ttc after a d&c

[Storked]

Good that he talked to you Jen! Maybe the ovulation kit will open his eyes up to how hard TTC can be eh?
I am just taking my prenatals, calcium chew, and baby aspirin. If I conceive I will do the injections again. Other than that I am just using my husband buahahaha. Trying to chill this cycle and let what happens happen. Do the ovulation tests work well for you? I got cheapie ones when I used them and regretted it but could bring myself to spend $40 on the fancy digital ones :-/

 

[jen435]

The cheapies where terrible. I waited 13monthes using bad ones. First month I used the first response digital yes/no I was pregnant I got my first positive pregnancy test 10dpo after my positive opk. If it was just luck idk guess I'll find out this cycle. I used clear blue last cycle and it was okay but not the same as yes no one. I could see the two lines getting darker on the sticka few days before the positive so i knew when i was most fertile before my surge. Not to mention first response is more personal. Its the only one I'd recommend. Also the company backs it up to if your disappointed they will reimburse you for it or send u coupons for free products. Only reason I don't mind trying it again.

 

[jen435]

Calcium chew? What's that do?

Lots of baby dust to you! Do you dtd every night or every other??

 

[Storked]

I was taking calcium because of my blood thinners can affect your bones. We have been doing it every night. I tried every other but my DH doesn't like to feel that sex is "planned" so every other day offends him. Men are weird aren't they?
Thanks for recommending the First Response! I hated the line guessing. If I ever try some again I will get those. But I really hope that we all get pregnant in September

 

[mommylov]

Hi Ladies, tried to read all posts since I was last here...

Laura, ARE YOU KIDDING!?!?! They lost the results AGAIN?!?!?!? Ugh, I want to come there and kick these people in the head! Grrrr , Im so sorry that you are having such a hard time getting these test results. hope this next round of testing is more successful and you are feeling better. And sick or not, oh should love you no matter what and Im sure he does. DH has seen me at my weekest for sure through all this. Before, during, and after my pregnany, he has been more than I could ever ask for. I really feel truely blessed to have him. He isnt into all the mushy gushy stuff but he does send me flowers at work and kisses me when he sees me and if Im asleep she he comes to bed, he always checks on me anc kisses my forehead. Obv, the longer you are with someone, you see change but I can honestly say that I have never been happier and its been the best 8 years. Some men do find it hard to express themselves at times and I know that all of our men do love us, they just need a reminder every once in a while, huh?

Jen, so sorry DH is giving you a hard time doll and that af showed up... putting his friends before you, thats not cool . With regards to his family, you may have come later in his life vs his mother and sisters/brothers but you are family as well and this is such an important time in your life. He has to understand that what you guys are doing is so precious and not to be taken lightly. He needs to hug you and love you and talk to you and show that he is 100% here for you. to you hun and know that we are here. Sometimes men can be so jerky and not get it. When you are pg, it is going to be that much more important that he shows his love for you and your baby. A massage sounds wonderful and you more than deserve it babe.... enjoy!! I hope things get better hun xoxoxo. I dont know what cycle day I am on now since my dr said that I supposedly havent had af since my D&C but I dont think thats true . I really do think the last "show" was her but thats why Im waiting it out a couple more weeks to see. We want to try soon so either way, Im scared but I think we want tojust go for it and see what happens by then.

Bethany, Yay so glad you are going to be getting angel cards! I love mine and def think its one of the best purchases I have ever made! How have you been doing??

Honey08 & Posey, welcome and so sorry for your loss . I hope you find comfort in knowing that you are not alone and we are hear if you ever need us! Posey, I too dont chart so Im useless there


Horsey, how are you??

If Ive missed anyone, please forgive me. Wishing everyone well and BIG HUGS!

 

[mommylov]

Oh and as far as the BD.. I would have to say dh is more the one that can be all about it all the time. Unfort, a lot of the times I want to is when Im at work talking to him on google chat online and Im like "Dangit, why cant you work down the street from me so that we can have a 'quick' lunch and then he sends me a sad face with a </3 " but eventually we get there! lol

 

[Storked]

I good here Amy! How are you?
Yeah I miss the flirt texting that me and my spouse did when we were engaged. He made ME blush and that ain't easy hehe

 

[aaronswoman79]

Hello everyone. I hope you don't mind if I join you on here My hubby and I have been ttc#1 since last October, hubby was dx with severe teratospermia (100% abnormal morphology) in April, but our doc was very encouraging for us to keep trying, we might fall preggo naturally...and low and behold we conceived in April! I started spotting at 11.5 weeks however, and U/S confirmed our wee baby had stopped developing at 9wks4days. I had a D&C at exactly 12 weeks, we took one month off trying again, and have began this month. FX

I do have a question, I wonder if anyone knows?... I chart my temps and cm (don't we all , and last cycle (when I conceived) I had both an implantation dip and a triphasic temp pattern... should I be expecting this to happen again, or might it be totally different this time around? I'm 7dpo right now, and feel like if I don't see a dip, I must be out...

thank you for reading, and I'll be praying for us all.

So sorry for your loss Posey. We are all here for support. I am new here too, and can tell you these are the first woman for me to come across that are really encouraging and understand exactly what we are going through. Me and my husband also conceived in April. April 9th to be exact. Lost ours August 1st. I wish you all the luck now that you and your husband are trying again. I will have all of you in my prayers.

 

[aaronswoman79]

aarons woman, i allowed testing too so i allowed hosp burial, i wasnt so far along as u anyway, i was 10.5 weeks. i really wanted answers too. they still havent given me any results. ive tried chasing it down and no one seems to know when i will be told. i said yes to get some answers and havent got any.
i wasnt even told my having her to take away was an option, was just told sign this for hospital burial. i ws ok with this till recently, i took this option to help future kids so i hope it pays off, for want of a better phrase. either way we made the decision in good faith hon and did what we thought best xxx

So I guess we are in the same boat, waiting and wondering what happened to our babies. It seems like these days you really have to be on top of your doctors, atleast that is how I feel. I don't even trust when they prescribe me medicines anymore, because with my last pregnancy they gave me a medicine that was known to cause harm to the fetus, and had the nerve to tell me it was safe for me and the baby. Then I researched and found out it wasn't safe. I dont remember if they told me it was an option to take the baby home, I just remember they really wanted to do a pathology or autopsy. They actually suggested that I didn't look at my little boy that I miscarried. But I did anyway. What really kills me is that it all happened so fast, my husband didn't have a cell phone or camera on him to take a picture or anything. I had so much blood loss at the time and was so out of it, that I barely remember what he looked like. All I have left is a death certificate, with his footprints. I just want to remember him so badly and that whole day is so blurry. You are right that we made the right decision though. Because we need to know what happened so we can try and make the necessary precautions for our next pregnancies, which will hopefully happen very soon.

 

[Storked]

Aaronswoman, I don't trust much medicine either. Too many times in the past were things prescribed that they found out were harmful in the long term. Like DES.
They should have let you hold your little one. That makes me sad. I feel like they were trying to invalidate you. Your son was your baby and you should have been able to hold him, have time alone with him and grieve

 

[aaronswoman79]

Aaronswoman, I don't trust much medicine either. Too many times in the past were things prescribed that they found out were harmful in the long term. Like DES.
They should have let you hold your little one. That makes me sad. I feel like they were trying to invalidate you. Your son was your baby and you should have been able to hold him, have time alone with him and grieve

I couldn't even be alone with him for much time because of how much I was bleeding, so they were keeping a close eye on me. The one thing I will never forget, was when my husband had his first look at out son and looked away crying in pain. I have never in my life seen him in so much pain. And it pained me so much and made me feel so guilty for losing the baby. Even though I know it wasn't my fault. I remember while I was pregnant and every time we went in for an ultrasound, my son was so active, we would watch him moving around, swallowing amniotic fluid and he would put his hands over his face almost as he was annoyed that we were bothering him. And my husband would always call our baby, the little fella, like he knew in his heart it was a boy. They would always tell me how extremely active he was and that he was perfect and healthy. My husband never told me he wanted to have a boy, but I knew he did. Since we are all girls in the house, I really wanted to have a little boy for him. Right when they took the baby out of me, I asked what gender he was, and they said he was a little boy. I saw my husband looking away and crying with this expression of so much pain. I will never forget his face. It haunts me, and has me scared to death that we will ever have to go through this again.

 

[mommylov]

Aaronswoman, hugs to you. I just got tears reading your posts. I am do so sorry you and your husband had to go through that. I know it's still fresh and is something yiu will never forget but you will make it through this. The look on my husbands face that day is one i will never forget My heart goes out to you. Hugs

 

[jen435]

Arronswoman in so sorry they didnt let you hold your son. I must agree with bethany. Many hugs to you. I never take meds except prenatal vits i feel they do more harm to a persons body then good.

Amy thank you for your kind words! How are you?

 

[Storked]

Oh aaronswoman that is heartbreaking. I hope that none of us ever again has to go through this. Never again.

 

[mommylov]

I'm good Jen, how are you hun?

 

[Posey]

THANK you all for your sweet replies, it's lovely to chat to people who understand. I cannot imagine the pain that must come with losing your babies as far along as some of you did, you ladies are stronger than you must realize. I want to share a poem with y'all that I read daily after my m/c, I still read it from time to time, it helped me somehow...

Comes the Dawn by Veronica A. Shoffstall

After a while you learn the difference
between holding a hand and chaining a soul
And you learn that love doesn't mean security,
And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts
And presents aren't promises.

And you begin to accept your defeats
With your head up and your eyes open
With the grace of an adult, not the grief of a child.
And you learn to build all your roads on today,
Because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain.
And futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.

After a while you learn that sunshine
Burns if you get too much.
So you plant your own garden and decorate
Your own soul, instead of waiting
For someone to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure...
That you really are strong,
And you really do have worth
And you learn and learn and learn
With every goodbye, you learn.

Thinking and praying for you all, hopefully we will get our bfp's soon!

 

[jen435]

Arronswoman many hugs to you. I just read your post. We must have posted at. Sametime. I to cried. You and dh what you been through was sso traumatic. I am so very deeply sorry time does heal but this is still so very fresh to you. I really pray you and dh find some comfort soon. I just said an extra prayer for you. Again im so deeply sorry.

 

[jen435]

Posey thank you for sharing! How are you today?
Amy i am doing well today. Thanks going to celebrate my nephews 7th birthday!

 

[Storked]

Thanks for the poem Posey

Have fun Jen!

 

[lilesMom]

im playing catch up now again we r in better form today OH and me. we r much more normal today again, i think all this has taken a toll on him too but he just wont say. i felt much better from infection this morn but im wrecked again this eve, but better than i was , so thats good we also Bd albeit with a hat ( i like that saying, never heard it ) but its still nice
also getting niggles of af so it shouldnt be too late .


jen the cards i used for bethany were the angel oracle ,daily guidance from ur angels cards. i have 5 diff decks, the ones i picked for u are healing with the angel oracle cards. i basically just go with my gut what i think i should use, i picked 3 for u too , i just shuffle till i think its time to stop and pick 3 randomly xx

1) INTENTION: make sure ur thought and feelings reflect ur intentions. your intentions drive ur experiences, the angels ask u to choose and infuse your intentions with love . see ur self and others as happy, peacefull and successfull. replace negative mental habits with more impowering thoughts. ask angel for assistance.

2) EMERGING: your true self - radiant, powerfull, successfull and intelligent is now coming to the surface and shining to inspire others and lift them up.
you r awesome in so many ways and u r begining to reveal ur true nature more easily, at one time you may have believed u needed to hide your true feelings from others and from your self. your angels r guiding you to honour your true feelings by expressing them to yourself and others . the angels will guide u, to avoid misunderstandings and to help u find peace .

3) LISTENING : you r in communication with ur angels and the messages you r getting r very real. trust them.
your have been recieving messages through repetitve dreams , feelings, visions and inner voices. listen to it , trust it and follow it.
if you get an inclination to go some where, call some one or do something follow it. its important to follow this guidance. your angels ask u to give ur worries to them and know that u r communicating with them and enjoy it.

you def inspire me anyway jen, thanks for being u and being so nice and thanks for strtin this thread xxxx
il read the rest now xxxx