Trying To Conceive #1 Only Vent Thread

[Limm]

My husband's female friend, who TTC for 6 months before finally having her baby, has been so patronising ever since we even mentioned starting a family. Just because she's had one baby she suddenly believes she is an expert and has the cheek to tell me that I'm probably not pregnant yet "due to stress".

To be honest, I wasn't stressed until people started telling me to stress less.

Worst part is I have to bite my tongue, otherwise DH gets caught in the middle of it.
You would think she would know better not to say such silly things, especially since she's been there herself. Grrr!!

 

[wellsk]

Limm, you can tell you DH's friend that there has never been any scientific evidence to prove that stress causes infertility

 

[Jett55]

Don't you just love girls who think just because they have a child or are pregnant it automatically makes em a baby expert. Or tell you you're not pregnant because you're not experiencing any of the symptoms they did so you can't possibly be pregnant or if you don't have a positive hpt it's an automatic you're definitely Not pregnant :/

 

[wellsk]

I agree Jett, most pregnant women seem to think they know every and more when it comes to fertility. And always have an opinion on infertility, for example most fertile 'keyboard warriors' who write about infertility and treatment suggest that 'having children is not a right'... However they're usually the fertile ones who already have children and have no idea of what it is to struggle with fertility.

I also hate the ones who are like, 'oh it's simple, just have sex and you get pregnant'... Normally they get pregnant right away too
No my dear, I thought I'd go through all these tests and trials... Until you said I'd never thought about having sex!!

 

[Jett55]

or hearing maybe God doesn't want you to have children or maybe you're not meant to be a mom. Um if that's the case why the heck am I a woman??? or why don't you adopt umm why the heck won't you adopt then if having a kid of your own isn't such a big deal. I could really go on & on with this lol

 

[wellsk]

I really want to adopt, and we've started researching intercountry adoption. But people who make such flippant remarks about adoption really wind me up!
It's extremely difficult to adopt, extremely filled with red tape and huge expense! But people just think it's as simple as stopping off at the supermarket and picking one up!

 

[Limm]

Limm, you can tell you DH's friend that there has never been any scientific evidence to prove that stress causes infertility

I think I shall! Might try to find some evidence first though.

 

[AlyCon]

I have the opposite problem! Being as young as I am some of my closest friends are away at college and no where near marriage or TTC. I know they're just trying to be positive but I HATE when they tell me "it'll happen when the time is right" or "don't worry so much you'll be pregnant soon" I just can't stand it! Because for one they KNOW about my fertility problems and that Im on medication to try to get pregnant and also because THEY HAVE NO FREAKING CLUE!! They've never TTC, they're not married, they're not even technically living on their own yet! They live on campus and when they go home for break they live with their parents! They have no idea what my life is even like living as a real adult in the real world dealing with real problems like money, bills, running a household, marriage AND TTC to top it off. They have no idea how hard it is, their biggest problem is finishing school assignments on time! I wish that was my only problem! Not crying my eyes out every night because my body can't perform the one task it was made to do. One day they will be married and TTC and even though I would never wish infertility on anyone I'll be glad when they finally realize its not as easy as it seems.

 

[Jett55]

Yah I really give props to those who do adopt. But I know there is no way dh & I ever could. And I know some people who have adopted and it's not easy & how many set backs happen. But people throw it out as an option like it's nothing.

 

[tamithomas]

Been having an itchy nipple for the passed 48 hours. I wake up this morning and it's gotten darker (only one nipple) and can't stop being horny yet AF showed Monday evening. Body y u no make sense?

I feel like our bodies should be our best friends yet most of the time they are a pain in the butt! One of my nipples started hurting this morning and I feel like mine are getting darker but I think it's because I want them to get darker ugh!

For me I know for a fact that one has gotten darker because my DH has a form of color blindness where he can't see shade, he only sees color. Basically blue is blue and there's no such thing as navy or baby blue. Showed him and even he noticed to color change but it's literally only one nipple. The other one is completely fine Now not only do I have two boobs that don't match size wise, they now don't match color wise lol.

 

[despttc]

And to top my sadness,my dad made a remark.. OH! TO GET PREGNANT YOU NEED SO MANY SITTINGS AND APPOINTMENTS WITH YOUR HUSBAND? ,when I told him that my dh was away during my fertile period.. He showed so much concern and that's how I blurted out my worries. I couldn't believe I heard it from him. It was so easy for my parents,mom conceived on cycle 1 of TTC. That doesn't mean it would be easy for me. Later he was apologetic,but I just don't understand how he could hurt my feelings like that..

 

[wntafmly]

Hi Ladies I am new here. I am 25, dh is 29 and we stopped preventing 3 years ago and have actively been ttc for 21 cycles. It's frustrating, impossible to not think about, and driving me to insanity that now all my friends who have just recently gotten married, and my older sister ALL got pg on their first try (when they were expecting it to take up to 6 months). DH is tested and fine, doc is concerned about irregular ovulation. I could definitely use a place to vent.

 

[CakeCottage]

Great... Nearly due to ovulate and I get a yeast infection!!!

 

[shorty42383]

Hi Ladies I am new here. I am 25, dh is 29 and we stopped preventing 3 years ago and have actively been ttc for 21 cycles. It's frustrating, impossible to not think about, and driving me to insanity that now all my friends who have just recently gotten married, and my older sister ALL got pg on their first try (when they were expecting it to take up to 6 months). DH is tested and fine, doc is concerned about irregular ovulation. I could definitely use a place to vent.

welcome to the family!!!!

 

[trying2beamom]

so one of my aunts friends (hes a guy) at parties is always asking whats going on in my life school wise and everything so i was like ill just add him on my family facebook. he sends me this long ass paragraph about how he likes to only keep his facebook to 150 friends blah blah. dude its clearly not my friends facebook i have like 15 friends on that one and the about me section says i have this facebook to keep family updated on whats going on in my life. ugh its just irritating you couldve just not confirmed the friend request or said you dont feel comfortable.

 

[Ayjay]

I got a friend request from an old old friend of my parents yesterday. Haven't heard from her for probably about 20 years. She has three kids - the oldest is about four years younger than me, we used to play together a lot when I was very little. Anywhoo, I went to look at her page, and there it was. 'Congratulations on your daughter;s (third) baby, you must be so happy to be grandparents to a grand-daughter'. Ahhhhh! Can I not get away from them? Plus to add insult to injury, the baby has the same name as me.......

 

[trying2beamom]

went to the gyno today sonohystagram (its not spelled right) went well not as painful as i read it was supposed to be. doc said everything looks good and hopefully it flushed stuff out and i should be pregnant in the next few months. i hope shes right and it worked. she refused to put me on metformin said i have insulin resistance but i just need to eat healthier and exercise more. im working on that. but i think its so irritating my aunt who is very overweight got pregnant while switching birth control, im not over weight the thing that makes my bmi so high is my huge boobs (i can lose them every time i try they get bigger) and the fact that i have wide shoulders and am very muscular, why cant i get pregnant

 

[Limm]

Went to the GP today (for those who know my story, this was the same GP as before) and he reckons I'm pregnant now all of a sudden. He wants me to bring in a urine sample on Monday and if that comes back BFN then I'll be booked in for blood tests again (though this will be the first test for pregnancy in months). I obviously want to be happy/excited, but this guy clearly doesn't keep himself updated with his patients (not surprised considering he probably has quite a few but he could at least read his previous notes before calling me in!)

Did two HPTs and I'm still producing BFNs so I am very apprehensive. Feel like I am having my hopes built up for nothing.

Got a wedding to go to next week and the bride-to-be just told me she's pregnant with her second. I am thrilled for her (she's had a lot of problems TTC this time 'round) but I can feel myself getting bitter and I hate it. I don't want to be jealous, I just want to be happy for her, but with everything going on atm I'm struggling a little.

 

[LoveMyTripawd]

I'm pretty sure I just got slapped across the face with a bad case of PMS. So that means I'm likely not pregnant this month. I really don't want to go on to cycle #12. I'm just so sick and tired of this stupid ttc game. Why try anymore? Hasn't happened yet, so what makes me think it ever will? I just need to go cry...

 

[Limm]

I'm pretty sure I just got slapped across the face with a bad case of PMS. So that means I'm likely not pregnant this month. I really don't want to go on to cycle #12. I'm just so sick and tired of this stupid ttc game. Why try anymore? Hasn't happened yet, so what makes me think it ever will? I just need to go cry...

We all feel like this at some point. Don't quit just yet.