TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[Nikki Leigh]

Froliky: I totally disagree with your friend...if the baby wasn't meant to be here, no amount of modern science would enable him to be here. Babies show up when they're least expected all the time--unplanned, planned, from under our hearts, from our hearts, through miracles or by medicine--and they're still loved and cared for and blossom.

Purps...good luck on your induction and delivery! I'll share my birth story, and certainly you'll do better than I did, LOL

I know I haven't been on in a while--birth plus breastfeeding has taken a lot of my mindshare. Baby is happy and healthy though. And it was a girl!

 

[padbrat]

Sorry sorry all... bloody wedding and Hubby prepping to be away AGAIN has taken up a whole load of time!

Awww Nikki congrats on your baby girl!

Dash! OMG I am such a crap mate! You have had the ET now! 2 gorgeous embies! You are PUPO my darling! Wahooooo! Now remember... hope is important... and chant grow grow grow!!! xx

Purps... today is the day... the next message from you will be with your baby!

Owl am hoping that line comes back!

Lils how are you doing chick?

Dwrgi I am so happy you are back here... we all missed you!

Hey Chicken what a bummer about AF mucking up your test! Pah!

Fro! Hey I have missed you! Such awful news about your Dad sweety, I am so sorry. However, his memory lives on in your Son xxxxxx

Nee I have said it before... you work to your own timings. Get signed off... take time to grieve xx

DrH I agree have your scan and then you will have a clearer idea of where you stand. xx

AFM

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I had my NT scan and all went well with a measurement of 1.8, which is normal. Baby was refusing to pose as usual and was more interested in floating on her belly and looking at her toes! Had my downs risk result through and we are 1 in 620, which we are happy with considering my age!

Next scan isn't until 19th Nov... grrr.. ages away!

 

[LilSluz]

Chicken - What a friggin PITA, I’m so sorry hun. I know you wanted answers this month . I can’t comment on the referral as I don’t know how the NHS works there. Just sending .

DrH – I would wait to put off the wedding until after nt scan, if it was me. Seems like that would still give significant advanced notice, right?

Purps – Storm – Thanks for asking. Yeah, they’re getting the 2nd Superstorm but they’ll be OK because they have full power & very little to no damage from Sandy. It’s the Sandy-impacted NJ/NY areas that are going to have it pretty rough Massive Good luck today hun – so exciting!!!!


Dwrgi – Yes, temps have now dropped to around 28C/83F. It’s pretty rough, but someone has to do it… I guess I’ll sacrifice myself for that one, too. Summer broke in mid-October, so Spring is now here until May – yay! (only 2 seasons here). Hope you are doing OK, hun. I know that 5-yr mark has to be rough, but if there’s a rainbow w/a pot of gold after that storm, it will all be worth it.

Dash – Of course I’m posting in your journal in more detail, but just hoping & sending ++~~~ your way hun! Please dig in lil embies, please did in & get snuggly!!! Afraid I won’t be joining you for any Halloween magic…


Want2 – Most of us wouldn’t know that since we are on #1 & it’s really a “TTC” thread. That’s a good question for the 35+ graduates thread though!

Green – Pebble explained it well! The only time I don’t take Benadryl is during Ov because it dries up CM. And the only time I get allergy attacks is…during Ov. (but, of course!) But otherwise, its totally safe – Class B! Hope you are feeling a bit better now?

Kiwi – yay, good luck on scan tomorrow!

Helen – Damn that !!! Don’t suppose you’d want to link your chart in your siggie would you? At any rate, if is coming at 8DPO (more than once/fluke), then that often signals a progesterone deficiency, have you had it checked? And Dashka has some great advice w/supp’s of course as she is our lovely resident nutritionist .


Pebble – aw, those poor greyhounds! I see them here & there up for adoption. Glad he makes your morning for you, that gets you set for the whole day. Yes, I am SO GLAD Election Day is over – no more ridiculous ads! It just seems to have turned venomous between the parties/constituents & there is really no need for that. The hate, division & strife method obviously didn’t work & a compromise doesn’t mean 100% one-side FFS… People really need to grow up & come together & put their egos aside. Maybe we should elect 1st graders to Congress from now on as kids learn all of that stuff in kindergarten. And yes, that’s how I really feel .

Fro – I can’t believe how close you are! I’m not doing so great, but its below. Thanks for asking & makin me feel good . So sad about your dad, love. That’s awful it could have been avoided May he rest in peace… & I love that you are naming DS after him. Ok, let’s talk about this friend. She can have her beliefs all she wants while you are delivering your healthy baby boy. If bad things happened to those who got IUI or IVF, then there would be bad things happening to millions of children. And yet, there is no such thing, rather the kids grow up, are beautiful, healthy & are thankful for it. Using her logic, it could also be seen as unnatural to remove a cancerous tumor, or ever get surgery for anything for that matter, or ever take a prescription drug & so on… So just try to put it in perspective, hun. I’m not dissing your friend as she’s entitled to have whatever opinion she wants (although saying that to you pisses me off to no end to put it lightly ), but just know in your own heart that it’s not based in any kind of factual study – none whatsoever. So take it with a grain of salt & keep loving your LO because that is what he needs – your positive energy & love. Hoping to get to meet you soon… (I was just hoping I’d at least be preggers for it…)

Asry – You, too! You & Fro are neck-n-neck luvs! Not long now!

Ness -

Moon -

GreekPorn – where are you hun?

Owl – good luck on Fri. hun!

Nikki – Congrats hun!

BF - darlin! How are those 3x/day exercises going?

Pad – hey chick! I know we have already “talked” but major !

AFM – I have a team mtg tomorrow (AF due) so I tested this morning at 13DPO because I certainly don’t want to test prior to that & be sad, or have just show up during it. Anyway, stark-white BFN. So today is now designated "sad day" instead. DH says he wants to try again this month & then take a break over Christmas. Idk what to do, but I will be retesting all of my hormones soon & may go get yet another opinion from a local RMC Specialist. Ugh, so red wine+ tonight…like the last 20/22 months… My heart must be super-healthy by now...

 

[Dwrgi]

Big lovely Flo Rida, and way to to go on the + tonight! Thinking of you, Axxx

 

[padbrat]

Yea I second Dwrgi's comment! You have a super gorgeous heart and you are so noble volunteering to drink the lovely... yummy.... delish...*drool drool... wine..

 

[owl35]

pad - you are back! Good to see you, I was getting worried. As always thinking pink for you and little padette

dwrgi - hi and hugs to you lovely. Hope you are doing well.

dash - cheering for your two fabulous little embies in there

lil - I'm so sorry about the bfn. that just sucks. Wine and having a "sad day" is the best way to treat this I do the same thing every month.

grkprn, mirium, - hi if you are lurking. hope you guys are doing ok

purps - good luck (I think I might be a little late with this).

chicken, lady, chicken, moon, want2, small, bf, green, drh, pebble, fro, ness and everybody else I've missed

afm, I didn't POAS this morning which was a very big deal for me - "hello my name is owl and I'm a POAS addict" Not sure how long I can stay away from those damn sticks though because I kind of want to know if I have to prepare myself for another disappointment...

 

[Butterfly67]

lils I'll have a too hon

Great to hear your news nikki congrats!

Pad

Owl well done in your restraint

 

[padbrat]

Oooo Owl.. when is your official test date? Think positive chick.. hope is important!!

And yes please... need the pinkness!!

Butterfly so pleased you are holding up the UK end of this Anglo American wine supping deal! LOL

 

[dashka]

yay BnB booted me out before and I couldn't get back in!! glad it's working now!

Lils - dammit dammit I'm so sorry about the BFN hun.... I was so hoping that I'd see a spike on your chart today.... It's so hard to think of anything else the day you see that BFN so I know what you mean about not doing it tomorrow. I wish I could take away your sadness hun Good news that DH wants to try again this month (if you are up for it ofcourse) You go have your and chocolate and whatever else comforts you hun....

Nikki - congrats on your little girl! we were wondering about you!

Owl - good for you for the holding back on POAS.... when do you think you will ????

Pad - so glad all your tests have come back great.... This little pink bean is a fighter!

Purps - THINKING ABOUT YOU TODAY HUN!!! good luck with everything...

Dwrgi - going to check your journal but I see you are sick???? oh no not again!!

Hello and hugs to everyone I missed

AFM - had a bit of a scare this morning as I was rear-ended in a parking lot with MIL and AD in the back seat... nothing major -just some paint scraped off the car - but still afraid that the little stress of it may have negatively impacted embies.... I really tried to keep it calm even though I wanted to yell at the woman! After MIL came with me to carry groceries and pick up AD in/out of car - I still had to get this stress -but I guess stress is unavoidable when you step outside....

 

[want2conceive]

Nicki - Congrat's Hun!

Owl - any news on your test? It's soon right?

Lils - I'm so sorry Hun. Alot of us on here know how you feel. We are all here for you Hun!

 

[want2conceive]

I have a couple of updates on me:

Ok first, I got results for my 3rd blood test(on day 18)today. It cameback with a Beta HCG of 3,120! So, I went to the Dr. Office and did an ultrasound. We were able to see an embryo. I am so happy right now. I can't even explain it in words because wanting this to happen for 8yrs is a long time. I'm glowing so much right now!


Second, I got a call from my manager at work making me an offer. She will let me work cashier only(sitting down) for my whole shift. So no standing in the check-in counter and no having to ask people to pick up the luggage because I can't. All I would be doing is checking out luggage/ticket upgrade fees. Also I can wrk the afternoon shift so I would be working from noon to 8pm and not have to wake up at 3am for the morning shift. Also, not working the morning shift I wouldn't have to deal with those bad apples I was talking about earlier. Even said I can pick my days off. I told them I would go back but didn't promise if it will be for a week or a month, or whatever. I want to try it out and see. If I feel like it's not going to work then we'll go back to plan A(leave work). Another factor in me returning to try is that if I wait to leave in December instead of now is that I would get the end of year bonus which would help us. I am going to do what's best for our baby though so if I feel it may affect my pregnancy after I return I won't hesitate one second to leave again.

 

[dashka]

I have a couple of updates on me:

Ok first, I got results for my 3rd blood test(on day 18)today. It cameback with a Beta HCG of 3,120! So, I went to the Dr. Office and did an ultrasound. We were able to see an embryo. I am so happy right now. I can't even explain it in words because wanting this to happen for 8yrs is a long time. I'm glowing so much right now!


Second, I got a call from my manager at work making me an offer. She will let me work cashier only(sitting down) for my whole shift. So no standing in the check-in counter and no having to ask people to pick up the luggage because I can't. All I would be doing is checking out luggage/ticket upgrade fees. Also I can wrk the afternoon shift so I would be working from noon to 8pm and not have to wake up at 3am for the morning shift. Also, not working the morning shift I wouldn't have to deal with those bad apples I was talking about earlier. Even said I can pick my days off. I told them I would go back but didn't promise if it will be for a week or a month, or whatever. I want to try it out and see. If I feel like it's not going to work then we'll go back to plan A(leave work). Another factor in me returning to try is that if I wait to leave in December instead of now is that I would get the end of year bonus which would help us. I am going to do what's best for our baby though so if I feel it may affect my pregnancy after I return I won't hesitate one second to leave again.

Want 2 -

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that is great news on your test!! so happy for you!!!! Btw - you may have noticed that sometimes people used 'spoilers' on here to hide good news too (it's just so that if people are having a bad day or just got bad news themselves they don't have to read it until/if they are ready. Just wanted to mention since you may not know.... The way you do it is - go under "Advanced Post" (click on button below post window) and then highlight the text you want to spoiler and then hit the happyface icon with blindfold on - that's it!!!

As for your work - I think that is a great idea - and so great of your work to suggest - do they know you are preggers and that is why you left? Did you quit or take a sick leave?

 

[tigerlily1975]

Frol, darling, I'm so sorry to hear about your dad But that's such a lovely idea to call your baby boy after him - I plan to do the same if I ever have a baby. Very soon you will be able to tell your bubba that he's named after a great man and will be a great man himself too, one day.

Oh, and as for your friend's comments, it's always easy to make off-hand remarks about something you know nothing about! I bet this same person takes paracetamol when they have a headache!

Please try to rest, I remember a lot of sleepless nights after my parent's passed, it's difficult to switch your mind off at night, isn't it? Just try to remember that your dad will always be with you and your son.

Big, BIG

C xx

 

[nessaw]

great news want2.

so sorry about bfn lils.thinking of u.x

 

[BabyBean14]

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[Greenleaf]

Nikki - congrats on your little angel

Lils - I'm feeling more human now. LOL! Thanks! Sorry about your BFN. I don't think I'm successful this month either. Temp has dropped. But lets not give up!

for all

 

[La Bergere]

Hi ladies. I'm still lurking and pulling for you all. I hope you'll forgive this overly-selfish post because I'm really not up to doing a proper reply today. I went to my first FS appointment and it was very overwhelming. I've reposted my journal entry here because I can't bring myself to writing anything new. It's very long, sorry about that. Please don't feel obligated to read it. Please let me know if you have any insights about this experience. I'm feeling really lost right now. Thanks!

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I think my day can be summed up nicely by these three emoticons:

Oh my gosh, going to the FS was a very overwhelming experience and even though Dr. B. seemed nice and spent a lot of time talking to us I felt like everything started moving way too fast and the number of tests ordered is just outrageous. I went in there with a suspected short LP and came out with suspected PCOS AND endo!!! It's the weirdest thing. He said I have a lot of the secondary indicators of PCOS, such as acne and hair growth but according to my US which I had done today I do NOT have poly-cystic ovaries (or fibroids or anything else abnormal). In fact, I have a healthy reserve and did ovulate this month. He showed me my corpus lutetium and said I have a nice lining going on. So why does he suspect PCOS? Surely a woman can have a hormonal imbalance without it being PCOS? The suspected endo is even weirder. All he did was say oh, you have painful periods and intercourse so it's probably endo. I had a chocolate cyst once in my 20s, but it went away and as far as I know didn't reoccur. I haven't been able to determine if one chocolate cyst = endo or if you can get those as one-offs? Of course, I forgot to tell the doctor about the chocolate cyst. Thankfully, my US today didn't show any sign of ovarian endo. I have IBS and I get tense during sex plus I'm petite so of course intercourse hurts a little. Anyway, he's ordered a crap-ton of blood tests so we'll see what comes of that.

These are our next steps:
- the aforementioned crap-ton of blood tests for both me and DH.
- SA and some kind of sperm splicing test for DH.
- cycle monitoring for me
- probably will get progesterone supplements starting next cycle (THE ONE THING I ACTUALLY WANTED)
- a test for me, I forget the name, where they inject dye into the uterus and fallopian tubes to check for blockages. I've heard this is very painful!
- possible IUI
- if problems persist beyond this, laproscopy and IVF.

I had a complete and total meltdown in the waiting room after meeting with the doctor and trying to have my blood drawn. After looking at the 14 vials the nurse had prepared I freaked. I'm not scared of needles but all those vials symbolized for me how out of control this whole thing felt and I just couldn't face it. I'll go back tomorrow to do the blood work.

Oh crap, I'm crying again. I feel like such an idiot. I know most people who need this kind of help would kill to get in after only 2 cycles of trying. However, this is so overwhelming that I just don't know how to feel about it all. If there are problems, I'd rather know than not but OMG, this was a lot for one day.

Sorry for the epic post, but this was kind of an epic day. If you read this far, I should offer you a drink.

Been manic so sorry for not posting. But Kismet, I'm sending you a big hug. I passed out cold when I saw the needle for one blood test a while back - 14 vials! Holy cow!!
Just think positive. These tests will tell you and the doc everything you need to know.
Thinking of you!
xx

 

[Mirium]

Hi ladies,

Pad - I am happy for you. Pink vibes!!

Dash - Oh, I am wishing you all the best for success!!

Nessaw - I am so sorry!!

Lils - I know how you feel hun. It's so frustrating. and !! You gave me an idea about getting a second opinion at this point. I might have to do that too. and

Owl - Fingers crossed for you dear!!

Moon - to you!!

Dwrgi - :wave:

Chicken - Good luck on getting things sorted out, regarding your tests

DrH

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Congrats. All the best!!!

Purps - All the best!!

Pebble - :wave:

GrkPrn, Froliky, Butterfly, Kismet, LaBergere, Want2, Greenleaf, Kiwi and anyone I missed - :wave:

AFM - I have been bad... - staying away from the thread for so long although I have been reading the posts. I am just here, still focused on losing weight. I am 11dpo today. I am not good at charting - I forget to take temps in the morning so hopefully I ovulated. I will try to get serious about that next month. This is my first month of trying after lap. I don't think I am pregnant because I have been feeling pains that feel like AF. I did a natural cycle. I tested on day 8 and got BFN. I did that because I did not exercise on days 5, 6 & 7 (dpo). (On my 2 prior pregnancies, I had faint line on day 8 already) I wanted to go back to the gym because I am tired of TTC getting in the way of losing this weight - quite a bit of it gained because of this journey anyway. I am just trying to stay strong and wise... . I want to continue on this TTC journey but I really want to try to not think about it as much. That's what's tough but I will try. Have a good night ladies!!

 

[pbl_ge]

Hi All!

Let me say first of all that I didn't read your post right before mine when I posted about my friends, Frolicky. Sorry! That was sooooo insensitive of me. I'm so sorry about your dad. I can't imagine how painful it must be. I'm sure he'd be so excited to know that you're naming his grandkid after him.

As for your friend, it reminded me of this joke, which you've probably heard, but just in case:
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A farmer is in Iowa during a flood. The river is overflowing, with water surrounding the farmer's home up to his front porch. As he is standing there, a boat comes up, The man in the boat says "Jump in, I'll take you to safety."

The farmer crosses his arms and says stubbornly, "Nope, I put my trust in God."

The boat goes away. The water rises to the second floor. Another boat comes up, the man says to the farmer who is now in the second story window, "Jump in, I'll save you."

The farmer again says, "Nope, I put my trust in God."

The boat goes away. Now the water is up to the roof. As The farmer stands on the roof, a helicopter comes over, and drops a ladder. The pilot yells down to the farmer "I'll save you, climb the ladder."

The farmer says "Nope, I put my trust in God."

The helicopter goes away. The water continues to rise and sweeps the farmer off the roof. He drowns.

The farmer goes to heaven. God sees him and says "What are you doing here?"

The farmer says "I put my trust in you and you let me down."

God says, "What do you mean, let you down? I sent you two boats and a helicopter!!!"

The end.
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I'm sure this isn't everyone's theology, but it did seem apt.

What’s up purps????????

Congrats, Nikki!!!!!!

Lills, BOOOOO on the . I’ll stay optimistic for you, since I see no signs of the on your chart. Your state continues to buck expectations, doesn't it!

Dash, so sorry about the minor wreck! I’m sure it did nothing, so don’t worry about it. Karma (pun not intended) will get the perpetrator! Snuggle in, my pretties!!!!!!!!!

YAY for PINKNESS!

And special, big huge hugs to moon and nessaw

Kismet, I’m sorry that was so overwhelming! I hope you get good answers soon. Keep us posted and remember that women have delivered babies with PCOS, endometriosis, in their 40s, with no tubes, with azospermia, etc etc etc. and

to all I’ve missed! La Berg, Mirium, Tiger, BF, HA, etc…….

Thanks also to those who weighed in about my friend’s failed IUIs. I think they’re taking an indefinite break. I’m worried because the one I’m closer to (the 30 yr old) is REALLY dedicated to the idea of children, but I think her older partner (40 next month—I adore her, too) may not be interested in trying again. I think my point here is clear.

Sorry I’m bad these days about posting and checking journals. I got shamed recently about my work ethic (50 hours a week is not enough--the joys of the tenure clock!), so I’m trying to be better behaved. And frankly I’m BORED of waiting for my cycle to return!

PS. in hand!!!!! I am here for YOU!

 

[want2conceive]

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Thanks Dash n sorry if I made anyone feel bad by posting news without spoilers.