Hello! I'm new here. Just came across this forum today and decided I needed to be here...lol My name is Katalina, but you can all call me Kat for short. I'm 34, and DH is turning 32 this month. We have been TTC off and on for the past year. We actually took a long break last year because I was just making everything worse with my obsession of getting pregnant. I put DH under a lot of stress, and lets just say, performance was affected.
So, I stopped the charting and temps...stopped telling him when I was ovulating and tried to be natural about it. I also stopped for my own sanity...Gave myself a break.
We've recently started trying again, but no charting yet. I'll see what happens in the next couple of weeks as we are in our waiting period now.
I've also been diagnosed with fibroids and my dr. said that I could have complications conceiving. I know that many women get pregnant successfully even WITH them, but I also know that it could be a challenge as well, depending on the placement and sizes...Mine were decent sized the last time we checked.
I have been feeling "different" the last few days. I've had cramps all day for the last 3-4 days now. Almost like a discomfort feeling of bloating, and not what my cramps in the past have felt like. I have overslept a couple of times this week, and I usually wake up early on my own. (could be the heat too...it's been pretty hot here the last week and it's usually not). Guess we'll see what happens here. I'll do a PT on around the 11th or 12th. That should be enough time.
My biological clock has been ticking for years now...seriously. I've wanted to be a mom for years now, and I am so fortunate to have my DH who truly is, my best friend. He's incredible and so supportive. We've been battling the baby decision for years now, because I have some pounds to lose (I'm in my 220's currently), and we thought it would be better for me to lose the weight first, for health and THEN TTC. I've been torn back and forth between this for the last couple of years, and it just seems like we're always putting TTC off, because we want do what's best for us.
Recently, I just called it quits and told him I don't care if I'm overweight, I really feel like my intuition is telling me to go for it now! Don't wait any longer, just do it now. Everything should fall into place. You hear women talking about the delivery, and being in the best shape possible for it, because it will make it easier on you...I hear that. I do intend to be active by walking throughout my pregnancy, so there are things I will still do to try and get in baby shape.
I'm also having some issues with decisions and work. I recently quit the job that I was at for numerous reasons, and DH told me to not worry and just take some time off. I don't know if we can do that financially...I've worked continuously since I was 15 yrs old! I feel a bit guilty right now for not contributing, especially when I see him working so hard. It's just such a new feeling for me, but I need the time off for emotional reasons, and maybe this is a better time than any to try..right?
I am so sorry to haven written a novel here ladies...lol I guess I just needed somewhere safe to come to. There's not a lot of people I can talk to about any of this. My family lives in another province, and I've really had to cut out a lot of "poisonous" friends out of my life.
Nice to meet you all, and I pray that everyone here gets their BFP very soon