TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[dashka]

Hi ladies, have just got back from the hospital (seeing dad)
so ive caught up but just want to send everyone a bunch of big xxxx

Nothing to report here from me xxxx

did they do your Dad's scan today??

He's had two done, the legs were fine, no clots etc there, the chest one though...no results yet, hopefully tomorrow!

everything crossed for good results then!!

 

[want2conceive]

Want to conceive –

Spoiler

YAY great news about 2nd Beta!!! Congrats!!! Re: your job – wow that must be hard not to lift anything if you work at airport check-in?? Don’t you have to lift luggage sometimes? If you and your DH can swing it – then go with your heart!! Sorry I can’t help you with the $ for doc visits/procedures as I live in Canada and it’s different here. So happy for you that you got a BFP after 8 yrs!

Nessaw – there is no such thing as a pity post! You are going through a rough time and that’s what we’re here for.... we are here to help each other out –so you vent, cry, scream and mourn or do whatever helps... I soooooo wished this would have worked for you... I’m glad to hear your school is understanding about being away...

Kiwi – sorry the shots are stinging – I know how that feels but you will get used to it and become a pro in no time (I never would have believed that if you told me at the beginning too) I was on different meds but they pretty much do the same stuff in general just different degrees... ( I was on Gonal F to make follicles and Repronex to mature the follicles and Lupron basically stopped ov from coming) Are you injecting in the belly or buttocks? So they are going to do transfer 6 days after ER?? I’ve never heard of that long a wait (only 3 and 5 day transfers). Medrone sounds like a steroid to help with not-rejecting embryos (I am taking Dexamethosone) Looks like they also have you on antibiotics (oxytetracycline) to prevent infection and I guess the cyclogest pessaries are progesterone suppositories.... Yes I think many women stay on them for first 3 months (first trimester) but it depends on your levels I guess.... Note: make sure you wear a panti-liner/pad with them as they leak and are messy... I have to use them 4X/day ...yuck .... Good luck –the time will fly!!!

Froliky – hope you are okay – it’s good to see you on here.... we miss you! Wow can’t believe you are already 33 weeks!

Chicken – good for you and having date nights every week! Enjoy that !!! one of the perks before kids!! As for the specialist / md... The specialist may have you re-do a lot of tests anyway (as they like doing their own) so get the FS app’t as soon as you can. Sorry AF showed up

Dr. H – re: wedding plans - I would wait a little longer too– how long do you have to wait there before your first scan?

Pad – how are you hun???? We are missing you on here and getting a bit worried....

Lils – hoping and praying this is your month!! How are you feeling? Hope your favourite time of year (Halloween) did some magic this year....

Dwrgi – need to check out your journal - i’ve missed ‘ the kitchen’!

Purps – hope your Dad’s scan goes well today and that the final sweep is what Purplette needs to get on out here!!

Greenleaf – sorry you are feeling sick hun.... get better soon!

Owl – when are you testing???? Everything crossed for you!!!

Pebble – your dog Duke sounds soooo sweet!!! Aw good for you to get a retired racing Greyhound... I can’t believe that you had to cut your hair to get DH to agree to getting the dog!!??? I thought all guys liked long hair??

BF – hope you are doing well hun....

Asry, Lady H -

Mirium - how are you?

Moon -

Grkprn - hope you are ok hun

Hello and hugs to everyone I missed!!!

okay I'm exhausted from catching up now --- gonna go rest

wow longest post ever~! Fell half way through and finished reading when I woke up. Think you got everyone in the thread in that one.

Thanks Dash, I wasn't lifting any luggage and letting the 2 helpers behind our counter do it. But it's just stressful. With that in mind............

Hubby and I have made a decision. I left work today and he is going to add me to his insurance. It covers 90% of everything. His salary covers all the bills, and what we have in savings will cover grocery/gas expenses.

If anything, I can always get a partime gig somewhere to help out if needed.

 

[froliky2011]

Pbl_ge - Duke sounds so sweet! I love greyhounds & think they are so beautiful! Enjoy him!

Chicken - Sorry about the AF! Enjoy your date nights. It sounds like all the women are giving you good advice etc. Good Luck!! ~~~~

Dwrgi - How are you beautiful? I did not know you had a journal! I will have to peek soon!

PAD - MIA? Where are you? How are you? We're all worried sick!!

Purps - for Dad & Purps is still shy! She'll be here any day!

Dash - Sending lots of ~~~~

Lil - Are you in TWW? How are you beautiful?

HA -

DrH - I agree with the other ladies..wait a bit...

Neesaw & Moon - My heart aches for you both! I wish I could do more than right a post and send virtual hugs.

Want2 - Glad you got the logistics worked out! Congrats!!

Kiwi - Dash gave you really good advice about the injections etc. Good Luck!! Sending ~~~ your way!!

Helen - I don't know you...but I hope all is well...

Owl - You in TWW? Good Luck!! FX'd!!!

Tiger - How are you?

BF - It's good to see you again and thanks for caring about me and wondering how I was doing.. (same to the rest of you ladies)... I missed all of you, but the past few months have been quite a whirlwind of emotions etc. How are you? Any news regarding your status?

Greenleaf - I jotted down GWS and now I don't recall what that meant? I will have to check back. Oh, it meant..Get Well Soon!!!!

Arsy & LadyH - Sending lots of love and hoping you're both feeling good and taking care of yourselves. xoxo

AFM - I am doing alright. I am naming my boy after my father and am getting nervous but excited too. My father's death was due to the incorrect diagnosis and they missed a common infection which got into his blood stream and then his heart, causing him to have multiple strokes and then die. My father was sick for over 5 months and went back to the doctor complaining of low grade fevers, night sweats and fatigue. I did not know this, but he had a catheter and ended up dying from Endocarditis which is very treatable. The doctors were assuming he had cancer (leukemia) and referred him to an oncologist but never an infectious disease doctor. Needless to say, he's gone now. It is really quite crazy! I can't believe it. As you all know, I had to work quite hard to get pregnant and one of my friends made a comment that she would not do anything unatural to get pregnant because she would be scared something bad would happen. Well, I had a lot of challenges with her comment and even now after my dad died (I had nightmares again after he passed away) I have some fears about something bad happening to our son. I am working on meditation and trying to work through the anxiety. I am doing fairly well, but I do have to practice relaxation techniques as I know stress can really make labor and delivery worse. I am still doing yoga but had to put my teacher training on hold because of my father's death. Anyway, thanks for all your support. Lots of Love to all of you!! xoxo

 

[pbl_ge]

Hi All,

Can I ask a question of you IUI experts? I have a dear friend who is 30 years old with picture perfect tests, but her wife is also female, so they obviously need a little technical assistance. Anyway, they just finished their fourth round of IUI with fully vetted donor sperm, and with no luck--not even a chemical pregnancy along the way. She's wondering if it's worth it to keep trying. They ramped up the medications along the way, starting a la natural and ending up with the full Femara + trigger. They have no idea why this hasn't worked for them.

Their insurance doesn't cover IVF, and they're no where near being able to afford it on their own for a few years.

Any advice for them???

 

[Butterfly67]

Frol, just wanted to send big it's terrible that your dads death could have been avoided . Please try not to take notice of your friends comment, a baby is a special positive gift however it gets into the world. I love that you are naming your boy after your dad

Pebble, I have heard that iui has a similar success rate as natural conception (could be wrong) so even with tests all clear it could be worth trying for 6 months at least. Also maybe try a different donor drsquid who was on here a while back was assured her donor had good numbers but found out after a few iuis that actually they were not good so changed donors and got pg (by ivf though)

 

[chickenchaser]

Froli so sorry about your Dad, it is always hard when a death could have been avoided. I can understand that it must be causing you a lot of stress.
As for your friend I have always thought that I couldn't put myself through IVF but as my body has started to fail me my thoughts have been changing and now I feel that if I don't do everything available to get our child I will always be thinking what if. My point is until you are in that situation you don't know what you will do and how you will feel. Yes things can go wrong but they can also go wrong in a natural pregnancy. Please don't dwell on her words I'm sure she didn't mean to upset you.
From what I know about you, you do everything you can to look after yourself and that will benefit your little boy. Send you love and hugs and I hope the bad dreams leave you soon XXX

 

[owl35]

hi pebl,

I'm sorry your friends are having such a hard time with this and I totally understand as I'm in the same boat with unexplained infertility. Have your friends thought about just taking a little break maybe? I think it might be good to get off the meds for a little while and let the body recover from it and the stress and disappointments associated with the procedures. Your friend can always go back to do more IUI's. Some people get pregnant on their 6th or 8th IUI so there is always hope that it will work eventually. If your friend has the strength to keep going, then I think she should. If she is getting too depressed with every try, I would take a break and get back at it in 2 or three months and try again. Lot's of for them! I keep my fingers crossed that it will work! Please keep me posted

froli - big hugs for you. I'm so terribly sorry about your dad

dash - sending sticky your way for two little dahes

lots of love to all you lovely ladies out there

afm - tested out my trigger shot and I still had a faint line yesterday at 9dpiui but unfortunately it was gone this morning. I was hoping I would just go from trigger line to pregnancy line - I know, who was I kidding But those stories on the internet are telling me that there is still hope after a bfn at 10dpiui... so we'll see. Beta is on Friday.

 

[Dwrgi]

hi pebl,

I'm sorry your friends are having such a hard time with this and I totally understand as I'm in the same boat with unexplained infertility. Have your friends thought about just taking a little break maybe? I think it might be good to get off the meds for a little while and let the body recover from it and the stress and disappointments associated with the procedures. Your friend can always go back to do more IUI's. Some people get pregnant on their 6th or 8th IUI so there is always hope that it will work eventually. If your friend has the strength to keep going, then I think she should. If she is getting too depressed with every try, I would take a break and get back at it in 2 or three months and try again. Lot's of for them! I keep my fingers crossed that it will work! Please keep me posted

froli - big hugs for you. I'm so terribly sorry about your dad

dash - sending sticky your way for two little dahes

lots of love to all you lovely ladies out there

afm - tested out my trigger shot and I still had a faint line yesterday at 9dpiui but unfortunately it was gone this morning. I was hoping I would just go from trigger line to pregnancy line - I know, who was I kidding But those stories on the internet are telling me that there is still hope after a bfn at 10dpiui... so we'll see. Beta is on Friday.

Owl-so sorry to read no line this morning-what a huge disappointment! However, wait for your beta on Friday before you give up the ghost, you never know, and there are plenty of exceptional stories out there! Thinking of you and big

 

[purplelou]

Frols, I think it's a lovely tribute to your dad that your son will be named after him xxx I don't agree with your friend at all. You wanted your baby so badly..how is that a bad thing? And how bad things happen as a result? Don't believe that at all

I am so sorry about your dad. Nothing can make it better, and it mus be so hard to know things were missed.

Xxxxxxxx

 

[purplelou]

Owl fingers crossed for you! 9 or 10 dpi uti is still quite early

Pad where are you? Miss you! Xxxx

Massive hugs and loves to everyone else! I'm being admitted tomorrow so this is likely my last post for a few days, will be thinking of you all though xxx hopefully there will be some lovely bfps when I get back! Take care everyone xxxx
Ps neversaynever will update my journal when there is any news

 

[nessaw]

owl everything crossed for ur beta.

purps good luck.can't wait to hear from u/never!

love to all vx

 

[moondust7]

Hi all - thanks for all your thoughts and posts. I'm taking a class today & tomorrow so I'm away from my computer (writing this on my phone!) - so I'll reply individually to everyone on Thursday. Hope you're all doing well and have a great week! I had my HCG blood test yesterday and find out results today. I'm feeling a lot better & more positive. Take care - I'll be thinking of you all & reading posts (in class... heehee). Lots of love!!

 

[chickenchaser]

Purple good luck honey, Send you loads of love and hugs. XXX

 

[smallhelen]

Hi everyone!

Purplelou - loads and loads of good luck for tomorrow! It'll be fantastic to finally meet your lil darling.

Owl - everything crossed for you. Keep thinking happy thoughts.

Hope everyone else is hanging on in there.

AFM - thanks for the hugs. As spotted by the eagle-eyed Pebble on my ticker, AF appeared yesterday. Was so frustrated, as on Sunday (8 dpo) I had a temp drop and slight spotting in the morning. So I go to work hoping that it's a sign of implantation. But when I get home, I start spotting big-time, which is a sure sign that AF will arrive the next day. D**n that witch.
I am slightly concerned at the length of my LP, which doesn't seem to be consistent at all. But, I have now started taking COQ10, to see if it helps, and am going to start doing more yoga to de-stress a bit.

So, onwards....and it'll soon be Christmas.

 

[want2conceive]

Owl - hope u get good beta results on Friday Hun!

Purple - hope ur dad's chest scan comes back ok.

 

[nessaw]

small sorry about af.

moon glad ur starting to feel a little better.

vx

 

[dashka]

Want to conceive – glad to hear you left your job....and that you guys will be ok... I hope it helps to keep you relaxed and have a healthy pregnancy.

Froliky - I’m so sorry to hear about your Dad’s incorrect diagnosis.... that is so terrible – I know so many of my relatives that have gone into the hospital for one thing and have died from another... It must have been so terrible for you and especially since you are having dreams/nightmares. How beautiful that you are naming your son after your Dad though.... very special.... I can’t believe your friend said that – My sister reminded me recently that a child is a miracle no matter which way it was conceived - A MIRACLE and you can’t think/treat it any other way... I’m so happy that you are getting so close...

Owl – yes GL with beta on Friday!!! Yes 10DPO is early anyway for testing (that would mean that implantation would have had to take place at 7DPO)

Purps – GOOD LUCK HUN!!! WE CAN’T WAIT TO HEAR!!! We’ll all be with you in spirit cheering you on!!!

Moon – really glad to hear that you are feeling a bit better hun...good luck on your class

Small Helen – sorry to hear that AF arrived.... Did you say your LP was short? If so, try taking a B-Complex and Omega Fish Oils. Some women also swear by Vitex (Chastetree) but it didn’t do much for me – but I think the B-Complex did. Also – are temping/charting? I always thought that I ovulated on day 12 or 13 but until I temped I didn’t know I was ovulating on Day 11 most months – so my LP was actually not that bad (it was the follicular phase that was really short) I would recommend using Fertility Friend (FF) it’s free and you get the 1st month VIP version too. Good luck!

Hello and hugs to everyone I didn't mention!!!

Winter is here!!! only high of 3C today (and woke up to -3C this morning) Also saw some flurries today!

 

[nessaw]

froliky sorry about ur dad.hope ur nightmares stop soon.xx

 

[moondust7]

Hi all - just wanted to post to say Good Luck to Purps!!!

Fx for all the other lovely ladies here.

Nessaw - hope you're doing OK - thinking of you.

Will post more & get more caught up when I am back at my computer

 

[Greenleaf]

purps - good luck and all the best dearie!