ttc after a d&c

[aaronswoman79]

Jessica, it did feel like weeks. I am so plugged in that not having connection messed me up.
All of our rainbows are coming and we just have to do the best that we can. Besides, that preconception appointment won't ease your fears. After the loss of your son you know you have some doubts about what the doctors say. You are being cautious now and looking into things and doing the best that you can. We will always know that we are doing our best for healthy babies
I hog the tv at home! I love How I Met Your Mother but don't watch it too often

Angel, I think that you are exactly right. I think that they feel that if they put things in cold, clinical terms that they aren't being hurtful but they ARE. The coldness makes it more hurtful. And it invalidates how you feel. Sad.

Not to mention they are not always right with their clinical terms. Sometimes they don't know what the hell happened and they still try to come up with their little scientific diagnosis.

 

[aaronswoman79]

Oh Jessica. I second Bethany! It's like they are so far removed and only focused on the science that they have forgotten there is a grieving mother on the other end of that phone! I wouldn't let them scare you from getting pg without consult...bullies!

And their science is not always 100% accurate, like in my case, with the genetic testing.

 

[xoxo4angel]

Oh Jessica. I second Bethany! It's like they are so far removed and only focused on the science that they have forgotten there is a grieving mother on the other end of that phone! I wouldn't let them scare you from getting pg without consult...bullies!

And their science is not always 100% accurate, like in my case, with the genetic testing.

Exactly! Do not let them dissuade you from your rainbow!

I suppose this applies to you as well Natasha!

 

[mommylov]

I was feeling better!! Then I get a call today, on my b-day from the hospital where I lost my baby, and had to start talking about the mc, because they wanted information. It brought everything back. Now I feel stupid because they want to make a preconception appointment, and they suggested that we don't start trying and bding until I get the green light. But my doctor already gave me the go ahead and told me it was ok after a couple cycles. So now I am thinking I might be pregnant, and these people are going to scold me and tell me negative things about my pregnancy if I am indeed pregnant. I can't even go in for a pre-conception appointment because I no longer have insurance coverage, and I will only be able to qualify for some type of coverage when I am indeed pregnant. Now I miss my baby more than ever, and I still don't have the answers I need, not even if he was actually a boy, even though I was already 18 weeks and everybody visibly saw and told me he was a boy. Now they are saying a genetic deformation could make a girl look like a boy?? Well he looked like a boy to me!! Now I am just confused.

Oh Jessica. I second Bethany! It's like they are so far removed and only focused on the science that they have forgotten there is a grieving mother on the other end of that phone! I wouldn't let them scare you from getting pg without consult...bullies!

Oh Natasha, the girls are right, that nurse is full of it! My dr initially told me that she wanted me to wait three cycles but that was before I had my d&c. She said. We can discuss post op. so after, she examined me and said that we were good to go after my first. She said they want yo to wait one for dating purposes and also to giver your uterus a chance to thicken up but they don't want to tell you that before your op because they don't know how you will heal. So bottom line, if your dr evaluated your situation and determined you were ok, then I would tell that nurse to zip it!

Jessica, WTO is wrong with that dr!!! I'm about to put them on the same crap list Laura's dr was on! I'm so sorry they called you and especially on your birthday. Enjoy your special day hun and lots of hugs and love to you!

Danni, how are you holding up Hun?

 

[mommylov]

Amy, you want it badly so of course you will be sad by BFNs the wait isn't about action and that is the hardest part right? We have already done everything so you must wait. But we would rather keep trying, being proactive

Angel, whoa. I really wish celebrities would shut up sometimes
As for Big Bang, I haven't seen it. Keep hoping that Netflix will stream it so that I can watch from the start

Jessica, that is terrible! I wish that they hadn't called you. Jesus that isn't what you needed to hear. You are doing the best that you can ad that is what matters*

Totally! Both dh and I want a lo so bad. It just makes me feel awful that is haven't been able to give him any good news You hit the nail right on the head. I feel so helpless during this wait like I need to be doing something and can't.

 

[aaronswoman79]

I was feeling better!! Then I get a call today, on my b-day from the hospital where I lost my baby, and had to start talking about the mc, because they wanted information. It brought everything back. Now I feel stupid because they want to make a preconception appointment, and they suggested that we don't start trying and bding until I get the green light. But my doctor already gave me the go ahead and told me it was ok after a couple cycles. So now I am thinking I might be pregnant, and these people are going to scold me and tell me negative things about my pregnancy if I am indeed pregnant. I can't even go in for a pre-conception appointment because I no longer have insurance coverage, and I will only be able to qualify for some type of coverage when I am indeed pregnant. Now I miss my baby more than ever, and I still don't have the answers I need, not even if he was actually a boy, even though I was already 18 weeks and everybody visibly saw and told me he was a boy. Now they are saying a genetic deformation could make a girl look like a boy?? Well he looked like a boy to me!! Now I am just confused.

Oh Jessica. I second Bethany! It's like they are so far removed and only focused on the science that they have forgotten there is a grieving mother on the other end of that phone! I wouldn't let them scare you from getting pg without consult...bullies!

Oh Natasha, the girls are right, that nurse is full of it! My dr initially told me that she wanted me to wait three cycles but that was before I had my d&c. She said. We can discuss post op. so after, she examined me and said that we were good to go after my first. She said they want yo to wait one for dating purposes and also to giver your uterus a chance to thicken up but they don't want to tell you that before your op because they don't know how you will heal. So bottom line, if your dr evaluated your situation and determined you were ok, then I would tell that nurse to zip it!

Jessica, WTO is wrong with that dr!!! I'm about to put them on the same crap list Laura's dr was on! I'm so sorry they called you and especially on your birthday. Enjoy your special day hun and lots of hugs and love to you!

Danni, how are you holding up Hun?

Im trying to enjoy the day, now I am actually scared to death that I am pregnant, and maybe I will lose the baby. Because of that idiot nurse that told Natasha that she would mc again!! WTF is wrong with some people. Natasha you should report that lady. It is not alright for a nurse to go and say what she said. I am so sorry that horrible woman ruined your day. I am still shocked she would tell you that.

 

[aaronswoman79]

Oh Jessica. I second Bethany! It's like they are so far removed and only focused on the science that they have forgotten there is a grieving mother on the other end of that phone! I wouldn't let them scare you from getting pg without consult...bullies!

And their science is not always 100% accurate, like in my case, with the genetic testing.

Exactly! Do not let them dissuade you from your rainbow!

I suppose this applies to you as well Natasha!

Angel how long did you wait between mc? What advice did the doc give you?

 

[mommylov]

I was feeling better!! Then I get a call today, on my b-day from the hospital where I lost my baby, and had to start talking about the mc, because they wanted information. It brought everything back. Now I feel stupid because they want to make a preconception appointment, and they suggested that we don't start trying and bding until I get the green light. But my doctor already gave me the go ahead and told me it was ok after a couple cycles. So now I am thinking I might be pregnant, and these people are going to scold me and tell me negative things about my pregnancy if I am indeed pregnant. I can't even go in for a pre-conception appointment because I no longer have insurance coverage, and I will only be able to qualify for some type of coverage when I am indeed pregnant. Now I miss my baby more than ever, and I still don't have the answers I need, not even if he was actually a boy, even though I was already 18 weeks and everybody visibly saw and told me he was a boy. Now they are saying a genetic deformation could make a girl look like a boy?? Well he looked like a boy to me!! Now I am just confused.

Oh Jessica. I second Bethany! It's like they are so far removed and only focused on the science that they have forgotten there is a grieving mother on the other end of that phone! I wouldn't let them scare you from getting pg without consult...bullies!

Oh Natasha, the girls are right, that nurse is full of it! My dr initially told me that she wanted me to wait three cycles but that was before I had my d&c. She said. We can discuss post op. so after, she examined me and said that we were good to go after my first. She said they want yo to wait one for dating purposes and also to giver your uterus a chance to thicken up but they don't want to tell you that before your op because they don't know how you will heal. So bottom line, if your dr evaluated your situation and determined you were ok, then I would tell that nurse to zip it!

Jessica, WTO is wrong with that dr!!! I'm about to put them on the same crap list Laura's dr was on! I'm so sorry they called you and especially on your birthday. Enjoy your special day hun and lots of hugs and love to you!

Danni, how are you holding up Hun?

Im trying to enjoy the day, now I am actually scared to death that I am pregnant, and maybe I will lose the baby. Because of that idiot nurse that told Natasha that she would mc again!! WTF is wrong with some people. Natasha you should report that lady. It is not alright for a nurse to go and say what she said. I am so sorry that horrible woman ruined your day. I am still shocked she would tell you that.

Oh yes! Natasha your dr is going on the list too grrrr! Chin up doll!

 

[xoxo4angel]

The Dr I saw after my natural mc said wait one cycle...unbeknownst to me at the time he is retired from OB and only does gynecology, so not current with today's practice. The OB (a couple of them) my sister works with told me we could have tried straight away. After my D&C my RE asked us to wait one cycle only because she recalls old literature suggesting increased chance for miscarriage due to infection or inflammation of the uterus. Now how old is old literature? I don't know. I think when your body is ready it is ready regardless what science says.

 

[aaronswoman79]

The Dr I saw after my natural mc said wait one cycle...unbeknownst to me at the time he is retired from OB and only does gynecology, so not current with today's practice. The OB (a couple of them) my sister works with told me we could have tried straight away. After my D&C my RE asked us to wait one cycle only because she recalls old literature suggesting increased chance for miscarriage due to infection or inflammation of the uterus. Now how old is old literature? I don't know. I think when your body is ready it is ready regardless what science says.

Thanks Angel, this has given me more reassurance and makes more sense than what any other doc has told me. If our bodies are ready, they are ready. What part of your cycle are u on hon, bding? tww? or just taking a little time off and relaxing?

 

[aaronswoman79]

Oh yes! Natasha your dr is going on the list too grrrr! Chin up doll! [/QUOTE]

Amy, you can also add that asshole ER doctor who I went to see at 5 weeks pregnant. He tells me coldly, "Looks like a threatened miscarriage, so you can just wait here until the baby passes," then he gives me some wicked smile.

 

[xoxo4angel]

Oh good Jessica. You'll be fine. It's amazing the literature that sticks in one Dr's head and not another's...your body knows what to do, just wish the Dr did! Haha!

I'm on CD8! Friday we start our official BDing! (I also get a scan to see what follicles are up to!). I am hoping to O on October 2...fx all systems are a go! We'll see what RE says Friday, I'm a bit nervous.

 

[aaronswoman79]

Oh good Jessica. You'll be fine. It's amazing the literature that sticks in one Dr's head and not another's...your body knows what to do, just wish the Dr did! Haha!

I'm on CD8! Friday we start our official BDing! (I also get a scan to see what follicles are up to!). I am hoping to O on October 2...fx all systems are a go! We'll see what RE says Friday, I'm a bit nervous.

Good luck hon!! yay bd time!! Remember keep the fun and excitement that goes along with it. lol. My poor dh, I treated him like we was some kind of sex object!!

 

[mommylov]

Oh yes! Natasha your dr is going on the list too grrrr! Chin up doll!

Amy, you can also add that asshole ER doctor who I went to see at 5 weeks pregnant. He tells me coldly, "Looks like a threatened miscarriage, so you can just wait here until the baby passes," then he gives me some wicked smile. [/QUOTE]

WHAT!?!!? Oh he is sooooo on the list! Wth!!!!!



I'm off to bed ladies... Fx for the morning poas

 

[jen435]

Hey ladies! Just want to wish Amy tons of luck tomorrow testing!!! Praying you get your BFP!!! Fxd for you!!

Natasha im so sorry about your doctor today They have no right telling you that. You are hurt and have every right to try again. Fxd for a positive blood test!

I must apologize I just worked a 10 hr day and im exhausted. I read but cant think. I work 8am-7pm tom so Friday I will try to play catch up since tom is my friday.

ladies!! Catch those eggs!! I really hope we all have bfp's together SOON!!!

 

[TTCSecrets]

thanks ladies.. i did ignore her just came away feeling a bit like a school child that had been told off and had a lecture about life

Well, i definitely think im out, ive read that if you are pregnant your temperature will stay between 97-99 degrees farenheit, fair enough i only started taking my temperature this morning but its only 97.7, i thought if i were pregnant itd be a bit more elevated than that Hope your all okay xxxx

 

[mommylov]

 

[xoxo4angel]

Aww Amy. Do you get PMS symptoms? I'm just saying if they aren't around, then neither is AF! You're just one of those girls who don't get BFP until later!

Jen sorry your "Friday" is so long! Fx for a jump in Betas! Will tomorrow's results be rapid?

 

[Storked]

Amy

 

[TTCSecrets]

Aww cuddles Amy!! Maybe its just a shy bean and dont want you to know its there!

im out this month, im positive, no symptoms at all apart from thigh cramps which i never ever get, im actually struggling to walk. But that could be because ive gutted the house for my partners mum, and washed and packed absolutely everything we own ready to move out on Saturday

xxx