ttc after a d&c

[Storked]

And Jen I am so glad that you started this thread

 

[jen435]

Thank you! My deadline in Oct 15 but my cycle ends at end of month. Really hoping it happens this cycle. I planned a date night and activities around ovulation so hopefully it will help relax him and make BD more fun and not a chore. It really shouldn't be. Really hoping those swimmers catch the egg and you get your bfp this cycle

 

[mommylov]

Thanks ladies and I know Im a little late but Jen, I thank you for starting this thread too! Very glad I came across it and met guys

I feel crazy and all over the place emotionally right now. I say that I want to start right away and I really do but since dh's accident, he has been having a hard time with the day to day activities. He is more grumpy and really hard to handle right now. I know that I am suppose to be here and take care of him since he is hurt and he did an amazing job with me but I just feel like Im not appreciated for anything that I do. His accident was brought on my somthing I told him not to do and maybe a part of me feeling resentfull for that. I had no control over what happened to me and needing a D&C. I tell him this and voice my feelings to him (I hardly ever hold anything back) and he tells me that he's sorry and that he doesnt mean to make me feel bad or sad and that he isnt frustrated with me and that he loves me so I know he doesnt mean to take out his frustration so much on me. I normally dont mind it since thats what you do in a marriage, you are here through thick and thin for eachother but it makes it hard for me to want to to the bd or anything. I feel bad for him and hate seeing hoim like this and wish I can make it better but Im also emotionally not 100% yet so it all just feels like so much right now. I just felt like I FINALLY was getting into a better place after everything and his accident happened 3 days before we went to the dr and I finally got cleared. Its like I never had a moment to enjoy that news, just went from dealing with that to dealing with dh. I know this sounds horrible and maybe Im PMSing (If so I hope that means af is coming soon! lol) but this is just how I feel in this moment. Sorry for rambling just had to get it of my chest and put my mind to rest so that I can sleep tonight.

Reading what you girls go through makes me just want to give you guys a big group hug. I feel like a big baby right now but again I think maybe it could be PMS or Im just emotionally drained.. idk. I hope you ladies have a wonderful evening and again, sorry for all the venting. I promise Ill be in better spirits next time I write! hehe

 

[mommylov]

Boy, his ears must've been burning. I just went upstairs to put away some laundry and he stopped me, gave me a hug and kiss and I love you. Bestill my heart, that's all it takes! Oh and read some more of your posts and I'm hungry now too! I'm just all over the place

 

[Storked]

Might not be PMS at all. He threw a wrench in your TTC plans an that sucks and I would be just the same Amy

 

[lilesMom]

Hi girls, how's everyone's weekend going? So I decided to use my cycles page that I was using for the past few years and stopped once I got pg. I entered that date that I had the weird bleeding and says that I should expect af around sep 9th.. seems so far away but it will be worth the wait. For some reason I feel like just going for it now, like my body really wants to but then I think its my mind/heart that just really wants it. I wanted to wait until after this next cycle for dating purposes but gosh it seems like forever. I know some one of you have been waiting for months to which I am sooooo sorry and I know if you ladies can do it, then I should be able to too!

you can start trying around ur bday so, concieving would be a fab bday present best of luck chick. xxxxx if i thought i was healthy enough to try again i would but i wanna make sure im good before i do. its my liver thing stopping me , not anything else. i would have only waited one and been happy to go for it. my long winded wayof saying go for it and i so hope it happens right away for u xxxxxxxxxx

 

[lilesMom]

hey jen i dont mind u sharing the post at all. im glad u liked it, xxxxxxxxxxx
i wanna come picking berries too . id eat half of um before they came home ha ha
id say its a guy/girl thing how we handle stuff, boys tend to talk less than us. xxxxxxxx

bethany ur too funny, never change xxx
i cant wait to be back in all that bd with leg in the air ha ha
ive got a feeling it will be real soon, i hope im right. if my liver thing isnt gettin worse but has gotten slightly better then maybe it was from all the meds and i be good to go again soon whoop whoop

 

[lilesMom]

amy dont stress hon, ur feelings r totally normal , i was up and down for months. i thought i was feelin better so many times and set backs would knock me back to as bad as i was in the begining. dont be hard on urself its a hard time for both of ye. take it easy on urself and himself ha ha xxxxxxxx
chin up babe, try to see positive side in things s much as u can, its hard i know , but it does honestly get easier and come more naturally again in time. xxxx
dont underestimate what ye have been through, its a very difficult thing and will take a very long time to deal with xxxxxx
every time i thought i had ttc go ahead and then goal posts moved i was devastated but thats all it is, moving the goal posts a little bit, it will happen for u xx
loves ya lots xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

[mommylov]

Might not be PMS at all. He threw a wrench in your TTC plans an that sucks and I would be just the same Amy

Hi girls, how's everyone's weekend going? So I decided to use my cycles page that I was using for the past few years and stopped once I got pg. I entered that date that I had the weird bleeding and says that I should expect af around sep 9th.. seems so far away but it will be worth the wait. For some reason I feel like just going for it now, like my body really wants to but then I think its my mind/heart that just really wants it. I wanted to wait until after this next cycle for dating purposes but gosh it seems like forever. I know some one of you have been waiting for months to which I am sooooo sorry and I know if you ladies can do it, then I should be able to too!

you can start trying around ur bday so, concieving would be a fab bday present best of luck chick. xxxxx if i thought i was healthy enough to try again i would but i wanna make sure im good before i do. its my liver thing stopping me , not anything else. i would have only waited one and been happy to go for it. my long winded wayof saying go for it and i so hope it happens right away for u xxxxxxxxxx

amy dont stress hon, ur feelings r totally normal , i was up and down for months. i thought i was feelin better so many times and set backs would knock me back to as bad as i was in the begining. dont be hard on urself its a hard time for both of ye. take it easy on urself and himself ha ha xxxxxxxx
chin up babe, try to see positive side in things s much as u can, its hard i know , but it does honestly get easier and come more naturally again in time. xxxx
dont underestimate what ye have been through, its a very difficult thing and will take a very long time to deal with xxxxxx
every time i thought i had ttc go ahead and then goal posts moved i was devastated but thats all it is, moving the goal posts a little bit, it will happen for u xx
loves ya lots xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Thank you so much girls and love ya lots too!!!! It would be so great if I could get pg by my birthday! I was on the comp last night and dh emails were open and found out my brother is coming into town for a week to surprise me and visit from sep 14th to the 22nd. I so excited but Im like eeeek when are we going to be able to do the bd!! lol The guestbedroom is on the other side of the house so hopefully he wont hear anything haha.

Laura, I am soo sorry you have been sick for so long and Im glad to hear that your liver is doing a little better. I am really praying for you and hoping you get your bday baby too! I really think sep is going to be a good month for a lot of us!

Bethany, you seriously crack me up! Legs up in the air.. HAHA!!! FX for you hun!!!!!

Jen, how about you dear?? Any BDing? heheh

I hope you gals get BFP soon... just the thought of it is sooo exciting! I really would be sooo excited if we got them close together. I know this is a ttc forum but I hope even after you get your bfp's that we keep in touch during the whole thing and after!!!

 

[Storked]

I wouldn't be surprised if it was all those meds Laura! I can't wait for you to have your bum propped and legs up either! Whoop whoop!
I bought sperm friendly lube and the soft cups today's. I mean business lol

 

[Storked]

No worries I will keep in touch and I would love for us to get our BFPs together! Make a birthday baby Amy! We are all so ready

 

[mommylov]

hey jen i dont mind u sharing the post at all. im glad u liked it, xxxxxxxxxxx
i wanna come picking berries too . id eat half of um before they came home ha ha
id say its a guy/girl thing how we handle stuff, boys tend to talk less than us. xxxxxxxx

bethany ur too funny, never change xxx
i cant wait to be back in all that bd with leg in the air ha ha
ive got a feeling it will be real soon, i hope im right. if my liver thing isnt gettin worse but has gotten slightly better then maybe it was from all the meds and i be good to go again soon whoop whoop

That would be awesome if the meds are working!!! You will have your feet in the air real soon! haha

 

[mommylov]

For sure Bethany!! DH and I had a "hat burning" party and got rid of them all. Didnt burn them, just threw them away. I have never seen a bigger smile on DH's face before lol. I am going to the gym tonight but Ill see how he feels when he gets home. He just told me that he got a flat on the way to work so Im sure that wont put him in a good mood.

 

[Storked]

Yay for hat burning parties Amy! When Itild my hubby that I got sperm-friendly lube he said that a thousand voices (his sperm) cried out in delight LOL
I'm going to the gym tonight too just because it makes my hubby more randy to work out. You can seduce your hubby Amy! What would put him in the mood? Do it!

 

[mommylov]

LOL! It cracks me up how happy they get when it comes to things like that. Given the crappy day he has had to far, normally someone would say all bets were off today. It only take a little lace and not even that to change his mood! lol A part of it is me.. still trying to get over the fear. Dr said it was ok (even though she said to wait one cycle but I think thats for charting purposes). Im even scared if to use a tampon if AF shows up. Just need to tell myself get over it!

 

[Storked]

I had those same fears too hang in there sweetie
Change that mood Amy

 

[mommylov]

Youre right! In the meantime, I am going to make salmon tonight and enjoy it for the last time again for a while

 

[Storked]

Definitely enjoy it Amy

 

[mommylov]

Have you been taking prenatal vitamins everyday while trying? I stopped after my D&C and while they had me on the meds for a bit but I have been taking them for a few weeks now. Put hubby on some vitamins too in hoping that will help us this time.

 

[Storked]

Yep I am on the prenatal and baby aspirin ATM I never really stopped taking mine though. Doctor told me that they were good! What you got the hubby on? I make mine take zinc