hopes up too high.

 

[mummy2o]

What's been happening with me. OH and I have hopefully sorted out our problems. We sat down and had a long talk about it. My periods are all over the place, just when I thought they were normal. I believe I have PCOS so I have more blood tests thursday and a review with the doctor shortly after. I am also on a diet to fix this. In about 3 weeks I lost 12 pounds. Haven't done a lot of exercise though so going to up it this coming week. Also one of my good friends told me she was 12 weeks, now I'm not 100% if I actually want to see her until she's had the baby. As soon as I got away from her I broke down and cried for ages. Drove home then cried on OH. I guess I wasn't expecting it to be so hard TTC especially when my son was effortless.

 

[vietmamsie]

Mummy: Can totally relate. We are going home to visit family this summer and just found out that both of my husband's best friend's wives are pregnant with number 2. They had number 1 right when we were getting off birth control and thinking about ttc.... I was already had crazy baby brain at that point and was so jealous of them.... I will avoid them at all costs.

Not looking forward to going home and being bombarded with babies and worst of all QUESTIONS ABOUT BABIES. I have decided that the only way for me to deal with it is to be totally open and honest... like I am here in vietnam. However, I think in the US it will be frowned upon. Oh well, you'll get tears and a sob story if you dare bring up fertility/babies/ttc around me. You deserve it for asking stupid question.

 

[Nina83]

Thanks Vetmamsie, but I think AF just showed up.
I have so many questions and no answers.
Would this be considered AF? How do I know or not? It sure feels like it.
If this isn't, and just bleeding still from MC, could I still ovulate?

 

[Emily2630]

Good luck to everyone, I hope it works out. I had a MC in march at 9 weeks, dr recommended waiting 1-2 cycles to allow uterine lining to build but I was impatient and didn't listen. I got BFP 6 weeks after my MC before AF and last that pregnancy less than a week later around 5 weeks. As much as I hate waiting and just want to be pregnant, I think I'm going to take a month off, which will be hard. If it really is a thin uterine lining I don't want to go through all this again if I can avoid it. I'm going to use this minthink or two to try and lose a few pounds too so hopefully that should help as well. Good luck to everyone.