ttc after a d&c

[Storked]

I am so sorry about the lumber yard Jen but you are right, our rainbows are coming!
Just woke up on this end and trying to find a game case for my spouse (eye roll) and then start getting ready to go out for dinner with my dad. How are you Jen?

How are all my other lovely ladies? Daily sprinkling

Serendipity, I haven't had success with OPKs but Jen has with the First Response yes/no kind.

 

[lilesMom]

thanks hun i should know what to expect ive mc before but it was naturally which seemed so much easier to come to terms with this time i went to the scan expecting to see our baby and was told there was no baby just a sac had to wait a week to double check and then was advised to have the d&c as nothing had changed all through this i still had all my pregnancy symptoms and found it hard to believe it was really happening and its taken my body so much longer to recover last time we ignored dr's advice to wait for one cycle before ttc and 4 weeks later i was pregnant with my son but this time it feels like its gonna take forever and we havent been able to that again coz of risk of infection after the d&c x x

i know babe it comes as such a shock when u r told there is no hope, i still had syptoms and everything too and only had light spotting twice which had stopped completly so i was sure baby would be ok, my thinking was if something horrible was to happen it would have happened already ( i had to wait 3 weeks of scans to know for sure cos they couldnt see properly on scans ) , i had never even heard of a missed mc , i thought if u miscarry u bleed. not a nice lesson to learn, xxxx
sorry for ur losses babe. do u have kids? im trying for first ,
the wait is yucky but gets easier as it goes along and u start to feel more normal and stronger, xxxx big hugs babe xxx

 

[xxserendipity]

im out with the hubby havin a few drinks with his family enjoyin the only good thing about not beim pregnant would gladly be home with my ever growin bump though x

 

[lilesMom]

One of the hardest things about miscarriage is having to tell the people who knew you were pregnant. It just opens up the wounds, when you have to repeat what happened. And why is it that I feel awkward facing the people who knew I was pregnant? Even my immediate family members. I already know that when I have to face them again, there is going to be a bunch of awkwardness and silence. That is why I just want to get pregnant again. I hate not being pregnant. Im sorry, I know its the weekend and I am being really negative. Everything came back today when I went shopping and saw a bunch of babies and newborn clothes. Wouldn't it be cool if all of us became pregnant close together. Then we would be on here talking about our pregnancies and giving advice. I pray that happens for all of us soon.

i texted lots o people and told them i was no longer pregnant and i was texting them cos it was too hard to say just yet. maybe u could try this to save urself some of the yuckiness xxxx

 

[xxserendipity]

yea lilesmom im lucky enough to have 3 boys 2 are 11 and 13 and my youngest is 2 and half x x

 

[lilesMom]

serendipity i spent loads o time around my 10 month old niece and 2 yr old nephew, they made me feel way better it was lovely to get loads o cuddles with no awkward talk and explanantions xxx

jen hi babe, work is abit crappy, on 8 days in a row, today was no 4, im feeling shitty today again, i dont think my kidney infection is gone, WTF, dont think 10 days of antibs worked , it must be super infection r something also one of the girls was using bleach and im allergic so had a bit of a turn from it. yucky
im gonna go to bed early and hope i wake up better, drinkin loads too.
u up to anything for ur weekend ? xxxxxx

 

[lilesMom]

seren, glad u have kids honey and i hope u get ur much longed for baby really soon xxxx

 

[Storked]

Oh no Laura so sad to hear that you aren't doing better

 

[lilesMom]

i was, i had a good last 4 days, just took a bit of a dive again today hope its just a fluke and i might get better again. xxx
how u babe?

 

[Storked]

I hope it is a fluke too

I am good- trying to stay positive though I swear that DH is testing me lol

 

[lilesMom]

i think they believe its their job cos mine does that too xx

 

[lilesMom]

im off to bed sweetie, im wrecked x

 

[Storked]

Sleep well Laura! And you are right- must be their job

 

[jen435]

Laura many hugs to you. I really hope its a fluke. Perhaps you needed more time off work? I really hope your feeling better. Kidneys heal please?? Okay kinda silly but i had to...
Bethany sorry dh is testing you. Hoping to hear some good.news from you in two weeks i know you wont test early and cant blame you. Oh and i only shared that so other ladies dont feel alone. I think we all have some sadness when we see a child.

Im good. Spend day in pool today with family. Say my neice she is 3. Lots of fun also. I have to get in the mood dh is but im not. We havent dtd in 2.5weeks. Time to start since im cd 7 or maybe 8 today. I cant recall. Af is fully gone too time to get in the mood. Going for a massage on tuesday hopefully it helps me relax. Ive been so tense.

Yes i had sucess with first response digital yes/no. Became.pregnant on first try after 14monthes of trying. I tried clearblue digital.last month.no luck with.that though did get a smiley... Went back to first response yes/no this month praying for a cycle 4 miracle. Ill let you ladies know.in three weeks how it works. This time. Im sadly in such a laid back idc mood this cycle though so idk whats gonna happen...



Horseypants amy how are you???

 

[Storked]

I won't test early for sure. Determined to just use digital HPTs and they aren't as sensitive. Fingers crossed!
You are so right about children making you sad. My sisters are put out with me because I won't be attending niece and great-nephew blessings this weekend. Ah well. Doing what is best for me mentally
Yay for pool! I am doing that tonight at the gym. Maybe
What would get you more in the mood this cycle? Although feeling laid back is amazing too. Just takes pressure off, ya know? Do whatever is best for you Jen!

 

[jen435]

Enjoy your swim i understand about not attending blessings this weeking for them. I hope they understand. Its very hard. Hugs. Yes im so relaxed its not even funny. Im not temping im sleeping in instead. Not checking my cervical position or anything. Just drinkin grapefruit juice water and prenatal vits. Also eatting dairy stuff vegs fruits proteins and nuts . Its even hard to remember to do opk but i know its important since i bought them. So i am using em. My positive should be on sat or sun. Dh n i just bd so at least hes in the mood. Hoping he is that way all week and next for safety. Cd 8 almost cd 9. Wow time is flying.... Til the tww im sure. Hoping in just as relaxed then too i was way too up tight last cycle.

Bethany how are the soft cups working for you? Are they easy to use? I nvr tried them. Are they worth a go? Maybe ill stop at store tom if they are. Definately need more preseed as im out.

 

[Storked]

I am not sure that they understand but I'm not upset over it. It would depress me to go and I feel like being happy
Jen, I haven't been doing anything either and it is so blissful! Just taking vitamins, drinking grapefruit, and eating well. I feel like if we have some peace about it then we will conceive faster, know what I mean? I think maybe you are feeling that too. The other day after I put it a soft cup I propped myself against the wall and zoned out and it was so relaxing. Try it sometime and let me know what you think!
Get in all the baby dancing that you can since men start to feel used if we only want to do it when ovulating hehe

Oh and as for the softcups- I really like them! I honestly thought that menstrual cups sounded gross but since using these for TTC I may get an actual menstrual cup for periods. Though I suspect that the Diva Cup will not be as easy as te softcups. I thought (from pictures online) that they would be ginormous and difficult but they really aren't either. Just clasp in the middle and stick it in and it pops to where it needs to. I put pre-seed in my cups too and still prop for a bit. But I am a fan. If you get them, see if your local Walmart has them- they are cheaper there.

 

[jen435]

Aww well im glad your happy! You deserve to be! thank you for tips! So the te soft cup is best for ttc? And do u put it in before or after dtd? Preseed can be put into the cup? Hmm lots to know! You sound like an expert

 

[jen435]

Oh also do the digital hpts work better? As ur less likely to get false positive??? Hmm maybe ill try them this.cycle if af is late. I get discouraged and heartbroken with bfns so i completely agree with.you.on waiting

 

[jen435]

Just looked em up! Going to walmart tom excited to try it. Sounds nice to be able to use restroom and still keep the swimmers in thank you bethany!!