TTC 1st child 35+ (Please spoiler any PG news/announcements).

[nessaw]

Kat I have got myself serious stressed symptom spotting and poas early so many times so this month am just waiting it out (im)patiently. Based on my prev cycles am verging on being late for af but chilling about it. Tbh its felt like af is ready to start for last few days.

 

[moni77]

I am waiting until Sunday to test - AF due Sat - Mon. I am trying not to symptom spot...BUT my back has been achy and breasts feel a little funny.

We'll see...

 

[nessaw]

Stoopid af! Was getting a little excited as didn't show am but came as a surprise after lunch. Boo!

so I called the no the cons gave me re the hsg and all the info was wrong so might not get to have it done this cycle.
If I wasn't on a diet there wd be choc and wine involved!

 

[Kat S]

Nessaw, I'm so sorry!!!

 

[smallhelen]

Hi ladies!

Spoiler

OK, time to show you something:



Nine days after the first test, and I am still absolutely amazed and shocked. I wasn't expecting it all (and have done another four tests just to make sure ).
We were beginning to think that it would take years to get a BFP, and my appointment with the specialist has just come through. I can only assume that the summer holiday has given me the chance to relax (I'm a teacher), and that has helped.
I'm half very excited and half absolutely terrified. Am just over 5 weeks, and so nervous about what can go wrong. But will keep hoping and praying that this will be a sticky bean.

to you all.

 

[Kat S]

Oh, Smallhelen!! How wonderful! Congratulations!!!

 

[luckylecky]

Smallhelen... woooooh! Congrats!

 

[moni77]

Congrats smallhelen!!

Sorry Ness.

AF got me this weekend as well. Pretty disappointed - I really wanted it to be this month. I go to the doctors on monday to look into fertility testing. We did sperm check this weekend and it was positive - so the hubby has enough swimmers. On to next month!

 

[Kat S]

Moni, I'm sorry to hear it We'll have to transfer all our hopes to the next cycle!!

 

[nessaw]

Moni am sorry about af. Hugs.x

small

Spoiler

wonderful wonderful news. Am convinced that the summer hols worked the same for me last year. Wishing u a very happy and healthy 9 months.x

Afm cd 7 have been referred for hsg. Meant to be done before cd 10 and no sex before its done. Only a 24 hr answer phone and haven't got called back. V frustrated cos think oving early and don't know whether to dtd and risk it or wait just in case. Sick and tired of missing cycles and wasting time.

hi to all.x

 

[Kat S]

Nessaw, that is so frustrating! What is with FS offices not calling back? Knowing that time is of the essence should manifest an excellent call-back system . Keep us updated!

 

[nessaw]

So we dtd and then I got a voicemail today! Fortunately the only appt was for today and I couldn't get there so didn't have to reveal my shame! The woman was v nice and understanding re teaching and frustration at time taken and I have her direct line to call next month.

 

[moni77]

ness - hopefully you wont need it next month.

 

[Kat S]

Nessaw, I think it's shameful that they waited so long to call that you missed your window! WTH?? I'm glad you're calm about it, though. I would have raised hell and made them hate me LOL! Good luck this cycle...you never know!

 

[nessaw]

Its crap kat but am so 7sed to having to wait because of nhs mistakes that it didn't surprise. Was a bit relieved not to have to explain that we had dtd!

how's things going with you?

 

[Tori G]

Hi- new to this site! I'm 37 and my hubby and I are trying for our first. So far, no luck, but it has only been three months. I have endo, so I'm prepared for it to take longer, but never thought that I would feel frustration so quickly. My endo is not severe, and AF has finally started to level out since I stopped the pill in June. I guess I'm just nervous that I waited too long and missed my window of opportunity because we didn't try a few years ago...

 

[Jazzbird]

Hi Tori - I'm almost 37 and we've been trying for our first for nearly 9 months. It is frustrating and worrying but you must try not to regret. It's a waste of energy. I also think that if it takes you a long time at 37 it how do you know it wouldn't take just as long at 27. People who have had children and complain it took longer the older they got aren't a true comparison - as the body wears out with each child.

Just try to enjoy all the lovely baby dancing. And if nothing happens in 6 months go and get tested.

The majority of couples age 35-40 do conceive within a year.

 

[N1977]

Hi Tori, I'm with Jazzbird. Try not to regret, you weren't ready years ago, but you are now - don't know about you, but it took me awhile to get DH to a good place not having to force him on the issue.

I'm almost 36 and went of BCP in June as well (17 years!) Every month I see better regulation of my cycles, but it is fustrating and concerning (I thought it would be easy! <-- ha! what did I know).

I do know that this site has been a godsend to me - to be able to read and chat with likeminded people who understand how challenging this is. Keep your chin up! It will happen for you.

 

[angel825]

Hi Ladies,

I just joined today. At the end of August, I celebrated my 38th birthday and the end of my birth control pack. I have been married for 2 years and have two stepchildren. For years, I said I never wanted children and a couple of months ago, something happened and all I could think about was having a baby. My husband and I discussed it and decided to TTC this month.

AF is due to arrive this Friday, but who knows since this will be the first since I stopped my BC. I definitely ovulated this month but we didn't do any charting or anything.

Good luck to everyone!

 

[Tori G]

Hi Tori - I'm almost 37 and we've been trying for our first for nearly 9 months. It is frustrating and worrying but you must try not to regret. It's a waste of energy. I also think that if it takes you a long time at 37 it how do you know it wouldn't take just as long at 27. People who have had children and complain it took longer the older they got aren't a true comparison - as the body wears out with each child.

Just try to enjoy all the lovely baby dancing. And if nothing happens in 6 months go and get tested.

The majority of couples age 35-40 do conceive within a year.

Thanks for the reassurance- I am hopeful that as long as we keep trying it will happen. The longer that I'm off the pill after so many years, the more regular my body seems to become, and I've even lost weight without trying over the past three months. Once my body really has time to readjust, then maybe we will be fortunate enough to have it happen without having to visit the doctor. However, with that being said, I DO plan on making an appt if, after 6 months, we still haven't had any luck. I've always been a planner, and it's been difficult for my sanity that this isn't something that we could plan like everything else! Guess I will leave it to nature- at least until 6 months!