ttc after a d&c

[jen435]

Posey welcome! Im soo sorry for you loss. I want to send you tons of babydust for your bfp this cycle! As far as bbt charting goes i heard you sometimes have a dip it looks like 5dpo you had a slight dip and ur temp went back up. As long as it stays up it could be a good sign. Its hard to tell though bc sometimes temps dont drop til day af is due. But urs looks high ill definately add you in my prayers for your rainbow baby! Please keep us posted!

 

[lilesMom]

jen sorry the witch got u, maybe ur waiting for me and we all be next time together xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
fx for next time xxxxx

 

[lilesMom]

jen im better off waiting till im fully better cos i felt so bad last few weeks espeacially that i prob would have mc again or be fecked myself by it all. good things come to those who wait im told xxxxxxxxxxx
im much more positive again, xxxxxxxxxx

 

[jen435]

so glad to heear that!

Bethany posey and horseypants cheering you on for your bfp this cycle! And anyone else who is on their tww or will be there soon! Amy which cd are you anyways???

to you lovely ladies!!!

 

[lilesMom]

we r well timed for close bfp jen, im due af tomro

 

[jen435]

Oh laura that would be wonderful to be such close bump.buddies

 

[lilesMom]

coudl still happen, i might wait for next test result and if its good news , il ask about trying now again, il see hopefully

 

[jen435]

Im praying for you laura trust me! All you lovely ladies are in my prayers and one by one my prayers will be anwsered. I truely believe.

Dh is being so cold to me since he found out af arrived. i have a feeling his fam bro ands friends put a damper on him and he is now going to take it out on me. Unfortunately he never opens up to me so ill never know. Im so tired of him being so distant and even if i plan romantic evenings i cant even get.him to put his.arm around me or a kiss without.forcing it. I wish his family.would lay off but it will.never happen.... Sadly im not even involved since.i stay away most the time but i always get the outcome of his attitude and unfortunately it.puts.a hamper on the way he treats me. I think im going to.take money out of one of my up coming checks and treat myself to a massage maybe.itll relax me enough and help me concieve. Im sorry to.complain.and vent im just very.upset today and cant hide it anymore plus have no one to really talk to about.this.stuff.

 

[lilesMom]

no need to hide it chick, its what we r here for
we r hardly having any Bd, even after all our chat yest, i was trying for it yest and no go. he wont talk to me either so i dont know if he is still upset about mc, gone off me r just plain grumpy.. i have always had higher drive than him and am gettin sick of feeling rejected now to be honest. i shouldnt be the one making all effort, we r together over 10 yrs so i know it slows down but it shouldnt nearly stop!!
ts really hard when they wont tell u, i always imagine its my fault soehow when he wont tell me, and 90 % time its something else upset him and theres me feeling shitty

 

[lilesMom]

i know ive been sick a lot so not exactly sexy , but u think all d more reason he should eb up for it when i start to feel better

 

[lilesMom]

oh and massage is a great idea jen, u deserve it and more x

 

[jen435]

Aww hugs laura im sorry. Its not like that he has drive but its like he cares more about his brother mom sister his nephews and friends. He is constantly on the phone with them. Worried about what they are doing. His brother amd mom always want his help and needs him and he gets shit from them if cant help them and they blame me and then he does also.... I neex me husband to help me take care the house too and our dog. He works at his moms house mon to fri then hangout with them before he omes home to me. Then is on pgone with his.mom and bro half the night.... Plays.video watch sports and hangout with his bro and friends every few night til 2-3am.... Then tells me he is tired next day bc i woke him up with my alarm clock at 630am to go to work... Though he sleeps evey day til 11am or 12pm... He also tells me he never sees him friends yet he texts talks and hangout.with.them once a wk... Not to mention every sunday.we go to.his.moms house with his bro and sis. But he tells mehe never sees them too... Ugh im just.so upset. Its.like i married him amd now.im a burden to him.... I know he loves me and he wants.a.baby. He doesnt get the concept of how u only have a window every month to conciev amd i know he.doesnt .want to.know how it works so i dont talk to him about it. I just try to make it happen since he tells me its better that way. I know he is lazy and that is why. He isnt romantic back and he wont touch me. He says its to much work. Yet me enjoys me doing things for him. Im starting.to realize i married a selfish man and i know.i cant.change him. If i ask for a rub he says im needy.and never do anuthing for him. Yet i rub.him nearly every other day bc he has a headache and he asks me. But he tells me it doesnt count if i mention it. I cook dinner clean house work laundry yardwork everything a wife does these days etc.... And it doesnt matter he still says i.do nothing... Makes me feel so little amd unappreciated. Now just because he knew we actually.tried last month he blames me it didnt happen. Its not my fault but he says it is and is being so.cold to me he.is.completely.ignoring me. I made lunch for us.and he wouldnt even eat it we ate a tv.dinner instead just to get to me. It worked to. I have to go grocery shopping and he always goes with me he wrote me a note saying he isnt going when im sitting on the coach right next to him. I just feel like he is blaming me for something i cant control

 

[lilesMom]

oh god jen , he needs a big kick up the behind !!! u deserve to be treated so much better than that!!!! he is behaving like aprize ass. as if u dont have enough pressure from ur self , he puts pressure on u too. at least u r clever enough to know its not ur fault it hasnt happend yet and u know how it works. its not even that long ye been trying relaly even though i know when ur in it it feels really long, he needs to pay more attention to u and lees to his family and friends. u r d one there for him all d time. it is so hard when they wont instigate hugs and romancy stuff, my OH is good for cuddles thank god, so he prob doesnt wanna dump me , like i think sometimes. but it is hard being the one having to push stuff all the time. ive tried sitting abck and not pushing but hten nothing happens. and i have waited ages to see how long it take him to instigate and believe i be waiting a long time xxxxxxxxxx

 

[lilesMom]

but when we were trying it put life back into it again, and its only since mc it has reverted again so i dont wanna push toomuch cos i dont know if he is still upset r what x

 

[Storked]

Aw Jen I was due November 18 and want to get pregnant before then too why wouldn't they let you bury your sweet boy? Did they let you hold him?
And Jen, sorry AF came. Let's all get pregnant together soon yes?
I am so sorry that your husband is being cold and selfish (and childish). Wish I knew what to tell you he shouldn't punish you though. Especially not for getting pregnant. That is emotional abuse. I think he needs less favors given to him so that he comes to appreciate you more.

Aaronswoman, I am dropping caffeine too. Had the last of my soda days ago. Don't be mad at yourself. It is natural to want answers.

Laura, they told me it was probably just a chromosomal problem but they weren't certain because I pretty much lost everything at home. So much blood the doctors are suspicious of my disorder though since my mutation can cause problems for baby, even early on. Something about microclots. But I am prepared for next time for sure. Oh and I slept over 12 hours
Oh and I am SO MAD that they lost your results! I should go over there and give em hell for ya!*
Thank you so much for the angel reading. I totally cried- I needed that
Bad form of your other half not obliging you Laura! I have the higher sex drive in my relationship too. I think it is genetic- all my siblings are hot blooded as well

Welcome to Posey and I am so sorry for your loss. My miscarriage and D&C were also 12 weeks. I wish I could be more help about temping and CM but I only ever checked that after my pregnancy so not sure what to expect before hand. Wishing you luck as well

 

[lilesMom]

hurray for sleep bethany, it rocks
yeah all my family have high sex drives too, it prob is genetic alright, its just annoying cos most couples r d other way round, im sick of hearing women at work goin , oh he is always bugging me for it!!! well whats so wrong with that ha ha would like that problem for a bit
oh and no prob on angel readin xxx i love them , if anyone else here wants it too just ask xx
i dont like to force it down anyones throat xxxx

 

[Storked]

I think you converted me to the angel cards! I will have to purchase some after we get moved
Yeah I know a lot of people who view sex as a chore too and I don't get it. Even when I am not in the mood I am still game lol! It is so fun when the men are the aggressive ones though right?

 

[lilesMom]

yeah if ur not in the mood it doesnt take long to get in the mood
maybe we r just lucky that we like i i suppose
yeah it can be nice to be thrown around the place a bit ha ha

 

[Storked]

Makes them seem more masculine doesn't it? The feminist in me is always disturbed by that thought hehe

 

[jen435]

you ladies gave me a good laugh thank you! It sure.is great when they are like that dh is too.

Oh as for trying he doesnt know.we ttc for 14 monthes before we got pregnant the first time and he also doesnt know we started trying right after d&c so he isnt aware this is our fourthcycle now. He was game for knowing. Last month and told me it would be easy. I said okay and left it like that.... Didnt mention a word to him. I just came back.from store and i bought a first response digital ovulation kit yes/no 20day test.... He has no idea what it was and opened the box without me knowing... He then came out to the livingroom and said will.are you going to test to see if your pregnant. I said no thats an ovulation kit. Im out this month af came. He was so confused... All well at least he talked to me finally.

Whats angel cards? Im interested. How does it work laura?

Bethany yes yes lets make this cycle count what are you using this cycle?