Trying before AF?

[Starry Night]

mummy - I am so sorry. Is there somewhere you can go with your son if OH gets violent again?

 

[vietmamsie]

Exactly!! Thank you! Every month does feel like torture! It's nearly a year since I was last pregnant grrrrrr! I can't wait to see the fertility clinic

I think I'm the only one left that's not pregnant

Don't worry Emmy! I'm not PG either! We're on a bit of break, however I'm still temping and keeping track of my cycles. We're not NOT trying, but not really trying either.

I'm also wondering if my weight might have something to do with the miscarriages. I'm 5'4" and was 136 pounds (62kg) when I found out the baby had died at the end of January. Since the miscarriage I have lost 10 pounds and will try to lose another 10. I read that PCOS and a lot of other fertility problems can be weight related. While I Know I'm not exactly over weight, I have a high body fat percentage and think with diet and exercise I might be able to lose some of it. I'm basically going vegan (already a vegetarian) and doing cycles of raw and juice fasting. So far so good and my cycles are still fine, so I see no harm done so far.

 

[vietmamsie]

When is your appointment? Hope it is coming up soon!

I got my bfp last Thursday so am pretty excited. Trying to stay positive but that is a tough battle sometimes.

WONDERFUL!!!! So happy for you!

 

[vietmamsie]

Don't worry Emmy. I'm not pregnant either unless that one time this month we caught the egg, which is doubtful since we didn't really have sex! Hopefully you'll get some answers soon.

Starry congrats. I hope this one is sticky this time.

AFM I'm just crying my eyes out atm. I think my OH has left me. We had a fight earlier and he got violent so I told him to leave so I'm not sure if he'll come back. He hasn't taken his phone or keys with him so he's left me crying, which is no good since I need to remain positive for my son. Think I'll take him out for lunch I really don't feel like cooking.

Oh no! This is awful! I hope you can work it out, or if he is violent, it might be a good time to go your separate ways.

 

[vietmamsie]

I'm not pregnant yet either. We have started infertility testing (because it has been 2 years) and I was diagnosed with PCOS. At least now my trouble getting pregnant and STAYING pregnant has a name. They are putting me on Metformin for now and we'll go from there. Hoping good things happen soon!

Sorry Mommy2o! I hope things are OK!

I was also diagnosed with PCOS, but the doctor seemed a bit puzzled by it because I don't seem to have a hard time GETTING pregnant (usually what is difficult when you have PCOS) but rather my problem seems to be STAYING pregnant. Then again, I guess this last one never grew properly from the start, and who knows about the others. Infertility drives me nuts. As awful as it is, it's nice to know we're not facing it alone.

 

[vietmamsie]

Emmy: When I was planning our wedding I had my Mother-in-law pick the venue and then got busy with the invites and save the dates! I hand made each of them! We planned a wedding in 4 months (3 of which we were living in a different country) and it all came together and was perfect! Start with venue, then pick your colors, do the invites and then buy the dress! Good luck!

 

[markswife10]

I'm not pregnant yet either. We have started infertility testing (because it has been 2 years) and I was diagnosed with PCOS. At least now my trouble getting pregnant and STAYING pregnant has a name. They are putting me on Metformin for now and we'll go from there. Hoping good things happen soon!

Sorry Mommy2o! I hope things are OK!

I was also diagnosed with PCOS, but the doctor seemed a bit puzzled by it because I don't seem to have a hard time GETTING pregnant (usually what is difficult when you have PCOS) but rather my problem seems to be STAYING pregnant. Then again, I guess this last one never grew properly from the start, and who knows about the others. Infertility drives me nuts. As awful as it is, it's nice to know we're not facing it alone.

It is good to know we aren't facing it alone! I think part of our problem getting pregnant is we found out DH's sperm count isn't quite to par, so we are putting him back on the supps we had him on when we got pregnant back in the summer (because apparently they were working). I have read a lot about the reason women with PCOS have a hard time getting pregnant is because they don't ovulate. I'm not quite sure if that is the problem completely with me, though, because I have been able to pinpoint ovulation every month since we started trying (OPKs and BBT). I think the PCOS is the trouble with me staying pregnant (my hormones aren't up to carrying). My Dr. also told me that women with PCOS usually have eggs that aren't as good quality because there are so many follicles fighting to be the dominant one and they don't get big enough to be a good quality. So that could be a reason for miscarriage as well. I hope we both can have our sticky BFP's soon!

 

[vietmamsie]

I'm not pregnant yet either. We have started infertility testing (because it has been 2 years) and I was diagnosed with PCOS. At least now my trouble getting pregnant and STAYING pregnant has a name. They are putting me on Metformin for now and we'll go from there. Hoping good things happen soon!

Sorry Mommy2o! I hope things are OK!

I was also diagnosed with PCOS, but the doctor seemed a bit puzzled by it because I don't seem to have a hard time GETTING pregnant (usually what is difficult when you have PCOS) but rather my problem seems to be STAYING pregnant. Then again, I guess this last one never grew properly from the start, and who knows about the others. Infertility drives me nuts. As awful as it is, it's nice to know we're not facing it alone.

It is good to know we aren't facing it alone! I think part of our problem getting pregnant is we found out DH's sperm count isn't quite to par, so we are putting him back on the supps we had him on when we got pregnant back in the summer (because apparently they were working). I have read a lot about the reason women with PCOS have a hard time getting pregnant is because they don't ovulate. I'm not quite sure if that is the problem completely with me, though, because I have been able to pinpoint ovulation every month since we started trying (OPKs and BBT). I think the PCOS is the trouble with me staying pregnant (my hormones aren't up to carrying). My Dr. also told me that women with PCOS usually have eggs that aren't as good quality because there are so many follicles fighting to be the dominant one and they don't get big enough to be a good quality. So that could be a reason for miscarriage as well. I hope we both can have our sticky BFP's soon!

Honestly, I have tried to stay away form too much research on PCOS, because it just gets depressing a point. I looked a lot into the diet they recommend which looked straight forward enough. I figured that a big problem would be the egg quality.... That must be the problem we are having. No need for the SA for us, because his sperm is getting there, it's just that the egg must not be up to par.

It's all so depressing, but it feels good to just let go and not think about it for a while! I feel like 2012 was spent 100% focused on TTC, and since the MS in Feb, its been almost a relief not to have to think about it for a while. We will try this cycle, but I'm focusing on me right now and doing what I want/need to do, and planning a future where a baby is not necessarily the focus.

 

[mummy2o]

Hi guys,

Sorry I've been keeping a low profile for the last few days but thank you for all your support I am still not 100% sure if my OH and I will stay together, I guess I'm still waiting for AF. I got a BFN this morning despite being a day late, so she's due any time now. Think we will talk it out later than my son goes back to school tomorrow.

 

[mummy2o]

3 days late and still no AF and also out of tests. This is annoying. OH and I have sorted it out. I told him if he's ever violent again that is it. I don't have to put up with that crap. Since then he's gone out of his way to make it up to me.

 

[vietmamsie]

Glad to hear you are doing ok... hope he doesn't ever do anything again. It isn't safe for your child, and for you you, especially if you are pregnant. How are you feeling? any signs or symptoms?

 

[mummy2o]

4 days late and no AF and another BFN this morning. I won't test until sunday now. I want a BFP or AF to come. I really would be happy either way!

 

[vietmamsie]

4 days late and no AF and another BFN this morning. I won't test until sunday now. I want a BFP or AF to come. I really would be happy either way!

Keep us posted! I hope something happens soon!

 

[mummy2o]

Period came 6 days late. At least out of limbo now.

 

[vietmamsie]

Ah, this might be good as there has been some unrest with your man. Best to feel things out before moving forward with TTC. Hope all is well!

 

[Libbysmum]

Hi ladies, I been afk with the house move and then messed around by internet installation issues. How have you all been? How are things going with wedding plans/baby plans? How was your Easter? I feel like I got lots to catch up on.

 

[Nina83]

Hi everyone, I'm hoping to TTC before first AF as well.
I have read TONS of articles, some say wait, so say go ahead... Ugh, so confusing.
I had a D&C, if that matters...
I was thinking about the idea that the lining has to thickin up a bit, but if i don't O until 4 weeks after the procedure, wouldn't that be even better than 2 weeks after AF?
Help me out here, I'm all confused!
Also, what are the risks? I know there's always risks, but is it really more risky now? Is the only reason for waiting for dating?

 

[Libbysmum]

Hi Nina, it is really up to you...if you both feel ready then go for it! Mostly it is because of knowing your LMP so they can date it more accurately but for some women it is more complicated as they may have left over tissue remaining so they sometimes say wait off until your period shows up just to clear everything out. Speaking from personal experience we DTD once before AF and twice in the following month and got pregnant one of the two times after...apparently you are very fertile in the few months after a loss. However we had some bleeding issues within our first trimester which may or may not have been related. It was scary and being pregnant after a loss is quite worrying I have found but also full of great expectations.
I hope that helps you out. I know how confusing it can be. I hope you get your rainbow soon!

 

[Nina83]

Thanks, I think I'll always be worried!
All those articles saying "wait a cycle" make me feel so guilty for wanting to try. It just took us so long the first time, I don't want to wait, or waste time.
Even though it was stressful, and even if it was for just a month, I can't wait to be pregnant again, or to feel pregnant again. It was the most elated feeling ever!

 

[ArmyWife1984]

Hi nina :wave: i had a natural m/c and fell preg. Before first af. It took us awhile too to fall preg. With ds..15 months ttc him. So when we caught the eggy first shot we were shocked, but sadly miscarried at 6wks.

Doctor told me to wait too a few cycles, but i didnt find much online as to why not. So once my bleeding stopped i used opks everyday....i was worried i missed O because i passed cd 14 and stilll no positive. Finally cd 22 i believe it was , i got a pos opk. We dtd and 3wks later bfp

I am not sure if d&c would make things diff. But i read online too that your most fertile months following a m/c.

If u do decide to go for it, maybe track ovulation because it might take longer than normal. If i wasnnt using opks i know i wouldnt be preg since i O'd way later.

keep us posted!! Hope u catch a sticky beann soon!