Trying To Conceive 2012-2013 Babies Club!

[Too_Much]

i assume af means period? sorry, newbie- learning the lingo!

unfortunatley, turns out it was AF!!! (((((((((((((((

very upset, soo disappointed. was crying all night!
i know its "early" TTC cycle #3 but was so convinced this time!

how do you all keep up the hope?

Hi Too_Much God i feel ur pain!!!! There are soooo many times when i think this is just not going to happen for me and I get so disheartened : But I know I have to be a mother and no matter what it takes I will get there! I've started thinking we may have to go down the IVF route soon but that's ok- I will do whatever it takes to make this happen!! I think that is helping me keep the hope that there is so much help/assistance for sub fertility that if things dont happen naturally there's still a good chance things can work out!! It is so hard though when u see loads of kids around and just think "I really want one!!" What is really getting to me at the mo is how much it's upsetting my DH - he is desperate for a child- we have put ttc off for ages for my work- which I sooooooooooooo regret and feel unbelievably guilty for now but we did what we thought was right at the time and obviously didnt know it would take this long!

Af stands for Aunt Flo and is period yep- it took me ages to get my head around the lingo too so dont worry!

It is still disheartening even early in ur cycle so it's normal to feel down after ur 3rd cycle because u just assume it's going to happen. Were u on the birth control pill before? It often takes a while for that to come out of ur system so might be u just need a couple more cycles to sort that out? Are ur cycles regular and have u been charting?

I know what u mean about convincing urself it's happened though- I waiting for my af and every symptom I'm like "oh my god this is it!!" - Stupid I know and I'm really trying not to think like this as it's even harder when af shows up- I'm starting to feel the tell-tale signs of af now so pretty sure she will be here today or tomorrow - BIG sigh!!!

Hey ho- onto the next cycle ay?!
xxx

Hi Cabby
thanks so much for the note, its sooo good to know there are others who understand, especially as we arent telling anyone!

Nope, Ive been off pill for several years now, only actively trying for 3 months- im totally regular, charting and last cycle used OPK. Doing Accupuncture and TCM herbals..this cycle I think I will try Body Talk and/or Reflexology in addition!

I feel the same about putting it off!! how naive I was, i thought it would happen immediatley? crazy, but you know what aint nothing we can do about the past, agree all we have is the next cycle to try, try and do even better!

you are so right, we cant loose hope- we wanna be moms so we have to try everything to get there!

all the best, baby dust to you and everyone!

 

[Cabby]

Cabby, thank you so much. I really appreciate just getting it all of my chest. My understanding of the results is that it is mostly on the lower side of normal, but that progressive motility is the issue. I think it is still possible we could conceive naturally but much less chance than most average couples. The doc seemed to think we might need help. I just want to get on with it now. DH is booked into do another sample soon. These were the results. I have also put in what our doc said was the lowest level they like to see.

Volume: 3.0ml (Low end of normal 1.5ml)
Sperm Motility: 41% (Low end of normal 40%)
Progressive Motility: 20% (Low end of normal 31%)
Sperm Morphology: 4% (Low end of normal 4%)
Spermatazoa: 18x10*6/ml (Low end of normal 15x10*6/ml)
PH: 7.7
Total sperm: 54x10*6 (low end of normal 39x10*6)

Hi EmHart Sorry for the late reply- just got back from a weekend away

Aw I'm so sorry for what u r going through- it's soooooooo unfair! I'm afraid I'm not too hot on the SA results as we only got to see ours for about a second (we have a rubbish doc!) Did the FS give u the results? How long have u been ttc? I see what u mean as the progressive motility is the only one that is lower than what they like to see. What is progressive motility? I get so confused with it all! I can empathise with u just wanting to get on with it!!! Y do they make us wait sooooo long! I'm so getting to the point where i want to get a loan out to pay for private treatment!!! I just don't want to wait until i get all the results back and then start IVF- realistically it's going to be next year at the earliest i can have a baby at this rate! RA!

Does anyone else know more about SA results?

Sorry i can't be more help hun - but feel free to vent on here as much as u want!!!
xxx

 

[Cabby]

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Hi Cabby
thanks so much for the note, its sooo good to know there are others who understand, especially as we arent telling anyone!

Nope, Ive been off pill for several years now, only actively trying for 3 months- im totally regular, charting and last cycle used OPK. Doing Accupuncture and TCM herbals..this cycle I think I will try Body Talk and/or Reflexology in addition!

I feel the same about putting it off!! how naive I was, i thought it would happen immediatley? crazy, but you know what aint nothing we can do about the past, agree all we have is the next cycle to try, try and do even better!

you are so right, we cant loose hope- we wanna be moms so we have to try everything to get there!

all the best, baby dust to you and everyone!
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Hiya hun Yep u most certainly are not alone- we all feel ur pain!! We've started to tell people as I've been getting frustrated/upset with the constant questioning!!

Sounds like u r doing all the right things hun- I know u will get there! Does accupuncture help then? I'm willing to try anything now!! What's TCM herbals and body talk?

Ur so right there is no point in regretting the past- thanks hun!

Here's to the next cycle- come on babies!! xx

 

[Cabby]

Hi guys (and welcome Elena79)

Just want to rant if that's ok?! I just came back from my friend's hen do and it was a lot harder than I thought it would be!! There was a girl who was pregnant and a few who have children, and the b and b manager kept bringing his gorgeous baby over to see us!! There was so much baby talk I just wanted to cry!! It's getting even harder now and people keep asking when I'm going to have babies and I'm running out of excuses! This is SOOOOOO unfair!

What's even more annoying is knowing people who get pregnant that are horrible!! At work I see some children who have been taken into foster care and have the most horrific starts in life and i just think why do they get to have a kid and not me?! I'd be a great mum and i just don't understand why it's not happening!!! Where is the justice in the world?!! I saw these kids the other day who were born with awful heroin addictions and left for dead because their mum did not want them and couldnt care less! How does she get kids so easily?!

And (I'm nearly done I promise!) the thing that is really getting to me at the mo is the fact that I can't give my husband a baby- he wants one sooooo badly and would be the best dad in the world I just want to make it happen for both of us so badly!!

Does anyone have any tips on how to make this happen easier? Even if it is an old wives tale - I'm willing to try anything now!!

Sorry for the rant guys

Baby dust to u all xxx

 

[babyfeva]

Cabby- I'm sorry that you're feeling so down. It'll happen sweetie. I think that I might try a fertility bracelet next cycle if it doesn't happen this month. Anything is worth the try.

 

[Cabby]

Cabby- I'm sorry that you're feeling so down. It'll happen sweetie. I think that I might try a fertility bracelet next cycle if it doesn't happen this month. Anything is worth the try.

Thanks babyfeva I really hope it will happen for me! What's a fertility bracelet? I'm so willing to try ANYTHING now! So I'd really appreciate any other ideas?

Thanks guys xx

 

[babyfeva]

I read on another thread that two women used a fertility bracelet and got preggo. Im not 100% sure what it is but I think it has a moonstone...

 

[EmHart]

Thanks Cabby, no the result came from our GP. DH has to do another test, then we will probably be referred to a specialist. At least that is what I will push for. This month is our 8th month trying. I am 32 in March and I just want to get going with it all now. I really really don't want this to drag on for years so that my fertility is fading as well. Progressive motility is the forward moving sperm, the ones that are actually going somewhere! Uggh, so frustrating. Especially as DH is a really active healthy guy, he climbs, walks, skis and all sorts, he eats ok, has never smoked and only drinks moderately. I feel incredibly lucky to be in England and get this for free (although that does mean waiting lists I guess) I think if we have to wait too long I will just go private, I would rather have a baby than a holiday, or fancy shoes.

 

[mistee88]

hey me and my bf have been ttc for 6months now! Im gettin so impatient an bitter whenever someone else is pregnant! Im the last female (around my age) in my family who has no children yet an its really upsetting. To make things worse i have a tilted womb do you think thats why im not getting pregnant???
Good luck to everybody waiting for the bfp!!!

 

[wannab_amommi]

Hey ladies may I join tooooo??? Im 24 dh is 33 Both have children from previous relationships... we are trying for OUR 1st baby....

 

[littlesteph]

Hiya I'm Steph
me and DH having trying for our first since june 1st 2010.
we got married october 30th 2010, knew it wouldn't happen striaght away but didn't think it would take as long as it has,
i know it's no way near as long as some people try.
i'm hoping for a BFP this cycle.

 

[skweek35]

Hey ladies, I think I have returned at just the right moment!!
Rant/sympathy time!!
Cabby - I so know what you mean!!!
About 2 months back I gave my nail lady the last of my OPK's as I was not planning on using them. Turns out she got her BFP thanks to getting a !!!
I can kick myself now!! I know this sounds really irrational - but that bfp should have been mine!! I found our on Friday after seeing my FS. my nail lady is now 6 weeks preggers!! I landed up having a good cry with my best friend yesterday!!
I am feeling a bit better but still gutted I gave them to her!
My nail lady has given me all her unused OPK's and HPT's!

Rant over thanks!

FS appointment went ok in the end.
She confirmed that my tubes are clear and CD3 bloods came back within the normal range(didnt get the number from her). She said that she has no option at the mo but to ask me to TTC for another 7 months - which will then be 18 months of TTCing. If no BFP by then she will refer us for IUI, ICSI or IVF.
The one thing that really lifted my spirits - when I do get my BFP, I need to let her know and she will book my in for an early pregnancy scan. I liked the sound of that!!!

 

[Westlife]

Hello All,

I would like to join the thread if poss.
Im 24 hubby is 31! Have been off the pill since about Sept-Oct 2009 and havnt been trying really but not actively not trying!
Im new to this site dont understand all this temping,ovulating business etc. Just trying to bonk as much as poss and im trying to loose weight which i think is a big factor and hoping for a BFP this year.

 

[Catwoman85]

Hi everyone,

I am 26 (just), DH is 26 and this is our first cycle trying for Baby#2.

We have been blessed with a beautiful baby boy, born August 2011. I would like another baby soon as would like to keep the age gap to a minimum.

I am still breastfeeding, have had 2 periods so far but they are still very irregular so not really sure when I am ovulating. We are trying to DTD every other day to make sure we cover all bases.

We were lucky with DS1 as after an early miscarriage it only took 2 cycles to fall again, so we were successful in just 3 cycles. I have a feeling this time we are not going to be so lucky

Fingers crossed for us all and lots of

 

[Cabby]

Thanks Cabby, no the result came from our GP. DH has to do another test, then we will probably be referred to a specialist. At least that is what I will push for. This month is our 8th month trying. I am 32 in March and I just want to get going with it all now. I really really don't want this to drag on for years so that my fertility is fading as well. Progressive motility is the forward moving sperm, the ones that are actually going somewhere! Uggh, so frustrating. Especially as DH is a really active healthy guy, he climbs, walks, skis and all sorts, he eats ok, has never smoked and only drinks moderately. I feel incredibly lucky to be in England and get this for free (although that does mean waiting lists I guess) I think if we have to wait too long I will just go private, I would rather have a baby than a holiday, or fancy shoes.

Ok well I wouldn't lose hope until you have seen a specialist and the 2 samples can be totally different (as sperm varies greatly from month to month)- get ur DH on some fertility aid tablets Yeah u will get referred after ur second SA. They do normally say that they wait until u have been trying a year before referring u on- but u could always twist the truth a bit to get referred?!! I know what u mean it's sooooooo annoying having to wait so long- I'm really thinking about going private but have no idea how much it would be- have u looked into it? At least going private would mean u both get tested at the same time without having to wait months for ur next appt!! It's crazy I dont want to wait until the end of May to find out- tell me now!!

It's not fair is it - sounds like DH really looks after himself - he should have super sperm! I don't know what causes problems in sperm - it cant be being unhealthy as my DH is really healthy too and he has probs so dont get it!!

Keep me updated hun- and let me know how the next SA goes.

Good luck xx

 

[Cabby]

hey me and my bf have been ttc for 6months now! Im gettin so impatient an bitter whenever someone else is pregnant! Im the last female (around my age) in my family who has no children yet an its really upsetting. To make things worse i have a tilted womb do you think thats why im not getting pregnant???
Good luck to everybody waiting for the bfp!!!

Hi mistee88 I know how u feel I'm exactly the same!! We r having people over this sunday- 1 is pregnant, another has 2 children and the other woman has one child and has just found out she's pregnant and going to announce it on sunday!!! Joys- I'm going to have a great time as none of them know im trying so will be asking when I'm going to have a baby! Ra! What's most annoying is the one who is pg wasnt trying and didnt want it at the start (obviously does now)- but still u think why her when she didnt even want it!! The other one who has just found out she is pg is having real problems with her DH (he's got depression etc at the mo and really isnt well)- so it is so not the time for them- why does it happen to people who arent ready/dont want a baby and then wont happen for us who r sooooooo ready it hurts?!!

I'm afraid i dont know anything about a tilted womb and its effects on getting pg- have u spoken to ur doctor about it? I really hope it doesnt affect ur chances and that u get ur BFP soon hun- baby dust to u xxx

 

[Cabby]

Hey ladies may I join tooooo??? Im 24 dh is 33 Both have children from previous relationships... we are trying for OUR 1st baby....

Hiya hun- of course u can join! Welcome to the forum How long have u been trying for ur baby? FX u have a short journey! What children do u have from prev relationships? How old are they? Congratulations on them- it shows u can get preg so im sure it wont be long until u get ur BFP!

Baby dust xx

 

[Cabby]

Hiya I'm Steph
me and DH having trying for our first since june 1st 2010.
we got married october 30th 2010, knew it wouldn't happen striaght away but didn't think it would take as long as it has,
i know it's no way near as long as some people try.
i'm hoping for a BFP this cycle.

Hi Steph- I'll keep FX that u get ur BFP this cycle too! It's horrible having to wait isnt it? I naively assumed it would happen straight away so it has been really hard for me to see af come month after month- but we will get there 2012 is the year for us!!

Have u been charting etc?
Baby dust!
xx

 

[Cabby]

Hey ladies, I think I have returned at just the right moment!!
Rant/sympathy time!!
Cabby - I so know what you mean!!!
About 2 months back I gave my nail lady the last of my OPK's as I was not planning on using them. Turns out she got her BFP thanks to getting a !!!
I can kick myself now!! I know this sounds really irrational - but that bfp should have been mine!! I found our on Friday after seeing my FS. my nail lady is now 6 weeks preggers!! I landed up having a good cry with my best friend yesterday!!
I am feeling a bit better but still gutted I gave them to her!
My nail lady has given me all her unused OPK's and HPT's!

Rant over thanks!

FS appointment went ok in the end.
She confirmed that my tubes are clear and CD3 bloods came back within the normal range(didnt get the number from her). She said that she has no option at the mo but to ask me to TTC for another 7 months - which will then be 18 months of TTCing. If no BFP by then she will refer us for IUI, ICSI or IVF.
The one thing that really lifted my spirits - when I do get my BFP, I need to let her know and she will book my in for an early pregnancy scan. I liked the sound of that!!!

Welcome back!! God how annoying!!! I know what u mean- totally irrational but i would feel exactly the same- that was ur BFP she stole!! How unfair!! Sorry hun- but I know it will be ur time soon- what a kick in the teeth her handing u OPK's back- I'd have wanted to slap her! haha- It's great u had ur best friend there to cry on tho- support is so important when u go through this crap!! Feel free to rant as much as u want- I rant enough on here! haha

Another 7 months ttc- is that all they can do?!! Ah! How do u feel hun? I guess it shows they think there is nothing stopping u get pg so it can definitely happen in that 7 months BIG FX for u! That's such a good thing to remember hun- think of the early preg scan- it's not going to be too far away for u I'm sure

Loads of baby dust!!

Keep us updated xx

 

[Cabby]

Hello All,

I would like to join the thread if poss.
Im 24 hubby is 31! Have been off the pill since about Sept-Oct 2009 and havnt been trying really but not actively not trying!
Im new to this site dont understand all this temping,ovulating business etc. Just trying to bonk as much as poss and im trying to loose weight which i think is a big factor and hoping for a BFP this year.

Of course u can join hun- welcome!! It takes a while to get ur head around ttc but once u do it's fairly straightforward! Have a look on fertilityfriend.com - it tells u all about charting and ovulation etc. U can get ovulation testing kits which should identify when u ovulate (u want to time BD for then) so they have been quite helpful for me. But charting alongside that just means better accuracy etc. Losing weight cant do any harm- good luck with it all hun

Baby dust! xx