ttc after a d&c

[xxserendipity]

thanks stocked it hard to feel alone at the mo even my closest friends seem to not care and i dont wanna feel like im always talking about it but it would be nice to know i could if i wanted to, i recently visited one of my closest friends she doesnt live near me so hadnt seen her since it happened and all the way through she was texting my sayin how she wished she could give me a hug and be with me then while i was at hers she didnt even mention it and when i did there was no encouragment to talk if i needed to x

 

[lilesMom]

people get all weird around people who have mc , its like they think if they mention it we will get so emotional they wont know what to do and we might but close friends shOuld understand. i dont think anyone knows properly how it feels unless they have been through it, i thought i knew how bad and horrible it was for people but i didnt even come close in my guess xxx
it takes a long time to come to terms with but it does get easier, take it easy on urself and try not to be too cross about peoples silly reactions, its mostly that people dont know what to do and pick the wrong option maybe ur friend is kind of person who finds it easier when not face to face? im sure she meant well , people are at a loss in the face of grief cos in one way grief is beyond help. we just need understanding xxx
big hugs chick. take care of urself and give urself plenty of rest, time and tlc xxx

 

[xxserendipity]

thanks hun i should know what to expect ive mc before but it was naturally which seemed so much easier to come to terms with this time i went to the scan expecting to see our baby and was told there was no baby just a sac had to wait a week to double check and then was advised to have the d&c as nothing had changed all through this i still had all my pregnancy symptoms and found it hard to believe it was really happening and its taken my body so much longer to recover last time we ignored dr's advice to wait for one cycle before ttc and 4 weeks later i was pregnant with my son but this time it feels like its gonna take forever and we havent been able to that again coz of risk of infection after the d&c x x

 

[aaronswoman79]

Well, I turn 33 on the 26th of September. So I know what you mean about the age thing. I live in the SF Bay Area, and I see so many mothers just starting out having children in their mid to late thirties, and all of their children look healthy and happy, so It gives me a lot of hope. My husband is from Utah, and over their many people get married very young and are young parents, but even that is changing. I regret not having all of my children in my 20s. In my case I think that might have something to do with the miscarriage, but who knows, maybe it was just a fluke just like the doctors keep telling me. With my first pregnancy I was 19 and ended up with preeclampsia, I'm not sure if it had anything to do with my young age, that is what the doctors told me. The second pregnancy I was 25 and had to be induced because I was getting borderline preeclampsia, the third pregnancy I just lost. I hope to God that all of us will have healthy pregnancies this time around. No spotting, no complications, just healthy happy babies. If I had my way I would have lots and lots of children, but I know its not realistic. Since my miscarriage I just have this urge to become a baby making machine!! I just want to be pregnant all the time now. I have this urge to have a large family all of the sudden.

 

[aaronswoman79]

Turns out af is in FULL affect now for me. I read that when some women give birth, it takes them months to get thier period back an for thier body to regulate (flow wise). I was spotting yesterday and thought this is it? Today... OMG! I thought that I would only spot for a day or two but nope... cramps, heavy flow.. the whole nine today. Didnt expect this for the 1st cycle after my D&C so if this is any indicator I think the same is going to happen after I give birth . I kind of enjoyed not having a period for a few months while I was pg and was looking forward to that lasting a little bit after I gave birth lol.. oh well

How many weeks since your miscarriage did it end up taking you to get your cycle? Today is the 1 month anniversary that my baby had no heartbeat, and tomorrow will make the 1 month anniversary of my miscarriage. I thought I should of gotten my period by now. But since I was close to 20 weeks maybe it should take longer??

 

[aaronswoman79]

hi looks like this post has gone on for months wondered if i could join in i had a d&c 3 weeks ago yesterday and want to start ttc asap but was still having bfp til last friday so think its gonna take a while for af to arrive already feels like its taking forever and i just wanna be pregnant again

I know how you feel. I am so sorry for your loss. I am on the same boat as you, had my d&c 4 weeks ago. I am still waiting for af too. If you don't mind me asking, how far along were you? I heard sometimes if you are farther along it may take longer for your cycle to return. Actually I think it is different for everybody. I'll keep my fingers crossed that we get af as soon as possible.

 

[aaronswoman79]

thanks stocked it hard to feel alone at the mo even my closest friends seem to not care and i dont wanna feel like im always talking about it but it would be nice to know i could if i wanted to, i recently visited one of my closest friends she doesnt live near me so hadnt seen her since it happened and all the way through she was texting my sayin how she wished she could give me a hug and be with me then while i was at hers she didnt even mention it and when i did there was no encouragment to talk if i needed to x

What I have noticed, is that people in general do not how to approach the subject of miscarriage, especially if they haven't experienced it. My mom told me she doesn't even know what to say sometimes. That she is scared to say the wrong thing, and she is trying to be careful. She never experienced a miscarriage, had 3 healthy pregnancies with no complications, carried all of us to 40 weeks. Boy do I wish I had it that easy. She told me, since she has never lost a child, and especially a child to miscarriage, she will never know or understand how I feel. I know she is sad about it, and I know she really looked forward to having a grandson, but I think she feels that if you she opens up about it, it will make me feel sad.

 

[xxserendipity]

aaronswoman i should have been 9/10 weeks by my dates but they couldnt tell me for sure ive heard that to ive not ovulated since it happened so im thinkin ive got at least a few more weeks yet x fingers cross we both dont have to wait to long xx

 

[aaronswoman79]

people get all weird around people who have mc , its like they think if they mention it we will get so emotional they wont know what to do and we might but close friends shOuld understand. i dont think anyone knows properly how it feels unless they have been through it, i thought i knew how bad and horrible it was for people but i didnt even come close in my guess xxx
it takes a long time to come to terms with but it does get easier, take it easy on urself and try not to be too cross about peoples silly reactions, its mostly that people dont know what to do and pick the wrong option maybe ur friend is kind of person who finds it easier when not face to face? im sure she meant well , people are at a loss in the face of grief cos in one way grief is beyond help. we just need understanding xxx
big hugs chick. take care of urself and give urself plenty of rest, time and tlc xxx

the face to face thing is true, because I for one find it much easier to express my feelings on this forum, instead of in person. This really is a good outlet for all of us. I am so glad I found you guys!!

 

[Storked]

Laura, love ya too!

Serendipity, that is super hurtful that none of your friends want to let you talk.*
And if you find people you can talk to, don't let them invalidate the way that you feel. My siblings brush away my concerns saying that we are so fertile and only that one sister miscarried. Yeah well I miscarried too and I have a right to be concerned. honey

Aaronswoman, I also want to be a baby making machine.

So we went vitamin shopping today. Felt like Christmas! And I think the grapefruit is working magic too

 

[jen435]

Serendipity welcome I'm so sorry for your loss I can relate with you about your friends I'm so very sorry you have to experience that on top of your loss. Many hugs to you. I hope you find comfort here. We all believe you will have your healthy LO.
I know someone said they where 20wks and still waiting for af. I was 20 1/2 weeks when they did d&c and af arrived a little over 6wks. Doctors said it can take up to three months at most but you shouldn't have to wait that long.
Amy glad af is normal! Very good sign you should have your bfp in no time! So glad your normalized
Bethany yay for vitamins Glad you two had a good time together and to hear your seeing a difference with the grapefruit juice. I must say 7 CD and I'm not dry one bit! I'll take it!
Laura hi! I hope you have a good weekend! How is work treating you?

 

[Storked]

Jen, yay for grapefruit working for you too! Lucky cycle

 

[Storked]

Horseypants, how are you?

 

[aaronswoman79]

One of the hardest things about miscarriage is having to tell the people who knew you were pregnant. It just opens up the wounds, when you have to repeat what happened. And why is it that I feel awkward facing the people who knew I was pregnant? Even my immediate family members. I already know that when I have to face them again, there is going to be a bunch of awkwardness and silence. That is why I just want to get pregnant again. I hate not being pregnant. Im sorry, I know its the weekend and I am being really negative. Everything came back today when I went shopping and saw a bunch of babies and newborn clothes. Wouldn't it be cool if all of us became pregnant close together. Then we would be on here talking about our pregnancies and giving advice. I pray that happens for all of us soon.

 

[mommylov]

Turns out af is in FULL affect now for me. I read that when some women give birth, it takes them months to get thier period back an for thier body to regulate (flow wise). I was spotting yesterday and thought this is it? Today... OMG! I thought that I would only spot for a day or two but nope... cramps, heavy flow.. the whole nine today. Didnt expect this for the 1st cycle after my D&C so if this is any indicator I think the same is going to happen after I give birth . I kind of enjoyed not having a period for a few months while I was pg and was looking forward to that lasting a little bit after I gave birth lol.. oh well

How many weeks since your miscarriage did it end up taking you to get your cycle? Today is the 1 month anniversary that my baby had no heartbeat, and tomorrow will make the 1 month anniversary of my miscarriage. I thought I should of gotten my period by now. But since I was close to 20 weeks maybe it should take longer??

Yesterday marked 6 weeks exactly and that's when I started.

 

[aaronswoman79]

Turns out af is in FULL affect now for me. I read that when some women give birth, it takes them months to get thier period back an for thier body to regulate (flow wise). I was spotting yesterday and thought this is it? Today... OMG! I thought that I would only spot for a day or two but nope... cramps, heavy flow.. the whole nine today. Didnt expect this for the 1st cycle after my D&C so if this is any indicator I think the same is going to happen after I give birth . I kind of enjoyed not having a period for a few months while I was pg and was looking forward to that lasting a little bit after I gave birth lol.. oh well

How many weeks since your miscarriage did it end up taking you to get your cycle? Today is the 1 month anniversary that my baby had no heartbeat, and tomorrow will make the 1 month anniversary of my miscarriage. I thought I should of gotten my period by now. But since I was close to 20 weeks maybe it should take longer??

Yesterday marked 6 weeks exactly and that's when I started.

Hope it happens for me too. Your one step closer!

 

[mommylov]

Turns out af is in FULL affect now for me. I read that when some women give birth, it takes them months to get thier period back an for thier body to regulate (flow wise). I was spotting yesterday and thought this is it? Today... OMG! I thought that I would only spot for a day or two but nope... cramps, heavy flow.. the whole nine today. Didnt expect this for the 1st cycle after my D&C so if this is any indicator I think the same is going to happen after I give birth . I kind of enjoyed not having a period for a few months while I was pg and was looking forward to that lasting a little bit after I gave birth lol.. oh well

How many weeks since your miscarriage did it end up taking you to get your cycle? Today is the 1 month anniversary that my baby had no heartbeat, and tomorrow will make the 1 month anniversary of my miscarriage. I thought I should of gotten my period by now. But since I was close to 20 weeks maybe it should take longer??

Yesterday marked 6 weeks exactly and that's when I started.

Hope it happens for me too. Your one step closer!

It will and I'm keeping my fx for you hun!

 

[xxserendipity]

One of the hardest things about miscarriage is having to tell the people who knew you were pregnant. It just opens up the wounds, when you have to repeat what happened. And why is it that I feel awkward facing the people who knew I was pregnant? Even my immediate family members. I already know that when I have to face them again, there is going to be a bunch of awkwardness and silence. That is why I just want to get pregnant again. I hate not being pregnant. Im sorry, I know its the weekend and I am being really negative. Everything came back today when I went shopping and saw a bunch of babies and newborn clothes. Wouldn't it be cool if all of us became pregnant close together. Then we would be on here talking about our pregnancies and giving advice. I pray that happens for all of us soon.

i know it feels like pregnant women and women with little babys are everywhere at the mo, the weekend after it happened my and my hubby went to visit his grandparents and his aunt was there she fosters and at the mo has a newborn little girl i spent the whole time sat holding her made me feel a little better at the time (dunno why) but giving her back was horrible thats when i knew i really wanted to try for another, i also have 2 good friends who fell at exactly the same time as me both are having their scans this week so thats been hard coz i am pleased for them but at the same time that should be me i hope ur right aaronswoman and we will all get ur bfp very very soon x

 

[jen435]

i know what your saying seeing moms with there babies is hard. Dh and i went to lumber store last nite and i almost cried when i saw a teen mom holding a blue eyed infant with blonde hair. I kept strong and walked out fast. We will have our LOs and close together is what we are aiming for.
Laura any news on ur results? Its sept time for them to get a move on it! we want u healthy! I hope ur still feeling well also. Are you doing anything fun this weekend?
Amy bethany horsepants hi!!! How are you lovely ladies?

for everyone today! September is going to be a lucky month it just has to

 

[xxserendipity]

anyone tried or using ovulation tests how reliable are they at showin when ur ovulating x x