TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

Good morning ladies!!! Congrats to all the ladies with bfp's how exciting, with all this baby dust in here i just know we will be seeing more bfp's real soon. Yea its TGIF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! We got our new tent set up in the backyard last night, its perfect, we are going to have so much fun camping with it!! And yes tonight we are going to "Check it out" :blush: he he he. OK ladies i am driving around with the "Whatevers" wagon, hop on with me and lets all have some TGIF fun!!!!:happydance:

OOh la la OMM!! You have yourself some fun tonight under the stars!!!

Will be thinking of you!!

Whatever whatever whatever!!! Yay-let's go!

I hear there's a good bar in Whatevere's Ville!! Mine's a cocktail!!

Enjoy your weekend, love
A
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LOL, yea, come on join us, and yep cocktails are wonderful!!! And we have them on the "Whatever" wagon too!! I have to say this tent stuff started off as a funny thing, but i am having so much fun, its the first time we have just had fun and not worried about weather it would produce a baby or not lol.
 
Ok, maybe I need to interest my DH is some camping! :)

Missyt,
You are taking the high ground with your in-laws, that is for sure. But your DH picked YOU! They are the ones missing out! :hugs:

Ok, so I admit that I am not on the whateves wagon these days ... I'm a complete basket-case really, :wacko: but someone ... please have a drink for me! Maybe two! :wine::drunk::drunk:
 
Ok, maybe I need to interest my DH is some camping! :)

Missyt,
You are taking the high ground with your in-laws, that is for sure. But your DH picked YOU! They are the ones missing out! :hugs:

Ok, so I admit that I am not on the whateves wagon these days ... I'm a complete basket-case really, :wacko: but someone ... please have a drink for me! Maybe two! :wine::drunk::drunk:

LOL, you dont need the camping you already have two in there lol. Big hugs comming to you honey, i will have a few drinks for you tonight and send the good feeling vibes your way!!
 
:friends: Ill raise a "whatever cocktail" for all of you ladies!! In fact, I'll have 2 :drunk:
 
Missy- I totally understand what bad in-laws are. I'm so sorry to hear that your mil & fil are choosing to spend time with someone that was in the past for dh...even if he did have a child with her. You and dh are the ones they should be spending time with. How disrespectful of them to cancel plans at the last min. to meet your parents. They should be wanting to get to know them, since YOU are married to their son. I am so used to this kind of bs with my own in-laws....lack of tact. I'm sending you big hugs!!!:hugs::hugs::hugs::hugs:!!

Congratulations! Lava!:baby::baby: Try not to worry to much.:hugs::hugs:
:blue::pink:

Hope you all have a fab. weekend!:hugs::hugs:
 
I have the opposite problem, ie in laws that want to spend TOO MUCH time with us, LOL.

But that's a whole other thread....
 
I have the opposite problem, ie in laws that want to spend TOO MUCH time with us, LOL.

But that's a whole other thread....

My current MIL would probably move in with us if she could :nope: Every time we decorate or have a new piece of furniture she wants to visit but won't come and visit when new furbabies have arrived :shrug:
 
Animalcracker :))) I'm so happy for you. It's wonderful news, congratulations. Some of us here already graduated to 35+ graduates thread :) Maybe you migh want to join too. Good luck with pregnanacy and I hope you would have a healthy sticky bean that would stay for 9 months and come out as a beautiful baby
https://www.babyandbump.com/pregnancy-groups/495635-35-ttc-1st-graduates-come-over.html

Butterfly :) It's probobly a good idea just to see the dr and get all your levels checked out just to be on the safe side. :))) Good luck, I hope you won't need any treatment and have a baby without a sweat. :dust:

Tigerlily, brace yourself for annoying comments of people knowing or not knowing your situation.:hugs: Better close your ears and avoid it. Good luck with the appointment. Hope all is well and you won't have to TTc for long :dust:

Fallenambers hope you are having a great weekend and lot's of fun in the wedding.

Missy :) The mountain cabin will be a perfect getaway for you. Hope you will have a great time. As for MIL I might sound a bit synical but my honest advice is let it go. Don't you worry at all cause if they upset you they are better off away than near. When I first married I used to invite my FIL to stay with us a lot. Than I would take him to concerts, museums, spend loads of time with him and be very very welcome. A friend of mine said one day "Why are you doing all this. This guy is going to create trouble and you will have a headache" I said "Don't say that, he is DH's dad after all" But guess what the nicer I was to him the more he started planting stupid thoughts in DH's brain about me. He started completely undermining me and demanding to come in and out of the house without my consent. In the end we had a bust up after he and SIL fabricated a horrible lie about me "That I wanna make kids with DH and run away with all his money" as if I'm a gold digger and he is prince William, which is ridiculous. In the end he wasn't allowed in for a while and I went cold for a year. Than he learned how to behave. Now we have a good relationship. He comes and stays, and I still entertain him but I don't get out of my way to do anything extravagant as I used to. And if I don't want sthg I just simply say "NO"
You are a very giving and caring person. Cause you care about SS and MIL, SIL, FIL etc but first you must make sure that they actually respect and appreciate your efforts. Otherwise people are people the more you give the more they would take without caring if you have the energy. This is not being selfish or mean. I just found out through experience that it's better to draw a line with everyone and not let them cross it. Otherwise it's so easy to get unappreciated and be used which is hurtful.
This attitude actually improved my relationship with DH too. We both finally realised that we are central to this relationship and stopped letting other people poke their noses into our little union. :hugs: xxxx

Newmarriedgirl hope you feel better soon and all is well with your LO. When is your next appointment?

Chris yipeee the new tent :):yipee: Have fun this weekend baby.

good luck all Whatever wagon's girls :dust: Or should we say "Whatever tent"?

Dwrgi you hopped on the whatever's thing as well :))) hahahahahha

Macwooly :haha: Use your good realtions and ask her to help around in the house more :)). Favours here and there. Looking after fur babies when you are on holiday, hanging the laundry, doing the dishes etc... C if she still wants to get that involved :) hahaahahaa

Honestly girls I'm not mean but it took me a long time to say enough is enough :shrug:

Wohooo Lavaaaaa, how about a Whatever's Basket :)))

AFM I'm good, just eating loads and sleeping loads. I get extremely exhausted out of nowhere if I overexert myself. I guess I need to adjust to this new situation. But luckily a nice long nap works wonders. Bit fed up with still using so much medication. I have a purple smiley from all the injection bruises under my belly button.:shrug: Just found out that some women use this injection untill 6 months. It's really expensive as well and my GP refused to pay for it. They are so cheeky. In fact with all the cuts in the UK the councils have become even more ignorant towards the fertility issues. I will have my first NHS appointment after 12 weeks. In the mean time if anything happens they don't care. :shrug:
 
Thanks everyone for your outpouring of love & support. I wish that I could feel as confident as y'all, but at only 1 day shy of 6 weeks yesterday, not seeing our babies yet (even without the HB) feels like bad news is ahead. I spent the night crying. I finally fell asleep praying to God & saying over & over in my head: Grow, Miracle Babies, Grow!

Hi lavalux! I am 5 weeks along and my Specialist will not do an ultrasound until almost 7 weeks! I do not have any symptoms really, so I get nervous too. then I realized the other day that still no AF! I really am pregnant! Since I have been thinking of it that way, in have felt less anxious! Praying for you my friend and for the babies! Congratulations!
 
I must admit I have talked DH into putting the tent up in the garden "just to check it doesn't leak" before he goes camping with the lads next weekend :winkwink: Bless him he was prepared to cancel as he thought it may be my fertile time but told him that it should be before he goes :)


Aww, how sweet is your husband?!

I have never been camping, but it sounds like I'm missing out on something! :winkwink:

C xx
 
hi all. you girls are really a great group. i loved reading as many posts as i could.
i am 41 and dp is 51. at the moment, i am 12 dpo and haven't tested yet, nor do i plan to do so. we have been ttc 'casually' for 10 months. Being that we live in different countries (at the moment), the timing isn't always right! but this cycle it was.... well we dtd the day before O then he left. we'll see. if it doesnt work out, i am due to start 50 mg of unmonitored clomid next saturday, days 5-9.

i am due to see an fs this thursday for a consultation. can anyone please tell me what i should expect?

thanks and :dust: to you all!!

sadie
 
Hey all... have just popped out of lurkdom to say Lava please please don't worry. You have been doubly blessed and at under 6 weeks it is completely normal to only see the sacs and no HBs. The sizes look absolutely spot on for the stage you are at.

When you have your scan next week you will see 2 lovely lil Hbs flickering away... I am sure about this.

Skye so wonderful to hear you are doing well as well. And Lynn is soooo past the danger zone!

If I can't have any success I damn well want the rest of you to be!
 
Ladies, thanks so much for all your comments about MIL and her inappropriate behavior. I spoke some to DH about it and he is disapointed too. He is very, very laid back (hence why I married him) and he doesn't like to rock the boat so he probably won't say anything to her. I'm just happy he feels the same way I do and isn't defending her. He did say that his mom is a people pleaser and feels like she has to be nice and accommodating to everyone. When she invited herself to stay again Thursday night, DH and I already had plans with some friends we've been trying to go out with for a long time. He told her we had plans and she'd have to stay alone at our house. We got back at 11 pm. Oh well.

Lava, please don't worry yourself too much. You know stressing out isn't good for you. Just try to relax and do yoga breaths. The babies will appreciate it. I'm praying for you. Btw, I had several drinks for you this weekend.

Newmarriedgal, I do hope you feel better soon. I think DH is right, if you don't feel comfortable taking the medication, don't. The antibiotics will knock it out anyway.

Welcome, Sadie!

AFM, I think I probably O'd or will tomorrow. Our weekend up in the mountains was fabulous. Its definately what we both needed. We did a vineyard tour and had a great time. We also did a lot of BDing.
 
Thanks everyone for your outpouring of love & support. I wish that I could feel as confident as y'all, but at only 1 day shy of 6 weeks yesterday, not seeing our babies yet (even without the HB) feels like bad news is ahead. I spent the night crying. I finally fell asleep praying to God & saying over & over in my head: Grow, Miracle Babies, Grow!

Hi lavalux! I am 5 weeks along and my Specialist will not do an ultrasound until almost 7 weeks! I do not have any symptoms really, so I get nervous too. then I realized the other day that still no AF! I really am pregnant! Since I have been thinking of it that way, in have felt less anxious! Praying for you my friend and for the babies! Congratulations!

Hi GMATP! :hi:

Most specialists refuse to do ultrasounds before 7wks exactly because of what Lava is seeing. It's WAY too early and puts the fear right into the women. This is actually a good thing and will put your mind at ease because you'll be able to most likely see everything then. It does depend on the gestation and the type of sonogram machine and sonographer usually most people will see everything between 6-8wks. Anything less than 6 even if it's by a day or so is WAY too early.

Lava, considering twins are usually smaller in gestation anyways it honestly makes sense you wouldn't see them at this point. Charmaine and many other women not just in Graduates but on the Bnb board altogether have had similar circumstances. So I still stick with the fact that it's too early to detect. As the others have said, worrying isn't good for you or the babies dear. I know it's easier said than done until you actually see those LO's but try not to worry too much about it. Medical staff can be wrong, In fact, if I had listened to them, I wouldn't have a beautiful little boy in heaven that they said would never exhist nor would I be pregnant with Amelia. I was told it'd NEVER happen.:shrug: God has the last word dear. Don't forget He's the Great Physician and more powerful than man.:winkwink::flower:

Finally hit viability week everyone. :happydance: Next goal is 28wks, then 36 and so on. Not out of the woods but surpassed that dreadful 22wk milestone and now viability this week. Next sunday will be 25wks! \o/
 
Debs I'm so happy to see you here. You are such a sweetheart. Thank you for all the encouragement. You are always in my prayers bb.

Missy, :)) Sounds like you had a fab weekend. :) It's quite sweet of Dh to stand by your side. I'm sure your MIL wouldn't mean to upset you but just did it without realising. :flower:

MA :happydance::happydance: well done for the milestone.

Girls have a great week :))
 
Well, after pee'ing this 3am. I had a scare. I thought I saw an inch worth of my stitch in the toilet. Forgive me, but I dove right in after the sucker and it still went down the little hole without flushing. So I have nothing to show.

I frantically called the on call Dr. and she did say that while she can't guarantee it wasn't a white stitch placed, USUALLY they use a blue or black fishing line type. But she did say they also use a white one that looks like white out paper. This "could" have been what I saw.

SO, we'll probably be headed to the Peri Center in the morning for a speculum check. So not in the mood for the stupid speculum as I'm terrified it will open my cervix with the stitch in. I'm just going to calm down though and "be still" and HOPE in the Lord that all things will be well. :thumbup:

At any rate I feel Amelia kicking the heck outa my bladder. It's what freaked me out when I saw the odd white thing in the toilet. I'm totally afraid she'll kick that stitch right out, though I've heard it's hard to do.
 
Hello everybody! Hope you had a great weekend! Big :hi: to you all!

So glad you had good weekend, Missy, with your DH and the cabin. It sounds very romantic. You did the right thing with MIL-she couldn't expect you to change your plans at the last minute to suit her! Fingers crossed now that you'll catch your egg-let's WILL it to work! :thumbup:

Hi Skye, how are you hun?? Hope you had a good weekend?? How funny that you would dream about me-it just shows the effect that people have on us. I consider everybody on here as friends, and worry about you all as I would my family and friends. Sleeping a lot sounds like a very good idea-there are magical things going on inside your belly that you need to rest up for!! Big :hugs: to you!

Hi Lava, how are you hun? Been thinking about you-I bet those litle beanS are getting nice and comfy in your belly! It will all be fine, don't you worry! Lots of :hugs::hug: to you!

AFM, this month I think I am going to ovulate today-took an opk test last night and it was positive-two days earlier than last month. Had a few twinges yesterday which means that it's imminent. But the thing that I have really noticed this month is that I am really 'up for it' :)sex::sex::sex:) to pardon the expression, and it has made me realise how mechanical and robotic I was perceiving ovulation to catch the egg sex. I don't know what it is, but I don't need to look at my OH for more than three seconds at the moment, and I want to drag him off to bed. Of course, he's not complaining!!! Certainly beats arguing all the time!! I don't know whether all this is down to the acupuncturre, but I have to say I think it's great!!! It just shows the toll of long term TTC!!

Anyway, have a great week everybody! Thinking of you all, love,
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I've lost the plot and the will to function obviously!!

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Well, after pee'ing this 3am. I had a scare. I thought I saw an inch worth of my stitch in the toilet. Forgive me, but I dove right in after the sucker and it still went down the little hole without flushing. So I have nothing to show.

I frantically called the on call Dr. and she did say that while she can't guarantee it wasn't a white stitch placed, USUALLY they use a blue or black fishing line type. But she did say they also use a white one that looks like white out paper. This "could" have been what I saw.

SO, we'll probably be headed to the Peri Center in the morning for a speculum check. So not in the mood for the stupid speculum as I'm terrified it will open my cervix with the stitch in. I'm just going to calm down though and "be still" and HOPE in the Lord that all things will be well. :thumbup:

At any rate I feel Amelia kicking the heck outa my bladder. It's what freaked me out when I saw the odd white thing in the toilet. I'm totally afraid she'll kick that stitch right out, though I've heard it's hard to do.

Hello MA-I'm sure that everything will be fine. It's a good idea to get yourself checked out though. These things happen, don't they, no matter how careful you are. I'm positive that all will be well-try not to worry too much!

Lots of love,
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