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WOW! That has got to be super stressful! I dont understand why your husband is saying these things now and causing all sorts of drama. How do you wait until your wife is pregnant to bring up things that bother him like him paying for things when you were in college and dating. It really sounds like work would be a less stressful environment compared to your home with him. I second what Bethany said, I now want to just smack him and say what is wrong with you! It was nice that he helped with paying for things when you guys were dating but that was his choice. Now that you are married, its suppose to be a JOINT effort that you guys make. Not he pays for this and you pay for that. If that works for you guys then thats ok, Im not knocking your system but this tit for tat thing needs to stop with him. He is going to be a father. How would he feel if your daughter was being treated like this by someone? Im sure he would not like it. Im sorry to go off but I dont like that he is making you feel this way. Its just not right. We love you loads hun and are always here for you. Im praying this all gets better for you. xoxo
Jen, I second what Amy said. He does not get to talk to you like that and him taking it to his family to discuss is downright despicable. He needs to be taught a lesson. He needs you Jen. He needs YOU. And because he needs you, you have the power, not him. He doesn't get to make demands. He doesn't get to talk down to you. His family doesn't get to talk down to you.
You are pregnant. You have lost a child and you have been sick. You aren't lazy- it sounds like they are.
I won't tell you how to run your marriage but I do want to impart something: you cannot make a marriage work by yourself. I have tried. And this thing that he has where he complains to his family and they help nurture seeds of dissent in your marriage? I am afraid that it will blow up in your face and his. Because they are telling him that you aren't pulling your weight and he is buying it. But if he were to lose you he'd become aware of just how much he came to rely on you. And by that point you may not trust him enough for a second chance. He needs to step carefully. Because if he is calling you lazy, saying how much you stress him out...and you go back to working like a horse and lose another child...could you ever forgive him?