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ttc after a d&c

aarons woman, im having a bit of trouble with my liver for last few months and after the d and c i was having pain for ages . my doc told me that neurofen doesnt go to the liver and to keep taking it to bring down inflammation, i did qs her cos i thought it was very weird but then i thought of the ad that says goes straight to the site of pain and thought maybe the body had a dif mechanism to gettin rid of it and i was in pain so i wanted to be able to take something. turns out its crap of course it goes to ur liver. i asked the nurse in my docs office when i had to go back a week r so later and looked it up on internet.
so id say a lot of docs talk out their ass sometimes :) not all but a lot :) xx we r just doin what we were told is right , how r we to know for sure.

but i def feel u have to be on top of ur doc too. they often misplace stuff and forget when ur meant to have certain tests etc, they see so many people they cant keep track of all. i feel bad for people who have no clue what their doc is telling um and just blindly follow whatever they say, at least we have ability to qs and check it up xxxx

when i had spotting first when preggers , they took blood test for hcg as well. i went to office and she told me it was 45000, i was delighted cos thats what it should have been, she said she googled the levels the nt before and that seemed fine so they wouldnt bother doin a second test to see if level had come down !!!

sorry rambly but im a little opionated on docs and health in general at d mo, im fast losing my faith in medicine. they don t seem able to find out my problems at all. ive been sick on and off , ( mostly on :) ) for 6 yrs and they still havent gotten to the bottom of it.

im reading up more and trying to find my own answers too, i wont turn my back on med but never again will i do what they say just cos they say it!! :) xxxxx
 
i must stand up for my OH a bit i feel, he aint all bad, otherwise i wouldnt be with him :) he was a rock for first 2 weeks after erpc but i think he felt i took too long to get over it, i think it threw him a bit. then he went away with work for so long i think we both had to readjust a little to each other again., i was after getting very used to a clean house but i missed him loads :) :) laura billion posts strikes again but i lose track with answering if i dont do it this way :) xxxx

aaronswoman that is so sad, how horrible for u and hubby xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx big hugs xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
the 'thanks' is for being able to share so much with us.
my heart goes out to u hon, it is an awfull experience that i would never wish on anyone losing a baby xxxxxxxxxxx

thansk for peom posey x
 
Aw Laura I am sorry that you have been sick for years! It is scary when doctors can't tell you what is wrong :(
I am sure your OH is wonderful. Mine is but he didn't react well to my D&C at all. He also hadn't been as attached to our baby yet. I simply pointed out to him that I experienced a miscarriage and he only observed one so he could never understand what I was going through and to quit acting like an insensitive ass. And he did. He still doesn't like me to discuss our loss.
 
my OH goes really quiet and clams up if i try to talk to him about it .
i dont think he can , but if i push he just says it wasnt a baby and we can make another one. so i dont push. :) its not actually how he feels i think, in one way he believes this abit but he is stiil upset so he cant fully believe it.
i framed our scan pic with her name and stickers beside it, he kept moving it and hiding it and i kept putting it back, i asked him why and he said its depressing so it must have affected him more than he likes to let on.
i let him deal with it his way now and i deal with it my way, not ideal but we both have our own diff way of dealing with things. he is a burier :) im a talker or writer :) ha ha x
 
i dont blame him at all anymore for thinking this way, its just his way of coping, who says either of us is right r wrong in what we believe, its up to us all how we deal with our stuff :) x
 
Same here Laura. Mine told me that our baby didn't count either. He didn't mean it but he does feel that he doesn't count as a father which really goes against our religious beliefs (and he is so religious) so I think he is just conflicted. He doesn't like to talk about it because he only likes to talk about happy things.
You are right though. We all cope in different ways :hugs:
 
same deal here hon, only allowed discuss good things, bad things r pushed aside . as long as i get cuddles for bad things i dont mind too much, i have ye guys to talk to xxxxx
 
Exactly! And my DH only talks about good things because he is optimistic as I am sure your OH is too and that is a good thing :)
 
too true, have home made wedges and home made chick nuggets in oven, so bold but af has started and laura the hunger monster strikes when that happens for first day r 2 :) oh well least its healthy version of boldness anyway :) ha ha how was everyones weekend?
 
Of you were here you could have mocha mudslide ice cream ;) but I love nuggets! Why don't I live in Ireland?! Do you get the same cravings or does it change from flow to flow? Mine changes constantly hehe
Well just saw my brother and his family before they leave to Germany. My cat dislikes children and their rough handling poor baby lol. The kids were so cute though! Made my husband even more excited to have our own :)
How is your weekend Laura?
 
oh yum that sounds delicious :) yum , cravings change completly but always has choc in it some where, no choc in house at mo and nearest open shop ages away doh. :)
pity he is goin away but nice u got to see um :) my kitty hates kids :) he is so used to just us. whnever anyone comes to visit he runs either out the window r up to our bed :) he is starting to tolerate my nephew now but only just :) and can still run away r scratch him :)
my weekend is very quiet but im feeling so much better so im happy :) :)
 
havin home made smoothie now, organic yog, strawberries , bananas and apple. im on a bid to be healthy ish, im not gonna deprive myself of food but im gonna try eat super healthy :)
 
I was going to make chocolate cookies with peanut butter chips for the kids but grew super lazy hehe! Maybe tomorrow :)
My kitty hates them too. I'm shocked that mine didn't hiss or bite or scratch...poor boy just farted in complete terror. He is still cautious as they left ages ago. Children and their eager manhandling hehe. So glad that you are feeling better :hugs:
 
I never deprive myself of food either because it doesn't work and makes me mean. Go you on healthiness! (cheers you on)
 
yeah if i feel something is forbidden i obsess :) i went off choc for lent a few yrs ago ( not sure if u know its 40 days where u give something u like up if ur catholic :) ) , i cracked after 3 days, i could go 3 days no bothers if i didnt realise i was off it ha ha
bad catholic :) im pretty lapsed really but have lots of the beliefs solid still in my head :) i love cooking and baking , i just need to have the kids to eat um now so i cant :) ha ha
 
Hi girls, how's everyone's weekend going? So I decided to use my cycles page that I was using for the past few years and stopped once I got pg. I entered that date that I had the weird bleeding and says that I should expect af around sep 9th.. seems so far away but it will be worth the wait. For some reason I feel like just going for it now, like my body really wants to but then I think its my mind/heart that just really wants it. I wanted to wait until after this next cycle for dating purposes but gosh it seems like forever. I know some one of you have been waiting for months to which I am sooooo sorry and I know if you ladies can do it, then I should be able to too!
 
Laura my exhusband was Catholic so I know all about Lent. Don't feel guilty- it is as much of a lifestyle as a belief. I didn't go to church for 3 years and still identified as Mormon because it is just who I am, you know? Even if I enjoy my tea and coffee. Or have a tattoo ;)
Amy, you can always try to go for it now anyways. Did the doctors say no? I really hope that we all get pregnant soon. I am with Jen, I want to be expecting another baby by the time my due date is here (November 18). Maybe that is part of the pressure for all of us? I just desire to have children so much and have for years. It must needs happen for us all soon! Prayers :)
 
Yummy ladies!! Homemade nuggets, mudslides yum! I always get so hungry when i hear of food :). Bethany so glad you say your brother and had a nice visit. Sounds like a nice weekend. I must agree with what you ladies said dh is the same way about Liam. I have a picture of him in our living room and next summer we will have our engraved stone in front yard but he doesn't like to talk or think of what could of been. He likes to try to forget it happened where I can't. I know the holidays will be so hard this year ESP Christmas since i planned all the holidays out even Halloween outfit for him :( its okay staying faithful that i will conceive again and have our LO and an angel watching over us.
Laura thank you for the angel cards. Its so inspiring :) I shared that post with dh hope you don't mind. I'm also very glad I started this thread. I never knew how many lovely ladies I'd meet. I'm so very sorry that you have been sick so long. I really pray that your healed and very healthy soon. Many hugs to you!
 
Amy agreeing with Bethany if you land pregnant before af its faith and ment to happen. They have ultrasounds to tell you how far along you are and i learned they always add time on til they get ultrasound date anyways. But only do it if your hearts there. Hugs to you.'
Laura yummy smoothie. I want to go strawberry, raspberry, and blueberry picking in NJ tom after work since its only a half day. Must find someon e to go with though. Many my friends will be working
 
I get hungry too Jen...my tummy is gurgling now! Ugh I have to make a ton of cookies for a stinking pack meeting. Dang it. I'll make peanut butter cookies.
Why can't men embrace their feelings? I think they deny themselves grief because they don't think it manly or maybe they feel like they have to be the strong one. Jen I hope you get your BFP before Halloween :hugs:
I just BD and am propping with my legs in the air. My DH just finds it amusing
 

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